Modern History Sourcebook:
John Stuart Mill:
The Subjection of Women
CHAPTER I
The object of this Essay is to explain as clearly as I am able
grounds of an opinion which I have held from the very earliest
period when I had formed any opinions at all on social political
matters, and which, instead of being weakened or modified, has
been constantly growing stronger by the progress reflection and
the experience of life. That the principle which regulates the
existing social relations between the two sexes--the legal subordination
of one sex to the other--is wrong itself, and now one of the chief
hindrances to human improvement; and that it ought to be replaced
by a principle of perfect equality, admitting no power or privilege
on the one side, nor disability on the other.
The very words necessary to express the task I have undertaken,
show how arduous it is. But it would be a mistake to suppose that
the difficulty of the case must lie in the insufficiency or obscurity
of the grounds of reason on which my convictions. The difficulty
is that which exists in all cases in which there is a mass of
feeling to be contended against. So long as opinion is strongly
rooted in the feelings, it gains rather than loses instability
by having a preponderating weight of argument against it. For
if it were accepted as a result of argument, the refutation of
the argument might shake the solidity of the conviction; but when
it rests solely on feeling, worse it fares in argumentative contest,
the more persuaded adherents are that their feeling must have
some deeper ground, which the arguments do not reach; and while
the feeling remains, it is always throwing up fresh intrenchments
of argument to repair any breach made in the old. And there are
so many causes tending to make the feelings connected with this
subject the most intense and most deeply-rooted of those which
gather round and protect old institutions and custom, that we
need not wonder to find them as yet less undermined and loosened
than any of the rest by the progress the great modern spiritual
and social transition; nor suppose that the barbarisms to which
men cling longest must be less barbarisms than those which they
earlier shake off.
In every respect the burthen is hard on those who attack an almost
universal opinion. They must be very fortunate well as unusually
capable if they obtain a hearing at all. They have more difficulty
in obtaining a trial, than any other litigants have in getting
a verdict. If they do extort a hearing, they are subjected to
a set of logical requirements totally different from those exacted
from other people. In all other cases, burthen of proof is supposed
to lie with the affirmative. If a person is charged with a murder,
it rests with those who accuse him to give proof of his guilt,
not with himself to prove his innocence. If there is a difference
of opinion about the reality of an alleged historical event, in
which the feelings of men general are not much interested, as
the Siege of Troy example, those who maintain that the event took
place expected to produce their proofs, before those who take
the other side can be required to say anything; and at no time
these required to do more than show that the evidence produced
by the others is of no value. Again, in practical matters, the
burthen of proof is supposed to be with those who are against
liberty; who contend for any restriction or prohibition either
any limitation of the general freedom of human action or any disqualification
or disparity of privilege affecting one person or kind of persons,
as compared with others. The a priori presumption is in favour
of freedom and impartiality. It is held that there should be no
restraint not required by I general good, and that the law should
be no respecter of persons but should treat all alike, save where
dissimilarity of treatment is required by positive reasons, either
of justice or of policy. But of none of these rules of evidence
will the benefit be allowed to those who maintain the opinion
I profess. It is useless me to say that those who maintain the
doctrine that men ha a right to command and women are under an
obligation obey, or that men are fit for government and women
unfit, on the affirmative side of the question, and that they
are bound to show positive evidence for the assertions, or submit
to their rejection. It is equally unavailing for me to say that
those who deny to women any freedom or privilege rightly allow
to men, having the double presumption against them that they are
opposing freedom and recommending partiality, must held to the
strictest proof of their case, and unless their success be such
as to exclude all doubt, the judgment ought to against them. These
would be thought good pleas in any common case; but they will
not be thought so in this instance.
Before I could hope to make any impression, I should be expected
not only to answer all that has ever been said bye who take the
other side of the question, but to imagine that could be said
by them--to find them in reasons, as I as answer all I find: and
besides refuting all arguments for the affirmative, I shall be
called upon for invincible positive arguments to prove a negative.
And even if I could do all and leave the opposite party with a
host of unanswered arguments against them, and not a single unrefuted
one on side, I should be thought to have done little; for a cause
supported on the one hand by universal usage, and on the r by
so great a preponderance of popular sentiment, is supposed to
have a presumption in its favour, superior to any conviction which
an appeal to reason has power to produce in intellects but those
of a high class.
I do not mention these difficulties to complain of them; first,
use it would be useless; they are inseparable from having to contend
through people's understandings against the hostility their feelings
and practical tendencies: and truly the understandings of the
majority of mankind would need to be much better cultivated than
has ever yet been the case, before they be asked to place such
reliance in their own power of estimating arguments, as to give
up practical principles in which have been born and bred and which
are the basis of much existing order of the world, at the first
argumentative attack which they are not capable of logically resisting.
I do not therefore quarrel with them for having too little faith
in argument, but for having too much faith in custom and the general
feeling. It is one of the characteristic prejudices of the ion
of the nineteenth century against the eighteenth, to d to the
unreasoning elements in human nature the infallibility which the
eighteenth century is supposed to have ascribed to the reasoning
elements. For the apotheosis of Reason we have substituted that
of Instinct; and we call thing instinct which we find in ourselves
and for which we cannot trace any rational foundation. This idolatry,
infinitely more degrading than the other, and the most pernicious
e false worships of the present day, of all of which it is the
main support, will probably hold its ground until it way before
a sound psychology laying bare the real root of much that is bowed
down to as the intention of Nature and ordinance of God. As regards
the present question, I am going to accept the unfavourable conditions
which the prejudice assigns to me. I consent that established
custom, and the general feelings, should be deemed conclusive
against me, unless that custom and feeling from age to age can
be shown to have owed their existence to other causes than their
soundness, and to have derived their power from the worse rather
than the better parts of human nature. I am willing that judgment
should go against me, unless I can show that my judge has been
tampered with. The concession is not so great as it might appear;
for to prove this, is by far the easiest portion of my task.
The generality of a practice is in some cases a strong presumption
that it is, or at all events once was, conducive to laudable ends.
This is the case, when the practice was first adopted, or afterwards
kept up, as a means to such ends, and was grounded on experience
of the mode in which they could be most effectually attained.
If the authority of men over women, when first established, had
been the result of a conscientious comparison between different
modes of constituting the government of society; if, after trying
various other modes of social organisation--the government of
women over men, equality between the two, and such mixed and divided
modes of government as might be invented--it had been decided,
on the testimony of experience, that the mode in which women are
wholly under the rule of men, having no share at all in public
concerns, and each in private being under the legal obligation
of obedience to the man with whom she has associated her destiny,
was the arrangement most conducive to the happiness and well-being
of both; its general adoption might then be fairly thought to
be some evidence that, at the time when it was adopted, it was
the best: though even then the considerations which recommended
it may, like so many other primeval social facts of the greatest
importance, have subsequently, in the course of ages, ceased to
exist. But the state of the case is in every respect the reverse
of this. In the first place, the opinion in favour of the present
system, which entirely subordinates the weaker sex to the stronger,
rests upon theory only; for there never has been trial made of
any other: so that experience, in the sense in which it is vulgarly
opposed to theory, cannot be pretended to have pronounced any
verdict. And in the second place, the adoption of this system
of inequality never was the result of deliberation, or forethought,
or any social ideas, or any notion whatever of what conduced to
the benefit of humanity or the good order of society. It arose
simply from the fact that from the very earliest twilight of human
society, every woman owing to the value attached to her by men,
combined with her inferiority in muscular strength) was found
in a state of bondage to some man. Laws and systems of polity
always begin by recognising the relations they find already existing
between individuals. They convert what was a mere physical fact
into a legal right, give it the sanction of society, and principally
aim at the substitution of public and organised means of asserting
and protecting these rights, instead of the irregular and lawless
conflict of physical strength. Those who had already been compelled
to obedience became in this manner legally bound to it. Slavery,
from be inn a mere affair of force between the master and the
slave, became regularised and a matter of compact among the masters,
who, binding themselves to one another for common protection,
guaranteed by their collective strength the private possessions
of each, including his slaves. In early times, the great majority
of the male sex were slaves, as well as the whole of the female.
And many ages elapsed, some of them ages of high cultivation,
before any thinker was bold enough to question the rightfulness,
and the absolute social necessity, either of the one slavery or
of the other. By degrees such thinkers did arise; and (the general
progress of society assisting) the slavery of the male sex has,
in all the countries of Christian Europe at least (though, in
one of them, only within the last few years) been at length abolished,
and that of the female sex has been gradually changed into a milder
form of dependence. But this dependence, as it exists at present,
is not an original institution, taking a fresh start from considerations
of justice and social expediency--it is the primitive state of
slavery lasting on, through successive mitigations and modifications
occasioned by the same causes which have softened the general
manners, and brought all human relations more under the control
of justice and the influence of humanity. It has not lost the
taint of its brutal origin. No presumption in its favour, therefore,
can be drawn from the fact of its existence. The only such presumption
which it could be supposed to have, must be grounded on its having
lasted till now, when so many other things which came down from
the same odious source have been done away with. And this, indeed,
is what makes it strange to ordinary ears, to hear it asserted
that the inequality of rights between men and women has no other
source than the law of the strongest.
That this statement should have the effect of a paradox, is in
some respects creditable to the progress of civilisation, and
the improvement of the moral sentiments of mankind. We now live--that
is to say, one or two of the most advanced nations of the world
now live--in a state in which the law of the strongest seems to
be entirely abandoned as the regulating principle of the world's
affairs: nobody professes it, and, as regards most of the relations
between human beings, nobody is permitted to practise it. When
anyone succeeds in doing so, it is under cover of some pretext
which gives him the semblance of having some general social interest
on his side. This being the ostensible state of things, people
flatter themselves that the rule of mere force is ended; that
the law of the strongest cannot be the reason of existence of
anything which has remained in full operation down to the present
time. However any of our present institutions may have begun,
it can only, they think, have been preserved to this period of
advanced civilisation by a well-grounded feeling of its adaptation
to human nature, and conduciveness to the general good. They do
not understand the great vitality and durability of institutions
which place right on the side of might; how intensely they are
clung to; how the good as well as the bad propensities and sentiments
of those who have power in their hands, become identified with
retaining it; how slowly these bad institutions give way, one
at a time, the weakest first. beginning with those which are least
interwoven with the daily habits of life;and how very rarely those
who have obtained legal power because they first had physical,
have ever lost their hold of it until the physical power had passed
over to the other side. Such shifting of the physical force not
having taken place in the case of women; this fact, combined with
all the peculiar and characteristic features of the particular
case, made it certain from the first that this branch of the system
of right founded on might, though softened in its most atrocious
features at an earlier period than several of the others, would
be the very last to disappear. It was inevitable that this one
case of a social relation grounded on force, would survive through
generations of institutions grounded on equal justice, an almost
solitary exception to the general character of their laws and
customs; but which, so long as it does not proclaim its own origin,
and as discussion has not brought out its true character, is not
felt to jar with modern civilisation, any more than domestic slavery
among the Greeks jarred with their notion of themselves as a free
people.
The truth is, that people of the present and the last two or three
generations have lost all practical sense of the primitive condition
of humanity; and only the few who have studied history accurately,
or have much frequented the parts of the world occupied by the
living representatives of ages long past, are able to form any
mental picture of what society then was. People are not aware
how entirely, informer ages, the law of superior strength was
the rule of life; how publicly and openly it was avowed, I do
not say cynically or shamelessly--for these words imply a feeling
that there was something in it to be ashamed of, and no such notion
could find a place in the faculties of any person in those ages,
except a philosopher or a saint. History gives a cruel experience
of human nature, in showing how exactly the regard due to the
life, possessions, and entire earthly happiness of any class of
persons, was measured by what they had the power of enforcing;
how all who made any resistance to authorities that had arms in
their hands, however dreadful might be the provocation, had not
only the law of force but all other laws, and all the notions
of social obligation against them; and in the eyes of those whom
they resisted, were not only guilty of crime, but of the worst
of all crimes, deserving the most cruel chastisement which human
beings could inflict. The first small vestige of a feeling of
obligation in a superior to acknowledge any right in inferiors,
began when he had been induced, for convenience, to make some
promise to them. Though these promises, even when sanctioned by
the most solemn oaths, were for many ages revoked or violated
on the most trifling provocation or temptation, it is probably
that this, except by persons of still worse than the average morality,
was seldom done without some twinges of conscience. The ancient
republics, being mostly grounded from the first upon some kind
of mutual con;pact, or at any rate formed by an union of persons
not very unequal in strength, afforded, in consequence, the first
instance of a portion of human relations fenced round, and placed
under the dominion of another law than that of force. And though
the original law of force remained in full operation between them
and their slaves, and also (except so far as limited by express
compact) between a commonwealth and its subjects, or other independent
commonwealths; the banishment of that primitive law even from
so narrow a field, commenced the regeneration of human nature,
by giving birth to sentiments of which experience soon demonstrated
the immense value even for material interests, and which thence
forward only required to be enlarged, not created. Though slaves
were no part of the commonwealth, it was in the free states that
slaves were first felt to have rights as human beings. The Stoics
were, I believe, the first (except so far as the Jewish law constitutes
an exception) who taught as a part of morality that men were bound
by moral obligations to their slaves. No one, after Christianity
became ascendant, could ever again have been a stranger to this
belief, in theory; nor, after the rise of the Catholic Church,
was it ever without persons to stand up for it. Yet to enforce
it was the most arduous task which Christianity ever had to perform.
For more thana thousand years the Church kept up the contest,
with hardly any perceptible success. It was not for want of power
over men's minds. Its power was prodigious. It could make kings
and nobles resign their most valued possessions to enrich the
Church. It could make thousands in the prime of life and the height
of worldly advantages, shut themselves up in convents to work
out their salvation by poverty, fasting, and prayer. It could
send hundreds of thousands across land and sea, Europe and Asia,
to give their lives for the deliverance of the Holy Sepulchre.
It could make kings relinquish wives who were the object of their
passionate attachment, because the Church declared that they were
within the seventh (by our calculation the fourteenth) degree
of relationship. All this it did; but it could not make men fight
less with one another, nor tyrannise less cruelly over the serfs,
and when they were able, over burgesses. It could not make them
renounce either of the applications of force; force militant,
or force triumphant. This they could never be induced to do until
they were themselves in their turn compelled by superior force.
Only by the growing power of kings was an end put to fighting
except between kings, or competitors for kingship; only by the
growth of a wealthy and warlike bourgeoisie in the fortified towns,
and of a plebeian infantry which proved more powerful in the field
than the undisciplined chivalry, was the insolent tyranny of the
nobles over the bourgeoisie and peasantry brought within some
bounds. It was persisted in not only until, but long after, the
oppressed had obtained a power enabling them often to take conspicuous
vengeance; and on the Continent much of it continued to the time
of the French Revolution, though in England the earlier and better
organisation of the democratic classes put an end to it sooner,
by establishing equal laws and free national institutions.
If people are mostly so little aware how completely, during the
greater part of the duration of our species, the law of force
was the avowed rule of general conduct, any other being only a
special and exceptional consequence of peculiar ties---and from
how very recent a date it is that the affairs of society in general
have been even pretended to be regulated according to any moral
law; as little do people remember or consider, how institutions
and customs which never had any ground but the law of force, last
on into ages and states of general opinion which never would have
permitted their first establishment. Less than forty years ago,
Englishmen might still by law hold human beings in bondage as
saleable property: within the present century they might kidnap
them and carry them off, and work them literally to death. This
absolutely extreme case of the law of force, condemned by those
who can tolerate almost every other form of arbitrary power, and
which, of all others presents features the most revolting to the
feelings of all who look at it from an impartial position, was
the law of civilised and Christian England within the memory of
persons now living: and in one half of Anglo-Saxon America three
or four years ago, not only did slavery exist, but the slave-trade,
and the breeding of slaves expressly for it, was a general practice
between slave states. Yet not only was there a greater strength
of sentiment against it, but, in England at least, a less amount
either of feeling or of interest in favour of it, than of any
other of the customary abuses of force: for its motive was the
love of gain, unmixed and undisguised; and those who profited
by it were a very small numerical fraction of the country, while
the natural feeling of all who were not personally interested
in it, was unmitigated abhorrence. So extreme an instance makes
it almost superfluous to refer to any other: but consider the
long duration of absolute monarchy. In England at present it is
the almost universal conviction that military despotism is a case
of the law of force, having no other origin or justification.
Yet in all the great nations of Europe except England it either
still exists, or has only just ceased to exist, and has even now
a strong party favourable to it in all ranks of the people, especially
among persons of station and consequence. Such is the power of
an established system, even when far from universal; when not
only in almost every period of history there have been great and
well-known examples of the contrary system, but these have almost
invariably been afforded by the most illustrious and most prosperous
communities. In this case, too, the possessor of the undue power,
the person directly interested in it, is only one person, while
those who are subject to it and suffer from it are literally all
the rest. The yoke is naturally and necessarily humiliating to
all persons, except the one who is on the throne, together with,
at most, the one who expects to succeed to it. How different are
these cases from that of the power of men over women! I am not
now prejudging the question-of its justifiableness. I am showing
how vastly more permanent it could not but be, even if not justifiable,
than these other dominations which have nevertheless lasted down
to our own time. Whatever gratification of pride there is in the
possession of power, and whatever personal interest in its exercise,
is in this case not confined to a limited class, but common to
the whole male sex. Instead of being, to most of its supporters)
a thing desirable chiefly in the abstract, or, like the political
ends usually contended for by factions, of little private importance
to any but the leaders; it comes home to the person and hearth
of every male head of a family, and of everyone who looks forward
to being so. The clodhopper exercises, oris to exercise, his share
of the power equally with the highest nobleman. And the case is
that in which the desire of power is the strongest: for everyone
who desires power, desires it most over those who are nearest
to him, with whom his life is passed, with whom he has most concerns
in common and in whom any independence of his authority is oftenest
likely to interfere with his individual preferences. If, in the
other cases specified, powers manifestly grounded only on force,
and having so much less to support them, are so slowly and with
so much difficulty got rid of, much more must it be so with this,
even if it rests on no better foundation than those. We must consider,
too, that the possessors of the power have facilities in this
case, greater than in any other, to prevent any uprising against
it. Every one of the subjects lives under the very eye, and almost,
it may be said, in the hands, of one of the masters in closer
intimacy with him than with any of her fellow-subjects; with no
means of combining against him, no power of even locally over
mastering him, and, on the other hand, with the strongest motives
for seeking his favour and avoiding to give him offence. In struggles
for political emancipation, everybody knows how often its champions
are bought off by bribes, or daunted by terrors. In the case of
women, each individual of the subject-class is in a chronic state
of bribery and intimidation combined. In setting up the standard
of resistance, a large number of the leaders, and still more of
the followers, must make an almost complete sacrifice of the pleasures
or the alleviations of their own individual lot. If ever any system
of privilege and enforced subjection had its yoke tightly riveted
on the those who are kept down by it, this has. I have not yet
shown that it is a wrong system: but everyone who is capable of
thinking on the subject must see that even if it is, it was certain
to outlast all other forms of unjust authority. And when some
of the grossest of the other forms still exist in many civilised
countries, and have only recently been got rid of in others, it
would be strange if that which is so much the deepest rooted had
yet been perceptibly shaken anywhere. There is more reason to
wonder that the protests and testimonies against it should have
been so numerous and so weighty as they are.
Some will object, that a comparison cannot fairly be made between
the government of the male sex and the forms of unjust power which
I have adduced in illustration of it, since these are arbitrary,
and the effect of mere usurpation, while it on the contrary is
natural. But was there ever any domination which did not appear
natural to those who possessed it? There was a time when the division
of mankind into two classes, a small one of masters and a numerous
one of slaves, appeared, even to the most cultivated minds, to
be natural, and the only natural, condition of the human race.
No less an intellect, and one which contributed no less to the
progress of human thought, than Aristotle, held this opinion without
doubt or misgiving; and rested it on the same premises on which
the same assertion in regard to the dominion of men over women
is usually based, namely that there are different natures among
mankind, free natures, and slave natures; that the Greeks were
of a free nature, the barbarian races of Thracians and Asiatics
of a slave nature. But why need I go back to Aristotle? Did not
the slave-owners of the Southern United States maintain the same
doctrine, with all the fanaticism with which men ding to the theories
that justify their passions and legitimate their personal interests?
Did they not call heaven and earth to witness that the dominion
of the white man over the black is natural, that the black race
is by nature incapable of freedom, and marked out for slavery?
some even going so far as to say that the freedom of manual labourers
is an unnatural order of things anywhere. Again, the theorists
of absolute monarchy have always affirmed it to be the only natural
form of government; issuing from the patriarchal, which was the
primitive and spontaneous form of society, framed on the model
of the paternal, which is anterior to society itself, and, as
they contend, the most natural authority of all. Nay, for that
matter, the law of force itself, to those who could not plead
any other has always seemed the most natural of all grounds for
the exercise of authority. Conquering races hold it to be Nature's
own dictate that the conquered should obey the conquerors, or
as they euphoniously paraphrase it, that the feebler and more
unwarlike races should submit to the braver and manlier. The smallest
acquaintance with human life in the middle ages, shows how supremely
natural the dominion of the feudal nobility overmen of low condition
appeared to the nobility themselves, and how unnatural the conception
seemed, of a person of the inferior class claiming equality with
them, or exercising authority over them. It hardly seemed less
so to the class held in subjection. The emancipated serfs and
burgesses, even in their most vigorous struggles, never made any
pretension to a share of authority; they only demanded more or
less of limitation to the power of tyrannising over them. So true
is it that unnatural generally means only uncustomary, and that
everything which is usual appears natural. The subjection of women
to men being a universal custom, any departure from it quite naturally
appears unnatural. But how entirely, even in this case, the feeling
is dependent on custom, appears by ample experience. Nothing so
much astonishes the people of distant parts of the world, when
they first learn anything about England, as to be told that it
is under a queen; the thing seems to them so unnatural as to be
almost incredible. To Englishmen this does not seem in the least
degree unnatural, because they are used to it; but they do feel
it unnatural that women should be soldiers or Members of Parliament.
In the feudal ages, on the contrary, war and politics were not
thought unnatural to women, because not unusual; it seemed natural
that women of the privileged classes should be of manly character,
inferior in nothing but bodily strength to their husbands and
fathers. The independence of women seemed rather less unnatural
to the Greeks than to other ancients, on account of the fabulous
Amazons (whom they believed to be historical), and the partial
example afforded by the Spartan women; who, though no less subordinate
by law than in other Greek states, were more free in fact, and
being trained to bodily exercises in the same manner with men,
gave ample proof that they were not naturally disqualified for
them. There can be little doubt that Spartan experience suggested
to Plato, among many other of his doctrines, t of the social and
political equality of the two sexes.
But, it will be said, the rule of men over women differs from
all these others in not being a rule a rule of force: it is accepted
voluntarily; women make no complaint, and are consenting parties
to it. In the first place, a great number of women do not accept
it. Ever since there have been women able to make their sentiments
known by their writings (the only mode of publicity which society
permits to them), an increasing number of them have recorded protests
against their present social condition: and recently many thousands
of them, headed by the most eminent women known to the public,
have petitioned Parliament for their admission to the Parliamentary
Suffrage The claim of women to be educated as solidly, and in
the same branches of knowledge, as men, is urged with growing
intensity, and with a great prospect of success; while the demand
for their admission into professions and occupations hitherto
closed against them, becomes every year more urgent. Though there
are not in this country, as there are in the United States, periodical
conventions and an organised party to agitate for the Rights of
Women, there is a numerous and active society organised and managed
by women, for the more limited object of obtaining the political
franchise. Nor is it only in our own country and in America that
women are beginning to protest, more or less collectively, against
the disabilities under which they labour. France, and Italy, and
Switzerland, and Russia now afford examples of the same thing.
How many more women there are who silently cherish similar aspirations,
no one can possibly know; but there are abundant tokens how many
would cherish them, were they not so strenuously taught to repress
them as contrary to the proprieties of their sex. It must be remembered,
also, that no enslaved class ever asked for complete liberty at
once. When Simon de Montfort called the deputies of the commons
to sit for the first time in Parliament, did any of them dream
of demanding that an assembly, elected by their constituents)should
make and destroy ministries, and dictate to the king in affairs
of State ? No such thought entered into the imagination of the
most ambitious of them. The nobility had already these pretensions;
the commons pretended to nothing but to be exempt from arbitrary
taxation, and from the gross individual oppression of the king's
officers. It is a political law of nature that those who are under
any power of ancient origin, never begin by complaining of the
power itself, but only of its oppressive exercise. There is never
any want of women who complain of ill-usage by their husbands.
There would be infinitely more, if complaint were not the greatest
of all provocatives to a repetition and increase of the ill-usage.
It is this which frustrates all attempts to maintain the power
but protect the woman against its abuses. In no other case (except
that of a child) is the person who has been proved judicially
to have suffered an injury, replaced under the physical power
of the culprit who inflicted it. Accordingly wives, even in the
most extreme and protracted cases of bodily ill-usage, hardly
ever dare avail themselves of the laws made for their protection:
and if, in a moment of irrepressible indignation, or by the interference
of neighbours, they are induced to do so, their whole effort afterwards
is to disclose as little as they can, and to beg off their tyrant
from his merited chastisement.
All causes, social and natural, combine to make it unlikely that
women should be collectively rebellious to the power of men. They
are so far in a position different from all other subject classes,
that their masters require something more from them than actual
service. Men do not want solely the obedience of women, they want
their sentiments. All men, except the most brutish, desire to
have, in the woman most nearly connected with them, not a forced
slave but a willing one, not a slave merely, but a favourite.
They have therefore put everything in practice to enslave their
minds. The masters of all other slaves rely, for maintaining obedience,
on fear; either fear of themselves, or religious fears. The masters
of women wanted more than simple obedience, and they turned the
whole force of education to effect their purpose. All women are
brought up from the very earliest years in the belief that their
ideal of character is the very opposite to that of men; not self
will, and government by self-control, but submission, and yielding
to the control of other. All the moralities tell them that it
is the duty of women, and all the current sentimentalities that
it is their nature, to live for others; to make complete abnegation
of themselves, and to have no life but in their affections. And
by their affections are meant the only ones they are allowed to
have - - those to the men with whom they are connected, or to
the children who constitute an additional and indefeasible tie
between them and a man. When we put together three things -- first,
the natural attraction between opposite sexes; secondly, the wife's
entire dependence on the husband, every privilege or pleasure
she has being either his gift, or depending entirely on his will;
and lastly, that the principal object of human pursuit, consideration,
and all objects of social ambition, can in general be sought or
obtained by her only through him, it would be a miracle if the
object of being attractive to men had not become the polar star
of feminine education and formation of character. And, this great
means of influence over the minds of women having been acquired,
an instinct of selfishness made men avail themselves of it to
the utmost as a means of holding women in subjection, by representing
to them meekness, submissiveness, and resignation of all individual
will into the hands of a man, as an essential part of sexual attractiveness.
Can it be doubted that any of the other yokes which mankind have
succeeded in breaking, would have subsisted till now if the same
means had existed, and had been so sedulously used, to bow down
their minds to it? If it had been made the object of the life
of every young plebeian to find personal favour in the eyes of
some patrician, of every young serf with some seigneur; if domestication
with him, and a share of his personal affections, had been held
out as the prize which they all should look out for, the most
gifted and aspiring being able to reckon on the most desirable
prizes; and if, when this prize had been obtained, they had been
shut out by a wall of brass from all interests not centring in
him, all feelings and desires but those which he shared or inculcated;
would not serfs and seigneurs, plebeians and patricians, have
been as broadly distinguished at this day as men and women are?
and would not all but a thinker here and there, have believed
the distinction to be a fundamental and unalterable fact in human
nature?
The preceding considerations are amply sufficient to show that
custom, however universal it may be, affords in this case no presumption,
and ought not to create any prejudice, in favour of the arrangements
which place women in social and political subjection to men. But
I may go farther, and maintain that the course of history, and
the tendencies of progressive human society, afford not only no
presumption in favour of this system of inequality of rights,
but a strong one against it; and that, so far as the whole course
of human improvement up to the time, the whole stream of modern
tendencies, warrants any inference on the subject, it is, that
this relic of the past is discordant with the future, and must
necessarily disappear.
For, what is the peculiar character of the modern world-the difference
which chiefly distinguishes modern institutions, modern social
ideas, modern life itself, from those of times long past? It is,
that human beings are no longer born to their place in life, and
chained down by an inexorable bond to the would be infinitely
more, if complaint were not the greatest of all provocatives to
a repetition and increase of the ill-usage. It is this which frustrates
all attempts to maintain the power but protect the woman against
its abuses. In no other case (except that of a child) is the person
who has been proved judicially to have suffered an injury, replaced
under the physical power of the culprit who inflicted it. Accordingly
wives, even in the most extreme and protracted cases of bodily
ill-usage, hardly ever dare avail themselves of the laws made
for their protection: and if, in a moment of irrepressible indignation,
or by the interference of neighbours, they are induced to do so,
their whole effort afterwards is to disclose as little as they
can, and to beg off their tyrant from his merited chastisement.
All causes, social and natural, combine to make it unlikely that
women should be collectively rebellious to the power of . men.
They are so far in a position different from all other subject
classes, that their masters require something more from them than
actual service Men do not want solely the obedience of women,
they want their sentiments. All men, except the most brutish,
desire to have, in the woman most nearly connected with them,
not a forced slave but a willing one, not a slave merely, but
a favourite. They have therefore put everything in practice to
enslave their minds. The masters of all other slaves rely, for
maintaining obedience, on fear; either fear of themselves, or
religious fears. The masters of women wanted more than simple
obedience, and they turned the whole force of education to effect
their purpose. All women are brought up from the very earliest
years in the belief that their ideal of character is the very
opposite to that of men; not self-will, and government by self-control,
but submission, and yielding to the control of others. All the
moralities tell them that it is the duty of women, and all the
current sentimentalities that it is their nature, to live for
others; to make complete abnegation of themselves, and to have
no life but in their affections. And by their affections are meant
the only ones they are allowed to have--those to the men with
whom they are connected, or to the children who constitute an
additional and indefeasible tie between them and a man. When we
put together three things--first, the natural attraction between
opposite sexes; secondly, the wife's entire dependence on the
husband, every privilege or pleasure she has being either his
gift, or depending entirely on his will; and lastly, that the
principal object of human pursuit, consideration, and all objects
of social ambition, can in general be sought or obtained by her
only through him, it would be a miracle if the object of being
attractive to men had not become the polar star of feminine education
and formation of character. And, this great means of influence
over the minds of women having been acquired, an instinct of selfishness
made men avail themselves of it to the utmost as a means of holding
women in subjection, by representing to them meekness, submissiveness,
and resignation of all individual will into the hands of a man,
as an essential part of sexual attractiveness. Can it be doubted
that any of the other yokes which mankind have succeeded in breaking,
would have subsisted till now if the same means had existed, and
had been so sedulously used, to bow down their minds to it? If
it had been made the object of the life of every young plebeian
to find personal favour in the eyes of some patrician, of every
young serf with some seigneur; if domestication with him, and
a share of his personal affections, had been held out as the prize
which they all should look out for, the most gifted and aspiring
being able to reckon on the most desirable prizes; and if, when
this prize had been obtained, they had been shut out by a wall
of brass from all interests not centring in him, all feelings
and desires but those which he shared or inculcated; would not
serfs and seigneurs, plebeians and patricians, have been as broadly
distinguished at this day as men and women are? and would not
all but a thinker here and there, have believed the distinction
to be a fundamental and unalterable fact in human nature? The
preceding considerations are amply sufficient to show that custom,
however universal it may be, affords in this case no presumption,
and ought not to create any prejudice, in favour of the arrangements
which place women in social and political subjection to men. But
I may go farther, and maintain that the course of history, and
the tendencies of progressive human society, afford not only no
presumption in favour of this system of inequality of rights,
but a strong one against it; and that, so far as the whole course
of human improvement up to the time, the whole stream of modern
tendencies, warrants any inference on the subject, it is, that
this relic of the past is discordant with the future, and must
necessarily disappear. For, what is the peculiar character of
the modern world-the difference which chiefly distinguishes modern
institutions, modern social ideas, modern life itself, from those
of times long past? It is, that human beings are no longer born
to their place in life, and chained down by an inexorable bond
to the place they are born to, but are free to employ their faculties,
and such favourable chances as offer, to achieve the lot which
may appear to them most desirable. Human society of old was constituted
on a very different principle. All were born to a fixed social
position, and were mostly kept in it by law, or interdicted from
any means by which they could emerge from it. As some men are
born white and others black, so some were born slaves and others
freemen and citizens; some were born patricians, others plebeians;
some were born feudal nobles, others commoners and roturiers.
A slave or serf could never make himself free, nor, except by
the will of his master, become so. In most European countries
it was not till towards the close of the middle ages, and as a
consequence of the growth of regal power, that commoners could
be ennobled. Even among nobles, the eldest son was born the exclusive
heir to the paternal possessions, and a long time elapsed before
it was fully established that the father could disinherit him.
Among the industrious classes, only those who were born members
of a guild, or were admitted into it by its members, could lawfully
practise their calling within its local limits; and nobody could
practise any calling deemed important, in any but the legal manner--by
processes authoritatively prescribed. Manufacturers have stood
in the pillory for presuming to carry on their business by new
and improved methods. In modern Europe, and most in those parts
of it which have participated most largely in all other modern
improvements, diametrically opposite doctrines now prevail. Law
and government do not undertake to prescribe by whom any social
or industrial operation shall or shall not be conducted, or what
modes of conducting them shall be lawful. These things are left
to the unfettered choice of individuals. Even the laws which required
that workmen should serve an apprenticeship, have in this country
been repealed: there being ample assurance that in all cases in
which an apprenticeship is necessary, its necessity will suffice
to enforce it. The old theory was, that the least possible should
be left to the choice of the individual agent; that all he had
to do should, as far as practicable, be laid down for him by superior
wisdom. Left to himself he was sure to go wrong. The modern conviction,
the fruit of a thousand years of experience, is, that things in
which the individual is the person directly interested, never
go right but as they are left to his own discretion; and that
any regulation of them by authority, except to protect the rights
of others, is sure to be mischievous. This conclusion slowly arrived
at, and not adopted until almost every possible application of
the contrary theory had been made with disastrous result, now
(in the industrial department) prevails universally in the most
advanced countries, almost universally in all that have pretensions
to any sort of advancement. It is not that all processes are supposed
to be equally good, or all persons to be equally qualified for
everything; but that freedom of individual choice is now known
to be the only thing which procures the adoption of the best processes,
and throws each operation into the hands of those who are best
qualified for it. Nobody thinks it necessary to make a law that
only a strong-armed man shall be a blacksmith. Freedom and competition
suffice to make blacksmiths strong-armed men, because the weak
armed can earn more by engaging in occupations for which they
are more fit. In consonance with this doctrine, it is felt to
be an overstepping of the proper bounds of authority to fix beforehand,
on some general presumption, that certain persons are not fit
to do certain things. It is now thoroughly known and admitted
that if some such presumptions exist, no such presumption is infallible.
Even if it be well grounded in a majority of cases, which it is
very likely not to be, there will be a minority of exceptional
cases in which it does not hold: and in those it is both an injustice
to the individuals, and a detriment to society, to place barriers
in the way of their using their faculties for their own benefit
and for that of others. In the cases, on the other hand, in which
the unfitness is real, the ordinary motives of human conduct will
on the whole suffice to prevent the incompetent person from making,
or from persisting in, the attempt.
If this general principle of social and economical science is
not true; if individuals, with such help as they can derive from
the opinion of those who know them, are not better judges than
the law and the government, of their own capacities and vocation;
the world cannot too soon abandon this principle, and return to
the old system of regulations and disabilities. But if the principle
is true, we ought to act as if we believed it, and not to ordain
that to be born a girl instead of a boy, any more than to be born
black instead of white, or a commoner instead of a nobleman, shall
decide the person's position through all life--shall interdict
people from all the more elevated social positions, and from all,
except a few, respectable occupations. Even were we to admit the
utmost that is ever pretended a to the superior fitness of men
for all the functions now reserve to them, the same argument applies
which forbids a legal qualification for Members of Parliament.
If only once in a dozen years the conditions of eligibility exclude
a fit person, there is a real loss, while the exclusion of thousands
of unfit persons is no gain; for if the constitution of the electoral
body disposes them to choose unfit persons, there are always plenty
of such persons to choose from. In all things of any difficulty
and importance, those who can do them well are fewer than the
need, even with the most unrestricted latitude of choice: and
any limitation of the field of selection deprives society of some
chances of being served by the competent, without ever saving
it from the incompetent.
At present, in the more improved countries, the disabilities of
women are the only case, save one, in which laws and institutions
take persons at their birth, and ordain that they shall never
in all their lives be allowed to compete for certain things. The
one exception is that of royalty. Persons still are born to the
throne; no one, not of the reigning family, can ever occupy it,
and no one even of that family can, by any means but the course
of hereditary succession, attain it. All other dignities and social
advantages are open to the whole male sex: many indeed are only
attainable by wealth, but wealth may be striven for by anyone,
and is actually obtained by many men of the very humblest origin.
The difficulties, to the majority, are indeed insuperable without
the aid of fortunate accidents; but no male human being is under
any legal ban: neither law nor opinion superadd artificial obstacles
to the natural ones. Royalty, as I have said, is excepted: but
in this case everyone feels it to be an exception--an anomaly
in the modern world, in marked opposition to its customs and principles,
and to be justified only by extraordinary special expediences,
which, though individuals and nations differ in estimating their
weight, unquestionably do in fact exist. But in this exceptional
case, in which a high social function is, for important reasons,
bestowed on birth instead of being put up to competition, all
free nations contrive to adhere in substance to the principle
from which they nominally derogate; for they circumscribe this
high function by conditions avowedly intended to prevent the person
to whom it ostensibly belongs from really performing it; while
the person by whom it is performed, the responsible minister,
does obtain the post by a competition from which no full-grown
citizen of the male sex is legally excluded. The disabilities,
therefore, to which women are subject from the mere fact of their
birth, are the solitary examples of the kind in modern legislation.
In no instance except this, which comprehends half the human race,
are the higher social functions closed against anyone by a fatality
of birth which no exertions, and no change of circumstances, can
overcome; for even religious disabilities (besides that in England
and in Europe they have practically almost ceased to exist) do
not close any career to the disqualified person in case of conversion.
The social subordination of women thus stands out an isolated
fact in modern social institutions; a solitary breach of what
has become their fundamental law; a single relic of an old world
of thought and practice exploded in everything else, but retained
in the one thing of most universal interest; as if a gigantic
dolmen, or a vast temple of Jupiter Olympius, occupied the site
of St. Paul's and received daily worship, while the surrounding
Christian churches were only resorted to on fasts and festivals.
This entire discrepancy between one social fact and all those
which accompany it, and the radical opposition between its nature
and the progressive movement which is the boast of the modern
world, and which has successively swept away everything else of
an analogous character, surely affords, to a conscientious observer
of human tendencies, serious matter for reflection. It raises
a prima facie presumption on the unfavourable side, far outweighing
any which custom and usage could in such circumstances create
on the favourable;and should at least suffice to make this, like
the choice between republicanism and royalty, a balanced question.
The least that can be demanded is, that the question should not
be considered as prejudged by existing fact and existing opinion,
but open to discussion on its merits, as a question of justice
and expediency: the decision on this, as on any of the other social
arrangements of mankind, depending on what an enlightened estimate
of tendencies and consequences may show to be most advantageous
to humanity in general, without distinction of sex. And the discussion
must be a real discussion, descending to foundations, and not
resting satisfied with vague and general assertions. It will not
do, for instance to assert in general terms, that the experience
of mankind has pronounced in favour of the existing system. Experience
cannot possibly have decided between two courses, so long as there
has only been experience of one. If it be said that the doctrine
of the equality of the sexes rests only on theory, it must be
remembered that the contrary doctrine also has only theory to
rest upon. All that is proved in its favour by direct experience,
is that mankind have been able to exist under it, and to attain
the degree of improvement and prosperity which we now see; but
whether that prosperity has been attained sooner, or is now greater,
than it would have been under the other system, experience does
not say. on the other hand, experience does say, that every step
in improvement has been so invariably accompanied by a step made
in raising the social position of women, that historians and philosophers
have been led to adopt their elevation or debasement as on the
whole the surest test and most correct measure of the civilisation
of a people or an age. Through all the progressive period of human
history, the condition of women has been approaching nearer to
equality with men. This does not of itself prove that the assimilation
must goon to complete equality; but it assuredly affords some
presumption that such is the case.
Neither does it avail anything to say that the nature of the two
sexes adapts them to their present functions and position, and
renders these appropriate to them. Standing on the ground of common
sense and the constitution of the human mind, I deny that anyone
knows, or can know, the nature of the two sexes, as long as they
have only been seen in their present relation to one another.
If men had ever been found in society without women, or women
without men, or if there had been a society of men and women in
which the women were not under the control of the men, something
might have been positively known about the mental and moral differences
which may be inherent in the nature of each. What is now called
the nature of women is an eminently artificial thing--the result
of forced repression in some directions, unnatural stimulation
in others. It may be asserted without scruple, that no other class
of dependents have had their character so entirely distorted from
its natural proportions by their relation with their masters;
for, if conquered and slave races have been, in some respects,
more forcibly repressed, whatever in them has not been crushed
down by an iron heel has generally been let alone, and if left
with any liberty of development, it has developed itself according
to its own laws; but in the case of women, a hot-house and stove
cultivation has always been carried on of some of the capabilities
of their nature, for the benefit and pleasure of their masters
Then, because certain products of the general vital force sprout
luxuriantly and reach a great development in this heated atmosphere
and under this active nurture and watering, while other shoots
from the same root, which are left outside in the wintry air,
with ice purposely heaped all round them, have a stunted growth,
and some are burnt off with fire and disappear; men, with that
inability to recognise their own work which distinguishes the
unanalytic mind, indolently believe that the tree grows of itself
in the way they have made it grow, and that it would die if one
half of it were not kept in a vapour bath and the other half in
the snow.
Of all difficulties which impede the progress of thought, and
the formation of well-grounded opinions on life and social arrangements,
the greatest is now the unspeakable ignorance and inattention
of mankind in respect to the influences which form human character.
Whatever any portion of the human species now are, or seem to
be, such, it is supposed, they have a natural tendency to be:
even when the most elementary knowledge of the circumstances in
which they have been placed, clearly points out the causes that
made them what they are. Because a cottier deeply in arrears to
his landlord is not industrious, there are people who think that
the Irish are naturally idle. Because constitutions can be overthrown
when the authorities appointed to execute them turn their arms
against them, there are people who think the French incapable
of free government. Because the Greeks cheated the Turks, and
the Turks only plundered the Greeks, there are persons who think
that the Turks are naturally more sincere: and because women,
as is often said, care nothing about politics except their personalities,
it is supposed that the general good is naturally less interesting
to women than to men. History, which is now so much better understood
than formerly, teaches another lesson: if only by showing the
extraordinary susceptibility of human nature to external influences,
and the extreme variableness of those of its manifestations which
are supposed to be most universal and uniform. But in history,
as in travelling, men usually see only what they already had in
their own minds; and few learn much from history, who do not bring
much with them to its study.
Hence, in regard to that most difficult question, what are the
natural differences between the two sexes--a subject on which
it is impossible in the present state of society to obtain complete
and correct knowledge--while almost everybody dogmatises upon
it, almost all neglect and make light of the only means by which
any partial insight can be obtained into it. This is, an analytic
study of the most important department of psychology, the laws
of the influence of circumstances on character. For, however great
and apparently ineradicable the moral and intellectual differences
between men and women might be, the evidence of there being natural
differences could only be negative. Those only could be inferred
to be natural which could not possibly be artificial--the residuum,
after deducting every characteristic of either sex which can admit
of being explained from education or external circumstances. The
profoundest knowledge of the laws of the formation of character
is indispensable to entitle anyone to affirm even that there is
any difference, much more what the difference is, between the
two sexes considered as moral and rational beings; and since no
one, as yet, has that knowledge (for there is hardly any subject
which, in proportion to its importance, has been so little studied),
no one is thus far entitled to any positive opinion on the subject.
Conjectures are all that can at present be made;conjectures more
or less probable, according as more or less authorised by such
knowledge as we yet have of the laws of psychology, as applied
to the formation of character.
Even the preliminary knowledge, what the differences between the
sexes now are, apart from all question as to how they are made
what they are, is still in the crudest and most' incomplete state.
Medical practitioners and physiologists have ascertained, to some
extent, the differences in bodily constitution; and this is an
important element to the psychologist: but hardly any medical
practitioner is a psychologist. Respecting the mental characteristics
of women; their observations are of no more worth than those of
common men. It is a subject on which nothing final can be known,
so long as those who alone can really know it, women themselves,
have given but little testimony, and that little, mostly suborned.
It is easy to know stupid women. Stupidity is much the same all
the world over. A stupid person's notions and feelings may confidently
be inferred from those which prevail in the circle by which the
person is surrounded. Not so with those whose opinions and feelings
are an emanation from their own nature and faculties. It is only
a man here and there who has any tolerable knowledge of the character
even of the women of his own family. I do not mean, of their capabilities;
these nobody knows, not even themselves, because most of them
have never been called out. I mean their actually existing thoughts
and feelings. Many a man think she perfectly understands women,
because he has had amatory relations with several, perhaps with
many of them.
If he is a good observer, and his experience extends to quality
as well as quantity, he may have learnt something of one narrow
department of their nature--an important department, no doubt.
But of all the rest of it, few persons are generally more ignorant,
because there are few from whom it is so carefully hidden. The
most favourable case which a man can generally have for studying
the character of a woman, is that of his own wife: for the opportunities
are greater, and the cases of complete sympathy not so unspeakably
rare. And in fact, this is the source from which any knowledge
worth having on the subject has, I believe, generally come. But
most men have not had the opportunity of studying in this way
more than a single case: accordingly one can, to an almost laughable
degree, infer what a man's wife is like, from his opinions about
women in general. To make even this one case yield any result,
the woman must be worth knowing, and the man not only a competent
judge, but of a character so sympathetic in itself, and so well
adapted to hers, that he can either read her mind by sympathetic
intuition, or has nothing in himself which makes her shy of disclosing
it, Hardly anything, I believe, can be more rare than this conjunction.
It often happens that there is the most complete unity of feeling
and community of interests as to all external things, yet the
one has as little admission into the internal life of the other
as if they were common acquaintance. Even with true affection,
authority on the one side and subordination on the other prevent
perfect confidence. Though nothing may be intentionally withheld,
much is not shown. In the analogous relation of parent and child,
the corresponding phenomenon must have been in the observation
of everyone. As between father and son, how many are the cases
in which the father, in spite of real affection on both sides,
obviously to all the world does not know, nor suspect, parts of
the son's character familiar to his companions and equals. The
truth is, that the position of looking up to another is extremely
unpropitious to complete sincerity and openness with him. The
fear of losing ground in his opinion or in his feelings is so
strong, that even in an upright character, there is an unconscious
tendency to show only the best side, or the side which, though
not the best, is that which he most likes to see: and it may be
confidently said that thorough knowledge of one another hardly
ever exists, but between persons who, besides being intimates,
are equals. How much more true, then, must all this be, when the
one is not only under the authority of the other, but has it inculcated
on her as a duty to reckon everything else subordinate to his
comfort and pleasure, and to let him neither see nor feel anything
coming from her, except what is agreeable to him. All these difficulties
stand in the way of a man's obtaining any thorough knowledge even
of the one woman whom alone, in general, he has sufficient opportunity
of studying. When we further consider that to understand one woman
is not necessarily to understand any other woman; that even if
he could study many women of one rank, or of one country, he would
not thereby understand women of other ranks or countries; and
even if he did, they are still only the women of a single period
of history; we may safely assert that the knowledge which men
can acquire of women, even as they have been and are, without
reference to what they might be, is wretchedly imperfect and superficial,
and always will be so, until women themselves have told all that
they have to tell.
And this time has not come; nor will it come otherwise than gradually.
It is but of yesterday that women have either been qualified by
literary accomplishments or permitted by society, to tell anything
to the general public. As yet very few of them dare tell anything,
which men, on whom their literary success depends, are unwilling
to hear. Let us remember in what manner, up to a very recent time,
the expression, even by a male author, of uncustomary opinions,
or what are deemed eccentric feelings, usually was, and in some
degree still is, received; and we may form some faint conception
under what impediments a woman, who is brought up to think custom
and opinion her sovereign rule, attempts to express in books anything
drawn from the depths of her own nature. The greatest woman who
has left writings behind her sufficient to give her an eminent
rank in the literature of her country, thought it necessary to
prefix as a motto to her boldest work, " Un homme peut braver
l'opinion; une femme doit s'y soumettre." [1] The greater
part of what women write about women is mere sycophancy to men.
In the case of unmarried women, much of it seems only intended
to increase their chance of a husband. Many, both married and
unmarried, overstep the mark, and inculcate a servility beyond
what is desired or relished by any man, except the very vulgarest.
But this is not so often the L case as, even at a quite late period,
it still was. Literary women I are becoming more free-spoken,
and more willing to express their real sentiments. Unfortunately,
in this country especially, they are themselves such artificial
products, that their sentiments are compounded of a small element
of individual observation and consciousness, and a very large
one of acquired associations. This will be less and less the case,
but it will remain true to a great extent, as long as social institutions
do not admit the same free development of originality in women
which is possible to men. When that time comes, and not before,
we shall see, and not merely hear, as much as it is necessary
to know of the nature of women, and the adaptation of other things
to it.
I have dwelt so much on the difficulties which at present obstruct
any real knowledge by men of the true nature of women, because
in this as in so many other things "opinio copiae inter maximas
causas inopiae est"; and there is little chance of reasonable
thinking on the matter while people flatter themselves that they
perfectly understand a subject of which most men know absolutely
nothing, and of which it is at present impossible that any man,
or all men taken together, should have knowledge which can qualify
them to lay down the law to women as to what is, or is not, their
vocation. Happily, no such knowledge is necessary for any practical
purpose connected with the position of women is relation to society
and life. For, according to all the principles involved in modern
society, the question rests with women themselves--to be decided
by their own experience, and by the use of their own faculties.
There are no means of finding what either one person or many can
do, but by trying--and no means by which anyone else can discover
for them what it is for their happiness to do or leave undone.
One thing we may be certain of--that what is contrary to women's
nature to do, they never will be made to do by simply giving their
nature free play. The anxiety of mankind to interfere in behalf
of nature, for fear lest nature should not succeed m effecting
its purpose, is an altogether unnecessary solicitude. What women
by nature cannot do, it is quite superfluous to forbid them from
doing. What they can do, but not so well as the men who are their
competitors, competition suffices to exclude them from; since
nobody asks for protective duties and bounties in favour of women;
it is only asked that the present bounties and protective duties
in favour of men should be recalled. If women have a greater natural
inclination for somethings than for others, there is no need of
laws or social inculcation to make the majority of them do the
former in preference to the latter. Whatever women's services
are most wanted for, the free play of competition will hold out
the strongest inducements to them to undertake. And, as the words
imply, they are most wanted for the things for which they are
most fit; by the apportionment of which to them, the collective
faculties of the two sexes can be applied on the whole with the
greatest sum of valuable result. The general opinion of men is
supposed to be, that the natural vocation of a woman is that of
a wife and mother. I say, is supposed to be, because, judging
from acts--from the whole of the present constitution of society--one
might infer that their opinion was the direct contrary. They might
be supposed to think that the alleged natural vocation of women
was of all things the most repugnant to their nature; insomuch
that if they are free to do anything else--if any other means
of living or occupation of their time and faculties, is open,
which has any chance of appearing desirable to them- there will
not be enough of them who will be willing to accept the condition
said to be natural to them. If this is the real opinion of men
in general, it would be well that it should be spoken out. I should
like to hear somebody openly enunciating the doctrine (it is already
implied in much that is written on the subJect)- It is necessary
to society that women should marry and produce children. They
will not do so unless they are compelled. Therefore it is necessary
to compel them. " The merits of the case would then be clearly
defined. It would be exactly that of the slave-holders of South
Carolina and Louisiana. " It is necessary that cotton and
sugar should be grown. White men cannot produce them. Negroes
will not, for any wages which we choose to give. Ergo they must
be compelled. " An illustration still closer to the point
is that of impressment. Sailors must absolutely be had to defend
the country. It often happens that they will not voluntarily enlist.
Therefore there must be the power of forcing them. How often has
this logic been used!and, but for one flaw in it, without doubt
it would have been successful up to this day. But lt is open to
the retort-- First pay the sailors the honest value of their labour.
When you have made it as well worth their while to serve you,
as to work for other employers, you will have no more difficulty
than others have in obtaining their services. To this there is
no logical answer except"I will not": and as people
are now not only ashamed, but are not desirous, to rob the labourer
of his hire, impressment is no longer advocated. Those who attempt
to force women into marriage by closing all other doors against
them, lay themselves open to a similar retort. If they mean what
they say, their opinion must evidently be, that men do not render
the married condition so desirable to women, as to induce them
to accept it for its own recommendations. It is not a sign of
one's thinking the boon one offers very attractive, when one allows
only Hobson's choice, "that or none. " And here, I believe,
is the clue to the feelings of those men, who have a real antipathy
to the equal freedom of women. I believe they are afraid, not
lest women should be unwilling to marry, for I do not think that
anyone in reality has that apprehension; but lest they should
insist that marriage should be on equal conditions; lest all women
of spirit and capacity should prefer doing almost anything else,
not in their own eyes degrading, rather than marry, when marrying
is giving themselves a master, and a master too of all their earthly
possessions. And truly, if this consequence were necessarily incident
to marriage, I think that the apprehension would be very well
founded. I agree in thinking it probable that few women, capable
of anything else, would, unless under an irresistible entrainement,
rendering them for the time insensible to anything but itself,
choose such a lot, when any other means were open to them of filling
a conventionally honourable place in life: and if men are determined
that the law of marriage shall be a law of despotism, they are
quite right, in point of mere policy, in leaving to women only
Hobson's choice. But, in that case, all that has been done in
the modern world to relax the chain on the minds of women, has
been a mistake. They never should have been allowed to receive
a literary education. Women who read, much more women who write,
are, in the existing constitution of things, a contradiction and
a disturbing element: and it was wrong to bring women up with
any acquirements but those of an odalisque, or of a domestic servant.
NOTES
[1] Title-page of Mme de Stael's Delphine.
CHAPTER II
It will be well to commence the detailed discussion of the subject
by the particular branch of it to which the course of our observations
has led us: the conditions which the laws of this and all other
countries annex to the marriage contract. Marriage being the destination
appointed by society for women, the prospect they are brought
up to, and the object which it is intended should be sought by
all of them, except those who are too little attractive to be
chosen by any man as his companion; one might have supposed that
everything would have been done to make this condition as eligible
to them as possible, that they might have no cause to regret being
denied the option of any other. Society, however, both in this,
and, at first, in all other cases, has preferred to attain its
object by foul rather than fair means: but this is the only case
in which it has substantially persisted in them even to the present
day. Originally women were taken by force, or regularly sold by
their father to the husband. Until a late period in European history,
the father had the power to dispose of his daughter in marriage
at his own will and pleasure, without any regard to hers. The
Church, indeed, was so far faithful to a better morality as to
require a formal "yes" from the woman at the marriage
ceremony; but there was nothing to show that the consent was other
than compulsory; and it was practically impossible for the girl
to refuse compliance if the father persevered, except perhaps
when she might obtain the protection of religion by a determined
resolution to take monastic vows. After marriage, the man had
anciently (but this was anterior to Christianity) the power of
life and death over his wife. She could invoke no law against
him; he was her sole tribunal and law. For a long time he could
repudiate her, but she had no corresponding power in regard to
him. By the old laws of England, the husband was called the lord
of the wife; he was literally regarded as her sovereign, inasmuch
that the murder of a man by his wife was called treason (petty
as distinguished from high treason), and was more cruelly avenged
than was usually the case with high treason, for the penalty was
burning to death. Because these various enormities have fallen
into disuse (for most of them were never formally abolished, or
not until they had long ceased to be practised) men suppose that
all is now as it should be in regard to the marriage contract;
and we are continually told that civilisation and Christianity
have restored to the woman her just rights. Meanwhile the wife
is the actual bond servant of her husband: no less so, as far
as legal obligation goes, than slaves commonly so called. She
vows a livelong obedience to him at the altar, and is held to
it all through her life by law. Casuists may say that the obligation
of obedience stops short of participation in crime, but it certainly
extends to everything else. She can do no act whatever but by
his permission, at least tacit. She can acquire no property but
for him; the instant it becomes hers, even if by inheritance,
it becomes ipso facto his. In this respect the wife's position
under the common law of England is worse than that-of slaves in
the laws of many countries: by the Roman law, for example, a slave
might have his peculium, which to a certain extent the law guaranteed
to him for his exclusive use. The higher classes in this country
have given an analogous advantage to their women, through special
contracts setting aside the law, by conditions of pin-money, etc.
: since parental feeling being stronger with fathers than the
class feeling of their own sex, a father generally prefers his
own daughter to a son-in-law who is a stranger to him. By means
of settlements, the rich usually contrive to withdraw the whole
or part of the inherited property of the wife from the absolute
control of the husband: but they do not succeed in keeping it
under her own control; the utmost they can do only prevents the
husband from squandering it, at the same time debarring the rightful
owner from its use. The property itself is out of the reach of
both; and as to the income derived from it, the form of settlement
most favourable to the wife (that called "to her separate
use") only precludes the husband from receiving it instead
of her: it must pass through her hands, but if he takes it from
her by personal violence as soon as she receives it, he can neither
be punished, nor compelled to restitution. This is the amount
of the protection which, under the laws of this country, the most
powerful nobleman can give to his own daughter as respects her
husband. In the immense majority of cases there is no settlement:
and the absorption of all rights, all property, as well as all
freedom of action, is complete. The two are called " one
person in law, " for the purpose of inferring that whatever
is hers is his, but the parallel inference is never drawn that
whatever is his is hers; the maxim is not applied against the
man, except to make him responsible to third parties for her acts,
as a master is for the acts of his slaves or of his cattle. I
am far from pretending that wives are in general no better treated
than slaves; but no slave is a slave to the same lengths, and
in so full a sense of the word, as a wife is. Hardly any slave,
except one immediately attached to the master's person, is a slave
at all hours and all minutes; in general he has, like a soldier,
his fixed task, and when it is done, or when he is off duty, he
disposes, within certain limits, of his own time, and has a family
life into which the master rarely intrudes. "Uncle Tom "
under his first master had his own life in his "cabin, "
almost as much as any man whose work takes him away from home,
is able to have in his own family. But it cannot be so with the
wife. Above all, a female slave has (in Christian countries) an
admitted right, and is considered under a moral obligation, to
refuse to her master the last familiarity. Not so the wife: however
brutal a tyrant she may unfortunately be chained to--though she
may know that he hates her, though it may be his daily pleasure
to torture her, and though she may feel it impossible not to loathe
him--he can claim from her and enforce the lowest degradation
of a human being, that of being made the instrument of an animal
function contrary to her inclinations. While she is held in this
worst description of slavery as to her own person, what is her
position in regard to the children in whom she and her master
have a joint interest? They are by law his children. He alone
has any legal rights over them. Not one act can she do towards
or in relation to them, except by delegation from him. Even after
he is dead she is not their legal guardian, unless he by will
has made her so. He could even send them away from her, and deprive
her of the means of seeing or corresponding with them, until this
power was in some degree restricted by Serjeant Talfourd's Act.
This is her legal state. And from this state she has no means
of withdrawing herself. If she leaves her husband, she can take
nothing with her, neither her children nor anything which is rightfully
her own. If he chooses, he can compel her to return, by law, or
by physical force; or he may content himself with seizing for
his own use anything which she may earn, or which may be given
to her by her relations. It is only legal separation by a decree
of a court of justice, which entitles her to live apart, without
being forced back into the custody of an exasperated jailer--or
which empowers her to apply any earnings to her own use, without
fear that a man whom perhaps she has not seen for twenty years
will pounce upon her some day and carry all off. This legal separation,
until lately, the courts of justice would only give at an expense
which made it inaccessible to anyone out of the higher ranks.
Even now it is only given in cases of desertion, or of the extreme
of cruelty; and yet complaints are made every day that it is granted
too easily. Surely, if a woman is denied any lot in life but that
of being the personal body-servant of a despot, and is dependent
for everything upon the chance of finding one who may be disposed
to make a favourite of her instead of merely a drudge, it is a
very cruel aggravation of her fate that she should be allowed
to try this chance only once. The natural sequel and corollary
from this state of things would be, that since her all in life
depends upon obtaining a good master, she should be allowed to
change again and again until she finds one. I am not saying that
she ought to be allowed this privilege. That is a totally different
consideration. The question of divorce, in the sense involving
liberty of remarriage, is one into which it is foreign to my purpose
to enter. All I now say is, that to those to whom nothing but
servitude is allowed, the free choice of servitude is the only,
though a most insufficient, alleviation. Its refusal completes
the assimilation of the wife to the slave--and the slave under
not the mildest form of slavery: for in some slave codes the slave
could, under certain circumstances of ill usage, legally compel
the master to sell him. But no amount of ill usage, without adultery
superadded, will in England free a wife from her tormentor.
I have no desire to exaggerate, nor does the case stand in any
need of exaggeration. I have described the wife's legal position,
not her actual treatment. The laws of most countries are far worse
than the people who execute them, and many of them are only able
to remain laws by being seldom or never carried into effect. If
married life were all that it might be expected to be, looking
to the laws alone, society would be a hell upon earth. Happily
there are both feelings and interests which in many men exclude,
and in most, greatly temper, the impulses and propensities which
lead to tyranny: and of those feelings, the tie which connects
a man with his wife affords, in a normal state of things, incomparably
the strongest example. The only tie which at all approaches to
it. that between him and his children, tends, in all save exceptional
cases, to strengthen, instead of conflicting with, the first.
Because this is true; because men in general do not inflict, nor
women suffer, all the misery which could be inflicted and suffered
if the full power of tyranny with which the man is legally invested
were acted on; the defenders of the existing form of the institution
think that all its iniquity is justified, and that any complaint
is merely quarrelling with the evil which is the price paid for
every great good. But the mitigations in practice, which are compatible
with maintaining in full legal force this or any other kind of
tyranny, instead of being any apology for despotism, only serve
to prove what power human nature possesses of reacting against
the vilest institutions, and with what vitality the seeds of good
as well as those of evil in human character diffuse and propagate
themselves. Not a word can be said for despotism in the family
which cannot be said for political despotism. Every absolute king
does not sit at his window to enjoy the groans of his tortured
subjects, nor strips them of their last rag and turns them out
to shiver in the road The despotism of Louis XVI was not the despotism
of Philippe le Bel, or of Nadir Shah, or of Caligula; but it was
bad enough to justify the French Revolution, and to palliate even
its horrors. If an appeal be made to the intense attachments which
exist between wives and their husbands, exactly as much may be
said of domestic slavery. It was quite an ordinary fact in Greece
and Rome for slaves to submit to death by torture rather than
betray their masters. In the proscriptions of the Roman civil
wars it was remarked that wives and slaves were heroically faithful,
sons very commonly treacherous. Yet we know how cruelly many Romans
treated their slaves. But in truth these intense individual feelings
nowhere rise to such a luxuriant height as under the most atrocious
institutions. It IS part of the irony of life, that the strongest
feelings of devoted gratitude of which human nature seems to be
susceptible, are called forth in human beings towards those who,
having the power entirely to crush their earthly existence, voluntarily
refrain from using that power. How great a place in most men this
sentiment fills, even in religious devotion, it would be cruel
to inquire. We daily see how much their gratitude to Heaven appears
to be stimulated by the contemplation of fellow-creatures to whom
God has not been so merciful as he has to themselves.
Whether the institution to be defended is slavery, political absolutism,
or the absolutism of the head of a family, we are always expected
to judge of it from its best instances; and we are presented with
pictures of loving exercise of authority on one side, loving submission
to it on the other--superior wisdom ordering all things for the
greatest good of the dependents, and surrounded by their smiles
and benedictions. All this would be very much to the purpose if
anyone pretended that there are no such things as goodmen. Who
doubts that there may be great goodness, and great happiness,
and great affection, under the absolute government of a good man?
Meanwhile, laws and institutions require to be adapted, not to
good men, but to bad. Marriage is not an institution designed
fora select few. Men are not required, as a preliminary to the
marriage ceremony, to prove by testimonials that they are fit
to be trusted with the exercise of absolute power. The tie of
affection and obligation to a wife and children is very strong
with those whose general social feelings are strong, and with
many who are little sensible to any other social ties; but there
are all degrees of sensibility and insensibility to it, as there
are all grades of goodness and wickedness in men, down to those
whom no ties will bind, and on whom society has no action but
through its ultima ratio, the penalties of the law. In every grade
of this descending scale are men to whom are committed all the
legal powers of a husband. The vilest malefactor has some wretched
woman tied to him, against whom he can commit any atrocity except
killing her, and, if tolerably cautious, can do that without much
danger of the legal penalty. And how many thousands are there
among the lowest classes in every country, who, without being
in a legal sense malefactors in any other respect, because in
every other quarter their aggressions meet with resistance, indulge
the utmost habitual excesses of bodily violence towards the unhappy
wife, who alone, at least of grown persons, can neither repel
nor escape from their brutality; and towards whom the excess of
dependence inspires their mean and savage natures, not with a
generous forbearance, and a point of honour to behave well to
one whose lot in life is trusted entirely to their kindness, but
on the contrary with a notion that the law has delivered her to
them as their thing, to be used at their pleasure, and that they
are not expected to practise the consideration towards her which
is required from them towards everybody else. The law, which till
lately left even these atrocious extremes of domestic oppression
practically unpunished, has within these few years made some feeble
attempts to repress them. But its attempts have done little, and
cannot be expected to do much, because it is contrary to reason
and experience to suppose that there can be any real check to
brutality, consistent with leaving the victim still in the power
of the executioner. Until a conviction for personal violence,
or at all events a repetition of it after a first conviction,
entitles the woman ipso facto to a divorce, or at least to a judicial
separation, the attempt to repress these "aggravated assaults
" by legal penalties will break down for want of a prosecutor,
or for want of a witness.
When we consider how vast is the number of men, in any great country,
who are little higher than brutes, and that this never prevents
them from being able, through the law of marriage, to obtain a
victim, the breadth and depth of human misery caused in this shape
alone by the abuse of the institution swells to something appalling.
Yet these are only the extreme cases. They are the lowest abysses,
but there is a sad succession of depth after depth before reaching
them. In domestic as in political tyranny, the case of absolute
monsters chiefly illustrates the institution by showing that there
is scarcely any horror which may not occur under it if the despot
pleases, and thus setting in a strong light what must be the terrible
frequency of things only a little less atrocious. Absolute fiends
are as rare as angels, perhaps rarer: ferocious savages, with
occasional touches of humanity, are however very frequent: and
in the wide interval which separates these from any worthy representatives
of the human species, how many are the forms and gradations of
animalism and selfishness, often under an outward varnish of civilisation
and even cultivation, living at peace with the law, maintaining
a creditable appearance to all who are not under their power,
yet sufficient often to make the lives of all who are so, a torment
and a burthen to them ! It would be tiresome to repeat the commonplaces
about the unfitness of men in general for power, which, after
the political discussions of centuries, everyone knows by heart,
were it not that hardly anyone thinks of applying these maxims
to the case in which above all others they are applicable, that
of power, not placed in the hands of a man here and there, but
offered to every adult male, down to the basest and most ferocious.
It is not because a man is not known to have broken any of the
Ten Commandments, or because he maintains a respectable character
in his dealings with those whom he cannot compel to have intercourse
with him, or because he does not fly out into violent bursts of
ill-temper against those who are not obliged to bear with him,
that it is possible to surmise of what sort his conduct will be
in the unrestraint of home. Even the commonest men reserve the
violent, the sulky, the undisguisedly selfish side of their character
for those who have no power to withstand it. The relation of
superiors to dependents is the nursery of these vices of character,
which, wherever else they exist, are an overflowing from that
source. A man who is morose or violent to his equals, is sure
to be one who has lived among inferiors, whom he could frighten
or worry into submission. If the family in its best forms is,
as it is often said to be, a school of sympathy, tenderness, and
loving forgetfulness of self, it is still oftener, as respects
its chief, a school of wilfulness, overbearingness, unbounded
selfish indulgence, and a double-dyed and idealised selfishness,
of which sacrifice itself is only a particular form: the care
for the wife and children being only care for them as parts of
the man's own interests and belongings, and their individual happiness
being immolated in every shape to his smallest preferences. What
better is to be looked for under the existing form of the institution?
We know that the bad propensities of human nature are only kept
within bounds when they are allowed no scope for their indulgence.
We know that from impulse and habit, when not from deliberate
purpose, almost everyone to whom others yield, goes on encroaching
upon them, until a point is reached at which they are compelled
to resist. Such being the common tendency of human nature; the
almost unlimited power which present social institutions give
to the man over at least one human being-- the one with whom he
resides, and whom he has always present -- this power seeks out
and evokes the latent germs of selfishness in the remotest corners
of his nature--fans its faintest sparks and smouldering embers--offers
to him a licence for the indulgence of those points of his original
character which in all other relations he would have found it
necessary to repress and conceal, and the repression of which
would in time have become a second nature. I know that there is
another side to the question. I grant that the wife, if she cannot
effectually resist, can at least retaliate; she, too, can make
the man's life extremely uncomfortable, and by that power is able
to carry many points which she ought, and many which she ought
not, to prevail in. But this instrument of self-protection--which
may be called the power of the scold, or the shrewish sanction--has
the fatal defect, that it avails most against the least tyrannical
superiors, and in favour of the least deserving dependents. It
is the weapon of irritable and self-willed women; of those who
would make the worst use of power if they themselves had it, and
who generally turn this power to a bad use. The amiable cannot
use such an instrument, the high minded disdain it. And on the
other hand, the husbands against whom it is used most effectively
are the gentler and more inoffensive; those who cannot be induced,
even by provocation, to resort to any very harsh exercise of authority.
The wife's power of being disagreeable generally only establishes
a counter-tyranny, and makes victims in their turn chiefly of
those husbands who are least inclined to be tyrants.
What is it, then, which really tempers the corrupting effects
of the power, and makes it compatible with such amount of good
as we actually see? Mere feminine blandishments. though of great
effect in individual instances, have very little effect in modifying
the general tendencies of the situation; for their power only
lasts while the woman is young and attractive, often only while
her charm is new, and not dimmed by familiarity; and on many men
they have not much influence at any time. The real mitigating
causes are, the personal affection which is the growth of time
in so far as the man's nature is susceptible of it and the woman's
character sufficiently congenial with his to excite it; their
common interests as regards the children, and their general community
of interest as concerns third persons(to which however there are
very great limitations); the real importance of the wife to his
daily comforts and enjoyments, and the value he consequently attaches
to her on his personal account, which, in a man capable of feeling
for others, lays the foundation of caring for her on her own;
and lastly, the influence naturally acquired over almost all human
beings by those near to their persons (if not actually disagreeable
to them): who, both by their direct entreaties, and by the insensible
contagion of their feelings and dispositions, are often able,
unless counteracted by some equally strong personal influence,
to obtain a degree of command over the conduct of the superior,
altogether excessive and unreasonable. Through these various means,
the wife frequently exercises even too much power over the man;
she is able to affect his conduct in things in which she may not
be qualified to influence it for good--in which her influence
may be not only unenlightened, but employed on the morally wrong
side; and in which he would act better if left to his own prompting.
But neither in the affairs of families nor in those of states
is power a compensation for the loss of freedom. Her power often
gives her what she has no right to, but does not enable her to
assert her own rights. A Sultan's favourite slave has slaves under
her, over whom she tyrannises; but the desirable thing would be
that she should neither have slaves nor be a slave. By entirely
sinking her own existence in her husband; by having no will (or
persuading him that she has no will) but his, in anything which
regards their joint relation, and by making it the business of
her life to work upon his sentiments, a wife may gratify herself
by influencing, and very probably perverting, his conduct, in
those of his external relations which she has never qualified
herself to judge of, or in which she is herself wholly influenced
by some personal or other partiality or prejudice. Accordingly,
as things now are, those who act most kindly to their wives, are
quite as often made worse, as better, by the wife's influence,
in respect to all interests extending beyond the family. She is
taught that she has no business with things out of that sphere;
and accordingly she seldom has any honest and conscientious opinion
on them; and therefore hardly ever meddles with them for any legitimate
purpose, but generally for an interested one. She neither knows
nor cares which is the right side in politics, but she knows what
will bring in money or invitations, give her husband a title,
her son a place, or her daughter a good marriage.
But how, it will be asked, can any society exist without government?
In a family, as in a state, some one person must be the ultimate
ruler. Who shall decide when married people differ in opinion?
Both cannot have their way, yet a decision one way or the other
must be come to.
It is not true that in all voluntary association between two people,
one of them must be absolute master: still less that the law must
determine which of them it shall be. The most frequent case of
voluntary association, next to marriage, is partnership in business:
and it is not found or thought necessary to enact that in every
partnership, one partner shall have entire control over the concern,
and the others shall be bound to obey his orders. No one would
enter into partnership on terms which would subject him to the
responsibilities of a principal, with only the powers and privileges
of a clerk or agent. If the law dealt with other contracts as
it does with marriage, it would ordain that one partner should
administer the common business as if it was his private concern;
that the others should have only delegated powers; and that this
one should be designated by some general presumption of law, for
example as being the eldest. The law never does this: nor does
experience show it to be necessary that any theoretical inequality
of power should exist between the partners, or that the partnership
should have any other conditions than what they may themselves
appoint by their articles of agreement. Yet it might seem that
the exclusive power might be conceded with less danger to the
rights and interests of the inferior, in the case of partnership
than in that of marriage, since he is free to cancel the power
by withdrawing from the connexion. The wife has no such power,
and even if she had, it is almost always desirable that she should
try all measures before resorting to it.
It is quite true that things which have to be decided everyday,
and cannot adjust themselves gradually, or wait for a compromise,
ought to depend on one will; one person must have their sole control.
But it does not follow that this should always be the same person.
The natural arrangement is a division of powers between the two;
each being absolute in the executive branch of their own department,
and any change of system and principle requiring the consent of
both. The division neither can nor should be pre-established by
the law, since it must depend on individual capacities and suitabilities.
If the two persons chose, they might pre-appoint it by the marriage
contract, as pecuniary arrangements are now often pre-appointed.
There would seldom be any difficulty in deciding such things by
mutual consent, unless the marriage was one of those unhappy ones
in which all other things, as well as this, become subjects of
bickering and dispute. The division of rights would naturally
follow the division of duties and functions; and that is already
made by consent, or at all events not by law, but by general custom,
modified and modifiable at the pleasure of the persons concerned.
The real practical decision of affairs, to whichever may be given
the legal authority, will greatly depend, as it even now does,
upon comparative qualifications. The mere fact that he is usually
the eldest, will in most cases give the preponderance to the man;
at least until they both attain a time of life at which the difference
in their years is of no importance. There will naturally also
be a more potential voice on the side, whichever it is, that brings
the means of support. Inequality from this source does not depend
on the law of marriage, but on the general conditions of human
society, as now constituted. The influence of mental superiority,
either general or special, and of superior decision of character,
will necessarily tell for much. It always does so at present.
And this fact shows how little foundation there is for the apprehension
that the powers and responsibilities of partners in life (as of
partners in business), cannot be satisfactorily apportioned by
agreement between themselves. They always are so apportioned,
except in cases in which the marriage institution is a failure.
Things never come to an issue of downright power on one side,
and obedience on the other, except where the connexion altogether
has been a mistake, and it would be a blessing to both parties
to be relieved from it. Some may say that the very thing by which
an amicable settlement of differences becomes possible, is the
power of legal compulsion known to be in reserve; as people submit
to an arbitration because there is a court of law in the background,
which they know that they can be forced to obey. But to make the
cases parallel, we must suppose that the rule of the court of
law was, not to try the cause, but to give judgment always for
the same side, suppose the defendant. If so, the amenability to
it would be a motive with the plaintiff to agree to almost any
arbitration, but it would be just the reverse with the defendant.
The despotic power which the law gives to the husband may be a
reason to make the wife assent to any compromise by which power
is practically shared between the two, but it cannot be the reason
why the husband does. That there is always among decently conducted
people a practical compromise, though one of them at least is
under no physical or moral necessity of making it, shows that
the natural motives which lead to a voluntary adjustment of the
united life of two persons in a manner acceptable to both, do
on the whole, excepting unfavourable cases, prevail. The matter
is certainly not improved by laying down as an ordinance of law,
that the superstructure of free government shall be raised upon
a legal basis of despotism on one side and subjection on the other,
and that every concession which the despot makes may, at his mere
pleasure, and without any warning, be recalled. Besides that no
freedom is worth much when held on so precarious a tenure, its
conditions are not likely to be the most equitable when the law
throws so prodigious a weight into one scale; when the adjustment
rests between two persons one of whom is declared to be entitled
to everything, the other not only entitled to nothing except during
the good pleasure of the first, but under the strongest moral
and religious obligation not to rebel under any excess of oppression.
A pertinacious adversary, pushed to extremities, may say, that
husbands indeed are willing to be reasonable, and to make fair
concessions to their partners without being compelled to it, but
that wives are not: that if allowed any rights of their own, they
will acknowledge no rights at all in anyone else, and never will
yield in anything, unless they can be compelled, by the man's
mere authority, to yield in everything. This would have been said
by many persons some generations ago, when satires on women were
in vogue, and men thought it a clever thing to insult women for
being what men made them. But it will be said by no one now who
is worth replying to. It is not the doctrine of the present day
that women are less susceptible of good feeling, and consideration
for those with whom they are united by the strongest ties, than
men are. On the contrary, we are perpetually told that women are
better than men, by those who are totally opposed to treating
them as if they were as good; so that the saying has passed into
a piece of tiresome cant, intended to put a complimentary face
upon an injury, and resembling those celebrations of royal clemency
which, according to Gulliver, the king of Lilliput always prefixed
to his most sanguinary decrees. If women are better than men in
anything, it surely is in individual self-sacrifice for those
of their own family. But I lay little stress on this, so long
as they are universally taught that they are born and created
for self-sacrifice. I believe that equality of rights would abate
the exaggerated self-abnegation which is the present artificial
ideal of feminine character, and that a good woman would not be
more self-sacrificing than the best man: but on the other hand,
men would be much more unselfish and self-sacrificing than at
present, because they would no longer be taught to worship their
own will as such a grand thing that it is actually the law for
another rational being. There is nothing which men so easily learn
as this self-worship: all privileged persons, and all privileged
classes, have had it. The more we descend in the scale of humanity,
the intenser it is; and most of all in those who are not, and
can never expect to be, raised above anyone except an unfortunate
wife and children. The honourable exceptions are proportionally
fewer than in the case of almost any other human infirmity. Philosophy
and religion, instead of keeping it in check, are generally suborned
to defend it; and nothing controls it but that practical feeling
of the equality of human beings, which is the theory of Christianity,
but which Christianity will never practically teach, while it
sanctions institutions grounded on an arbitrary preference of
one human being over another.
There are, no doubt, women, as there are men, whom equality of
consideration will not satisfy; with whom there is no peace while
any will or wish is regarded but their own. Such persons are a
proper subject for the law of divorce. They are only fit to live
alone, and no human beings ought to be compelled to associate
their lives with them. But the legal subordination tends to make
such characters among women more, rather than less, frequent.
If the man exerts his whole power, the woman is of course crushed:
but if she is treated with indulgence, and permitted to assume
power, there is no rule to set limits to her encroachments. The
law, not determining her rights, but theoretically allowing her
none at all, practically declares that the measure of what she
has a right to, is what she can contrive to get.
The equality of married persons before the law, is not only the
sole mode in which that particular relation can be made consistent
with justice to both sides, and conducive to the happiness of
both, but it is the only means of rendering the daily life of
mankind, in any high sense, a school of moral cultivation. Though
the truth may not be felt or generally acknowledged for generations
to come, the only school of genuine moral sentiment is society
between equals. The moral education of mankind has hitherto emanated
chiefly from the law of force, and is adapted almost solely to
the relations which force creates. In the less advanced states
of society, people hardly recognise any relation with their equals.
To be an equal is to be an enemy. Society, from its highest place
to its lowest, is one long chain, or rather ladder, where every
individual is either above or below his nearest neighbour, and
wherever he does not command he must obey. Existing moralities,
accordingly, are mainly fitted to a relation of command and obedience.
Yet command and obedience are but unfortunate necessities of human
life: society in equality is its normal state. Already in modern
life, and more and more as it progressively improves, command
and obedience become exceptional facts in life, equal association
its general rule. The morality of the first ages rested on the
obligation to submit to power; that of the ages next following,
on the right of the weak to the forbearance and protection of
the strong. How much longer is one form of society and life to
content itself with the morality made for another ? We have had
the morality of submission, and the morality of chivalry and generosity;
the time is now come for the morality of justice. Whenever, in
former ages, any approach has been made to society in equality,
Justice has asserted its claims as the foundation of virtue. It
was thus in the free republics of antiquity. But even in the best
of these, the equals were limited to the free male citizens; slaves,
women, and the unenfranchised residents were under the law of
force. The joint influence of Roman civilisation and of Christianity
obliterated these distinctions, and in theory (if only partially
in practice) declared the claims of the human being, as such,
to be paramount to those of sex, class, or social position. The
barriers which had begun to be levelled were raised again by the
northern conquests; and the whole of modern history consists of
the slow process by which they have since been wearing away. We
are entering into an order of things in which justice will again
be the primary virtue; grounded as before on equal, but now also
on sympathetic association; having its root no longer in the instinct
of equals for self protection, but in a cultivated sympathy between
them; and no one being now left out, but an equal measure being
extended to all. It is no novelty that mankind do not distinctly
foresee their own changes, and that their sentiments are adapted
to past, not to coming ages. To see the futurity of the species
has always been the privilege of the intellectual elite, or of
those who have learnt from them; to have the feelings of that
futurity has been the distinction, and usually the martyrdom,
of a still rarer elite. Institutions, books, education, society,
all go on training human beings for the old, long after the new
has come; much more when it is only coming. But the true virtue
of human beings is fitness to live together as equals; claiming
nothing for themselves but what they as freely concede to everyone
else; regarding command of any kind as an exceptional necessity,
and in all cases a temporary one; and preferring, whenever possible,
the society of those with whom leading and following can be alternate
and reciprocal. To these virtues, nothing in life as at present
constituted gives cultivation by exercise. The family is a school
of despotism, in which the virtues of despotism, but also its
vices, are largely nourished. Citizenship, in free countries,
is partly a school of society in equality; but citizenship fills only a small place in modern life, and does not come near the
daily habits or inmost sentiments. The family, justly constituted,
would be the real school of the virtues of freedom. It is sure
to be a sufficient one of everything else. It will always be a
school of obedience for the children, of command for the parents.
What is needed is, that it should be a school of sympathy in equality,
of living together in love, without power on one side or obedience
on the other. This it ought to be between the parents. It would
then be an exercise of those virtues which each requires to fit
them for all other association, and a model to the children of
the feelings and conduct which their temporary training by means
of obedience is designed to render habitual, and therefore natural,
to them. The moral training of mankind will never be adapted to
the conditions of the life for which all other human progress
is a preparation, until they practise in the family the same moral
rule which is adapted to the normal constitution of human society.
Any sentiment of freedom which can exist in a man whose nearest
and dearest intimacies, are with those of whom he is absolute
master, is not the genuine or Christian love of freedom, but,
what the love of freedom generally was in the ancients and in
the middle ages---an intense feeling of the dignity and importance
of his own personality; making him disdain a yoke for himself,
of which he has no abhorrence whatever in the abstract, but which
he is abundantly ready to impose on others for his own interest
or glorification.
I readily admit (and it is the very foundation of my hopes) that
numbers of married people even under the present law (in the higher
classes of England probably a great majority), live in the spirit
of a just law of equality. Laws never would be improved, if there
were not numerous persons whose moral sentiments are better than
the existing laws. Such persons ought to support the principles
here advocated; of which the only object is to make all other
married couples similar to what these are now. But persons even
of considerable moral worth, unless they are also thinkers, are
very ready to believe that laws or practices, the evils of which
they have not personally experienced, do not produce any evils,
but (if seeming to be generally approved of) probably do good,
and that it is wrong to object to them. It would, however, be
a great mistake in such married people to suppose, because the
legal conditions of the tie which unites them do not occur to
their thoughts once in a twelve month, and because they live and
feel in all respects as if they were legally equals, that the
same is the case with all other married couples, wherever the
husband is not a notorious ruffian. To suppose this, would be
to show equal ignorance of human nature and of fact. The less
fit a man is for the possession of power--the less likely to be
allowed to exercise it over any person with that person's voluntary
consent--the more does he hug himself in the consciousness of
the power the law gives him, exact its legal rights to the utmost
point which custom (the custom of men like himself) will tolerate,
and take pleasure in using the power, merely to enliven the agreeable
sense of possessing it. What is more; in the most naturally brutal
and morally uneducated part of the lower classes, the legal slavery
of the woman, and something in the merely physical subjection
to their will as an instrument, causes them to feel a sort of
disrespect and contempt towards their own wife which they do not
feel towards any other woman, or any other human being, with whom
they come in contact; and which makes her seem to them an appropriate
subject for any kind of indignity. Let an acute observer of the
signs of feeling, who has the requisite opportunities, judge for
himself whether this is not the case: and if he finds that it
is, let him not wonder at any amount of disgust and indignation
that can be felt against institutions which lead naturally to
this depraved state of the human mind.
We shall be told, perhaps, that religion imposes the duty of obedience;
as every established fact which is too bad to admit of any other
defence, is always presented to us as an injunction of religion.
The Church, it is very true, enjoins it in her formularies, but
it would be difficult to derive any such injunction from Christianity.
We are told that St. Paul said, "Wives, obey your husbands":
but he also said, "Slaves, obey your masters. " It was
not St. Paul's business, nor was it consistent with his object,
the propagation of Christianity, to incite anyone to rebellion
against existing laws. The Apostle's acceptance of all social
institutions as he found them, is no more to be construed as a
disapproval of attempts to improve them at the proper time, than
his declaration, "The powers that be are ordained of God,
" gives his sanction to military despotism, and to that alone,
as the Christian form of political government, or commands passive
obedience to it. To pretend that Christianity was intended to
stereotype existing forms of government and society, and protect
them against change, is to reduce it to the level of Islamism
or of Brahminism. It is precisely because Christianity has not
done this, that it has been the religion of the progressive portion
of mankind, and Islamism, Brahminism, etc. have been those of
the stationary portions; or rather (for there is no such thing
as a really stationary society) of the declining portions. There
have been abundance of people, in all ages of Christianity, who
tried to make it something of the same kind; to convert us into
a sort of Christian Mussulmans, with the Bible for a Koran, prohibiting
all improvement: and great has been their power, and many have
had to sacrifice their lives in resisting them. But they have
been resisted, and the resistance has made us what we are, and
will yet make us what we are to be.
After what has been said respecting the obligation of obedience,
it is almost superfluous to say anything concerning the more special
point included in the general one--a woman's right to her own
property; for I need not hope that this treatise can make any
impression upon those who need anything to convince them that
a woman's inheritance or gains ought to be as much her own after
marriage as before. The rule is simple: whatever would be the
husband's or wife's if they were not married, should be under
their exclusive control during marriage; which need not interfere
with the power to tie up property by settlement, in order to preserve
it for children. Some people are sentimentally shocked at the
idea of a separate interest in money matters as inconsistent with
the ideal fusion of two lives into one. For my own part, I am
one of the strongest supporters of community of goods, when resulting
from an entire unity of feeling in the owners, which makes all
things common between them. But I have no relish for a community
of goods resting on the doctrine, that what is mine is yours,
but what is yours is not mine; and I should prefer to decline
entering into such a compact with anyone, though I were myself
the person to profit by it.
This particular injustice and oppression to women, which is, to
common apprehensions, more obvious than all the rest, admits of
remedy without interfering with any other mischiefs: and there
can belittle doubt that it will be one of the earliest remedied.
Already, in many of the new and several of the old States of the
American Confederation, provisions have been inserted even in
the written Constitutions, securing to women equality of rights
in this respect: and thereby improving materially the position,
in the marriage relation, of those women at least who have property,
by leaving them one instrument of power which they have not signed
away; and preventing also the scandalous abuse of the marriage
institution, which is perpetrated when a man entraps a girl into
marrying him without a settlement, for the sole purpose of getting
possession of her money. When the support of the family depends,
not on property, but on earnings, the common arrangement, by which
the man earns the income and the wife superintends the domestic
expenditure, seems to me in general the most suitable division
of labour between the two persons. If, in addition to the physical
suffering of bearing children, and the whole responsibility of
their care and education in early years, the wife undertakes the
careful and economical application of the husband's earnings to
the general comfort of the family; she takes not only her fair
share, but usually the larger share, of the bodily and mental
exertion required by their joint existence. If she undertakes
any additional portion, it seldom relieves her from this, but
only prevents her from performing it properly. The care which
she is herself disabled from taking of the children and the household,
nobody else takes; those of the children who do not die, grow
up as they best can, and the management of the household is likely
to be so bad, as even in point of economy to be a great drawback
from the value of the wife's earnings. In another wise just state
of things, it is not, therefore, I think, a desirable custom,
that the wife should contribute by her labour to the income of
the family. In an unjust state of things, her doing so may be
useful to her, by making her of more value in the eyes of the
man who is legally her master; but, on the other hand, it enables
him still farther to abuse his power, by forcing her to work,
and leaving the support of the family to her exertions, while
he spends most of his time in drinking and idleness. The power
of earning is essential to the dignity of a woman, if she has
not independent property. But if marriage were an equal contract,
not implying the obligation of obedience; if the connexion were
no longer enforced to the oppression of those to whom it is purely
a mischief, but a separation, on just terms (I do not now speak
of a divorce), could be obtained by any woman who was morally
entitled to it; and if she would then find all honourable employments
as freely open to her as to men; it would not be necessary for
her protection, that during marriage she should make this particular
use of her faculties. Like a man when he chooses a profession,
so, when a woman marries, it may in general be understood that
she makes choice of the management of a household, and the bringing
up of a family, as the first call upon her exertions, during as
many years of her life as may be required for the purpose; and
that she renounces, not all other objects and occupations, but
all which are not consistent with the requirements of this. The
actual exercise, in a habitual or systematic manner, of outdoor
occupations, or such as cannot be carried on at home, would by
this principle be practically interdicted to the greater number
of married women. But the utmost latitude ought to exist for the
adaptation of general rules to individual suitabilities; and there
ought to be nothing to prevent faculties exceptionally adapted
to any other pursuit, from obeying their vocation notwithstanding
marriage: due provision being made for supplying otherwise any
falling-short which might become inevitable, in her full performance
of the ordinary functions of mistress of a family. These things,
if once opinion were rightly directed on the subject, might with
perfect safety be left to be regulated by opinion, without any
interference of law.
CHAPTER III
On the other point which is involved in the just equality of women,
their admissibility to all the functions and occupations hitherto
retained as the monopoly of the stronger sex, I should anticipate
no difficulty in convincing anyone who has gone with me on the
subject of the equality of women in the family. I believe that
their disabilities elsewhere are only clung to in order to maintain
their subordination in domestic life; because the generality of
the male sex cannot yet tolerate the idea of living with an equal.
Were it not for-that, I think that almost everyone, in the existing
state of opinion in politics and political economy, would admit
the injustice of excluding half the human race from the greater
number of lucrative occupations, and from almost all high social
functions; ordaining from their birth either that they are not,
and cannot by any possibility become, fit for employments which
are legally open to the stupidest and basest of the other sex,
or else that however fit they may be, those employments shall
be interdicted to them, in order to be preserved for the exclusive
benefit of males. In the last two centuries, when (which was seldom
the case) any reason beyond the mere existence of the fact was
thought to be required to justify the disabilities of women, people
seldom assigned as a reason their inferior mental capacity; which,
in times when there was a real trial of personal faculties (from
which all women were not excluded) in the struggles of public
life, no one really believed in. The reason given in those days
was not women's unfitness, but the interest of society, by which
was meant the interest of men: just as the raison d 'etat, meaning
the convenience of the government, and the support of existing
authority, was deemed a sufficient explanation and excuse for
the most flagitious crimes. In the present day, power holds a
smoother language, and whomsoever it oppresses, always pretends
to do so for their own good: accordingly, when anything is forbidden
to women, it is thought necessary to say, and desirable to believe,
that they are incapable of doing it, and that they depart from
their real path of success and happiness when they aspire to it.
But to make this reason plausible (I do not say valid), those
by whom it is urged must be prepared to carry it to a much greater
length than anyone ventures to do in the face of present experience.
It is not sufficient to maintain that women on the average are
less gifted then men on the average, with certain of the higher
mental faculties, or that a smaller number of women than of men
are fit for occupations and functions of the highest intellectual
character. It is necessary to maintain that no women at all are
fit for them, and that the most eminent women arc inferior in
mental faculties to the most mediocre of the men on whom those
functions at present devolve. For if the performance of the function
is decided either by competition, or by any mode of choice which
secures regard to the public interest, there needs be no apprehension
that any important employments will fall into the hands of women
inferior to average men, or to the average of their male competitors.
The only result would be that there would be fewer women than
men in such employments; a result certain to happen in any case,
if only from the preference always likely to be felt by the majority
of women for the one vocation in which there is nobody to compete
with them. Now, the most determined depreciator of women will
not venture to deny, that when we add the experience of recent
times to that of ages past, women, and not a few merely, but many
women, have proved themselves capable of everything, perhaps without
a single exception, which is done by men, and of doing it successfully
and creditably. The utmost that can be said is, that there arc
many things which none of them have succeeded in doing as well
as they have been done by some men--many in which they have not
reached the very highest rank. But there are extremely few, dependent
only on mental faculties, in which they have not attained the
rank next to the highest. Is not this enough, and much more than
enough, to make it a tyranny to them, and a detriment to society,
that they should not be allowed to compete with men for the exercise
of these functions ? Is it not a mere truism to say, that such
functions are often filled by men far less fit for them than numbers
of women, and who would be beaten by women in any fair field of
competition? What difference does it make that there may be men
somewhere, fully employed about other things, who may be still
better qualified for the things in question than these women?
Does not this take place in all competitions? Is there so great
a superfluity of men fit for high duties, that society can afford
to reject the service of any competent person? Are we so certain
of always finding a man made to our hands for any duty or function
of social importance which falls vacant, that we lose nothing
by putting a ban upon one half of mankind, and refusing beforehand
to make their faculties available, however distinguished they
may be? And even if we could do without them, would it be consistent
with justice to refuse to them their fair share of honour and
distinction, or to deny to them the equal moral right of all human
beings to choose their occupation (short of injury to others)
according to their own preferences, at their own risk? Nor is
the injustice confined to them: it is shared by those who are
in a position to benefit by their services. To ordain that any
kind of persons shall not be physicians, or shall not be advocates,
or shall not be Members of Parliament, is to injure not them only,
but all who employ physicians or advocates, or elect Members of
Parliament, and who are deprived of the stimulating effect of
greater competition on the exertions of the competitors, as well
as restricted to a narrower range of individual choice.
It will perhaps be sufficient if I confine myself, in the details
of my argument, to functions of a public nature: since, if I am
successful as to those, it probably will be readily granted that
women should be admissible to all other occupations to which it
is at all material whether they are admitted or not. And here
let me begin by marking out one function, broadly distinguished
from all others, their right to which is entirely independent
of any question which can be raised concerning their faculties.
I mean the suffrage, both parliamentary and municipal. The right
to share in the choice of those who are to exercise a public trust,
is altogether a distinct thing from that of competing for the
trust itself. If no one could vote for a Member of Parliament
who was not fit to be a candidate, the government would be a narrow
oligarchy indeed. To have a voice in choosing those by whom one
is to be governed, is a means of self-protection due to everyone,
though he were to remain for ever excluded from the function of
governing: and that women are considered fit to have such a choice,
may be presumed from the fact, that the law already gives it to
women in the most important of all cases to themselves: for the
choice of the man who is to govern a woman to the end of life,
is always supposed to be voluntarily made by herself. In the case
of election to public trusts, it is the business of constitutional
law to surround the right of suffrage with all needful securities
and limitations; but whatever securities are sufficient in the
case of the male sex, no others need be required in the case of
women. Under whatever conditions, and within whatever limits,
men are admitted to the suffrage, there is not a shadow of justification
for not admitting women under the same. The majority of the women
of any class are not likely to differ in political opinion from
the majority of the men of the same class, unless the question
be one in which the interests of women, as such, are in some way
involved; and if they are so, women require the suffrage, as their
guarantee of just and equal consideration. This ought to be obvious
even to those who coincide in no other of the doctrines for which
I contend. Even if every woman were a wife, and if every wife
ought to be a slave, all the more would these slaves stand in
need of legal protection: and we know what legal protection the
slaves have, where the laws are made by their masters.
With regard to the fitness of women, not only to participate in
elections, but themselves to hold offices or practise professions
involving important public responsibilities; I have already observed
that this consideration is not essential to the practical question
in dispute: since any woman, who succeeds n an open profession,
proves by that very fact that she is qualified for it. And in
the case of public offices, if the political system of the country
is such as to exclude unfit men, it will equally exclude unfit
women: while if it is not, there is no additional evil in the
fact that the unfit persons whom it admits may be either women
or men. As long therefore as it is acknowledged that even a few
women may be fit for these duties, the laws which shut the door
on those exceptions cannot bc justified by any opinion which can
be held respecting the capacities of women in general. But, though
this last consideration is not essential, it is far from being
irrelevant. An unprejudiced view of it gives additional strength
to the arguments against the disabilities of women, and reinforces
them by high considerations of practical utility.
Let us first make entire abstraction of all psychological considerations
tending to show, that any of the mental differences supposed to
exist between women and men are but the natural effect of the
differences in their education and circumstances, and indicate
no radical difference, far less radical inferiority, of nature.
Let us consider women only as they already are, or as they are
known to have been; and the capacities which they have already
practically shown. What they have done, that at least, if nothing
else, it is proved that they can do. When we consider how sedulously
they are all trained away from, instead of being trained towards,
any of the occupations or objects reserved for men, it is evident
that I am taking a very humble ground for them, when I rest their
case on what they have actually achieved. For, in this case, negative
evidence is worth little,-while any positive evidence is conclusive.
It cannot be inferred to be impossible that a woman should be
a Homer, or an Aristotle, or a Michael Angelo, or a Beethoven,
because no woman has yet actually produced works comparable to
theirs in any of those lines of excellence. This negative fact
at most leaves the question uncertain, and open to psychological
discussion. But it is quite certain that a woman can be a Queen
Elizabeth, or a Deborah, or a Joan of Arc, since this is not inference,
but fact. Now it is a curious consideration, that the only things
which the existing law excludes women from doing, are the things
which they have proved that they are able to do. There is no law
to prevent a woman from having written all the plays of Shakespeare,
or composed all the operas of Mozart. But Queen Elizabeth or Queen
Victoria, had they not inherited the throne, could not have been
entrusted with the smallest of the political duties, of which
the former showed herself equal to the greatest.
If anything conclusive could be inferred from experience, without
psychological analysis, it would be that the things which women
are not allowed to do are the very ones for which they are peculiarly
qualified; since their vocation for government has made its way,
and become conspicuous, through the very few opportunities which
have been given; while in the lines of distinction which apparently
were freely open to them, they have by no means so eminently distinguished
themselves.
We know how small a number of reigning queens history presents,
in comparison with that of kings. of this smaller number a far
larger proportion have shown talents for rule; though many of
them have occupied the throne in difficult periods. It is remarkable,
too, that they have, in a great number of instances, been distinguished
by merits the most opposite to the imaginary and conventional
character of women: they have been as much remarked for the firmness
and vigour of their rule, as for its intelligence. When, to queens
and empresses, we add regents, and viceroys of provinces, the
list of women who have been eminent rulers of mankind swells to
a great length.[1] This fact is so undeniable, that someone, long
ago, tried to retort the argument, and turned the admitted truth
into an additional insult, by saying that queens are better than
kings, because under kings women govern, but under queens, men.
It may seem a waste of reasoning to argue against a bad joke;
but such things do affect people's minds; and I have heard men
quote this saying, with an air as if they thought that there was
something in it. At any rate, it will serve as anything, else
for a starting-point in discussion. I say, then, that it is not
true that under kings, women govern. Such cases are entirely exceptional:
and weak kings have quite as often governed ill through the influence
of male favourites, as of female. When a king is governed by a
woman merely through his amatory propensities, good government
is not probable, though even then there are exceptions. But French
history counts two kings who have voluntarily given the direction
of affairs during many years, the one to his mother, the other
to his sister: one of them, Charles VIII, was a mere boy, but
in doing so he followed the intentions of his father Louis XI,
the ablest monarch of his age. The other, Saint Louis, was the
best, and one of the most vigorous rulers, since the time of Charlemagne.
Both these princesses ruled in a manner hardly equalled by any
prince among their contemporaries. The Emperor Charles the Fifth,
the most politic prince of his time, who had as great a number
of able men in his service as a ruler ever had, and was one of
the least likely of all sovereigns to sacrifice his interest to
personal feelings, made two princesses of his family successively
Governors of the Netherlands, and kept one or other of them in
that post during his whole life (they were afterwards succeeded
by a third). Both ruled very successfully, and one of them, Margaret
of Austria, as one of the ablest politicians of the age. So much
for one side of the question. Now as to the other. When it is
said that under queens men govern, is the same meaning to be understood
as when kings are said to be governed by women ? Is it meant that
queens choose as their instruments of government, the associates
of their personal pleasures? The case is rare even with those
who are as unscrupulous on the latter point as Catherine II: and
it is not in these cases that the good government, alleged to
arise from male influence, is to be found. If it be true, then,
that the administration is in the hands of better men under a
queen than under an average king, it must be that queens have
a superior capacity for choosing them; and women must be better
qualified than men both for the position of sovereign, and for
that of chief minister; for the principal business of a Prime
Minister is not to govern in person, but to find the fittest persons
to conduct every department of public affairs. The more rapid
insight into character, which is one of the admitted points of
superiority in women over men, must certainly make them, with
anything like parity of qualifications in other respects, more
apt than men in that choice of instruments, which is nearly the
most important business of everyone who has to do with governing
mankind. Even the unprincipled Catherine de Medici could feel
the value of a Chancellor de l'Hopital. But it is also true that
most great queens have been great by their own talents for government,
and have been well served precisely for that reason. They retained
the supreme direction of affairs in their own hands: and if they
listened to good advisers, they gave by that fact the strongest
proof that their judgment fitted them for dealing with the great
questions of government.
Is it reasonable to think that those who are fit for the greater
functions of politics, are incapable of qualifying themselves
for the less? Is there any reason in the nature of things, that
the wives and sisters of princes should, whenever called on, be
found as competent as the princes themselves to their business,
but that the wives and sisters of statesmen, and administrators,
and directors of companies, and managers of public institutions,
should be unable to do what is done by their brothers and husbands?
The real reason is plain enough; it is that princesses, being
more raised above the generality of men by their rank than placed
below them by their sex, have never been taught that it was improper
for them to concern themselves with politics; but have been allowed
to feel the liberal interest natural to any cultivated human being,
in the great transactions which took place around them, and in
which they might be called on to take a part. The ladies of reigning
families are the only women who are allowed the same range of
interests and freedom of development as men; and it is precisely
in their case that there is not found to be any inferiority. Exactly
where and in proportion as women's capacities for government have
been tried, in that proportion have they been found adequate.
This fact is in accordance with the best general conclusions which
the world's imperfect experience seems as yet to suggest, concerning
the peculiar tendencies and aptitudes characteristic of women,
as women have hitherto been. I do not say, as they will continue
to be; for, as I have already said more than once, I consider
it presumption in anyone to pretend to decide what women are or
are not, can or cannot be, by natural constitution. They have
always hitherto been kept, as far as regards spontaneous development,
in so unnatural a state, that their nature cannot but have been
greatly distorted and disguised; and no one can safely pronounce
that if women's nature were left to choose its direction as freely
as men's, and if no artificial bent were attempted to be given
to it except that required by the conditions of human society,
and given to both sexes alike, there would be any material difference,
or perhaps any difference at all, in the character and capacities
which would unfold themselves. I shall presently show, that even
the least contestable of the differences which now exist, are
such as may very well have been produced merely by circumstances,
without any difference of natural capacity. But, looking at women
as they are known in experience, it may be said of them, with
more truth than belongs to most other generalisations on the subject,
that the general bent of their talents is towards the practical.
This statement is conformable to all the public history of women,
in the present and the past. It is no less borne out by common
and daily experience. Let us consider the special nature of the
mental capacities most characteristic of a woman of talent. They
are all of a kind which fits them for practice, and makes them
tend towards it. What is meant by a woman's capacity of intuitive
perception? It means, a rapid and correct insight into present
fact. It has nothing to do with general principles. Nobody ever
perceived a scientific law of nature by intuition, nor arrived
at a general rule of duty or prudence by it. These are results
of slow and careful collection and comparison of experience; and
neither the men nor the women. of intuition usually shine in this
department, unless, indeed, the experience necessary is such as
they can acquire by themselves. For what is called their intuitive
sagacity makes them peculiarly apt in gathering such general truths
as can be collected from their individual means of observation.
When, consequently, they chance to be as well provided as men
are with the results of other people's experience, by reading
and education (I use the word chance advisedly, for, in respect
to the knowledge that tends to fit them for the greater concerns
of life, the only educated women are the self-educated) they are
better furnished than men in general with the essential requisites
of skilful and successful practice. Men who have been much taught,
are apt to be deficient in the sense of present fact; they do
not see, in the facts which they are called upon to deal with,
what is really there, but what they have been taught to expect.
This is seldom the case with women of any ability. Their capacity
of "intuition" preserves them from it. With equality
of experience and of general faculties, a woman usually sees much
more than a man of what is immediately before her. Now this sensibility
to the present, is the main quality on which the capacity for
practice, as distinguished from theory, depends. To discover general
principles, belongs to the speculative faculty: to discern and
discriminate the particular cases in which they are and are not
applicable, constitutes practical talent: and for this, women
as they now are have a peculiar aptitude. I admit that there can
be no good practice without principles, and that the predominant
place which quickness of observation holds among a woman's faculties,
makes her particularly apt to build overhasty generalisations
upon her own observation; though at the same time no less ready
in rectifying those generalisations, as her observation takes
a wider range. But the corrective to this defect, is access to
the experience of the human race; general knowledge--exactly the
thing which education can best supply. A woman's mistakes are
specifically those of a clever self-educated man, who often sees
what men trained in routine do not see, but falls into errors
for want of knowing things which have long been known. Of course
he has acquired much of the pre-existing knowledge, or he could
not have got on at all; but what he knows of it he has picked
up in fragments and at random, as women do.
But this gravitation of women's minds to the present, to the real,
to actual fact, while in its exclusiveness it is a source of errors,
is also a most useful counteractive of the contrary error. The
principal and most characteristic aberration of speculative minds
as such, consists precisely in the deficiency of this lively perception
and ever-present sense of objective fact. For want of this, they
often not only overlook the contradiction which outward facts
oppose to their theories, but lose sight of the legitimate purpose
of speculation altogether, and let their speculative faculties
go astray into regions not peopled with real beings, animate or
inanimate, even idealised, but with personified shadows created
by the illusions of metaphysics or by the mere entanglement of
words, and think these shadows the proper objects of the highest,
the most transcendant, philosophy. Hardly anything can be of greater
value to a man of theory and speculation who employs himself not
in collecting materials of knowledge by observation, but in working
them up by processes of thought into comprehensive truths of science
and laws of conduct, than to carry on his speculations in the
companionship, and under the criticism, of a really superior woman.
There is nothing comparable to it for keeping his thoughts within
the limits of real things, and the actual facts of nature. A woman
seldom runs wild after an abstraction. The habitual direction
of her mind to dealing with things as individuals rather than
in groups, and (what is closely connected with it) her more lively
interest in the present feelings of persons, which makes her consider
first of all, in anything which claims to be applied to practice,
in what manner persons will be affected by it-- these two things
make her extremely unlikely to put faith in any speculation which
loses sight of individuals, and deals with things as if they existed
for the benefit of some imaginary entity, some mere creation of
the mind, not resolvable into the feelings of living beings. Women's
thoughts are thus as useful in giving reality to those of thinking
men, as men's thoughts in giving width and largeness to those
of women. In depth, as distinguished from breadth, I greatly doubt
if even now, women, compared with men, are at any disadvantage.
If the existing mental characteristics of women are thus valuable
even in aid of speculation, they are still more important, when
speculation has done its work, for carrying out the results of
speculation into practice. For the reasons already given, women
are comparatively unlikely to fall into the common error of men,
that of sticking to their rules in a case whose specialities either
take it out of the class to which the rules are applicable, or
require a special adaptation of them. Let us now consider another
of the admitted superiorities of clever women, greater quickness
of apprehension. Is not this preeminently a quality which fits
a person for practice ? In action, everything continually depends
upon deciding promptly. In speculation, nothing does. A mere thinker
can wait, can take time to consider, can collect additional evidence;
he is not obliged to complete his philosophy at once, lest the
opportunity should go by. The power of drawing the best conclusion
possible from insufficient data is not indeed useless in philosophy;
the construction of a provisional hypothesis consistent with all
known facts is often the needful basis for further inquiry. But
this faculty is rather serviceable in philosophy, than the main
qualification for it: and, for the auxiliary as well as for the
main operation, the philosopher can allow himself any time he
pleases. He is in no need of the capacity of doing rapidly what
he does; what he rather needs is patience, to work on slowly until
imperfect lights have become perfect, and a conjecture has ripened
into a theorem. For those, on the contrary, whose business is
with the fugitive and perishable--with individual facts, not kinds
of facts--rapidity of thought is a qualification next only in
importance to the power of thought itself. He who has not his
faculties under immediate command, in the contingencies of action,
might as well not have them at all. He may be fit to criticise,
but he is not fit to act. Now it is in this that women, and the
men who are most like women, confessedly excel. The other sort
of man, however pre-eminent may be his faculties, arrives slowly
at complete command of them: rapidity of judgment and promptitude
of judicious action, even in the things he knows best, are the
gradual and late result of strenuous effort grown into habit.
It will be said, perhaps, that the greater nervous susceptibility
of women is a disqualification for practice, in anything but domestic
life, by rendering them mobile, changeable, too vehemently under
the influence of the moment, incapable of dogged perseverance,
unequal and uncertain in the power of using their faculties. I
think that these phrases sum up the greater part of the objections
commonly made to the fitness of women for the higher class of
serious business. Much of all this is the mere overflow of nervous
energy run to waste, and would cease when the energy was directed
to a definite end. Much is also the result of conscious or unconscious
cultivation; as we see by the almost total disappearance of "hysterics"
and fainting-fits, since they have gone out of fashion. Moreover,
when people are brought up, like many women of the higher classes
(though less so in our own country than any other), a kind of
hot-house plants, shielded from the wholesome vicissitudes of
air and temperature, and untrained in any of the occupations and
exercises which give stimulus and development to the circulatory
and muscular system, while their nervous system, especially in
its emotional department, is kept in unnaturally active play;
it is no wonder if those of them who do not die of consumption,
grow up with constitutions liable to derangement from slight causes,
both internal and external, and without stamina to support any
task, physical or mental, requiring continuity of effort. But
women brought up to work for their livelihood show none of these
morbid characteristics, unless indeed they are chained to an excess
of sedentary work in confined and unhealthy rooms. Women who in
their early years have shared in the healthful physical education
and bodily freedom of their brothers, and who obtain a sufficiency
of pure air and exercise in after-life, very rarely have any excessive
susceptibility of nerves which can disqualify them for active
pursuits. There is indeed a certain proportion of persons, in
both sexes, in whom an unusual degree of nervous sensibility is
constitutional, and of so marked a character as to be the feature
of their organisation which exercises the greatest influence over
the whole character of the vital phenomena. This constitution,
like other physical conformations, is hereditary, and is transmitted
to sons as well as daughters; but it is possible, and probable,
that the nervous temperament (as it is called) is inherited by
a greater number of women than of men. We will assume this as
a fact: and let me then ask, are men of nervous temperament found
to be unfit for the duties and pursuits usually followed by men?
If not, why should women of the same temperament be unfit for
them? The peculiarities of the temperament are, no doubt, within
certain limits, an obstacle to success in some employments, though
an aid to it in others. But when the occupation is suitable to
the temperament, and sometimes even when it is unsuitable, the
most brilliant examples of success are continually given by the
men of high nervous sensibility. They are distinguished in their
practical manifestations chiefly by this, that being susceptible
of a higher degree of excitement than those of another physical
constitution, their powers when excited differ more than in the
case of other people, from those shown in their ordinary state:
they are raised, as it were, above themselves, and do things with
ease which they are wholly incapable of at other times. But this
lofty excitement is not, except in weak bodily constitutions,
a mere flash, which passes away immediately, leaving no permanent
traces, and incompatible with persistent and steady pursuit of
an object. It is the character of the nervous temperament to be
capable of sustained excitement, holding out through long-continued
efforts. It is what is meant by spirit. It is what makes the high-bred
racehorse run without slackening speed till he drops down dead.
It is what has enabled so many delicate women to maintain the
most sublime constancy not only at the stake, but through a long
preliminary succession of mental and bodily tortures. It is evident
that people of this temperament are particularly apt for what
may be called the executive department of the leadership of mankind.
They are the material of great orators, great preachers, impressive
diffusers of moral influences. Their constitution might be deemed
less favourable to the qualities required from a statesman in
the cabinet, or from a judge. It would be so, if the consequence
necessarily followed that because people are excitable they must
always be in a state of excitement. But this is wholly a question
of training. Strong feeling is the instrument and element of strong
self-control: but it requires to be cultivated in that direction.
When it is, it forms not the heroes of impulse only, but those
also of self-conquest. History and experience prove that the most
passionate characters are the most fanatically rigid in their
feelings of duty, when their passion has been trained to act in
that direction. The judge who gives a just decision in a case
where his feelings are intensely interested on the other side,
derives from that same strength of feeling the determined sense
of the obligation of justice, which enables him to achieve this
victory over himself. The capability of that lofty enthusiasm
which takes the human being out of his every-day character, reacts
upon the daily character itself. His aspirations and powers when
he is in this exceptional state, become the type with which he
compares, and by which he estimates, his sentiments and proceedings
at other times: and his habitual purposes assume a character moulded
by and assimilated to the moments of lofty excitement, although
those, from the physical nature of a human being, can only be
transient. Experience of races, as well as of individuals, does
not show those of excitable temperament to be less fit, on the
average, either for speculation or practice, than the more unexcitable.
The French, and the Italians, are undoubtedly by nature more nervously
excitable than the Teutonic races, and, compared at least with
the English, they have a much greater habitual and daily emotional
life: but have they been less great in science, in public business,
in legal and judicial eminence, or in war? There is abundant evidence
that the Greeks were of old, as their descendants and successors
still are, one of the most excitable of the races of mankind.
It is superfluous to ask, what among the achievements of men they
did not excel in. The Romans, probably, as an equally southern
people, had the same original temperament: but the stern character
of their national discipline, like that of the Spartans, made
them an example of the opposite type of national character; the
greater strength of their natural feelings being chiefly apparent
in the intensity which the same original temperament made it possible
to give to the artificial. If these cases exemplify what a naturally
excitable people may be made, the Irish Celts afford one of the
aptest examples of what they are when left to themselves; (if
those can be said to be left to themselves who have been for centuries
under the indirect influence of bad government, and the direct
training of a Catholic hierarchy and of a sincere belief in the
Catholic religion). The Irish character must be considered, therefore,
as an unfavourable case: yet, whenever the circumstances of the
individual have been at all favourable, what people have shown
greater capacity for the most varied and multifarious individual
eminence? Like the French compared with the English, the Irish
with the Swiss, the Greeks or Italians compared with the German
races, so women compared with men may be found, on the average,
to do the same things with some variety in the particular kind
of excellence. But, that they would do them fully as well on the
whole, if their education and cultivation were adapted to correcting
instead of aggravating the infirmities incident to their temperament,
I see not the smallest reason to doubt.
Supposing it, however, to be true that women's minds are by nature
more mobile than those of men, less capable of persisting long
in the same continuous effort, more fitted for dividing their
faculties among many things than for travelling in any one path
to the highest point which can be reached by it: this may be true
of women as they now are (though not without great and numerous
exceptions), and may account for their having remained behind
the highest order of men in precisely the things in which this
absorption of the whole mind in one set of ideas and occupations
may seem to be most requisite. Still, this difference is one which
can only affect the kind of excellence, not the excellence itself,
or its practical worth: and it remains to be shown whether this
exclusive working of a part of the mind, this absorption of the
whole thinking faculty in a single subject, and concentration
of it on a single work, is the normal and healthful condition
of the human faculties, even for speculative uses. I believe that
what is gained in special development by this concentration, is
lost in the capacity of the mind for the other purposes of life;
and even in abstract thought, it is my decided opinion that the
mind does more by frequently returning to a difficult problem,
than by sticking to it without interruption. For the purposes,
at all events, of practice, from its highest to its humblest departments,
the capacity of passing promptly from one subject of consideration
to another, without letting the active spring of the intellect
run down between the two, is a power far more valuable; and this
power women pre-eminently possess, by virtue of the very mobility
of which they are accused. They perhaps have it from nature, but
they certainly have it by training and education; for nearly the
whole of the occupations of women consist in the management of
small but multitudinous details, on each of which the mind cannot
dwell even for a minute, but must pass on to other things, and
if anything requires longer thought, must steal time at odd moments
for thinking of it. The capacity indeed which women show for doing
their thinking in circumstances and at times which almost any
man would make an excuse to himself for not attempting it, has
often been noticed: and a woman's mind, though it may be occupied
only with small things, can hardly ever permit its elf to be vacant,
as a man's so often is when not engaged in what he chooses to
consider the business of his life. The business of a woman's ordinary
life is things in general, and can as little cease to go on as
the world to go round.
But (it is said) there is anatomical evidence of the superior
mental capacity of men compared with women: they have a larger
brain. I reply, that in the first place the fact itself is doubtful.
It is by no means established that the brain of a woman is smaller
than that of a man. If it is inferred merely because a woman's
bodily frame generally is of less dimensions than a man's, this
criterion would lead to strange consequences. A tall and large-boned
man must on this showing be wonderfully superior in intelligence
to a small man, and an elephant or a whale must prodigiously excel
mankind. The size of the brain in human beings, anatomists say,
varies much less than the size of the body, or even of the head,
and the one cannot be at all inferred from the other. It is certain
that some women have as large a brain as any man. It is within
my knowledge that a man who had weighed many human brains, said
that the heaviest he knew of, heavier even than Cuvier's (the
heaviest previously recorded), was that of a woman. Next, I must
observe that the precise relation which exists between the brain
and the intellectual powers is not yet well understood, but is
a subject of great dispute. That there is a very close relation
we cannot doubt. The brain is certainly the material organ of
thought and feeling: and (making abstraction of the great unsettled
controversy respecting the appropriation of different parts of
the brain to different mental faculties) I admit that it would
be an anomaly, and an exception to all we know of the general
laws of life and organisation, if the size of the organ were wholly
indifferent to the function; if no accession of power were derived
from the great magnitude of the instrument. But the exception
and the anomaly would be fully as great if the organ exercised
influence by its magnitude only. In all the more delicate operations
of nature--of which those of the animated creation are the most
delicate, and those of the nervous system by far the most delicate
of these--differences in the effect depend as much on differences
of quality in the physical agents, as on their quantity: and if
the quality of an instrument is to be tested by the nicety and
delicacy of the work it can do, the indications point to a greater
average fineness of quality in the brain and nervous system of
women than of men. Dismissing abstract difference of quality,
a thing difficult to verify, the efficiency of an organ is known
to depend not solely on its size but on its activity: and of this
we have an approximate measure in the energy with which the blood
circulates through it, both the stimulus and the reparative force
being mainly dependent on the circulation. It would not be surprising--
it is indeed an hypothesis which accords well with the differences
actually observed between the mental operations of the two sexes--if
men on the average should have the advantage in the size of the
brain, and women in activity of cerebral circulation. The results
which conjecture, founded on analogy, would lead us to expect
from this difference of organisation, would correspond to some
of those which we most commonly see. In the first place, the mental
operations of men might be expected to be slower. They would neither
be so prompt as women in thinking, nor so quick to feel. Large
bodies take more time to get into full action. on the other hand,
when once got thoroughly into play, men's brain would bear more
work. It would be more persistent in the line first taken; it
would have more difficulty in changing from one mode of action
to another, but, in the one thing it was doing, it could go on
longer without loss of power or sense of fatigue. And do we not
find that the things in which men most excel women are those which
require most plodding and long hammering at a single thought,
while women do best what must be done rapidly ? A woman's brain
is sooner fatigued, sooner exhausted; but given the degree of
exhaustion, we should expect to find that it would recover itself
sooner. I repeat that this speculation is entirely hypothetical;
it pretends to no more than to suggest a line of inquiry. I have
before repudiated the notion of its being yet certainly known
that there is any natural difference at all in the average strength
or direction of the mental capacities of the two sexes, much less
what that difference is. Nor is it possible that this should be
known, so long as the psychological laws of the formation of character
have been so little studied, even in a general way, and in the
particular case never scientifically applied at all; so long as
the most obvious external causes of difference of character are
habitually disregarded--left unnoticed by the observer, and looked
down upon with a kind of supercilious contempt by the prevalent
schools both of natural history and of mental philosophy: who,
whether they look for the source of what mainly distinguishes
human beings from one another, in the world of matter or in that
of spirit, agree in running down those who prefer to explain these
differences by the different relations of human beings to society
and life.
To so ridiculous an extent are the notions formed of the nature
of women, mere empirical generalisations, framed, without philosophy
or analysis, upon the first instances which present themselves,
that the popular idea of it is different in different countries,
according as the opinions and social circumstances of the country
have given to the women living in it any speciality of development
or non-development. An oriental thinks that women are by nature
peculiarly voluptuous; see the violent abuse of them on this ground
in Hindoo writings. An Englishman usually thinks that they are
by nature cold. The sayings about women's fickleness are mostly
of French origin; from the famous distich of Francis the First,
upward and downward. In England it is a common remark, how much
more constant women are than men. Inconstancy has been longer
reckoned discreditable to a woman, in England than in France;
and Englishwomen are besides, in their inmost nature, much more
subdued to opinion. It may be remarked by the way, that Englishmen
are in peculiarly unfavourable circumstances for attempting to
judge what is or is not natural, not merely to women, but to men,
or to human beings altogether, at least if they have only English
experience to go upon: because there is no place where human nature
shows so little of its original lineaments. Both in a good and
a bad sense, the English are farther from a state of nature than
any other modern people. They are, more than any other people,
a product of civilisation and discipline. England is the country
in which social discipline has most succeeded, not so much in
conquering, as in suppressing, whatever is liable to conflict
with it. The English, more than any other people, not only act
but feel according to rule. In other countries, the taught opinion,
or the requirement of society, may be the stronger power, but
the promptings of the individual nature are always visible under
it, and often resisting it: rule may be stronger than nature,
but nature is still there. In England, rule has to a great degree
substituted itself for nature. The greater part of life is carried
on, not by following inclination under the control of rule, but
by having no inclination but that of following a rule. Now this
has its good side doubtless, though it has also a wretchedly bad
one; but it must render an Englishman peculiarly ill-qualified
to pass a judgment on the original tendencies of human nature
from his own experience. The errors to which observers elsewhere
are liable on the subject, are of a different character. An Englishman
is ignorant respecting human nature, a Frenchman is prejudiced.
An Englishman's errors are negative, a Frenchman's positive. An
Englishman fancies that things do not exist, because he never
sees them; a Frenchman thinks they must always and necessarily
exist, because he does see them. An Englishman does not know nature,
because he has had no opportunity of observing it; a Frenchman
generally knows a great deal of it, but often mistakes it, because
he has only seen it sophisticated and distorted. For the artificial
state superinduced by society disguises the natural tendencies
of the thing which is the subject of observation, in two different
ways: by extinguishing the nature, or by transforming it. In the
one case there is but a starved residuum of nature remaining to
be studied; in the other case there is much, but it may have expanded
in any direction rather than that in which it would spontaneously
grow.
I have-said that it cannot now be known how much of the existing
mental differences between men and women is natural and how much
artificial; whether there are any natural differences at all;
or, supposing all artificial causes of difference to be withdrawn,
what natural character would be revealed I am not about to attempt
what I have pronounced impossible: but doubt does not forbid conjecture,
and where certainty is unattainable, there may yet be the means
of arriving at some degree of probability. The first point, the
origin of the differences actually observed, is the one most accessible
to speculation; and I shall attempt to approach it, by the only
path by which it can be reached; by tracing the mental consequences
of external influences. We cannot isolate a human being from the
circumstances of his condition, so as to ascertain experimentally
what he would have been by nature. but we can consider what he
is, and what his circumstances have been, and whether the one
would have been capable of producing the other.
Let us take, then, the only marked case which observation affords,
of apparent inferiority of women to men, if we except the merely
physical one of bodily strength. No production in philosophy,
science, or art, entitled to the first rank, has been the work
of a woman. Is there any mode of accounting for this, without
supposing that women are naturally incapable of producing them?
In the first place, we may fairly question whether experience
has afforded sufficient grounds for an induction. It is scarcely
three generations since women, saving very rare exceptions have
begun to try their capacity in philosophy, science, or art. It
is only in the present generation that their attempts have been
at all numerous; and they are even now extremely few, everywhere
but in England and France. It is a relevant question, whether
a mind possessing the requisites of first rate eminence in speculation
or creative art could have been expected, on the mere calculation
of chances, to turn up during that lapse of time, among the women
whose tastes and personal position admitted of their devoting
themselves to these pursuits In all things which there has yet
been time for--in all but the very highest grades in the scale
of excellence, especially in the department in which they have
been longest engaged, literature (both prose and poetry)--women
have done quite as much, have obtained fully as high prizes and
as many of them, as could be expected from the length of time
and the number of competitors. If we go back to the earlier period
when very few women made the attempt, yet some of those few made
it with distinguished success. The Greeks always accounted Sappho
among their great poets; and we may well suppose that Myrtis,
said to have been the teacher of Pindar, and Corinna, who five
times bore away from him the prize of poetry, must at least have
had sufficient merit to admit of being compared with that great
name. Aspasia did not leave any philosophical writings; but it
is an admitted fact that Socrates resorted to her for instruction,
and avowed himself to have obtained it.
If we consider the works of women in modem times, and contrast
them with those of men, either in the literary or the artistic
department, such inferiority as may be observed resolves itself
essentially into one thing: but that is a most material one; deficiency
of originality. Not total deficiency; for every production of
mind which is of any substantive value, has an originality of
its own--is a conception of the mind itself, not a copy of something
else. Thoughts original, in the sense of being unborrowed--of
being derived from the thinker's own observations or intellectual
processes--are abundant in the writings of women. But they have
not yet produced any of those great and luminous new ideas which
form an era in thought, nor those fundamentally new conceptions
in art, which open a vista of possible effects not before thought
of, and found a new school. Their compositions are mostly grounded
on the existing fund of thought, and their creations do-not deviate
widely from existing types. This is the sort of inferiority which
their works manifest: for in point of execution, in the detailed
application of thought, and the perfection of style, there is
no inferiority. Our best novelists in point of composition, and
of the management of detail, have mostly been women; and there
is not in all modern literature a more eloquent vehicle of thought
than the style of Madame de Stael, nor, as a specimen of purely
artistic excellence, anything superior to the prose of Madame
Sand, whose style acts upon the nervous system like a symphony
of Haydn or Mozart. High originality of conception is, as I have
said, what is chiefly wanting. And now to examine if there is
any manner in which this deficiency can be accounted for.
Let us remember, then, so far as regards mere thought, that during
all that period in the world's existence, and in the progress
of cultivation, in which great and fruitful new truths I could
be arrived at by mere force of genius, with little precious study
and accumulation of knowledge--during all that time women did
not concern themselves with speculation at all. From the days
of Hypatia to those of the Reformation, the illustrious Heloisa
is almost the only woman to whom any such achievement might have
been possible; and we know not how great a capacity of speculation
in her may have been lost to mankind by the misfortunes of her
life. Never since any considerable number of women have began
to cultivate serious thought, has originality been possible on
easy terms. Nearly all the thoughts which can be reached by mere
strength of original faculties, have long since been arrived at;
and originality, in any high sense of the word, is now scarcely
ever attained but by minds which have undergone elaborate discipline,
and are deeply versed in the results of previous thinking. It
is Mr. Maurice, I think, who has remarked on the present age,
that its most original thinkers are those who have known most
thoroughly what had been thought by their; predecessors: and this
will always henceforth be the case. Every fresh stone in the edifice
has now to be placed on the top of so many others, that a long
process of climbing, and of carrying up materials, has to be gone
through by whoever aspires to take a share in the present stage
of the work. How many women are there who have gone through any
such process ? Mrs. Somerville, alone perhaps of women, knows
as much of mathematics as is now needful for making any considerable
mathematical discovery: is it any proof of inferiority in women,
that she has not happened to be one of the two or three persons
who in her lifetime have associated their names with some striking
advancement of the science? Two women, since political economy
has been made a science, have known enough of it to write usefully
on the subject: of how many of the innumerable men who have written
on it during the same time, is it possible with truth to say more?
If no woman has hitherto been a great historian, what woman has
had the necessary erudition? If no woman is a great philologist,
what woman has studied Sanscrit and Slavonic, the Gothic of Ulphila
and the Persic of the Zendavesta? Even in practical matters we
all know what is the value of the originality of untaught geniuses.
It means, inventing over again in its rudimentary form something
already invented and improved upon by many successive inventors.
When women have had the preparation which all men now require
to be eminently original, it will be time enough to begin judging
by experience of their capacity for originality.
It no doubt often happens that a person, who has not widely and
accurately studied the thoughts of others on a subject, has by
natural sagacity a happy intuition, which he can suggest, but
cannot prove, which yet when matured may be an important addition
to knowledge: but even then, no justice can be done to it until
some other person, who does possess the previous acquirements,
takes it in hand, tests it, gives it a scientific or practical
form, and fits it into its place among the existing truths of
philosophy or science. Is it supposed that such felicitous thoughts
do not occur to women? They occur by hundreds to every woman of
intellect. But they are mostly lost, for want of a husband or
friend who has the other knowledge which can enable him to estimate
them properly and bring them before the world: and even when they
are brought before it, they generally appear as his ideas, not
their real author's. Who can tell how many of the most original
thoughts put forth by male writers, belong to a woman by suggestion,
to themselves only by verifying and working out ? If I may judge
by my own case, a very large proportion indeed.
If we turn from pure speculation to literature in the narrow sense
of the term, and the fine arts, there is.a very obvious reason
why women's literature is, in its general conception and in its
main features, an imitation of men's. Why is the Roman literature,
as critics proclaim to satiety, not original, but an imitation
of the Greek ? Simply because the Greeks came first. If women
lived in a different country from men, and had never read any
of their writings, they would have had a literature of their own.
As it is, they have not created one, because they found a highly
advanced literature already created. If there had been no suspension
of the knowledge of antiquity, or if the Renaissance had occurred
before the Gothic cathedrals were built, they never would have
been built. We see that, in France and Italy, imitation of the
ancient literature stopped the original development even after
it had commenced. All women who write are pupils of the great
male writers. A painter's early pictures, even if he be a Raffaello,
are undistinguishable in style from those of his master. Even
a Mozart does not display his powerful originality in his earliest
pieces. What years are to a gifted individual, generations are
to a mass. If women's literature is destined to have a different
collective character from that of men, depending on any difference
of natural tendencies, much longer time is necessary than has
yet elapsed, before it can emancipate itself from the influence
of accepted models, and guide itself by its own impulses. But
if, as I believe, there will not prove to be any natural tendencies
common to women, and distinguishing their genius from that of
men, yet every individual writer among them has her individual
tendencies, which at present are still subdued by the influence
of precedent and example: and it will require generations more,
before their individuality is sufficiently developed to make head
against that influence.
It is in the fine arts, properly so called, that the prima facie
evidence of inferior original powers in women at first sight appears
the strongest: since opinion (it may be said) does not exclude
them from these, but rather encourages them, and their education,
instead of passing over this department, is in the affluent classes
mainly composed of it. Yet in this line of exertion they have
fallen still more short than in many others, of the highest eminence
attained by men. This shortcoming, however, needs no other explanation
than the familiar fact, more universally true in the fine arts
than in anything else; the vast superiority of professional persons
over amateurs. Women in the educated classes are almost universally
taught more or less of some branch or other of the fine arts,
but not that they may gain their living or their social consequence
by it. Women artists are all amateurs. The exceptions are only
of the kind which confirm the general truth. Women. are taught
music, I but not for the purpose of composing, only of executing
it: and accordingly it is only as composers, that men, in music,
are superior to women. The only one of the fine arts which women
do follow, to any extent, as a profession, and an occupation for
life, is the histrionic; and in that they are confessedly equal,
if not superior, to men. To make the comparison fair, it should
be made between the productions of women in any branch of art,
and those of men not following it as a profession. In musical
composition, for example, women surely have produced fully as
good things as have ever been produced by male amateurs. There
are now a few women, a very few, who practise painting as a profession,
and these are already beginning to show quite as much talent as
could be expected. Even male painters (pace Mr. Ruskin) have not
made any very remarkable figure these last centuries, and it will
be long before they do so. The reason why the old painters were
so greatly superior to the modern, is that a greatly superior
class of men applied themselves to the art. In the fourteenth
and fifteenth centuries the Italian painters were the most accomplished
men of their age. The greatest of them were men of encyclopaedical
acquirements and powers, like the great men of Greece. But in
their times fine art was, to men's feelings and conceptions, among
the grandest things in which a human being could excel; and by
it men were made,- what only political or military distinction
now makes them, the companions of sovereigns, and the equals of
the highest nobility. In the present age, men of anything like
similar calibre find something more-important to do, for their
own fame and the uses of the modern world, than painting: and
it is only now and then that a Reynolds or a Turner (of whose
relative rank among eminent men I do not pretend to an opinion)
applies himself to that art. Music belongs to a different order
of things: it does not require the same general powers of mind,
but seems more dependent on a natural gift: and it may be thought
surprising that no one of the great musical composers has been
a woman. But even this natural gift, to be made available for
great creations, requires study, and professional devotion to
the pursuit. The only countries which have produced first-rate
composers, even of the male sex, are Germany and Italy-- countries
in which, both in point of special and of general cultivation,
women have remained far behind France and England, being generally
(it may be said without exaggeration) very little educated, and
having scarcely cultivated at all any of the higher faculties
of mind. And in those countries the men who are acquainted with
the principles of musical composition must be counted by hundreds,
or more probably by thousands, the women barely by scores: so
that here again, on the doctrine of averages, we cannot reasonably
expect to see more than one eminent woman to fifty eminent men;
and the last three centuries have not produced fifty eminent male
composers either in Germany or in Italy.
There are other reasons, besides those which we have now given,
that help to explain why women remain behind men, even in the
pursuits which are open to both. For one thing, very few women
have time for them. This may seem a paradox; it is an undoubted
social fact. The time and thoughts of every woman have to satisfy
great previous demands on them for things practical. There is,
first, the superintendence of the family and the domestic expenditure,
which occupies at least one woman in every family, generally the
one of mature years and acquired experience; unless the family
is so rich as to admit of delegating that task to hired agency,
and submitting to all the waste and malversation inseparable from
that mode of conducting it. The superintendence of a household,
even when not in other respects laborious, is extremely onerous
to the thoughts; it requires incessant vigilance, an eye which
no detail escapes, and presents questions for consideration and
solution, foreseen and unforeseen, at every hour of the day, from
which the person responsible for them can hardly ever shake herself
free. If a woman is of a rank and circumstances which relieve
her in a measure from these cares, she has still devolving on
her the management for the whole family of its intercourse with
others -- of what is called society, and the less the call made
on her by the former duty, the greater is always the development
of the latter: the dinner parties, concerts, evening parties,
morning visits, letter-writing, and all that goes with them. All
this is over and above the engrossing duty which society imposes
exclusively on women, of making themselves charming. A clever
woman of the higher ranks finds nearly a sufficient employment
of her talents in cultivating the graces of manner and the arts
of conversation. To look only at the outward side of the subject:
the great and continual exercise of thought which all women who
attach any value to dressing well (I do not mean expensively,
but with taste, and perception of natural and of artificial convenance)
must bestow upon their own dress, perhaps also upon that of their
daughters, would alone go a great way towards achieving respectable
results in art, or science, or literature, and does actually exhaust
much of the time and mental power they might have to spare for
either.[2] If it were possible that all this number of little
practical interests (which are made great to them) should leave
them either much leisure, or much energy and freedom of mind,
to be devoted to art or speculation, they must have a much greater
original supply of active faculty than the vast majority of men.
But this is not all. Independently of the regular offices of life
which devolve upon a woman, she is expected to have her time and
faculties always at the disposal of everybody. If a man has not
a profession to exempt him from such demands, still, if he has
a pursuit, he offends nobody by devoting his time to it; occupation
is received as a valid excuse for his not answering to every casual
demand which may be made on him. Are a woman's occupations, especially
her chosen and voluntary ones, ever regarded as excusing her from
any of what are termed the calls of society ? Scarcely are her
most necessary and recognised duties allowed as an exemption.
It requires an illness in the family, or something else out of
the common way, to entitle her to give her own business the precedence
over other people's amusement. She must always be at the beck
and call of somebody, generally of everybody. If she has a study
or a pursuit, she must snatch any short interval which accidentally
occurs to be employed in it. A celebrated woman, in a work which
I hope will some day be published, remarks truly that everything
a woman does is done at odd times. Is it wonderful, then, if she
does not attain the highest eminence in things which require consecutive
attention, and the concentration on them of the chief interest
of life ? Such is philosophy, and such, above all, is art, in
which, besides the devotion of the thoughts and feelings, the
hand also must be kept in constant exercises to attain high skill.
There is another consideration to be added to all these. In the
various arts and intellectual occupations, there is a degree of
proficiency sufficient for living by it, and there is a higher
degree on which depend the great productions which immortalise
a name. To the attainment of the former, there are adequate motives
in the case of all who follow the pursuit professionally: the
other is hardly ever attained where there is not, or where there
has not been at some period of life, an ardent desire of celebrity.
Nothing less is commonly a sufficient stimulus to undergo the
long and patient drudgery, which, in the case even of the greatest
natural gifts, is absolutely required for great eminence in pursuits
in which we already possess so many splendid memorials of the
highest genius. Now, whether the cause be natural or artificial,
women seldom have this eagerness for fame. Their ambition is generally
confined within narrower bounds. The influence they seek is over
those who immediately surround them. Their desire is to be liked,
loved, or admired, by those whom they see with their eyes: and
the proficiency in knowledge, arts, and accomplishments, which
is sufficient for that, almost always contents them. This is a
trait of character which cannot be left out of the account in
judging of women as they are. I do not at all believe that it
is inherent in women. It is only the natural result of their circumstances.
The love of fame in men is encouraged by education and opinion:
to " scorn delights and live laborious days " for its
sake, is accounted the part of "noble minds," even if
spoken of as their "last infirmity," and is stimulated
by the access which fame gives to all objects of ambition, including
even the favour of women; while to women themselves all these
objects are closed, and the desire of fame itself considered daring
and unfeminine. Besides, how could it be that a woman's interests
should not be all concentrated upon the impressions made on those
who come into her daily life, when society has ordained that all
her duties should be to them, and has contrived that all her comforts
should depend on them? The natural desire of consideration from
our fellow-creatures is as strong in a woman as in a man; but
society has so ordered things that public consideration is, in
all ordinary cases, only attainable by her through the consideration
of her husband or of her male relations, while her private consideration
is forfeited by making herself individually prominent, or appearing
in any other character than that of an appendage to men. Whoever
is in the least capable of estimating the influence on the mind
of the entire domestic and social position and the whole habit
of a life, must easily recognise in that influence a complete
explanation of nearly all the apparent differences between women
and men, including the whole of those which imply any inferiority.
As for moral differences, considered as distinguished from intellectual,
the distinction commonly drawn is to the advantage of women. They
are declared to be better than men; an empty compliment, which
must provoke a bitter smile from every woman of spirit, since
there is no other situation in life in which it is the established
order, and considered quite natural and suitable, that the better
should obey the worse. If this piece of idle talk is good for
anything, it is only as an admission by men, of the corrupting
influence of power; for that is certainly the only truth which
the fact, if it be a fact, either proves or illustrates. And it
is true that servitude, except when it actually brutalises, though
corrupting to both, is less so to the slaves than to the slave-masters.
It is wholesomer for the moral nature to be restrained, even by
arbitrary power, than to be allowed to exercise arbitrary power
without restraint. Women, it is said, seldomer fall under the
penal law-- contribute a much smaller number of offenders to the
criminal calendar, than men. I doubt not that the same thing may
be said, with the same truth, of negro slaves. Those who are under
the control of others cannot often commit crimes, unless at the
command and for the purposes of their masters. I do not know a
more signal instance of the blindness with which the world, including
the herd of studious men, ignore and pass over all the influences
of social circumstances, than their silly depreciation of the
intellectual, and silly panegyrics on the moral, nature of women.
The complimentary dictum about women's superior moral goodness
may be allowed to pair off with the disparaging one respecting
their greater liability to moral bias. Women, we are told, are
not capable of resisting their personal partialities: their judgment
in grave affairs is warped by their sympathies and antipathies.
Assuming it to be so, it is still to be proved that women are
oftener misled by their personal feelings than men by their personal
interests. The chief difference would seem in that case to be,
that men are led from the course of duty and the public interest
by their regard for themselves, women (not being allowed to have
private interests of their own) by their regard for somebody else.
It is also to be considered, that all the education which women
receive from society inculcates on them the feeling that the individuals
connected with them are the only ones to whom they owe any duty
--the only ones whose interest they are called upon to care for;
while, as far as education is concerned, they are left strangers
even to the elementary ideas which are presupposed in any intelligent
regard for larger interests or higher moral objects. The complaint
against them resolves itself merely into this, that they fulfil
only too faithfully the sole duty which they are taught, and almost
the only one which they are permitted to practise.
The concessions of the privileged to the unprivileged are so seldom
brought about by any better motive than the power of the unprivileged
to extort them, that any arguments against the prerogative of
sex are likely to be little attended to by the generality, as
long as they are able to say to themselves that women do not complain
of it. That fact certainly enables men to retain the unjust privilege
some time longer; but does not render it less unjust. Exactly
the same thing may be said of the women in the harem of an oriental:
they do not complain of not being allowed the freedom of European
women. They think our women insufferably bold and unfeminine.
How rarely it is that even men complain of the general order of
society; and how much rarer still would such complaint be, if
they did not know of any different order existing anywhere else.
Women do not complain of the general lot of women; or rather they
do, for plaintive elegies on it are very common in the writings
of women, and were still more so as long as the lamentations could
not be suspected of having any practical object. Their complaints
are like the complaints which men make of the general unsatisfactoriness
of human life; they are not meant to imply blame, or to plead
for any change. But though women do not complain of the power
of husbands, each complains of her own husband, or of the husbands
of her friends. It is the same in all other cases of servitude,
at least in the commencement of the emancipatory movement. The
serfs did not at first complain of the power of their lords, but
only of their tyranny. The commons began by claiming a few municipal
privileges; they next asked an exemption for themselves from being
taxed without their own consent; but they would at that time have
thought it a great presumption to claim any share in the king's
sovereign authority. The case of women is now the only case in
which to rebel against established rules is still looked upon
with the same eyes as was formerly a subject's claim to the I
right of rebelling against his king. A woman who joins in any
movement which her husband disapproves, makes herself a martyr,
without even being able to be an apostle, for the husband can
legally put a stop to her apostleship. Women cannot be expected
to devote themselves to the emancipation of women, until men in
considerable number are prepared to join with them in the undertaking.
NOTES
[1] Especially is this true if we take into consideration Asia
as well as Europe. If a Hindoo principality is strongly, vigilantly,
and economically governed; if order is preserved without oppression;
if cultivation is extending, and the people prosperous, in three
cases out of four that principalityis under a woman's rule. This
fact, to me an entirely unexpected one, I have collected from
a long knowledge of Hindoo governments. There are many such instances:
for though, by Hindoo institutions, a woman cannot reign, she
is the legal regent of a kingdom during the minority of the heir;
and minorities are frequent, the lives of the male rulers being
so often prematurely terminated through the effect of inactivity
and sensual excesses. When we consider that these princesses have
never been seen in public, have never conversed with any man not
of their own family except from behind a curtain, that they do
not read, and if they did there is no book in their languages
which ca give them the smallest instruction on political affairs;
the example they afford of the natural capacity of women for government
is very striking.
[2] "It appears to be the same right turn of mind which
enables a man to acquire the truth, or just idea of what is right,
in the ornaments, as in the more stable principles of art. It
has still the same centre of perfection, though it is the centre
of a smaller circle. --To illustrate this by fashion of dress,
in which there is allowed to be a good or bad taste. The component
parts of dress are continually changing from great to little,
from short to long; but the general form still remains; it is
still the same general dress which is comparatively fixed , though
on a very slender foundation; but it is on this which fashion
must rest. He who invents with the most success, or dresses in
the best taste, would probably, from the same sagacity employed
to greater purposes, have discovered equal skill, or have formed
the same correct taste, in the highest labours of art." --
Sir Joshua Reynold's Discourses, Disc. vii.
CHAPTER IV
There remains a question, not of less importance than those already
discussed, and which will be asked the most importunately by those
opponents whose conviction is somewhat shaken on the main point.
What good are we to expect from the changes proposed in our customs
and institutions? Would mankind be at all better off if women
were free? If not, why disturb their minds, and attempt to make
a social revolution in the name of an abstract right? It is hardly
to be expected that this question will be asked in respect to
the change proposed in the condition of women in marriage. The
sufferings, immoralities, evils of all sorts, produced in innumerable
cases by the subjection of individual women to individual men,
are far too terrible to be overlooked. Unthinking or uncandid
persons, counting those cases alone which are extreme, or which
attain publicity, may say that the evils are exceptional; but
no one can be blind to their existence, nor, in many cases, to
their intensity. And it is perfectly obvious that the abuse of
the power cannot be very much checked while the power remains.
It is a power given, or offered, not to good men, or to decently
respectable men, but to all men; the most brutal, and the most
criminal. There is no check but that of opinion, and such men
are in general within the reach of no opinion but that of men
like themselves. If such men did not brutally tyrannise over the
one human being whom the law compels to bear everything from them,
society must already have reached a paradisiacal state. There
could be no need any longer of laws to curb men's vicious propensities.
Astraea must not only have returned to earth, but the heart of
the worst man must have become her temple. The law of servitude
in marriage is a monstrous contradiction to all the principles
of the modern world, and to all the experience through which those
principles have been slowly and painfully worked out. It is the
sole case, now that negro slavery has been abolished, in which
a human being in the plenitude of every faculty is delivered up
to the tender mercies of another human being, in the hope forsooth
that this other will use the power solely for the good of the
person subjected to it. Marriage is the only actual bondage known
to our law. There remain no legal slaves, except the mistress
of every house. It is not, therefore, on this part of the subject,
that the question is likely to be asked, Cui bono ~ We may be
told that the evil would outweigh the good, but the reality of
the good admits of no dispute. In regard, however, to the larger
question, the removal of women's disabilities--their recognition
as the equals of men in all that belongs to citizenship--the opening
to them of all honourable employments, and of the training and
education which qualifies for those employments--there are many
persons for whom it is not enough that the inequality has no just
or legitimate defence; they require to be told what express advantage
would be obtained by abolishing it. To which let me first answer,
the advantage of having the most universal and pervading of all
human relations regulated by justice instead of injustice. The
vast amount of this gain to human nature, it is hardly possible,
by any explanation or illustration, to place in a stronger light
than it is placed by the bare statement, to anyone who attaches
a moral meaning to words. All the selfish propensities, the self-worship,
the unjust self-preference, which exist among mankind, have their
source and root in, and derive their principal nourishment from,
the present constitution of the relation between men and women.
Think what it is to a boy, to grow up to manhood in the belief
that without any merit or any exertion of his own, though he may
be the most frivolous and empty or the most ignorant and stolid
of mankind, by the mere fact of being born a male he is by right
the superior of all and every one of an entire half of the human
race: including probably some whose real superiority to himself
he has daily or hourly occasion to feel; but even if in his whole
conduct he habitually follows a woman's guidance, still, if he
is a fool, she thinks that of course she is not, and cannot be,
equal in ability and judgment to himself; and if he is not a fool,
he does worse--he sees that she is superior to him, and believes
that, notwithstanding her superiority, he is entitled to command
and she is bound to obey. What must be the effect on his character,
of this lesson ? And men of the cultivated classes are often not
aware how deeply it sinks into the immense majority of male minds.
For, among right-feeling and wellbred people, the inequality is
kept as much as possible out of sight; above all, out of sight
of the children. As much obedience is required from boys to their
mother as to their father: they are not permitted to domineer
over their sisters, nor are they accustomed to see these postponed
to them, but the contrary; the compensations of the chivalrous
feeling being made prominent, while the servitude which requires
them is kept in the background. Well brought-up youths in the
higher classes thus often escape the bad influences of the situation
in their early years, and only experience them when, arrived at
manhood, they fall under the dominion of facts as they really
exist. Such people are little aware, when a boy is differently
brought up, how early the notion of his inherent superiority to
a girl arises in his mind; how it grows with his growth and strengthens
with his strength; how it is inoculated by one schoolboy upon
another; how early the youth thinks himself superior to his mother,
owing her perhaps forbearance, but no-real respect; ana how sublime
and sultan-like a sense of superiority he feels, above all, over
the woman whom he honours by admitting her to a partnership of
his life. Is it imagined that all this does not pervert the whole
manner of existence of the man, both as an individual and as a
social being? It is an exact parallel to the feeling of a hereditary
king that he is excellent above others by being born a king, or
a noble by being born a noble. The relation between husband and
wife is very like that between lord and vassal, except that the
wife is held to more unlimited obedience than the vassal was.
However the vassal's character may have been affected, for better
and for worse, by his subordination, who can help seeing that
the lord's was affected greatly for the worse? whether he was
led to believe that his vassals were really superior to himself,
or to feel that he was placed in command over people as good as
himself, for no merits or labours of his own, but merely for having,
as Figaro says, taken the trouble to be born. The self-worship
of the monarch, or of the feudal superior, is matched by the self-worship
of the male. Human beings do not grow up from childhood in the
possession of unearned distinctions, without pluming themselves
upon them. Those whom privileges not acquired by their merit,
and which they feel to be disproportioned to it, inspire with
additional humility, are always the few, and the best few. The
rest are only inspired with pride, and the worst sort of pride,
that which values itself upon accidental advantages, not of its
own achieving. Above all, when the feeling of being raised above
the whole of the other sex is combined with personal authority
over one individual among them; the situation, if a school of
conscientious and affectionate forbearance to those whose strongest
points of character are conscience and affection, is to men of
another quality a regularly constituted academy or gymnasium for
training them in arrogance and overbearingness; which vices, if
curbed by the certainty of resistance in their intercourse with
other men, their equals, break out towards all who are in a position
to be obliged to tolerate them, and often revenge themselves upon
the unfortunate wife for the involuntary restraint which they
are obliged to submit to elsewhere. The example afforded, and
the education given to the sentiments, by laying the foundation
of domestic existence upon a relation contradictory to the first
principles of social justice must, from the very nature of man,
have a perverting influence of such magnitude, that it is hardly
possible with our present experience to raise our imaginations
to the conception of so great a change for the better as would
be made by its removal. All that education and civilisation are
doing to efface the influences on character of the law of force,
and replace them by those of justice, remains merely on the surface,
as long as the citadel of the enemy is not attacked. The principle
of the modern movement in morals and politics, is that conduct,
and conduct alone, entitles to respect: that not what men are,
but what they do, constitutes their claim to deference; that,
above all, merit, and not birth, is the only rightful claim to
power and authority. If no authority, not in its nature temporary,
were allowed to one human being over another, society would not
be employed in building up propensities with one hand which it
has to curb with the other. The child would really, for the first
time in man's existence on earth, be trained in the way he should
go, and when he was old there would be a chance that he would
not depart from it. But so long as the right of the strong to
power over the weak rules in the very heart of society, the attempt
to make the equal right of the weak ~h~. principle of its outward
actions will always be an uphill struggle; for the law of justice,
which is also that of Christianity, will never get possession
of men's inmost sentiments; they will be working against it, even
when bending to it. The second benefit to be expected from giving
to women the free use of their faculties, by leaving them the
free choice of their employments, and opening to them the same
field of occupation and the same prizes and encouragements as
to other human beings, would be that of doubling the mass of mental
faculties available for the higher service of humanity. Where
there is now one person qualified to benefit mankind and promote
the general improvement, as a public teacher, or an administrator
of some branch of public or social affairs, there would then be
a chance of two. Mental superiority of any kind is at present
everywhere so much below the demand; there is such a deficiency
of persons competent to do excellently anything which it requires
any considerable amount of ability to do; that the loss to the
world, by refusing to make use of one half of the whole quantity
of talent it possesses, is extremely serious. It is true that
this amount of mental power is not totally lost. Much of it is
employed, and would in any case be employed, in domestic management,
and in the few other occupations open to women; and from the remainder
indirect benefit is in many individual cases obtained, through
the personal influence of individual women over individual men.
But these benefits are partial; their range is extremely circumscribed;
and if they must be admitted, on the one hand, as a deduction
from the amount of fresh social power that would be acquired by
giving freedom to one-half of the whole sum of human intellect,
there must be added, on the other, the benefit of the stimulus
that would be given to the intellect of men by the competition;
or (to use a more true expression) by the necessity that would
be imposed on them of deserving precedency before they could expect
to obtain it. This great accession to the intellectual power
of the species, and to the amount of intellect available for the
good management of its affairs, would be obtained, partly, through
the better and more complete intellectual education of women,
which would then improve pari passu with that of men. Women in
general would be brought up equally capable of understanding business,
public affairs, and the higher matters of speculation, with men
In the same class of society; and the select few of the one as
well as of the other sex, who were qualified not only to comprehend
what is done or thought by others, but to think or do something
considerable themselves, would meet with the same facilities for
improving and training their capacities in the one sex as in the
other. In this way, the widening of the sphere of action for women
would operate for good, by raising their education to the level
of that of men, and making the one participate in all improvements
made in the other. But independently of this, the mere breaking
down of the barrier would of itself have an educational virtue
of the highest worth. The mere getting rid of the idea that all
the wider subjects of thought and action, all the things which
are of general and not solely of private interest, are men's business,
from which women are to be warned off--positively interdicted
from most of it, coldly tolerated in the little which is allowed
them--the mere consciousness a woman would then have of being
a human being like any other, entitled to choose her pursuits,
urged or invited by the same inducements as anyone else to interest
herself in whatever is interesting to human beings, entitled to
exert the share of influence on all human concerns which belongs
to an individual opinion, whether she attempted actual participation
in them or not--this alone would effect an immense expansion of
the faculties of women, as well as enlargement of the range of
their moral sentiments. Besides the addition to the amount of
individual talent available for the conduct of human affairs,
which certainly are not at present so abundantly provided in that
respect that they can afford to dispense with one-half of what
nature proffers; the opinion of women would then possess a more
beneficial, rather than a greater, influence upon the general
mass of human belief and sentiment. I say a more beneficial, rather
than a greater influence; for the influence of women over the
general tone of opinion has always, or at least from the earliest
known period, been very considerable. The influence of mothers
on the early character of their sons, and the desire of young
men to recommend themselves to young women, have in all recorded
times been important agencies in the formation of character, and
have determined some of the chief steps in the progress of civilisation.
Even in the Homeric age, [Greek word deleted] towards the [Greek
phrase deleted] is an acknowledged and powerful motive of action
in the great Hector. The moral influence of women has had two
modes of operation. First, it has been a softening influence.
Those who were most liable to be the victims of violence, have
naturally tended as much as they could towards limiting its sphere
and mitigating its excesses. Those who were not taught to fight,
have naturally inclined in favour of any other mode of settling
differences rather than that of fighting. In general, those who
have been the greatest sufferers by the indulgence of selfish
passion, have been the most earnest supporters of any moral law
which offered a means of bridling passion. Women were powerfully
instrumental in inducing the northern conquerors to adopt the
creed of Christianity, a creed so much more favourable to women
than any that preceded it. The conversion of the Anglo-Saxons
and of the Franks may be said to have been begun by the wives
of Ethelbert and Clovis. The other mode in which the effect of
women's opinion has been conspicuous, is by giving, a powerful
stimulus to those qualities in men, which, not being themselves
trained in, it was necessary for them that they should find in
their protectors. Courage, and the military virtues generally,
have at all times been greatly indebted to the desire which men
felt of being admired by women: and the stimulus reaches far beyond
this one class of eminent qualities, since, by a very natural
effect of their position, the best passport to the admiration
and favour of women has always been to be thought highly of by
men. From the combination of the two kinds of moral influence
thus exercised by women, arose the spirit of chivalry: the peculiarity
~,f which is, to aim at combining the highest standard of the
warlike qualities with the cultivation of a totally different
class of virtues--those of gentleness, generosity, and self-abnegation,
towards the non-military and defenseless classes generally, and
a special submission and worship directed towards women; who were
distinguished from the other defenceless classes by the high rewards
which they had it in their power voluntarily to bestow on those
who endeavoured to earn their favour, instead of extorting their
subjection. Though the practice of chivalry fell even more sadly
short of its theoretic standard than practice generally falls
below theory, it remains one of the most precious monuments of
the moral history of our race; as a remarkable instance of a concerted
and organised attempt by a most disorganised and distracted society,
to raise up and carry into practice a moral ideal greatly in advance
of its social condition and institutions; so much so as to have
been completely frustrated in the main object, yet never entirely
inefficacious, and which has left a most sensible, and for the
most part a highly valuable impress on the ideas and feelings
of all subsequent times. The chivalrous ideal is the acme of
the influence of women's sentiments on the moral cultivation of
mankind: and if women are to remain in their subordinate situation,
it were greatly to be lamented that the chivalrous standard should
have passed away, for it is the only one at all capable of mitigating
the demoralising influences of that position. But the changes
in the general state of the species rendered inevitable the substitution
of a totally different ideal of morality for the chivalrous one.
Chivalry was the attempt to infuse moral elements into a state
of society in which everything depended for good o~ evil on individual
prowess, under the softening influences of individual delicacy
and generosity. In modern societies, all things, even in the military
department of affairs, are decided, not by individual effort,
but by the combined operations of numbers; while the main occupation
of society has changed from fighting to business, from military
to industrial life. The exigencies of the new life are no more
exclusive of the virtues of generosity than those of the old,
but it no longer entirely depends on them. The main foundations
of the moral life of modern times must be justice and prudence;
the respect of each for the rights of every other, and the ability
of each to take care of himself. Chivalry left without legal check
all forms of wrong which reigned unpunished throughout society;
it only encouraged a few to do right in preference to wrong, by
the direction it gave to the instruments of praise and admiration.
But the real dependence of morality must always be upon its penal
sanctions--its power to deter from evil. The security of society
cannot rest on merely rendering honour to right, a motive so comparatively
weak in all but a few, and which on very many does not operate
at all. Modern society is able to repress wrong through all departments
of life, by a fit exertion of the superior strength which civilisation
has given it, and thus to render the existence of the weaker members
of society (no longer defenseless but protected by law) tolerable
to them, without reliance on the chivalrous feelings of those
who are in a position to tyrannise. The beauties and graces of
the chivalrous character are still what they were, but the rights
of the weak, and the general comfort of human life, now rest on
a far surer and steadier support; or rather, they do so in every
relation of life except the conjugal. At present the moral influence
of women is no less real, but it is no longer of so marked and
definite a character: it has more nearly merged in the general
influence of public opinion. Both through the contagion of sympathy,
and through the desire of men to shine in the eyes of women, their
feelings have great effect in keeping alive what remains of the
chivalrous ideal--in fostering the sentiments and continuing the
traditions of spirit and generosity. In these points of character,
their standard is higher than that of men; in the quality of justice,
somewhat lower. As regards the relations of private life it may
be said generally, that their influence is, on the whole, encouraging
to the softer virtues, discouraging to the sterner: though the
statement must be taken with all the modifications dependent on
individual character. In the chief of the greater trials to which
virtue is subject in the concerns of life--the conflict between
interest and principle--the tendency of women's influence- is
of a very mixed character. When the principle involved happens
to be one of the very few which the course of their religious
or moral education has strongly impressed upon themselves, they
are potent auxiliaries to virtue: and their husbands and sons
are often prompted by them to acts of abnegation which they never
would have been capable of without that stimulus. But, with the
present education and position of women, the moral principles
which have been impressed on them cover but a comparatively small
part of the field of virtue, and are, moreover, principally negative;
forbidding particular acts, but having little to do with the general
direction of the thoughts and purposes. I am afraid it must be
said, that disinterestedness in the general conduct of life--the
devotion of the energies to purposes which hold out no promise
of private advantages to the family--is very seldom encouraged
or supported by women's influence. It is small blame to them that
they discourage objects of which they have not learnt to see the
advantage, and which withdraw their men from them, and from the
interests of the family. But the consequence is that women's influence
is often anything but favourable to public virtue. Women have,
however, some share of influence in giving the tone to public
moralities since their sphere of action has been a little widened,
and since a considerable number of them have occupied themselves
practically in the promotion of objects reaching beyond their
own family and household. The influence of women counts for a
great deal in two of the most marked features of modern European
life--its aversion to war, and its addiction to philanthropy.
Excellent characteristics both; but unhappily, if the influence
of women is valuable in the encouragement it gives to these feelings
in general, in the particular applications the direction it gives
to them is at least as often mischievous as useful. In the philanthropic
department more particularly, the two provinces chiefly cultivated
by women are religious proselytism and charity. Religious proselytism
at home, is but another word for embittering of religious animosities:
abroad, it is usually a blind running at an object, without either
knowing or heeding the fatal mischiefs--fatal to the religious
object itself as well as to all other desirable objects --which
may be produced by the means employed. As for charity, it is a
matter in which the immediate effect on the persons directly concerned,
and the ultimate consequence to the general good, are apt to be
at complete war with one another: while the education given to
women--an education of the sentiments rather than of the understanding--and
the habit inculcated by their whole life, of looking to immediate
effects on persons, and not to remote effects on classes of persons--
make them both unable to see, and unwilling to admit, the ultimate
evil tendency of any form of charity or philanthropy which commends
itself to their sympathetic feelings. The great and continually
increasing mass of unenlightened and shortsighted benevolence,
which, taking the care of people's lives out of their own hands,
and relieving them from the disagreeable consequences of their
own acts, saps the very foundations of the self-respect, self-help,
and self-control which are the essential conditions both of individual
prosperity and of social virtue-- this waste of resources and
of benevolent feelings in doing harm instead of good, is immensely
swelled by women's contributions, and stimulated by their influence.
Not that this is a mistake likely to be made by women, where they
have actually the practical management of schemes of beneficence.
It sometimes happens that women who administer public charities--with
that insight into present fact, and especially into the minds
and feelings of those with whom they are in immediate contact,
in which women generally excel men-- recognise in the clearest
manner the demoralising influence of the alms given or the help
afforded, and could give lessons on the subject to many a male
political economist. But women who only give their money, and
are not brought face to face with the effects it produces, how
can they be expected to foresee them ? A woman born to the present
lot of women, and content with it, how should she appreciate the
value of self-dependence ? She is not self-dependent; she is not
taught self-dependence; her destiny is to receive everything from
others, and why should what is good enough for her be bad for
the poor? Her familiar notions of good are of blessings descending
from a superior. She forgets that she is not free, and that the
poor are; that if what they need is given to them unearned, they
cannot be compelled to earn it: that everybody cannot be taken
care of by everybody, but there must be some motive to induce
people to take care of themselves; and that to be helped-to help
themselves, if they are physically capable of it, is the only
charity which proves to be charity in the end. These considerations
show how usefully the part which women take in the formation of
general opinion, would be modified for the better by that more
enlarged instruction, and practical conversancy with the things
which their opinions influence, that would necessarily arise from
their social and political emancipation. But the improvement it
would work through the influence they exercise, each in her own
family, would be still more remarkable. It is often said that
in the classes most exposed to temptation, a man's wife and children
tend to keep him honest and respectable, both by the wife's direct
influence, and by the concern he feels for their future welfare.
This may be so, and no doubt often is so, with those who are more
weak than wicked; and this beneficial influence would be preserved
and strengthened under equal laws; it does not depend on the woman's
servitude, but is, on the contrary, diminished by the disrespect
which the inferior class of men always at heart feel towards those
who are subject to their power. But when we ascend higher in the
scale, we come among a totally different set of moving forces.
The wife's influence tends, as far as it goes, to prevent the
husband from falling below the common standard of approbation
of the country. It tends quite as strongly to hinder him from
rising above it. The wife is the auxiliary of the common public
opinion. A man who is married to a woman his inferior in intelligence,
finds her a perpetual dead weight, or, worse than a dead weight,
a drag, upon every aspiration of his to be better than public
opinion requires him to be. It is hardly possible for one who
is in these bonds, to attain exalted virtue. If he differs in
his opinion from the mass--if he sees truths which have not yet
dawned upon them, or if, feeling in his heart truths which they
nominally recognise, he would like to act up to those truths more
conscientiously than the generality of mankind-- to all such thoughts
and desires, marriage is the heaviest of drawbacks, unless he
be so fortunate as to have a wife as much above the common level
as he himself is. For, in the first place, there is always some
sacrifice of personal interest required; either of social consequence,
or of pecuniary means; perhaps the risk of even the means of subsistence.
These sacrifices and risks he may be willing to encounter for
himself; but he will pause before he imposes them on his family.
And his family in this case means his wife and daughters; for
he always hopes that his sons will feel as he feels himself, and
that what he can do without, they will do without, willingly,
is the same cause. But his daughters- -their marriage may depend
upon it: and his wife, who is unable to enter into or understand
the objects for which these sacrifices are made-- who, if she
thought them worth any sacrifice, would think so on trust, and
solely for his sake--who could participate in none of the enthusiasm
or the self-approbation he himself may feel, while the things
which he is disposed to sacrifice are all in all to her; will
not the best and most unselfish man hesitate the longest before
bringing on her this consequence? If it be not the comforts of
life, but only social consideration, that is at stake, the burthen
upon his conscience and feelings is still very severe. Whoever
has a wife and children has given hostages to Mrs. Grundy. The
approbation of that potentate may be a matter of indifference
to him, but it is of great importance to his wife. The man himself
may be above opinion, or may find sufficient compensation in the
opinion of those of his own way of thinking. But to the women
connected with him, he can offer no compensation. The almost invariable
tendency of the wife to place her influence in the same scale
with social consideration, is sometimes made a reproach to women,
and represented as a peculiar trait of feebleness and childishness
of character in them: surely with great injustice. Society makes
the whole life of a woman, in the easy classes, a continued self
sacrifice; it exacts from her an unremitting restraint of the
whole of her natural inclinations, and the sole return it makes
to her for what often deserves the name of a martyrdom, is consideration.
Her consideration is inseparably connected with that of her husband,
and after paying the full price for it, she finds that she is
to lose it, for no reason of which she can feel the cogency. She
has sacrificed her whole life to it, and her husband will not
sacrifice to it a whim, a freak, an eccentricity; something not
recognised or allowed for by the world, and which the world will
agree with her in thinking a folly, if it thinks no worse ! The
dilemma is hardest upon that very meritorious class of men, who,
without possessing talents which qualify them to make a figure
among those with whom they agree in opinion, hold their opinion
from conviction, and feel bound in honour and conscience to serve
it, by making profession of their belief, and giving their time,
labour, and means, to anything undertaken in its behalf. The worst
case of all is when such men happen to be of a rank and position
which of itself neither gives them, nor excludes them from, what
is considered the best society; when their admission to it depends
mainly on what is thought of them personally--and however unexceptionable
their breeding and habits, their being identified with opinions
and public conduct unacceptable to those who give the tone to
society would operate as an effectual exclusion. Many a woman
flatters herself (nine times out of ten quite erroneously) that
nothing prevents her and her husband from moving in the highest
society of her neighbourhood--society in which others well known
to her, and in the same class of life, mix freely--except that
her husband is unfortunately a Dissenter, or has the reputation
of mingling in low radical politics. That it is, she thinks, which
hinders George from getting a commission or a place, Caroline
from making an advantageous match, and prevents her and her husband
from obtaining invitations, perhaps honours, which, for aught
she sees, they are as well entitled to as some folks. With such
an influence in every house, either exerted actively, or operating
all the more powerfully for not being asserted, is it any wonder
that people in \general are kept down in that mediocrity of respectability
which is becoming a marked characteristic of modern times? There
is another very injurious aspect in which the effect, not of women's
disabilities directly, but of the broad line of difference which
those disabilities create between the education and character
of a woman and that of a man, requires to be considered. Nothing
can be more unfavourable to that union of thoughts and inclinations
which is the ideal of married life. Intimate society between people
radically dissimilar to one another, is an idle dream. .Unlikeness
may attract, but it is likeness which retains; and in proportion
to the likeness is the suitability of the individuals to give
each other a happy life. While women are so unlike men, it is
not wonderful that selfish men should feel the need of arbitrary
power in their own hands, to arrest in limine the life-long conflict
of inclinations, by deciding every question on the side of their
own preference. When people are extremely unlike, there can be
no real identity of interest. Very often there is conscientious
difference of opinion between married people, on the highest points
of duty. Is there any reality in the marriage union where this
takes place? Yet it is not uncommon anywhere, when the woman has
any earnestness of character; and it is a very general case indeed
in Catholic countries, when she is supported in her dissent by
the only other authority to which she is taught to bow, the priest.
With the usual barefacedness of power not accustomed to find itself
disputed, the influence of priests over women is attacked by Protestant
and Liberal writers, less for being bad in itself, than because
it is a rival authority to the husband, and raises up a revolt
against his infallibility. In England, similar differences occasionally
exist when an Evangelical wife has allied herself with a husband
of a different quality; but in general this source at least of
dissension is got rid of, by reducing the minds of women to such
a nullity, that they have no opinions but those of Mrs. Grundy,
or those which the husband tells them to have. When there is no
difference of opinion, differences merely of taste may be sufficient
to detract greatly from the happiness of married life. And though
it may stimulate the amatory propensities of men, it does not
conduce to married happiness, to exaggerate by differences of
education whatever may be the native differences of the sexes.
If the married pair are well-bred and well-behaved people, they
tolerate each other's tastes; but is mutual toleration what people
look forward to, when they enter into marriage? These differences
of inclination will naturally make their wishes different, if
not restrained by affection or duty, as to almost all domestic
questions which arise. What a difference there must be in the
society which the two persons will wish to frequent, or be frequented
by ! Each will desire associates who share their own tastes: the
persons agreeable to one, will be indifferent or positively disagreeable
to the other; yet there can be none who are not common to both,
for married people do not now live in different parts of the house
and have totally different visiting lists, as in the reign of
Louis XV. They cannot help having different wishes as to the bringing
up of the children: each wi]l wish to see reproduced in them their
own tastes and sentiments: and there is either a compromise, and
only a half satisfaction to either, or the wife has to yield--often
with bitter suffering; and, with or without intention, her occult
influence continues to counterwork the husband's purposes. It
would of course be extreme folly to suppose that these differences
of feeling and inclination only exist because women are brought
up differently from men, and that there would not be differences
of taste under any imaginable circumstances. But there is nothing
beyond the mark in saying that the distinction in bringing up
immensely aggravates those differences, and renders them wholly
inevitable. While women are brought up as they are, a man and
a woman will but rarely find in one another real agreement of
tastes and wishes as to daily life. They will generally have to
give it up as hopeless, and renounce the attempt to have, in the
intimate associate of their daily life, that idem velle, idem
nolle, which is the recognised bond of any society that is really
such: or if the man succeeds in obtaining it, he does so by choosing
a woman who is so complete a nullity that she has no velle or
nolle at all, and is as ready to comply with one thing as another
if anybody tells her to do so. Even this calculation is apt to
fail; dullness and want of spirit are not always a guarantee of
the submission which is so confidently expected from them. But
if they were, is this the ideal of marriage ? What, in this case,
does the man obtain by it, except an upper servant, a nurse, or
a mistress? on the contrary, when each of two persons, instead
of being a nothing, is a something; when they are attached to
one another, and are not too much unlike to begin with; the constant
partaking in the same things, assisted by their sympathy, draws
out the latent capacities of each for being interested in the
things which were at first interesting only to the other; and
works a gradual assimilation of the tastes and characters to one
another, partly by the insensible modification of each, but more
by a real enriching of the two natures, each acquiring the tastes
and capacities of the other in addition to its own. This often
happens between two friends of the same sex, who are much associated
in their daily life: and it would be a common, if not the commonest,
case in marriage, did not the totally different bringing up of
the two sexes make it next to an impossibility to form a really
well-assorted union. Were this remedied, whatever differences
there might still be in individual tastes, there would at least
be, as a general rule, complete unity and unanimity as to the
great objects of life. When the two persons both care for great
objects, and are a help and encouragement to each other in whatever
regards these, the minor matters on which their tastes may differ
are not all-important to them; and there is a foundation for solid
friendship, of an enduring character, more likely than anything
else t~ make it, through the whole of life, a greater pleasure
to each to give pleasure to the other, than to receive it. I
have considered, thus far, the effects on the pleasures and benefits
of the marriage union which depend on the mere unlikeness between
the wife and the husband: but the evil tendency is prodigiously
aggravated when the unlikeness is inferiority. Mere unlikeness,
when it only means difference of good qualities, may be more a
benefit in the way of mutual improvement, than a drawback from
comfort. When each emulates, and desires and endeavours to acquire,
the other's peculiar qualities the difference does not produce
diversity of interest, but increased identity of it, and makes
each still more valuable to the other. But when one is much the
inferior of the to in mental ability and cultivation, and is not
actively attempting by the other's aid to rise to the other's
level, the whole influence of the connexion upon the development
of the superior of the two is deteriorating: and still more so
in a tolerably happy marriage than in an unhappy one. It is not
with impunity that the superior in intellect shuts himself up
with an inferior, and elects that inferior for his chosen, and
sole completely intimate, associate. Any society which is not
improving is deteriorating: and the more so, the closer and more
familiar it is. Even a really superior man almost always begins
to deteriorate when he is habitually (as the phrase is) king of
his company: and in his most habitual company the husband who
has a wife inferior to him is always so. While his self-satisfaction
is incessantly ministered to on the one hand, on the other he
insensibly imbibes the modes of feeling, and of looking at things,
which belong to a more vulgar or a more limited mind than his
own. This evil differs from many of those which have hitherto
been dwelt on, by being an increasing one. The association of
men with women in daily life is much closer and more complete
than it ever was before. Men's life is more domestic. Formerly,
their pleasures and chosen occupations were among men, and in
men's company: their wives had but a fragment of their lives.
At the present time, the progress of civilisation, and the turn
of opinion against the rough amusements and convivial excesses
which formerly occupied most men in their hours of relaxation--
together with (it must be said) the improved tone of modern feeling
as to the reciprocity of duty which binds the husband towards
the wife--have thrown the man very much more upon home and its
inmates, for his personal and social pleasures: while the kind
and degree of improvement which has been made in women's education,
has made them in some degree capable of being his companions in
ideas and mental taste, while leaving them, in most cases, still
hopelessly inferior to him. His desire of mental communion is
thus in general satisfied by a communion from which he learns
nothing. An unimproving and unstimulating companionship is substituted
for (what he might otherwise have been obliged to seek) the society
of his equals in powers and his fellows in the higher pursuits.
We see, accordingly, that young men of the greatest promise generally
cease to improve as soon as they marry, and, not improving, inevitably
degenerate. If the wife does not push the husband forward, she
always holds him back. He ceases to care for what she does not
care for; he no longer desires, and ends by disliking and shunning,
society congenial to his former aspirations, and which would now
shame his falling-off from them; his higher faculties both of
mind and heart cease to be called into activity. And this change
coinciding with the new and selfish interests which are created
by the family, after a few years he differs in no material respect
from those who have never had wishes for anything but the common
vanities and the common pecuniary objects. What marriage may
be in the case of two persons of cultivated faculties, identical
in opinions and purposes, between whom there exists that best
kind of equality, similarity of powers and capacities with reciprocal
superiority in them--so that each can enjoy the luxury of looking
up to the other, and can have alternately the pleasure of leading
and of being led in the path of development--I will not attempt
to describe. To those who can conceive it, there is no need; to
those who cannot, it would appear the dream of an enthusiast.
But I maintain, with the profoundest conviction, that this, and
this only, is the ideal of marriage; and that all opinions, customs,
and institutions which favour any other notion of it, or turn
the conceptions and aspirations connected with it into any other
direction, by whatever pretences they may be coloured, are relics
of primitive barbarism. The moral regeneration of mankind will
only really commence, when the most fundamental of the social
relations is placed under the rule of equal justice, and when
human beings learn to cultivate their strongest sympathy with
an equal in nights and in cultivation. Thus far, the benefits
which it has appeared that the world would gain by ceasing to
make sex a disqualification for privileges and a badge of subjection,
are social rather than individual; consisting in an increase of
the general fund of thinking and acting power, and an improvement
in the general conditions of the association of men with women.
But it would be a grievous understatement of the case to omit
the most direct benefit of all, the unspeakable gain in private
happiness to the liberated half of the species; the difference
to them between a life of subjection to the will of others, and
a life of rational freedom. After the primary necessities of food
and raiment, freedom is the first and strongest want of human
nature. While mankind are lawless, their desire is for lawless
freedom. When they have learnt to understand the meaning of duty
and the value of reason, they incline more and more to be guided
and restrained by these in the exercise of their freedom; but
they do not therefore desire freedom less; they do not become
disposed to accept the will of other people as the representative
and interpreter of those guiding principles. on the contrary,
the communities in which the reason has been most cultivated,
and in which the idea of social duty has been most powerful, are
those which have most strongly asserted the freedom of action
of the individual--the liberty of each to govern his conduct by
his own feelings of duty, and by such laws and social restraints
as his own conscience can subscribe to. He who would rightly
appreciate the worth of personal independence as an element of
happiness, should consider the value he himself puts upon it as
an ingredient of his own. There is no subject on which there is
a greater habitual difference of judgment between a man judging
for himself, and the same man judging for other people. When he
hears others complaining that they are not allowed freedom of
action--that their own will has not sufficient influence in the
regulation of their affairs--his inclination is, to ask, what
are their grievances ? what positive damage they sustain? and
in what respect they consider their affairs to be mismanaged ?
and if they fail to make out, in answer to these questions, what
appears to him a sufficient case, he turns a deaf ear, and regards
their complaint as the fanciful querulousness of people whom nothing
reasonable will satisfy. But he has a quite different standard
of judgment when he is deciding for himself. Then, the most unexceptionable
administration of his interests by a tutor set over him, does
not satisfy his feelings: his personal exclusion from the deciding
authority appears itself the greatest grievance of all, rendering
it superfluous even to enter into the question of mismanagement.
It is the same with nations. What citizen of a free country would
listen to any offers of good and skilful administration, in return
for the abdication of freedom? Even if he could believe that good
and skilful administration can exist among a people ruled by a
will not their own, would not the consciousness of working out
their own destiny under their own moral responsibility be a compensation
to his feelings for great rudeness and imperfection in the details
of public affairs ? Let him rest assured that whatever he feels
on this point, women feel in a fully equal degree. Whatever has
been said or written, from the time of Herodotus to the present,
of the ennobling influence of free government--the nerve and spring
which it gives to all the faculties, the larger and higher objects
which it presents to the intellect and feelings, the more unselfish
public spirit, and calmer and broader views of duty, that it engenders,
and the generally loftier platform on which it elevates the individual
as a moral, spiritual, and social being--is every particle as
true of women as of men. Are these things no important part of
individual happiness ? Let any man call to mind what he himself
felt on emerging from boyhood--from the tutelage and control of
even loved and affectionate elders--and entering upon the responsibilities
of manhood. Was it not like the physical effect of taking off
a heavy weight, or releasing him from obstructive, even if not
otherwise painful, bonds? Did he not feel twice as much alive,
twice as much a human being, as before ? And does he imagine that
women have none of these feelings? But it is a striking fact,
that the satisfactions and mortifications of personal pride, though
all in all to most men when the case is their own, have less allowance
made for them in the case of other people, and are less listened
to as a ground or a justification of conduct, than any other natural
human feelings; perhaps because men compliment them in their own
case with the names of so many other qualities, that they are
seldom conscious how mighty an influence these feelings exercise
in their own lives. No less large and powerful is their part,
we may assure ourselves, in the lives and feelings of women. Women
are schooled into suppressing them in their most natural and most
healthy direction, but the internal principle remains, in a different
outward form. An active and energetic mind, if denied liberty,
will seek for power: refused the command of itself, it will assert
its personality by attempting to control others. To allow to any
human beings no existence of their own but what depends on others,
is giving far too high B premium on bending others to their purposes.
Where liberty cannot be hoped for, and power can, power becomes
the grand object of human desire; those to whom others will not
leave the undisturbed management of their own affairs, will compensate
themselves, if they can, by meddling for their own purposes with
the affairs of others. Hence also women's passion for personal
beauty, and dress and display; and all the evils that flow from
it, in the way of mischievous luxury and social immorality. The
love of power and the love of liberty are in eternal antagonism.
Where there is least liberty, the passion for power is the most
ardent and unscrupulous. The desire of power over others can only
cease to be a depraving agency among mankind, when each of them
individually is able to do without it: which can only be where
respect for liberty in the personal concerns of each is an established
principle. But it is not only through the sentiment of personal
dignity, that the free direction and disposal of their own faculties
is a source of individual happiness, and to be fettered and restricted
in it, a source of unhappiness, to human beings, and not least
to women. There is nothing, after disease, indigence, and guilt,
so fatal to the pleasurable enjoyment of life as the want o~ a
worthy outlet for the active faculties. Women who have the cares
of a family, and while they have the cares of a family, have this
outlet, and it generally suffices for them: but what of the greatly
increasing number of women, who have had no opportunity of exercising
the vocation which they are mocked by telling them is their proper
one? What of the women whose children have been lost to them by
death or distance, or have grown up, married, and formed homes
of their own? There are abundant examples of men who, after a
life engrossed by business, retire with a competency to the enjoyment,
as they hope, of rest, but to whom, as they are unable to acquire
new interests and excitements that can replace the old, the change
to a life of inactivity brings ennui, melancholy, and premature
death. Yet no one thinks of the parallel case of so many worthy
and devoted women, who, having paid what they are told is their
debt to society--having brought up a family blamelessly to manhood
and womanhood--having kept a house as long as they had a house
needing to be kept--are deserted by the sole occupation for which
they have fitted themselves; and remain with undiminished activity
but with no employment for it, unless perhaps a daughter or daughter-in-law
is willing to abdicate in their favour the discharge of the same
functions in her younger household. Surely a hard lot for the
old age of those who have worthily discharged, as long as it was
given to them to discharge, what the world accounts their only
social duty. Of such women, and of those others to whom this duty
has not been committed at all--many of whom pine through life
with the consciousness of thwarted vocations, and activities which
are not suffered to expand--the only resources, speaking generally,
are religion and charity. But their religion, though it may be
one of feeling, and of ceremonial observance, cannot be a religion
of action, unless in the form of charity. For charity many of
them are by nature admirably fitted; but to practise it usefully,
or even without doing mischief, requires the education, the manifold
preparation, the knowledge and the thinking powers, of a skilful
administrator. There are few of the administrative functions of
government for which a person would not be fit, who is fit to
bestow charity usefully. In this as in other cases (pre-eminently
in that of the education of children), the duties permitted to
women cannot be performed properly, without their being trained
for duties which, to the great loss of society, are not permitted
to them. And here let me notice the singular way in which the
question of women's disabilities is frequently presented to view,
by those who find it easier to draw a ludicrous picture of what
they do not like, than to answer the arguments for it. When it
is suggested that women's executive capacities and prudent counsels
might sometimes be found valuable in affairs of State, these lovers
of fun hold up to the ridicule of the world, as sitting in Parliament
or in the Cabinet, girls in their teens, or young wives of two
or three and twenty, transported bodily, exactly as they are,
from the drawing-room to the House of Commons. They forget that
males are not usually selected at this early age for a seat in
Parliament, or for responsible political functions. Common sense
would tell them that if such trusts were confided to women, it
would be to such as having no special vocation for married life,
or preferring another employment of their faculties (as many women
even now prefer to marriage some of the few honourable occupations
within their reach), have spent the best years of their youth
in attempting to qualify themselves for the pursuits in which
they desire to engage; or still more frequently perhaps, widows
or wives of forty or fifty, by whom the know- ledge of life and
faculty of government which they have acquired in their families,
could by the aid of appropriate studies be made available on a
less contracted scale. There is no country of Europe in which
the ablest men have not frequently experienced, and keenly appreciated,
the value of the advice and help of clever and experienced women
of the world, in the attainment both of private and of public
objects; and there are important matters of public administration
to which few men are equally competent with such women; among
others, the detailed control of expenditure. But what we are now
discussing is not the need which society has of the services of
women in public business, but the dull and hopeless life to which
it so often condemns them, by forbidding them to exercise the
practical abilities which many of them are conscious of, in any
wider field than one which to some of them never was, and to others
is no longer, open. If there is anything vitally important to
the happiness of human beings, it is that they should relish their
habitual pursuit. This requisite of an enjoyable life is very
imperfectly granted, or altogether denied, to a large part of
mankind; and by its absence many a life is a failure, which is
provided, in appearance, with every requisite of success. But
if circumstances which society is not yet skilful enough to overcome,
render such failures often for the present inevitable, society
need not itself inflict them. The injudiciousness of parents,
a youth's own inexperience, or the absence of external opportunities
for the congenial vocation, and their presence for an uncongenial,
condemn numbers of men to pass their lives in doing one thing
reluctantly and ill, when there are other things which they could
have done well and happily. But on women this sentence is imposed
by actual law, and by customs equivalent to law. What, in unenlightened
societies, colour, race, religion, or in the case of a conquered
country, nationality, are to some men, sex is to all women; a
peremptory exclusion from almost all honourable occupations, but
either such as cannot be fulfilled by others, or such as those
others do not think worthy of their acceptance. Sufferings arising
from causes of this nature usually meet with so little sympathy,
that few persons are aware of the great amount of unhappiness
even now produced by the feeling of a wasted life. The case will
be even more frequent, as increased cultivation creates a greater
and greater disproportion between the ideas and faculties- of
women, and the scope which society allows to their activity.
When we consider the positive evil caused to the disqualified
half of the human race by their disqualification--first in the
loss of the most inspiriting and elevating kind of personal enjoyment,
and next in the weariness, disappointment, and profound dissatisfaction
with life, which are so often the substitute for it; one feels
that among all the lessons which men require for carrying on the
struggle against the inevitable imperfections of their lot on
earth, there is no lesson which they more need, than not to add
to the evils which nature inflicts, by their jealous and prejudiced
restrictions on one another. Their vain fears only substitute
other and worse evils for those which they are idly apprehensive
of: while every restraint on the freedom of conduct of any of
their human fellow-creatures (otherwise than by making them responsible
for any evil actually caused by it), dries up pro tanto the principal
fountain of human happiness, and leaves the species less rich,
to an inappreciable degree, in all that makes life valuable to
the individual human being.
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