Modern History Sourcebook:
Mary Woolstonecraft:
A Vindication of the Rights of Women
AUTHOR'S INTRODUCTION
After considering the historic page, and viewing the living world
with anxious solicitude, the most melancholy emotions of sorrowful
indignation have depressed my spirits, and I have sighed when
obliged to confess that either Nature has made a great difference
between man and man, or that the civilisation which has hitherto
taken place in the world has been very partial. I have turned
over various books written on the subject of education, and patiently
observed the conduct of parents and the management of schools;
but what has been the result?--a profound conviction that the
neglected education of my fellow-creatures is the grand source
of the misery I deplore, and that women, in particular, are rendered
weak and wretched by a variety of concurring causes, originating
from one hasty conclusion. The conduct and manners of women, in
fact, evidently prove that their minds are not in a healthy state;
for, like the flowers which are planted in too rich a soil, strength
and usefulness are sacrificed to beauty; and the flaunting leaves,
after having pleased a fastidious eye, fade, disregarded on the
stalk, long before the season when they ought to have arrived
at maturity. One cause of this barren blooming I attribute to
a false system of education, gathered from the books written on
this subject by men who, considering females rather as women than
human creatures, have been more anxious to make them alluring
mistresses than affectionate wives and rational mothers; and the
understanding of the sex has been so bubbled by this specious
homage, that the civilised women of the present century, with
a few exceptions, are only anxious to inspire love, when they
ought to cherish a nobler ambition, and by their abilities and
virtues exact respect.
In a treatise, therefore, on female rights and manners, the works
which have been particularly written for their improvement must
not be overlooked, especially when it is asserted, in direct terms,
that the minds of women are enfeebled by false refinement; that
the books of instruction, written by men of genius, have had the
same tendency as more frivolous productions; and that, in the
true style of Mahometanism, they are treated as a kind of subordinate
beings, and not as a part of the human species, when improvable
reason is allowed to be the dignified distinction which raises
men above the brute creation, and puts a natural sceptre in a
feeble hand.
Yet, because I am a woman, I would not lead my readers to suppose
that I mean violently to agitate the contested question respecting
the quality or inferiority of the sex; but as the subject lies
in my way, and I cannot pass it over without subjecting the main
tendency of my reasoning to misconstruction, I shall stop a moment
to deliver, in a few words, my opinion. In the government of the
physical world it is observable that the female in point of strength
is, in general, inferior to the male. This is the law of Nature;
and it does not appear to be suspended or abrogated in favour
of woman. A degree of physical superiority cannot, therefore,
be denied, and it is a noble prerogative! But not content with
this natural preeminence, men endeavour to sink us still lower,
merely to render us alluring objects for a moment; and women,
intoxicated by the adoration which men, under the influence of
their senses, pay them, do not seek to obtain a durable interest
in their hearts, or to become the friends of the fellow-creatures
who find amusement in their society.
I am aware of an obvious inference. From every quarter have I
heard exclamations against masculine women, but where are they
to be found? If by this appellation men mean to inveigh against,
their ardour in hunting, shooting, and gaming, I shall most cordially
join in the cry; but if it be against the imitation of manly virtues,
or, more properly speaking, the attainment of those talents and
virtues, the exercise of which ennobles the human character, and
which raises females in the scale of animal being, when they are
comprehensively termed mankind, all those who view them with a
philosophic eye must, I should think, wish with me, that they
may every day grow more and more masculine.
This discussion naturally divides the subject. I shall first consider
women in the gland light of human creatures, who in common with
men, are placed on this earth to unfold their faculties; and afterwards
I shall more particularly point out their peculiar designation.
I wish also to steer clear of an error which many respectable
writers have fallen into; for the instruction which has hitherto
been addressed to women, has rather been applicable to ladies,
if the little indirect advice that is scattered through "Sandford
and Merton" be excepted; but, addressing my sex in a firmer
tone, I pay particular attention to those in the middle class,
because they appear to be in the most natural state. Perhaps the
seeds of false refinement, immorality, and vanity, have ever been
shed by the great. Weak, artificial beings, raised above the common
wants and affections of their race, in a premature unnatural manner,
undermine the very foundation of virtue, and spread corruption
through the whole mass of society! As a class of mankind they
have the strongest claim to pity; the education of the rich tends
to render them vain and helpless, and the unfolding mind is not
strengthened by the practice of those duties which dignify the
human character. They only live to amuse themselves, and by the
same law which in Nature invariably produces certain effects,
they soon only afford barren amusement.
But as I purpose taking a separate view of the different ranks
of society, and of the moral character of women in each, this
hint is for the present sufficient; and I have only alluded to
the subject because it appears to me to be the very essence of
an introduction to give a cursory account of the contents of the
work it introduces.
My own sex, I hope, will excuse me, if I treat them like rational
creatures, instead of flattering their fascinating graces, and
viewing them as if they were in a state of perpetual childhood,
unable to stand alone. I earnestly wish to point out in what true
dignity and human happiness consists. I wish to persuade women
to endeavour to acquire strength, both of mind and body, and to
convince them that the soft phrases, susceptibility of heart,
delicacy of sentiment, and refinement of taste, are almost synonymous
with epithets of weakness, and that those beings who are only
the objects of pity, and that kind of love which has been termed
its sister, will soon become objects of contempt.
Dismissing, then, those pretty feminine phrases, which the men
condescendingly use to soften our slavish dependence, and despising
that weak elegancy of mind, exquisite sensibility, and sweet docility
of manners, supposed to be the sexual characteristics of the weaker
vessel, I wish to show that elegance is inferior to virtue, that
the first object of laudable ambition is to obtain a character
as a hurnan being, regardless of the distinction of sex, and that
secondary views should be brought to this simple touchstone.
This is a rough sketch of my plan; and should I express my conviction
with the energetic emotions that I feel whenever I think of the
subject, the dictates of experience and reflection will be felt
by some of my readers. Animated by this important object, I shall
disdain to cull my phrases or polish my style. I aim at being
useful, and sincerity will render me unaffected; for, wishing
rather to persuade by the force of my arguments than dazzle by
the elegance of my language, I shall not waste my time in rounding
periods, or in fabricating the turgid bombast of artificial feelings,
which, coming from the head, never reach the heart. I shall be
employed about things, not words! and, anxious to render my sex
more respectable members of society, I shall try to avoid that
flowery diction which has slided from essays into novels, and
from novels into familiar letters and conversation.
These pretty superlatives, dropping glibly from the tongue, vitiate
the taste, and create a kind of sickly delicacy that turns away
from simple unadorned truth; and a deluge of false sentiments
and overstretched feelings, stifling the natural emotions of the
heart, render the domestic pleasures insipid, that ought to sweeten
the exercise of those severe duties, which educate a rational
and immortal being for a nobler field of action.
The education of women has of late been more attended to than
formerly; yet they are still reckoned a frivolous sex, and ridiculed
or pitied by the writers who endeavour by satire or instruction
to improve them. It is acknowledged that they spend many of the
first years of their lives in acquiring a smattering of accomplishments;
meanwhile strength of body and mind are sacrificed to libertine
notions of beauty, to the desire of establishing themselves--the
only way women can nse in the world--by marriage. And this desire
making mere animals of them, when they marry they act as such
children may be expected to act,--they dress, they paint, and
nickname God's creatures. Surely these weak beings are only fit
for a seraglio! Can they be expected to govern a family with judgment,
or take care of the poor babes whom they bring into the world?
If, then, it can be fairly deduced from the present conduct of
the sex, from the prevalent fondness for pleasure which takes
place of ambition and those nobler passions that open and enlarge
the soul, that the instruction which women have hitherto received
has only tended, with the constitution of civil society, to render
them insignificant objects of desire -mere propagators of fools!
-if it can be proved that in aiming to accomplish them, without
cultivating their understandings, they are taken out of their
sphere of duties, and made ridiculous and useless when the short-lived
bloom of beauty is over,[1] I presume that rational men will excuse
me for endeavouring to persuade them to become more masculine
and respectable.
Indeed the word masculine is only a bugbear; there is little reason
to fear that women will acquire too much courage or fortitude,
for their apparent inferiority with respect to bodily strength
must render them in some degree dependent on men in the various
relations of life; but why should it be increased by prejudices
that give a sex to virtue, and confound simple truths with sensual
reveries?
Women are, in fact, so much degraded by mistaken notions of female
excellence, that I do not mean to add a paradox when I assert
that this artificial weakness produces a propensity to tyrannise,
and gives birth to cunning, the natural opponent of strength,
which leads them to play off those contemptible infantile airs
that undermine esteem even whilst they excite desire. Let men
become more chaste and modest, and if women do not grow wiser
in the same ratio, it will be clear that they have weaker understandings.
It seems scarcely necessary to say that I now speak of the sex
in general. Many individuals have more sense than their male relatives;
and, as nothing preponderates where there is a constant struggle
for an equilibrium without it has naturally more gravity, some
women govern their husbands without degrading themselves, because
intellect will always govern.
NOTES
[1] A lively writer (I cannot recollect his name) asks what business
women turned of forty have to do in the world?
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TO M. TALLEYRAND-PERIGORD Late Bishop of Autun
SIR,--Having read with great pleasure a pamphlet which you have
lately published, I dedicate this volume to you--the first dedication
that I have ever written, to induce you to read it with attention;
and, because I think that you will understand me, which I do not
suppose many pert witlings will, who may ridicule the arguments
they are unable to answer. But, sir I carry my respect for your
understanding still farther; so far that I am confident you will
not throw my work aside, and hastily conclude that I am in the
wrong, because you did not view the subject in the same light
yourself. And, pardon my frankness, but I must observe, that you
treated it in too cursory a manner, contented to consider it as
it had been considered formerly, when the rights of man, not to
advert to woman, were trampled on as chimerical--I call upon you,
therefore, now to weigh what I have advanced respecting the rights
of woman and national education; and I call with the firm tone
of humanity, for my arguments, sir, are dictated by a disinterested
spirit--I plead for my sex, not for myself. Independence I have
long considered as the grand blessing of life, the basis of every
virtue; and independence I will ever secure by contracting my
wants, though I were to live on a barren heath.
It is then an affection for the whole human race that makes my
pen dart rapidly along to support what I believe to be the cause
of virtue; and the same motive leads me earnestly to wish to see
woman placed in a station in which she would advance, instead
of retarding, the progress of those glorious principles that give
a substance to morality. My opinion, indeed, respecting the rights
and duties of woman seems to flow so naturally from these simple
principles, that I think it scarcely possible but that some of
the enlarged minds who formed your admirable constitution will
coincide with me.
In France there is undoubtedly a more general diffusion of knowledge
than in any part of the European world, and I attribute it, in
a great measure, to the social intercourse which has long subsisted
between the sexes. It is true--I utter my sentiments with freedom--that
in France the very essence of sensuality has been extracted to
regale the voluptuary, and a kind of sentimental lust has prevailed,
which, together with the system of duplicity that the whole tenor
of their political and civil government taught, have given a sinister
sort of sagacity to the French character, properly termed finesse,
from which naturally flow a polish of manners that injures the
substance by hunting sincerity out of society. And modesty, the
fairest garb of virtue! has been more-grossly insulted in France
than even in England, till their women have treated as prudish
that attention to decency which brutes instinctively observe.
Manners and morals are so nearly allied that they have often been
confounded; but, though the former should only be the natural
reflection of the latter, yet, when various causes have produced
factitious and corrupt manners, which are very early caught, morality
becomes an empty name. The personal reserve, and sacred respect
for cleanliness and delicacy in domestic life, which French women
almost despise, are the graceful pillars of modesty; but, far
from despising them, if the pure flame of patriotism have reached
their bosoms, they should labour to improve the morals of their
fellow-citizens, by teaching men, not only to respect modesty
in women, but to acquire it themselves, as the only way to merit
their esteem.
Contending for the rights of woman, my main argument is built
on this simple principle, that if she be not prepared by education
to become the companion of man, she will stop the progress of
knowledge and virtue; for truth must be common to all, or it will
be inefficacious with respect to its influence on general practice.
And how can woman be expected to co-operate unless she knows why
she ought to be virtuous? unless freedom strengthens her reason
till she comprehends her duty, and see in what manner it is connected
with her real good. If children are to be educated to understand
the true principle of patriotism, their mother must be a patriot;
and the love of mankind, from which an orderly train of virtues
spring, can only be produced by considering the moral and civil
interest of mankind; but the education and situation of woman
at present shuts her out from such investigations.
In this work I have produced many arguments, which to me were
conclusive, to prove that the prevailing notion respecting a sexual
character was subversive of morality, and I have contended, that
to render the human body and mind more perfect, chastity must
more universally prevail, and that chastity will never be respected
in the male world till the person of a woman is not, as it were,
idolised, when little virtue or sense embellish it with the grand
traces of mental beauty, or the interesting simplicity of affection.
Consider, sir, dispassionately these observations, for a glimpse
of this truth seemed to open before you when you observed, "that
to see one-half of the human race excluded by the other from all
participation of government was a political phenomenon that, according
to abstract principles, it was impossible to explain." If
so, on what does your constitution rest? If the abstract rights
of man will bear discussion and explanation, those of woman, by
a parity of reasoning, will not shrink from the same test; though
a different opinion prevails in this country, built on the very
arguments which you use to justify the oppression of woman--prescription.
Consider--I address you as a legislator--whether, when men contend
for their freedom, and to be allowed to judge for themselves respecting
their own happiness, it be not inconsistent and unjust to subjugate
women, even though you firmly believe that you are acting in the
manner best calculated to promote their happiness ? Who made man
the exclusive judge, if woman partake with him of the gift of
reason?
In this style argue tyrants of every denomination, from the weak
king to the weak father of a family; they are all eager to crush
reason, yet always assert that they usurp its throne only to be
useful. Do you not act a similar part when you force all women,
by denying them civil and political rights, to remain immured
in their families groping in the dark? for surely, sir, you will
not assert that a duty can be binding which is not founded on
reason? If, indeed, this be their destination, arguments may be
drawn from reason; and thus augustly supported, the more understanding
women acquire, the more they will be attached to their duty--comprehending
it--for unless they comprehend it, unless their morals be fixed
on the same immutable principle as those of man, no authority
can make them discharge it in a virtuous manner. They may be convenient
slaves, but slavery will have its constant effect, degrading the
master and the abject dependent.
But if women are to be excluded, without having a voice, from
ù participation of the natural rights of mankind, prove
first, to ward off the charge of injustice and inconsistency,
that they want reason, else this flaw in your NEW CONSTITUTION
will ever show that man must, in some shape, act like a tyrant,
and tyranny, in whatever part of society it rears its brazen front,
will ever undermine morality.
I have repeatedly asserted, and produced what appeared to me irrefragable
arguments drawn from matters of fact to prove my assertion, that
women cannot by force be confined to domestic concerns; for they
will, however ignorant, intermeddle with more weighty affairs,
neglecting private duties only to disturb, by cunning tricks,
the orderly plans of reason which rise above their comprehension.
Besides, whilst they are only made to acquire personal accomplishments,
men will seek for pleasure in variety, and faithless husbands
will make faithless wives; such ignorant beings, indeed, will
be very excusable when, not taught to respect public good, nor
allowed any civil rights, they attempt to do themselves justice
by retaliation.
The box of mischief thus opened in society, what is to preserve
private virtue, the only security of public freedom and universal
happiness?
Let there be then no coercion established in society, and the
common law of gravity prevailing, the sexes will fall into their
proper places. And now that more equitable laws are forming your
citizens, marriage may become more sacred; your young men may
choose wives from motives of affection, and your maidens allow
love to root out vanity.
The father of a family will not then weaken his constitution and
debase his sentiments by visiting the harlot, nor forget, in obeying
the call of appetite, the purpose for which it was implanted.
And the mother will not neglect her children to practise the arts
of coquetry, when sense and modesty secure her the friendship
of her husband.
But, till men become attentive to the duty of a father, it is
vain to expect women to spend that time in their nursery which
they, " wise in their generation," choose to spend at
their glass; for this exertion of cunning is only an instinct
of nature to enable them to obtain indirectly a little of that
power of which they are unjustly denied a share; for, if women
are not permitted to enjoy legitimate rights, they will render
both men and themselves vicious to obtain illicit privileges.
I wish, sir, to set some investigations of this kind afloat in
France; and should they lead to a confirmation of my principles
when your constitution is revised, the Rights of Woman may be
respected, if it be fully proved that reason calls for this respect,
and loudly demands JUSTICE for one-half of the human race.
I am, Sir,
Yours respectfully,
M. W.
A VINDICATION OF THE RIGHTS OF WOMAN
BY
MARY WOLLSTONECRAFT
NOTE
When I began to write this work, I divided it into three parts,
supposing that one volume would contain a full discussion of the
arguments which seemed to me to rise naturally from a few simple
principles; but fresh illustrations occurring as I advanced, I
now present only the first part to the public.
Many subjects, however, which I have cursorily alluded to, call
for particular investigation, especially the laws relative to
women, and the consideration of their peculiar duties. These will
furnish ample matter for a second volume, which in due time will
be published, to elucidate some of the sentiments and complete
many of the sketches begun in the first.
CHAPTER I
THE RIGHTS AND INVOLVED DUTIES OF MANKIND CONSIDERED
In the present state of society it appears necessary to go back
to first principles in search of the most simple truths, and to
dispute with some prevailing prejudice every inch of ground. To
clear my way, I must be allowed to ask some plain questions, and
the answers will probably appear as unequivocal as the axioms
on which reasoning is built; though, when entangled with various
motives of action, they are formally contradicted, either by the
words or conduct of men.
In what does man's pre-eminence over the brute creation consist?
The answer is as clear as that a half is less than the whole,
in Reason.
What acquirement exalts one being above another? Virtue, we spontaneously
reply.
For what purpose were the passions implanted? That man by struggling
with them might attain a degree of knowledge denied to the brutes,
whispers Experience.
Consequently the perfection of our nature and capability of happiness
must be estimated by the degree of reason, virtue, and knowledge,
that distinguish the individual, and direct the laws which bind
society: and that from the exercise of reason, knowledge and virtue
naturally flow, is equally undeniable, if mankind be viewed collectively.
The rights and duties of man thus simplified, it seems almost
impertinent to attempt to illustrate truths that appear so incontrovertible;
yet such deeply rooted prejudices have clouded reason, and such
spurious qualities have assumed the name of virtues, that it is
necessary to pursue the course of reason as it has been perplexed
and involved in error, by various adventitious circumstances,
comparing the simple axiom with casual deviations.
Men, in general, seem to employ their reason to justify prejudices,
which they have imbibed, they can scarcely trace how, rather than
to root them out. The mind must be strong that resolutely forms
its own principles; for a kind of intellectual cowardice prevails
which makes many men shrink from the task, or only do it by halves.
Yet the imperfect conclusions thus drawn, are frequently very
plausible, because they are built on partial experience, on just,
though narrow, views.
Going back to first principles, vice skulks, with all its native
deformity, from close investigation; but a set of shallow reasoners
are always exclaiming that these arguments prove too much, and
that a measure rotten at the core may be expedient. Thus expediency
is continually contrasted with simple principles, till truth is
lost in a mist of words, virtue, in forms, and knowledge rendered
a sounding nothing, by the specious prejudices that assume its
name.
That the society is formed in the wisest manner, whose constitution
is founded on the nature of man, strikes, in the abstract, every
thinking being so forcibly, that it looks like presumption to
endeavour to bring forward proofs; though proof must be brought,
or the strong hold of prescription will never be forced by reason;
yet to urge prescription as an argument to justify the depriving
men (or women) of their natural rights, is one of the absurd sophisms
which daily insult common sense.
The civilisation of the bulk of the people of Europe is very partial;
nay, it may be made a question, whether they have acquired any
virtues in exchange for innocence, equivalent to the misery produced
by the vices that have been plastered over unsightly ignorance,
and the freedom which has been bartered for splendid slavery.
The desire of dazzling by riches, the most certain pre-eminence
that man can obtain, the pleasure of commanding flattering sycophants,
and many other complicated low calculations of doting self-love,
have all contributed to overwhelm the mass of mankind, and make
liberty a convenient handle for mock patriotism. For whilst rank
and titles are held of the utmost importance, before which Genius
"must hide its diminished head," it is, with a few exceptions,
very unfortunate for a nation when a man of abilities, without
rank or property, pushes himself forward to notice. Alas ! what
unheard-of misery have thousands suffered to purchase a cardinal's
hat for an intriguing obscure adventurer, who longed to be ranked
with princes, or lord it over them by seizing the triple crown!
Such, indeed, has been the wretchedness that has flowed from hereditary
honours, riches, and monarchy, that men of lively sensibility
have almost uttered blasphemy in order to justify the dispensations
of Providence. Man has been held out as independent of His power
who made him, or as a lawless planet darting from its orbit to
steal the celestial fire of reason; and the vengeance of Heaven,
lurking in the subtile flame, like Pandora's pent-up mischiefs,
sufficiently punished his temerity, by introducing evil into the
world.
Impressed by this view of the misery and disorder which pervaded
society, and fatigued with jostling against artificial fools,
Rousseau became enamoured of solitude, and, being at the same
time an optimist, he labours with uncommon eloquence to prove
that man was naturally a solitary animal. Misled by his respect
for the goodness of God, who certainly--for what man of sense
and feeling can doubt it !--gave life only to communicate happiness,
he considers evil as positive, and the work of man; not aware
that he was exalting one attribute at the expense of another,
equally necessary to divine perfection.
Reared on a false hypothesis, his arguments in favour of a state
of nature are plausible, but unsound. I say unsound; for to assert
that B state of nature is preferable to civilisation, in all its
possible perfection, is, in other words, to arraign supreme wisdom;
and the paradoxical exclamation, that God has made all things
right, and that error has been introduced by the creature, whom
He formed, knowing what He formed, is as unphilosophical as impious.
When that wise Being who created us and placed us here, saw the
fair idea, He willed, by allowing it to be so, that the passions
should unfold our reason, because He could see that present evil
would produce future good. Could the helpless creature whom He
called from nothing break loose from His providence, and boldly
learn to know good by practising evil, without His permission
? No. How could that energetic advocate for immortality argue
so inconsistently ? Had mankind remained for ever in the brutal
state of nature, which even his magic pen cannot paint as a state
in which a single virtue took root, it would have been clear,
though not to the sensitive unreflecting wanderer, that man was
born to run the circle of life and death, and adorn God's garden
for some purpose which could not easily be reconciled with His
attributes.
But if, to crown the whole, there were to be rational creatures
produced, allowed to rise in excellence by the exercise of powers
implanted for that purpose; if benignity itself thought fit to
call into existence a creature above the brutes,[1] who could
think and improve himself, why should that inestimable gift, for
a gift it was, if man was so created, as to have a capacity to
rise above the state in which sensation produced brutal ease,
be called, in direct terms, a curse? A curse it might be reckoned,
if the whole of our existence were bounded by our continuance
in this world; for why should the gracious fountain of life give
us passions, and the power of reflecting, only to imbitter our
days and inspire us with mistaken notions of dignity? Why should
He lead us from love of ourselves to the sublime emotions which
the discovery of His wisdom and goodness excites, if these feelings
were not set in motion to improve our nature, of which they make
a part,[2] and render us capable of enjoying a more godlike portion
of happiness? Firmly persuaded that no evil exists in the world
that God did not design to take place, I build my belief on the
perfection of God.
Rousseau exerts himself to prove that all was right originally:
a crowd of authors that all is now right: and I, that all will
be right.
But, true to his first position, next to a state of nature, Rousseau
celebrates barbarism, and apostrophising the shade of Fabricius,
he forgets that, in conquering the world, the Romans never dreamed
of establishing their own liberty on a firm basis, or of extending
the reign of virtue. Eager to support his system, he stigmatises,
as vicious, every effort of genius; and, uttering the apotheosis
of savage virtues, he exalts those to demi-gods, who were scarcely
human--the brutal Spartans, who, in defiance of justice and gratitude,
sacrificed, in cold blood, the slaves who had shown themselves
heroes to rescue their oppressors.
Disgusted with artificial manners and virtues, the citizen of
Geneva, instead of properly sifting the subject, threw away the
wheat with the chaff, without waiting to inquire whether the evils
which his ardent soul turned from indignantly, were the consequence
of civilisation or the vestiges of barbarism. He saw vice trampling
on virtue, and the semblance of goodness taking the place of the
reality; he saw talents bent by power to sinister purposes, and
never thought of tracing the gigantic mischief up to arbitrary
power, up to the hereditary distinctions that clash with the mental
superiority that naturally raises a man above his fellows. He
did not perceive that regal power, in a few generations, introduces
idiotism into the noble stem, and holds out baits to render thousands
idle and vicious.
Nothing can set the regal character in a more contemptible point
of view, than the various crimes that have elevated men to the
supreme dignity. Vile intrigues, unnatural crimes, and every vice
that degrades our nature, have been the steps to this distinguished
eminence; yet millions of men have supinely allowed the nerveless
limbs of the posterity of such rapacious prowlers to rest quietly
on their ensanguined thrones.[3]
What but a pestilential vapour can hover over society when its
chief director is only instructed in the invention of crimes,
or the stupid routine of childish ceremonies? Will men never be
wise?--will they never cease to expect corn from tares, and figs
from thistles?
It is impossible for any man, when the most favourable circumstances
concur, to acquire sufficient knowledge and strength of mind to
discharge the duties of a king, entrusted with uncontrolled power;
how then must they be violated when his very elevation is an insuperable
bar to the attainment of either wisdom or virtue, when all the
feelings of a man are stifled by flattery, and reflection shut
out by pleasure! Sure it is madness to make the fate of thousands
depend on the caprice of a weak fellow-creature, whose very station
sinks him necessarily below the meanest of his subjects ! But
one power should not be thrown down to exalt another--for all
power inebriates weak man; and its abuse proves that the more
equality there is established among men, the more virtue and happiness
will reign in society. But this and any similar maxim deduced
from simple reason, raises an outcry--the Church or the State
is in danger, if faith in the wisdom of antiquity is not implicit;
and they who, roused by the sight of human calamity, dare to attack
human authority, are reviled as despisers of God, and enemies
of man. These are bitter calumnies, yet they reached one of the
best of men,[4] whose ashes still preach peace, and whose memory
demands a respectful pause, when subjects are discussed that lay
so near his heart.
After attacking the sacred majesty of kings, I shall scarcely
excite surprise by adding my firm persuasion that every profession,
in which great subordination of rank constitutes its power, is
highly injurious to morality.
A standing army, for instance, is incompatible with freedom; because
subordination and rigour are the very sinews of military discipline;
and despotism is necessary to give vigour to enterprises that
one will directs. A spirit inspired by romantic notions of honour,
a kind of morality founded on the fashion of the age, can only
be felt by a few officers, whilst the main body must be moved
by command, like the waves of the sea; for the strong wind of
authority pushes the crowd of subalterns forward, they scarcely
know or care why, with headlong fury.
Besides, nothing can be so prejudicial to the morals of the inhabitants
of country towns as the occasional residence of a set of idle
superficial young men, whose only occupation is gallantry, and
whose polished manners render vice more dangerous, by concealing
its deformity under gay ornamental drapery. An air of fashion,
which is but a badge of slavery, and proves that the soul has
not a strong individual character, awes simple country people
into an imitation of the vices, when they cannot catch the slippery
graces, of politeness. Every corps is a chair; of despots, who,
submitting and tyrannising without exercising their reason, become
dead-weights of vice and folly on the community. A man of rank
or fortune, sure of rising by interest, has nothing to do but
to pursue some extravagant freak; whilst the needy gentleman,
who is to rise, as the phrase turns, by his merit, becomes a servile
parasite or vile pander.
Sailors, the naval gentlemen, come under the same description,
only their vices assume a different and a grosser cast. They are
more positively indolent, when not discharging the ceremonials
of their station; whilst the insignificant fluttering of soldiers
may be termed active idleness. More confined to the society of
men, the former acquire a fondness for humour and mischievous
tricks; whilst the latter, mixing frequently with well-bred women,
catch a sentimental cant. But mind is equally out of the question,
whether they indulge the horselaugh, or polite simper.
May I be allowed to extend the comparison to a profession where
more mind is certainly to be found,--for the clergy have superior
opportunities of improvement, though subordination almost equally
cramps their faculties? The blind submission imposed at college
to forms of belief serves as a novitiate to the curate, who must
obsequiously respect the opinion of his rector or patron, if he
mean to rise in his profession. Perhaps there cannot be a more
forcible contrast than between the servile dependent gait of a
poor curate and the courtly mien of a bishop. And the respect
and contempt they inspire, render the discharge of their separate
functions equally useless.
It is of great importance to observe that the character of every
man is, in some degree, formed by his profession. A man of sense
may only have a cast of countenance that wears off as you trace
his individuality, whilst the weak, common man has scarcely ever
any character, but what belongs to the body; at least, all his
opinions have been so steeped in the vat consecrated by authority,
that the faint spirit which the grape of his own vine yields,
cannot be distinguished.
Society, therefore, as it becomes more enlightened, should be
very careful not to establish bodies of men who must necessarily
be made foolish or vicious by the very constitution of their profession.
In the infancy of society, when men were just emerging out of
barbarism, chiefs and priests, touching the most powerful springs
of savage conduct, hope and fear, must have had unbounded sway.
An aristocracy, of course, is naturally the first form of government.
But, clashing interests soon losing their equipoise, a monarchy
and hierarchy break out of the confusion of ambitious struggles,
and the foundation of both is secured by feudal tenures. This
appears to be the origin of monarchical and priestly power, and
the dawn of civilisation. But such combustible materials cannot
long be pent up; and, getting vent in foreign wars and intestine
insurrections, the people acquire some power in the tumult, which
obliges their rulers to gloss over their oppression with a show
of right. Thus, as wars, agriculture, commerce, and literature,
expand the mind, despots are compelled to make covert corruption
hold fast the power which was formerly snatched by open force.[5]
And this baneful lurking gangrene is most quickly spread by luxury
and superstition, the sure dregs of ambition. The indolent puppet
of a court first becomes a luxurious monster, or fastidious sensualist,
and then makes the contagion which his unnatural state spread,
the instrument of tyranny.
It is the pestiferous purple which renders the progress of civilisation
a curse, and warps the understanding, till men of sensibility
doubt whether the expansion of intellect produces a greater portion
of happiness or misery. But the nature of the poison points out
the antidote; and had Rousseau mounted one step higher in his
investigation, or could his eye have pierced through the foggy
atmosphere, which he almost disdained to breathe, his active mind
would have darted forward to contemplate the perfection of man
in the establishment of true civilisation, instead of taking his
ferocious flight back to the night of sensual ignorance.
NOTES
[1] Contrary to the opinion of the anatomists, who argye by analogy
from the formation of the teeth, stomach, and intestines, Rousseau
will not allow a man to be a carniverous animal. And, carried
away from nature by a love of system, he disputes whether man
be a gregarious animal, though the long and helpless state of
infancy seems to point him out as particularly impelled to pair,
the first step towards herding.
[2] What would you say to a mechanic whom you had desired to make
a watch to point out the hour of the day, if, to show his ingenuity,
he added wheels to make it a repeater, etc., that perplexed the
simple mechanism; should he urge to excuse himself had you not
touched a certain spring, you would have known nothing of the
matter, and that he should have amused himself by making an experiment
without doing you any harm, would you not retort fairly upon him,
bu insisting that if he had not added those needless wheels and
springs, the accident could not have happened?
[3] Could there be a greater insult offered to the rights of man
than the beds of justice in France, when an infant was made the
organ of the detestable Dubois?
[4] Dr. Price.
[5] Men of abilities scatter seeds that grow up and have a great
influence on the forming opinion; and when once the public opinion
preponderates, through the exertion of reason, the overthrow of
arbitrary power is not very distant.
CHAPTER II
THE PREVAILING OPINION OF A SEXUAL CHARACTER DISCUSSED
To account for, and excuse the tyranny of man, many ingenious
arguments have been brought forward to prove, that the two sexes,
in the acquirement of virtue, ought to aim at attaining a very
different character; or, to speak explicitly, women are not allowed
to have sufficient strength of mind to acquire what really deserves
the name of virtue. Yet it should seem, allowing them to have
souls, that there is but one way appointed by Providence to lead
mankind to either virtue or happiness.
If then women are not a swarm of ephemeron triflers, why should
they be kept in ignorance under the specious name of innocence?
Men complain, and with reason, of the follies and caprices of
our sex, when they do not keenly satirise our headstrong passions
and grovelling vices. Behold, I should answer, the natural effect
of ignorance ! The mind will ever be unstable that has only prejudices
to rest on, and the current will run with destructive fury when
there are no barriers to break its force. Women are told from
their infancy, and taught by the example of their mothers, that
a little knowledge of human weakness, justly termed cunning, softness
of temper, outward obedience, and a scrupulous attention to a
puerile kind of propriety, will obtain for them the protection
of man; and should they be beautiful, everything else is needless,
for at least twenty years of their lives.
Thus Milton describes our first frail mother; though when he tells
us that women are formed for softness and sweet attractive grace,
I cannot comprehend his meaning, unless, in the true Mahometan
strain, he meant to deprive us of souls, and insinuate that we
were beings only designed by sweet attractive grace, and docile
blind obedience, to gratify the senses of man when he can no longer
soar on the wing of contemplation.
How grossly do they insult us who thus advise us only to render
ourselves gentle, domestic brutes ! For instance, the winning
softness so warmly and frequently recommended, that governs by
obeying. What childish expressions, and how insignificant is the
being--can it be an immortal one?--who will condescend to govern
by such sinister methods? "Certainly," says Lord Bacon,
"man is of kin to the beasts by his body; and if he be not
of kin to God by his spirit, he is a base and ignoble creature!"
Men, indeed, appear to me to act in a very unphilosophical manner,
when they try to secure the good conduct of women by attempting
to keep them always in a state of childhood. Rousseau was more
consistent when he wished to stop the progress of reason in both
sexes, for if men eat of the tree of knowledge, women will come
in for a taste; but, from the imperfect cultivation which their
understandings now receive, they only attain a knowledge of evil.
Children, I grant, should be innocent; but when the epithet is
applied to men, or women, it is but a civil term for weakness.
For if it be allowed that women were destined by Providence to
acquire human virtues, and, by the exercise of their understandings,
that stability of character which is the firmest ground to rest
our future hopes upon, they must be permitted to turn to the fountain
of light, and not forced to shape their course by the twinkling
of a mere satellite. Milton, I grant, was of a very different
opinion; for he only bends to the indefeasible right of beauty,
though it would be difficult to render two passages which I now
mean to contrast, consistent. But into similar inconsistencies
are great men often led by their senses:
To whom thus Eve with perfect beauty adorn'd My author and disposer,
what thou bid'st Unargued I obey; so God ordains. God is thy law
thou mine: to know no more Is woman's happiest knowledge and her
praise.
These are exactly the arguments that I have used to children;
but I have added, your reason is now gaining strength, and, till
it arrives at some degree of maturity, you must look up to me
for advice,--then you ought to think, and only rely on God. Yet
in the following lines Milton seems to coincide with me, when
he makes Adam thus expostulate with his Maker:
Hast Thou not made me here Thy substitute, And these inferior
far beneath me set ? Among equals what society Can sort, what
harmony or true delight ? Which must be mutual, in proportion
due Given and received; but in disparity The one intense, the
other still remiss Cannot well suit with either, but soon prove
Tedious alike: of fellowship I speak Such as I seek fit to participate
All rational delight--
In treating therefore of the manners of women, let us, disregarding
sensual arguments, trace what we should endeavour to make them
in order to co-operate, if the expression be not too bold, with
the Supreme Being. By individual education, I mean, for the sense
of the word is not precisely defined, such an attention to a child
as will slowly sharpen the senses, form the temper, regulate the
passions as they begin to ferment, and set the understanding to
work before the body arrives at maturity; so that the man may
only have to proceed, not to begin, the important task of learning
to think and reason.
To prevent any misconstruction, I must add, that I do not believe
that a private education can work the wonders which some sanguine
writers have attributed to it. Men and women must be educated,
in a great degree, by the opinions and manners of the society
they live in. In every age there has been a stream of popular
opinion that has carried all before it, and given a family character,
as it were, to the century. It may then fairly be inferred, that,
till society be differently constituted, much cannot be expected
from education. It is, however, sufficient for my present purpose
to assert that, whatever effect circumstances have on the abilities,
every being may become virtuous by the exercise of its own reason;
for if but one being was created with vicious inclinations, that
is positively bad, what can save us from atheism? or if we worship
a God, is not that God a devil?
Consequently, the most perfect education, in my opinion, is such
an exercise of the understanding as is best calculated to strengthen
the body and form the heart. Or, in other words, to enable the
individual to attain such habits of virtue as will render it independent.
In fact, it is a farce to call any being virtuous whose virtues
do not result from the exercise of its own reason. This was Rousseau's
opinion respecting men; I extend it to women, and confidently
assert that they have been drawn out of their sphere by false
refinement, and not by an endeavour to acquire masculine qualities.
Still the regal homage which they receive is so intoxicating,
that until the manners of the times are changed, and formed on
more reasonable principles, it may be impossible to convince them
that the illegitimate power which they obtain by degrading themselves
is a curse, and that they must return to nature and equality if
they wish to secure the placid satisfaction that unsophisticated
affections impart. But for this epoch we must wait--wait perhaps
till kings and nobles, enlightened by reason, and, preferring
the real dignity of man to childish state, throw off their gaudy
hereditary trappings; and if then women do not resign the arbitrary
power of beauty--they will prove that they have less mind than
man. XXXXX I may be accused of arrogance; still I must declare
what I firmly believe, that all the writers who have written on
the subject of female education and manners, from Rousseau to
Dr. Gregory, have contributed to render women more artificial,
weak characters, than they would otherwise have been; and consequently,
more useless members of society. I might have expressed this conviction
in a lower key, but I am afraid it would have been the whine of
affectation, and not the faithful expression of my feelings, of
the clear result which experience and reflection have led me to
draw. When I come to that division of the subject, I shall advert
to the passages that I more particularly disapprove of, in the
works of the authors I have just alluded to; but it is first necessary
to observe that my objection extends to the whole purport of those
books, which tend, in my opinion, to degrade one-half of the human
species, and render women pleasing at the expense of every solid
virtue.
Though, to reason on Rousseau's ground, if man did attain a degree
of perfection of mind when his body arrived at maturity, it might
be proper, in order to make a man and his wife one, that she should
rely entirely on his understanding; and the graceful ivy, clasping
the oak that supported it, would form a whole in which strength
and beauty would be equally conspicuous. But, alas ! husbands,
as well as their helpmates, are often only overgrown children,--nay,
thanks to early debauchery, scarcely men in their outward form,--and
if the blind lead the blind, one need not come from heaven to
tell us the consequence.
Many are the causes that, in the present corrupt state of society,
contribute to enslave women by cramping their understandings and
sharpening their senses. One, perhaps, that silently does more
mischief than all the rest, is their disregard of order.
To do everything in an orderly manner is a most important precept,
which women, who, generally speaking, receive only a disorderly
kind of education, seldom attend to with that degree of exactness
that men, who from their infancy are broken into method, observe.
This negligent kind of guesswork--for what other epithet can be
used to point out the random exertions of a sort of instinctive
common sense never brought to the test of reason?--prevents their
generalising matters of fact; so they do to-day what they did
yesterday, merely because they did it yesterday.
This contempt of the understanding in early life has more baneful
consequences than is commonly supposed; for the little knowledge
which women of strong minds attain is, from various circumstances,
of a more desultory kind than the knowledge of men, and it is
acquired more by sheer observations on real life than from comparing
what has been individually observed with the results of experience
generalised by speculation. Led by their dependent situation and
domestic employments more into society, what they learn is rather
by snatches; and as learning is with them in general only a secondary
thing, they do not pursue any one branch with that persevering
ardour necessary to give vigour to the faculties and clearness
to the judgment. In the present state of society a little learning
is required to support the character of a gentleman, and boys
are obliged to submit to a few years of discipline. But in the
education of women, the cultivation of the understanding is always
subordinate to the acquirement of some corporeal accomplishment.
Even when enervated by confinement and false notions of modesty,
the body is prevented from attaining that grace and beauty which
relaxed half-formed limbs never exhibit. Besides, in youth their
faculties are not brought forward by emulation; and having no
serious scientific study, if they have natural sagacity, it is
turned too soon on life and manners. They dwell on effects and
modifications, without tracing them back to causes; and complicated
rules to adjust behaviour are a weak substitute for simple principles.
As a proof that education gives this appearance of weakness to
females, we may instance the example of military men, who are,
like them, sent into the world before their minds have been stored
with knowledge, or fortified by principles. The consequences are
similar; soldiers acquire a little superficial knowledge, snatched
from the muddy current of conversation, and from continually mixing
with society, they gain what is termed a knowledge of the world;
and this acquaintance with manners and customs has frequently
been confounded with a knowledge of the human heart. But can the
crude fruit of casual observation, never brought to the test of
judgment, formed by comparing speculation and experience, deserve
such a distinction ? Soldiers, as well as women, practise the
minor virtues with punctilious politeness. Where is then the sexual
difference, when the education has been the same? All the difference
that I can discern arises from the superior advantage of liberty
which enables the former to see more of life.
It is wandering from my present subject, perhaps, to make a political
remark; but as it was produced naturally by the train of my reflections,
I shall not pass it silently over.
Standing armies can never consist of resolute robust men; they
may be well-disciplined machines, but they will seldom contain
men under the influence of strong passions, or with very vigorous
faculties; and as for any depth of understanding, I will venture
to affirm that it is as rarely to be found in the army as amongst
women. And the cause, I maintain, is the same. It may be further
observed that officers are also particularly attentive to their
persons, fond of dancing, crowded rooms, adventures, and ridicule.[1]
Like the fair sex, the business of their lives is gallantry; they
were taught to please, and they only live to please. Yet they
do not lose their rank in the distinction of sexes, for they are
still reckoned superior to women, though in what their superiority
consists, beyond what I have just mentioned, it is difficult to
discover.
The great misfortune is this, that they both acquire manners before
morals, and a knowledge of life before they have from reflection
any acquaintance with the grand ideal outline of human nature.
The consequence is natural. Satisfied with common nature, they
become a prey to prejudices, and taking all their opinions on
credit, they blindly submit to authority. So that if they have
any sense, it is a kind of instinctive glance that catches proportions,
and decides with respect to manners, but fails when arguments
are to be pursued below the surface, or opinions analysed.
May not the same remark be applied to women? Nay, the argument
may be carried still further, for they are both thrown out of
a useful station by the unnatural distinctions established in
civilised life. Riches and hereditary honours have made cyphers
of women to give consequence to the numerical figure; and idleness
has produced a mixture of gallantry and despotism into society,
which leads the very men who are the slaves of their mistresses
to tyrannise over their sisters, wives, and daughters. This is
only keeping them in rank and file, it is true. Strengthen the
female mind by enlarging it, and there will be an end to blind
obedience; but as blind obedience is ever sought for by power,
tyrants and sensualists are in the right endeavour to keep woman
in the dark, because only want slaves, and the latter a plaything.
The sensualist, indeed, has been the most dangerous of tyrants,
and women have been duped by their lovers, as princes by their
ministers, whilst dreaming that they reigned over them.
I now principally allude to Rousseau, for his character of Sophia
is undoubtedly a captivating one, though it appears to me grossly
unnatural. However, it is not the superstructure, but the foundation
of her character, the principles on which her education was built,
that I mean to attack; nay, warmly as I admire the genius of that
able writer, whose opinions I shall often have occasion to cite,
indignation always takes place of admiration, and the rigid frown
of insulted virtue effaces the smile of complacency which his
eloquent periods are wont to raise when I read his voluptuous
reveries. Is this the man who, in his ardour for virtue, would
banish all the soft arts of peace, and almost carry us back to
Spartan discipline? Is this the man who delights to paint the
useful struggles of passion, the triumphs of good dispositions,
and the heroic flights which carry the glowing soul out of itself?
How are these mighty sentiments lowered when he describes the
pretty foot and enticing airs of his little favourite ! But for
the present I waive the subject, and instead of severely reprehending
the transient effusions of overweening sensibility, I shall only
observe that whoever has cast a benevolent eye on society must
often have been gratified by the sight of humble mutual love not
dignified by sentiment, or strengthened by a union in intellectual
pursuits. The domestic trifles of the day have afforded matters
for cheerful converse, and innocent caresses have softened toils
which did not require great exercise of mind or stretch of thought;
yet has not the sight of this moderate felicity excited more tenderness
than respect ?--an emotion similar to what we feel when children
are playing or animals sporting;[2] whilst the contemplation of
the noble struggles of suffering merit has raised admiration,
and carried our thoughts to that world where sensation will give
place to reason.
Women are therefore to be considered either as moral beings, or
so weak that they must be entirely subjected to the superior faculties
of men.
Let us examine this question. Rousseau declares that a woman should
never for a moment feel herself independent, that she should be
governed by fear to exercise her natural cunning, and made a coquettish
slave in order to render her a more alluring object of desire,
a sweeter companion to man, whenever he chooses to relax himself.
He carries the arguments, which he pretends to draw from the indications
of nature, still further, and insinuates that truth and fortitude,
the corner-stones of all human virtue, should be cultivated with
certain restrictions, because, with respect to the female character,
obedience is the grand lesson which ought to be impressed with
unrelenting rigour.
What nonsense ! When will a great man arise with sufficient strength
of mind to puff away the fumes which pride and sensuality have
thus spread over the subject? If women are by nature inferior
to men, their virtues must be the same in quality, if not in degree,
or virtue is a relative idea; consequently their conduct should
be founded on the same principles, and have the same aim.
Connected with man as daughters, wives, and mothers, their moral
character may be estimated by their manner of fulfilling those
simple duties; but the end, the grand end, of their exertions
should be to unfold their own faculties, and acquire the dignity
of conscious virtue. They may try to render their road pleasant;
but ought never to forget, in common with man, that life yields
not the felicity which can satisfy an immortal soul. I do not
mean to insinuate that either sex should be so lost in abstract
reflections or distant views as to forget the affections and duties
that lie before them, and are, in truth, the means appointed to
produce the fruit of life; on the contrary, I would warmly recommend
them, even while I assert, that they afford most satisfaction
when they are considered in their true sober light.
Probably the prevailing opinion that woman was created for man,
may have taken its rise from Moses' poetical story; yet as very
few, it is presumed, who have bestowed any serious thought on
the subject ever supposed that Eve was, literally speaking, one
of Adam's ribs, the deduction must be allowed to fall to the ground,
or only be so far admitted as it proves that man, from the remotest
antiquity, found it convenient to exert his strength to subjugate
his companion, and his invention to show that she ought to have
her neck bent under the yoke, because the whole creation was only
created for his convenience or pleasure.
Let it not be concluded that I wish to invert the order of things.
I have already granted that, from the constitution of their bodies,
men seemed to be designed by Providence to attain a greater degree
of virtue. I speak collectively of the whole sex; but I see not
the shadow of a reason to conclude that their virtues should differ
in respect to their nature. In fact, how can they, if virtue has
only one eternal standard? I must therefore, if I reason consequentially,
as strenuously maintain that they have the same simple direction
as that there is a God.
It follows then that cunning should not be opposed to wisdom,
little cares to great exertions, or insipid softness, varnished
over with the name of gentleness, to that fortitude which grand
views alone can inspire.
I shall be told that woman would then lose many of her peculiar
graces, and the opinion of a well-known poet might be quoted to
refute my unqualified assertion. For Pope has said in the name
of the whole male sex:
Yet ne'er so sure our passion to create, As when she touch'd the
brink of all we hate.
In what light this sally places men and women I shall leave to
the judicious to determine. Meanwhile, I shall content myself
with observing, that I cannot discover why, unless they are mortal,
females should always be degraded by being made subservient to
love or lust.
To speak disrespectfully of love is, I know, high treason against
sentiment and fine feelings; but I wish to speak the simple language
of truth, and rather to address the head than the heart. To endeavour
to reason love out of the world would be to out-Quixote Cervantes,
and equally offend against common sense; but an endeavour to restrain
this tumultuous passion, and to prove that it should not be allowed
to dethrone superior powers, or to usurp the sceptre which the
understanding should very coolly wield, appears less wild.
Youth is the season for love in both sexes; but in those days
of thoughtless enjoyment provision should be made for the more
important years of life, when reflection takes place of sensation.
But Rousseau, and most of the male writers who have followed his
steps, have warmly inculcated that the whole tendency of female
education ought to be directed to one point--to render them pleasing.
Let me reason with the supporters of this opinion who have any
knowledge of human nature. Do they imagine that marriage can eradicate
the habitude of life? The woman who has only been taught to please
will soon find that her charms are oblique sunbeams, and that
they cannot have much effect on her husband's heart when they
are seen every day, when the summer is passed and gone. Will she
then have sufficient native energy to look into herself for comfort,
and cultivate her dormant faculties? or is it not more rational
to expect that she will try to please other men, and, in the emotions
raised by the expectation of new conquests, endeavour to forget
the mortification her love or pride has received? When the husband
ceases to be a lover, and the time will inevitably come, her desire
of pleasing will then grow languid, or become a spring of bitterness;
and love, perhaps, the most evanescent of all passions, gives
place to jealousy or vanity.
I now speak of women who are restrained by principle or prejudice.
Such women, though they would shrink from an intrigue with real
abhorrence, yet, nevertheless, wish to be convinced by the homage
of gallantry that they are cruelly neglected by their husbands;
or, days and weeks are spent in dreaming of the happiness enjoyed
by congenial souls, till their health is undermined and their
spirits broken by discontent. How then can the great art of pleasing
be such a necessary study? it is only useful to a mistress. The
chaste wife and serious mother should only consider her power
to please as the polish of her virtues, and the affection of her
husband as one of the comforts that render her task less difficult,
and her life happier. But, whether she be loved or neglected,
her first wish should be to make herself respectable, and not
to rely for all her happiness on a being subject to like infirmities
with herself.
The worthy Dr. Gregory fell into a similar error. I respect his
heart, but entirely disapprove of his celebrated Legacy to his
Daughters.
He advises them to cultivate a fondness for dress, because a fondness
for dress, he asserts, is natural to them. I am unable to comprehend
what either he or Rousseau mean when they frequently use this
indefinite term. If they told us that in a pre-existent state
the soul was fond of dress, and brought this inclination with
it into a new body, I should listen to them with a half-smile,
as I often do when I hear a rant about innate elegance. But if
he only meant to say that the exercise of the faculties will produce
this fondness, I deny it. It is not natural; but arises, like
false ambition in men, from a love of power.
Dr. Gregory goes much further; he actually recommends dissimulation,
and advises an innocent girl to give the lie to her feelings,
and not dance with spirit, when gaiety of heart would make her
feet eloquent without making her gestures immodest. In the name
of truth and common sense, why should not one woman acknowledge
that she can take more exercise than another? or, in other words,
that she has a sound constitution; and why, to damp innocent vivacity,
is she darkly to be told that men will draw conclusions which
she little thinks of? Let the libertine draw what inference he
pleases; but, I hope, that no sensible mother will restrain the
natural frankness of youth by instilling such indecent cautions.
out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh; and a wiser
than Solomon hath said that the heart should be made clean, and
not trivial ceremonies observed, which it is not very difficult
to fulfil with scrupulous exactness when vice reigns in the heart.
Women ought to endeavour to purify their heart; but can they do
so when their uncultivated understandings make them entirely dependent
on their senses for employment and amusement, when no noble pursuits
set them above the little vanities of the day, or enables them
to curb the wild emotions that agitate a reed, over which every
passing breeze has power? To gain the affections of a virtuous
man, is affectation necessary? Nature has given woman a weaker
frame than man; but, to ensure her husband's affections, must
a wife, who, by the exercise of her mind and body whilst she was
discharging the duties of a daughter, wife, and mother, has allowed
her constitution to retain its natural strength, and her nerves
a healthy tone,--is she, I say, to condescend to use art, and
feign a sickly delicacy, in order to secure her husband's affection?
Weakness may excite tenderness, and gratify the arrogant pride
of man; but the lordly caresses of a protector will not gratify
a noble mind that pants for and deserves to be respected. Fondness
is a poor substitute for friendship!
In a seraglio, I grant, that all these arts are necessary; the
epicure must have his palate tickled, or he will sink into apathy;
but have women so little ambition as to be satisfied with such
a condition? Can they supinely dream life away in the lap of pleasure,
or the languor of weariness, rather than assert their claim to
pursue reasonable pleasures, and render themselves conspicuous
by practising the virtues which dignify mankind? Surely shehas
not an immortal soul who can loiter life away merely employed
to adorn her person, that she may amuse the languid hours, and
soften the cares of a fellow-creature who is willing to be enlivened
by her smiles and tricks, when the serious business of life is
over.
Besides, the woman who strengthens her body and exercises her
mind will, by managing her family and practising various virtues,
become the friend, and not the humble dependent of her husband;
and if she, by possessing such substantial qualities, merit his
regard, she will not find it necessary to conceal her affection,
nor to pretend to an unnatural coldness of constitution to excite
her husband's passions. In fact, if we revert to history, we shall
find that the women who have distinguished themselves have neither
been the most beautiful nor the most gentle of their sex.
Nature, or, to speak with strict propriety, God, has made all
things right; but man has sought him out many inventions to mar
the work. I now allude to that part of Dr. Gregory's treatise,
where he advises a wife never to let her husband know the extent
of her sensibility or affection. Voluptuous precaution, and as
ineffectual as absurd. Love, from its very nature, must be transitory.
To seek for a secret that would render it constant, would be as
wild a search as for the philosopher's stone, or the grand panacea;
and the discovery would be equally useless, or rather pernicious,
to mankind. The most holy band of society is friendship. It has
been well said, by a shrewd satirist, "that rare as true
love is true friendship is still rarer."
This is an obvious truth, and, the cause not lying deep, will
not elude a slight glance of inquiry.
Love, the common passion, in which chance and sensation take place
of choice and reason, is, in some degree, felt by the mass of
mankind; for it is not necessary to speak, at present, of the
emotions that rise above or sink below love. This passion, naturally
increased by suspense and difficulties, draws the mind out of
its accustomed state, and exalts the affections; but the security
of marriage, allowing the fever of love to subside, a healthy
temperature is thought insipid only by those who have not sufficient
intellect to substitute the calm tenderness of friendship, the
confidence of respect, instead of blind admiration, and the sensual
emotions of fondness.
This is, must be, the course of nature. Friendship or indifference
inevitably succeeds love. And this constitution seems perfectly
to harmonise with the system of government which prevails in the
moral world. Passions are spurs to action, and open the mind;
but they sink into mere appetites, become a personal and momentary
gratification when the object is gained, and the satisfied mind
rests in enjoyment. The man who had some virtue whilst he was
struggling for a crown, often becomes a voluptuous tyrant when
it graces his brow; and, when the lover is not lost in the husband,
the dotard, a prey to childish caprices and fond jealousies, neglects
the serious duties of life, and the caresses which should excite
confidence in his children are lavished on the overgrown child,
his wife.
In order to fulfil the duties of life, and to be able to pursue
with vigour the various employments which form the moral character,
a master and mistress of a family ought not to continue to love
each other with passion. I mean to say that they ought not to
indulge those emotions which disturb the order of society, and
engross the thoughts that should be otherwise employed. The mind
that has never been engrossed by one object wants vigour,--if
it can long be so, it is weak.
A mistaken education, a narrow uncultivated mind, and many sexual
prejudices, tend to make women more constant than men; but, for
the present, I shall not .ouch on this branch of the subject.
I will go still further, and advance, without dreaming of a paradox,
that an unhappy marriage is often very advantageous to a family,
and that the neglected wife is, in general, the best mother. And
this would almost always be the consequence if the female mind
were more enlarged; for, it seems to be the common dispensation
of Providence, that what we gain in present enjoyment should be
deducted from the treasure of life, experience; and that when
we are gathering the flowers of the day, and revelling in pleasure,
the solid fruit of toil and wisdom should not be caught at the
same time. The way lies before us, we must turn to the right or
left; and he who will pass life away in bounding from one pleasure
to another, must not complain if he acquire neither wisdom nor
respectability of character.
Supposing, for a moment, that the soul is not immortal, and that
man was only created for the present scene,--I think we should
have reason to complain that love, infantine fondness, ever grew
insipid and palled upon the sense. Let us eat, drink, and love,
for to-morrow we die, would be, in fact, the language of reason,
the morality of life; and who but a fool would part with a reality
for a fleeting shadow ? But, if awed by observing the improbable
powers of the mind, we disdain to confine our wishes or thoughts
to such a comparatively mean field of action, that only appears
grand and important, as it is connected with a boundless prospect
and sublime hopes, what necessity is there for falsehood in conduct,
and why must the sacred majesty of truth be violated to detain
a deceitful good that saps the very foundation of virtue? Why
must the female mind be tainted by coquettish arts to gratify
the sensualist, and prevent love from subsiding into friendship,
or compassionate tenderness, when there are not qualities on which
friendship can be built? Let the honest heart show itself, and
reason teach passion to submit to necessity; or, let the dignified
pursuit of virtue and knowledge raise the mind above those emotions
which rather embitter than sweeten the cup of life, when they
are not restrained within due bounds.
I do not mean to allude to the romantic passion, which is the
concomitant of genius. Who can clip its wing? But that grand passion
not proportioned to the puny enjoyments of life, is only true
to the sentiment, and feeds on itself. The passions which have
been celebrated for their durability have always been unfortunate.
They have acquired strength by absence and constitutional melancholy.
The fancy has hovered round a form of beauty dimly seen; but familiarity
might have turned admiration into disgust, or, at least, into
indifference, and allowed the imagination leisure to start fresh
game. With perfect propriety, according to this view of things,
does Rousseau make the mistress of his soul, Eloisa, love St.
Preux, when life was fading before her; but this is no proof of
the immortality of the passion.
Of the same complexion is Dr. Gregory's advice respecting delicacy
of sentiment, which he advises a woman not to acquire, if she
have determined to marry. This determination, however, perfectly
consistent with his former advice, he calls indelicate, and earnestly
persuades his daughters to conceal it, though it may govern their
conduct, as if it were indelicate to have the common appetites
of human nature.
Noble morality! and consistent with the cautious prudence of a
little soul that cannot extend its views beyond the present minute
division of existence. If all the faculties of woman's mind are
only to be cultivated as they respect her dependence on man; if,
when a husband be obtained, she have arrived at her goal, and
meanly proud, rests satisfied with such a paltry crown, let her
grovel contentedly, scarcely raised by her employments above the
animal kingdom; but, if struggling for the prize of her high calling,
she look beyond the present scene, let her cultivate her understanding
without stopping to consider what character the husband may have
whom she is destined to marry. Let her only determine, without
being too anxious about present happiness, to acquire the qualities
that ennoble a rational being, and a rough inelegant husband may
shock her taste without destroying her peace of mind. She will
not model her soul to suit the frailties of her companion, but
to bear with them; his character may be a trial, but not an impediment
to virtue.
If Dr. Gregory confined his remark to romantic.expectations of
constant love and congenial feelings, he should have recollected
that experience will banish what advice can never make us cease
to wish for, when the imagination is kept alive at the expense
of reason.
I own it frequently happens, that women who have fostered a romantic
unnatural delicacy of feeling, waste their [3] lives in imagining
how happy they should have been with a husband who could love
them with a fervid increasing affection every day, and all day.
But they might as well pine married as single, and would not be
a jot more unhappy with a bad husband than longing for a good
one. That a proper education, or, to speak with more precision,
a well-stored mind, would enable a woman to support a single life
with dignity, I grant; but that she should avoid cultivating her
taste, lest her husband should occasionally shock it, is quitting
a substance for a shadow. To say the truth, I do not know of what
use is an improved taste, if the individual be not rendered more
independent of the casualties of life; if new sources of enjoyment,
only dependent on the solitary operations of the mind, are not
opened. People of taste, married or single, without distinction,
will ever be disgusted by various things that touch not less observing
minds. On this conclusion the argument must not be allowed to
hinge; but in the whole sum of enjoyment is taste to be denominated
a blessing?
The question is, whether it procures most pain or pleasure? The
answer will decide the propriety of Dr. Gregory's advice, and
show how absurd and tyrannic it is thus to lay down a system of
slavery, or to attempt to educate moral beings by any other rules
than those deduced from pure reason, which apply to the whole
species.
Gentleness of manners, forbearance and long-suffering, are such
amiable Godlike qualities, that in sublime poetic strains the
Deity has been invested with them; and, perhaps, no representation
of His goodness so strongly fastens on the human affections as
those that represent Him abundant in mercy and willing to pardon.
Gentleness, considered in this point of view, bears on its front
all the characteristics of grandeur, combined with the winning
graces of condescension; but what a different aspect it assumes
when it is the submissive demeanour of dependence, the support
of weakness that loves, because it wants protection; and is forbearing,
because it must silently endure injuries; smiling under the lash
at which it dare not snarl. Abject as this picture appears, it
is the portrait of an accomplished woman, according to the received
opinion of female excellence, separated by specious reasoners
from human excellence. Or, they [4] kindly restore the rib, and
make one moral being of a man and woman; not forgetting to give
her all the "submissive charms."
How women are to exist in that state where there is neither to
be marrying nor giving in marriage, we are not told. For though
moralists have agreed that the tenor of life seems to prove that
man is prepared by various circumstances for a future state, they
constantly concur in advising woman only to provide for the present.
Gentleness, docility, and a spaniel like affection are, on this
ground, consistently recommended as the cardinal virtues of the
sex; and, disregarding the arbitrary economy of nature, one writer
has declared that it is masculine for a woman to be melancholy.
She was created to be the toy of man, his rattle, and it must
jingle in his ears whenever, dismissing reason, he chooses to
be amused.
To recommend gentleness, indeed, on a broad basis is strictly
philosophical. A frail being should labour to be gentle. But when
forbearance confounds right and wrong, it ceases to be a virtue;
and, however convenient it may be found in a companion--that companion
will ever be considered as an inferior, and only inspire a vapid
tenderness, which easily degenerates into contempt. Still, if
advice could really make a being gentle, whose natural disposition
admitted not of such a fine polish, something towards the advancement
of order would be attained; but if, as might quickly be demonstrated,
only affectation be produced by this indiscriminate counsel, which
throws a stumbling-block in the way of gradual improvement, and
true melioration of temper, the sex is not much benefited by sacrificing
solid virtues to the attainment of superficial graces, though
for a few years they may procure the individuals regal sway.
As a philosopher, I read with indignation the plausible epithets
which men use to soften their insults; and, as a moralist, I ask
what is meant by such heterogeneous associations, as fair defects,
amiable weaknesses, etc. ? If there be but one criterion of morals,
but one architype for man, women appear to be suspended by destiny,
according to the vulgar tale of Mahomet's coffin; they have neither
the unerring instinct of brutes, nor are allowed to fix the eye
of reason on a perfect model. They were made to be loved, and
must not aim at respect, lest they should be hunted out of society
as masculine.
But to view the subject in another point of view. Do passive indolent
women make the best wives? Confining our discussion to the present
moment of existence, let us see how such weak creatures perform
their part ? Do the women who, by the attainment of a few superficial
accomplishments, have strengthened the prevailing prejudice, merely
contribute to the happiness of their husbands? Do they display
their charms merely to amuse them ? And have women who have early
imbibed notions of passive obedience, sufficient character to
manage a family or educate children? So far from it, that, after
surveying the history of woman, I cannot help agreeing with the
severest satirist, considering the sex as the weakest as well
as the most oppressed half of the species. What does history disclose
but marks of inferiority, and how few women have emancipated themselves
from the galling yoke of sovereign man? So few that the exceptions
remind me of an ingenious conjecture respecting Newton-that he
was probably a being of superior order accidentally caged in a
human body. Following the same train of thinking, I have been
led to imagine that the few extraordinary women who have rushed
in eccentrical directions out of the orbit prescribed to their
sex, were male spirits, confined by mistake in female frames.
But if it be not philosophical to think of sex when the soul is
mentioned, the inferiority must depend on the organs; or the heavenly
fire, which is to ferment the clay, is not given in equal portions.
But avoiding, as I have hitherto done, any direct comparison of
the two sexes collectively, or frankly acknowledging the inferiority
of woman, according to the present appearance of things, I shall
only insist that men have increased that inferiority till women
are almost sunk below the standard of rational creatures. Let
their faculties have room to unfold, and their virtues to gain
strength, and then determine where the whole sex must stand in
the intellectual scale. Yet let it be remembered, that for a small
number of distinguished women I do not ask a place.
It is difficult for us purblind mortals to say to what height
human discoveries and improvements may arrive when the gloom of
despotism subsides, which makes us stumble at every step; but,
when morality shall be settled on a more solid basis, then, without
being gifted with a prophetic spirit, I will venture to predict
that woman will be either the friend or slave of man. We shall
not, as at present, doubt whether she is a moral agent, or the
link which unites man with brutes. But should it then appear that
like the brutes they were principally created for the use of man,
he will let them patiently bite the bridle, and not mock them
with empty praise; or, should their rationality be proved, he
will not impede their improvement merely to gratify his sensual
appetites. He will not, with all the graces of rhetoric, advise
them to submit implicitly their understanding to the guidance
of man. He will not, when he treats of the education of women,
assert that they ought never to have the free use of reason, nor
would he recommend cunning and dissimulation to beings who are
acquiring, in like manner as himself, the virtues of humanity.
Surely there can be but one rule of right, if morality has an
eternal foundation, and whoever sacrifices virtue, strictly so
called, to present convenience, or whose duty it is to act in
such a manner, lives only for the passing day, and cannot be an
accountable creature.
The poet then should have dropped his sneer when he says:
If weak women go astray, The stars are more ill fault than they
For that they are bound by the adamantine chain of destiny is
most certain, if it be proved that they are never to exercise
their own reason, never to be independent, never to rise above
opinion, or to feel the dignity of a rational will that only bows
to God, and often forgets that the universe contains any being
but itself and the model of perfection to which its ardent gaze
is turned, to adore attributes that, softened into virtues, may
be imitated in kind, though the degree overwhelms the enraptured
mind.
If, I say, for I would not impress by declamation when Reason
offers her sober light, if they be really capable of acting like
rational creatures, let them not be treated like slaves; or, like
the brutes who are dependent on the reason of man, when they associate
with him; but cultivate their minds, give them the salutary sublime
curb of principle, and let them attain conscious dignity by feeling
themselves only dependent on God. Teach them, in common with man,
to submit to necessity, instead of giving, to render them more
pleasing, a sex to morals.
Further, should experience prove that they cannot attain the same
degree of strength of mind, perseverance, and fortitude, let their
virtues be the same in kind, though they may vainly struggle for
the same degree; and the superiority of man will be equally clear,
if not clearer; and truth, as it is a simple principle, which
admits of no modification, would be common to both. Nay the order
of society, as it is at present regulated, would not be inverted,
for woman would then only have the rank that reason assigned her,
and arts could not be practised to bring the balance even, much
less to turn it.
These may be termed Utopian dreams. Thanks to that Being who impressed
them on my soul, and gave me sufficient strength of mind to dare
to exert my own reason, till, becoming dependent only on Him for
the support of my virtue, I view, with indignation, the mistaken
notions that enslave my sex.
I love man as my fellow; but his sceptre, real or usurped, extends
not to me, unless the reason of an individual demands my homage;
and even then the submission is to reason, and not to man. In
fact, the conduct of an accountable being must be regulated by
the operations of its own reason; or on what foundation rests
the throne of God?
It appears to me necessary to dwell on these obvious truths, because
females have been insulated, as it were; and while they have been
stripped of the virtues that should clothe humanity, they have
been decked with artificial graces that enable them to exercise
a short-lived tyranny. Love, in their bosoms, taking place of
every nobler passion, their sole ambition is to be fair, to raise
emotion instead of inspiring respect; and this ignoble desire,
like the servility in absolute monarchies, destroys all strength
of character. Liberty is the mother of virtue, and if women be,
by their very constitution, slaves, and not allowed to breathe
the sharp invigorating air of freedom, they must ever languish
like exotics, and be reckoned beautiful flaws in nature.
As to the argument respecting the subjection in which the sex
has ever been held, it retorts on man. The many have always been
enthralled by the few; and monsters, who scarcely have shown any
discernment of human excellence, have tyrannised over thousands
of their fellow-creatures. Why have men of superior endowments
submitted to such degradation? For, is it not universally acknowledged
that kings, viewed collectively, have ever been inferior, in abilities
and virtue, to the same number of men taken from the common mass
of mankind-yet have they not, and are they not still treated with
a degree of reverence that is an insult to reason? China is not
the only country where a living man has been made a God. Men have
submitted to superior strength to enjoy with impunity the pleasure
of the moment; women have only done the same, and therefore till
it is proved that the courtier, who servilely resigns the birthright
of a man, is not a moral agent, it cannot be demonstrated that
woman is essentially inferior to man because she has always been
subjugated.
Brutal force has hitherto governed the world, and that the science
of politics is in its infancy, is evident from philosophers scrupling
to give the knowledge most useful to man that determinate distinction.
I shall not pursue this argument any further than to establish
an obvious inference, that as sound politics diffuse liberty,
mankind, including woman, will become more wise and virtuous.
NOTES
[1] Why should women be censured with petulant acrimony because
they seem to have a passion for a scarlet coat? Has not an education
placed them more on a level with soldiers than any other class
of men?
[2] Similar feelings has Milton's pleasing picture of paradisiacal
happiness ever raised in my; yet, instead of envying the lovely
pair, I have with concious dignity or satanic pride turned to
hell for sublimer objects. In the same style, when viewing some
noble monument of human art, I have traced the emanation of the
Deity in the order I admired, till, descending from that giddy
height, I have caught myself contemplating the grandest of all
human sights; for fancy quickly placed in some solitary recess
an outcast of fortune, rising superior to passion and discontent.
[3] For example, the herd of Novelists.
[4] Vide Rousseau and Swedenborg.
CHAPTER III
THE SAME SUBJECT CONTINUED
Bodily strength from being the distinction of heroes is now sunk
into such unmerited contempt that men, as well as women, seem
to think it unnecessary; the latter, as it takes from their feminine
graces, and from that lovely weakness, the source of their undue
power; and the former, because it appears inimical to the character
of a gentleman.
That they have both, by departing from one extreme run into another,
may easily be proved; but first it may be proper to observe that
a vulgar error has obtained a degree of credit, which has given
force to a false conclusion, in which an effect has been mistaken
for a cause.
People of genius have very frequently impaired their constitutions
by study or careless inattention to their health, and the violence
of their passions bearing a proportion to the vigour of their
intellects, the sword's destroying the scabbard has become almost
proverbial, and superficial observers have inferred from thence
that men of genius have commonly weak, or, to use a more fashionable
phrase, delicate constitutions. Yet the contrary, I believe, will
appear to be the fact; for, on diligent inquiry, I find that strength
of mind has in most cases been accompanied by superior strength
of body,--natural soundness of constitution,--not that robust
tone of nerves and vigour of muscles, which arise from bodily
labour, when the mind is quiescent, or only directs the hands.
Dr. Priestley has remarked, in the preface to his biographical
chart, that the majority of great men have lived beyond fortyfive.
And considering the thoughtless manner in which they have lavished
their strength when investigating a favourite science, they have
wasted the lamp of life, forgetful of the midnight hour; or, when
lost in poetic dreams, fancy has peopled the scene, and the soul
has been disturbed, till it shook the constitution by the passions
that meditation had raised,--whose objects, the baseless fabric
of a vision, faded before the exhausted eye,--they must have had
iron frames. Shakespeare never grasped the airy danger with a
nerveless hand, nor did Milton tremble when he led Satan far from
the confines of his dreary prison. These were not the ravings
of imbecility, the sickly effusions of distempered brains, but
the exuberance of fancy, that " in a fine frenzy " wandering,
was not continually reminded of its material shackles.
I am aware that this argument would carry me further than it may
be supposed I wish to go; but I follow truth, and still adhering
to my first position, I will allow that bodily strength seems
to give man a natural superiority over woman; and this is the
only solid basis on which the superiority of the sex can be built.
But I still insist that not only the virtue but the knowledge
of the two sexes should be the same in nature, if not in degree,
and that women, considered not only as moral but rational creatures,
ought to endeavour to acquire human virtues (or perfections) by
the same means as men, instead of being educated like a fanciful
kind of half being--one of Rousseau's wild chimeras.[1]
But if strength of body be with some show of reason the boast
of men, why are women so infatuated as to be proud of a defect
? Rousseau has furnished them with a plausible excuse, which could
only have occurred to a man whose imagination had been allowed
to run wild, and refine on the impressions made by exquisite senses;
that they might forsooth have a pretext for yielding to a natural
appetite without violating a romantic species of modesty, which
gratifies the pride and libertinism of man.
Women, deluded by these sentiments, sometimes boast of their weakness,
cunningly obtaining power by playing on the weakness of men; and
they may well glory in their illicit sway, for, like Turkish bashaws,
they have more real power than their masters; but virtue is sacrificed
to temporary gratifications, and the respectability of life to
the triumph of an hour.
Women, as well as despots, have now perhaps more power than they
would have if the world, divided and subdivided into kingdoms
and families, were governed by laws deduced from the exercise
of reason; but in obtaining it, to carry on the comparison, their
character is degraded, and licentiousness spread through the whole
aggregate of society. The many become pedestal to the few. I,
therefore, will venture to assert that till women are more rationally
educated, the progress of human virtue and improvement in knowledge
must receive continual checks. And if it be granted that woman
was not created merely to gratify the appetite of man, or to be
the upper servant who provides his meals and takes care of his
linen, it must follow that the first care of those mothers or
fathers who really attend to the education of females should be,
if not to strengthen the body, at least not to destroy the constitution
by mistaken notions of beauty and female excellence; nor should
girls ever be allowed to imbibe the pernicious notion that a defect
can, by any chemical process of reasoning, become an excellence.
In this respect I am happy to find that the author of one of the
most instructive books that our country has produced for children,
coincides with me in opinion. I shall quote his pertinent remarks
to give the force of his respectable authority to reason.[2]
But should it be proved that woman is naturally weaker than man,
whence does it follow that it is natural for her to labour to
become still weaker than nature intended her to be? Arguments
of this cast are an insult to common sense, and savour of passion.
The divine right of husbands, like the divine right of kings,
may, it is to be hoped, in this enlightened age, be contested
without danger; and though conviction may not silence many boisterous
disputants, yet, when any prevailing prejudice is attacked, the
wise will consider, and leave the narrow-minded to rail with thoughtless
vehemence at innovation.
The mother who wishes to give true dignity of character to her
daughter must, regardless of the sneers of ignorance, proceed
on a plan diametrically opposite to that which Rousseau has recommended
with all the deluding charms of eloquence and philosophical sophistry,
for his eloquence renders absurdities plausible, and his dogmatic
conclusions puzzle, without convincing, those who have not ability
to refute them.
Throughout the whole animal kingdom every young creature requires
almost continual exercise, and the infancy of children, conformable
to this intimation, should be passed in harmless gambols that
exercise the feet and hands, without requiring very minute direction
from the head, or the constant attention of a nurse. In fact,
the care necessary for self-preservation is the first natural
exercise of the understanding as little inventions to amuse the
present moment unfold the imagination. But these wise designs
of nature are counteracted by mistaken fondness or blind zeal.
The child is not left a moment to its own direction--particularly
a girl and thus rendered dependent. Dependence is called natural.
To preserve personal beauty--woman's glory--the limbs and faculties
are cramped with worse than Chinese bands, and the sedentary life
which they are condemned to live, whilst boys frolic in the open
air, weakens the muscles and relaxes the nerves. As for Rousseau's
remarks, which have since been echoed by several writers, that
they have naturally, that is, from their birth, independent of
education, a fondness for dolls, dressing, and talking, they are
so puerile as not to merit a serious refutation. That a girl,
condemned to sit for hours together listening to the idle chat
of weak nurses, or to attend at her mother's toilet, will endeavour
to join the conversation, is, indeed, very natural; and that she
will imitate her mother or aunts, and amuse herself by adorning
her lifeless doll, as they do in dressing her, poor innocent babe!
is undoubtedly a most natural consequence. For men of the greatest
abilities have seldom had sufficient strength to rise above the
surrounding atmosphere; and if the pages of genius have always
been blurred by the prejudices of the age, some allowance should
be made for a sex, who, like kings, always see things through
a false medium.
Purposing these reflections, the fondness for dress, conspicuous
in woman, may be easily accounted for, without supposing it the
result of a desire to please the sex on which they are dependent.
The absurdity, in short, of supposing that a girl is naturally
a coquette, and that a desire connected with the impulse of nature
to propagate the species, should appear even before an improper
education has, by heating the imagination, called it forth prematurely,
is so unphilosophical, that such a sagacious observer as Rousseau
would not have adopted it, if he had not been accustomed to make
reason give way to his desire of singularity, and truth to a favourite
paradox. Yet thus to give a sex to mind was not very consistent
with the principles of a man who argued so warmly, and so well,
for the immortality of the soul. But what a weak barrier is truth
when it stands in the way of an hypothesis ! Rousseau respected
--almost adored virtue--and yet he allowed himself to love with
sensual fondness. His imagination constantly prepared inflammable
fuel for his inflammable senses; but, in order to reconcile his
respect for self-denial, fortitude, and those heroic virtues,
which a mind like his could not coolly admire, he labours to invert
the law of nature, and broaches a doctrine pregnant with mischief,
and derogatory to the character of supreme wisdom.
His ridiculous stories, which tend to prove that girls are naturally
attentive to their persons, without laying any stress on daily
example, are below contempt. And that a little miss should have
such a correct taste as to neglect the pleasing amusement of making
O's, merely because she perceived that it was an ungraceful attitude,
should be selected with the anecdotes of the learned pig.[3]
I have, probably, had an opportunity of observing more girls in
their infancy than J. J. Rousseau. I can recollect my own feelings,
and I have looked steadily around me; yet, so far from coinciding
with him in opinion respecting the first dawn of the female character,
I will venture to affirm, that a girl, whose spirits have not
been damped by inactivity, or innocence tainted by false shame,
will always be a romp, and the doll will never excite attention
unless confinement allows her no alternative. Girls and boys,
in short, would play, harmlessly together, if the distinction
of sex was not inculcated long before nature makes any difference.
I will go further, and affirm, as an indisputable fact, that most
of the women, in the circle of my observation, who have acted
like rational creatures, or shown any vigour of intellect, have
accidentally been allowed to run wild, as some of the elegant
formers of the fair sex would insinuate.
The baneful consequences which flow from inattention to health
during infancy and youth, extend further than is supposed-dependence
of body naturally produces dependence of mind; and how can she
be a good wife or mother, the greater part of whose time is employed
to guard against or endure sickness? Nor can it be expected that
& woman will resolutely endeavour to strengthen her constitution
and abstain from enervating indulgences, if artificial notions
of beauty, and false descriptions of sensibility, have been early
entangled with her motives of action. Most men are sometimes obliged
to bear with bodily inconveniences, and to endure, occasionally,
the inclemency of the elements; but genteel women are, literally
speaking, slaves to their bodies, and glory in their subjection.
I once knew a weak woman of fashion, who was more than commonly
proud of her delicacy and sensibility. She thought a distinguishing
taste and puny appetite the height of all human perfection, and
acted accordingly. I have seen this weak sophisticated being neglect
all the duties of life, yet recline with self-complacency on a
sofa, and boast of her want of appetite as a proof of delicacy
that extended to, or, perhaps, arose from, her exquisite sensibility;
for it is difficult to render intelligible such ridiculous jargon.
Yet, at the moment, I have seen her insult a worthy old gentlewoman,
whom unexpected misfortunes had made dependent on her ostentatious
bounty, and who, in better days, had claims on her gratitude.
Is it possible that a human creature could have become such a
weak and depraved being, if, like the Sybarites, dissolved in
luxury, everything like virtue had not been worn pressed by precept,
a poor substitute, it is of mind, though it serves as a fence
against vice?
Such a woman is not a more irrational monster than some of the
Roman emperors, who were depraved by lawless power. Yet, since
kings have been more under the restraint of law, and the curb,
however weak, of honour, the records of history are not filled
with such unnatural instances of folly and cruelty, nor does the
despotism that kills virtue and genius in the bud, hover over
Europe with that destructive blast which desolates Turkey, and
renders the men, as well as the soil, unfruitful.
Women are everywhere in this deplorable state; for, in order to
preserve their innocence, as ignorance is courteously termed,
truth is hidden from them, and they are made to assume an artificial
character before their faculties have acquired any strength. Taught
from their infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes
itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks
to adore its prison. Men have various employments and pursuits
which engage their attention, and give a character to the opening
mind; but women, confined to one, and having their thoughts constantly
directed to the most insignificant part of themselves, seldom
extend their views beyond the triumph of the hour. But were their
understanding once emancipated from the slavery to which the pride
and sensuality of man and their short-sighted desire, like that
of dominion in tyrants, of present sway, has subjected them, we
should probably read of their weaknesses with surprise. I must
be allowed to pursue the argument a little further.
Perhaps, if the existence of an evil being were allowed, who,
in the allegorical language of Scripture, went about seeking whom
he should devour, he could not more effectually degrade the human
character, than by giving a man absolute power.
This argument branches into various ramifications. Birth, riches,
and every extrinsic advantage that exalt a man above his fellows,
without any mental exertion, sink him in reality below them. In
proportion to his weakness, he is played upon by designing men,
till the bloated monster has lost all traces of humanity. And
that tribes of-men, like flocks of sheep, should quietly follow
such a leader, is a solecism that only a desire of present enjoyment
and narrowness of understanding can solve. Educated in slavish
dependence, and enervated by luxury and sloth, where shall we
find men who will stand forth to assert the rights of man, or
claim the privilege of moral beings, who should have but one road
to excellence? Slavery to monarchs and ministers, which the world
will be long in freeing itself from, and whose deadly grasp stops
the progress of the human mind, is not yet abolished.
Let not men then in the pride of power, use the same arguments
that tyrannic kings and venal ministers have used, and fallaciously
assert that woman ought to be subjected because she has always
been so. But, when man, governed by reasonable laws, enjoys his
natural freedom, let him despise woman, if she do not share it
with him; and, till that glorious period arrives, in descanting
on the folly of the sex, let him not overlook his own.
Women, it is true, obtaining power by unjust means, by practising
or fostering vice, evidently lose the rank which reason would
assign them, and they become either abject slaves or capricious
tyrants. They lose all simplicity, all dignity of mind, in acquiring
power, and act as men are observed to act when they have been
exalted by the same means.
It is time to effect a revolution in female manners--time to restore
to them their lost dignity--and make them, as a part of the human
species, labour by reforming themselves to reform the world. It
is time to separate unchangeable morals from local manners. If
men be demi-gods, why let us serve them! And if the dignity of
the female soul be as disputable as that of animals--if their
reason does not afford sufficient light to direct their conduct
whilst unerring instinct is denied--they are surely of all creatures
the most miserable ! and, bent beneath the iron hand of destiny,
must submit to be a fair defect in creation. But to justify the
ways of Providence respecting them, by pointing out some irrefragable
reason for thus making such a large portion of mankind accountable
and not accountable, would puzzle the subtilest casuist.
The only solid foundation for morality appears to be the character
of the Supreme Being; the harmony of which arises from a balance
of attributes,--and, to speak with reverence, one attribute seems
to imply the necessity of another. He must be just, because He
is wise; He must be good, because He is omnipotent. For to exalt
one attribute at the expense of another equally noble and necessary,
bears the stamp of the warped reason of man--the homage of passion.
Man, accustomed to bow down to power in his savage state, can
seldom divest himself of this barbarous prejudice, even when civilisation
determines how much superior mental is to bodily strength; and
his reason is clouded by these crude opinions, even when he thinks
of the Deity. His omnipotence is made to swallow up, or preside
over His other attributes, and those morals are supposed to limit
His power irreverently, who think that it must be regulated by
His wisdom.
I disclaim that specious humility which, after investigating nature,
stops at the Author. The High and Lofty one, who inhabiteth eternity,
doubtless possesses many attributes of which we can form no conception;
but Reason tells me that they cannot dash with those I adore--and
I am compelled to listen to her voice.
It seems natural for man to search for excellence, and either
to trace it in the object that he worships, or blindly to invest
it with perfection, as a garment. But what good effect can the
latter mode of worship have on the moral conduct of a rational
being? He bends to power; he adores a dark cloud, which may open
a bright prospect to him, to burst in angry, lawless fury, on
his devoted head--he knows not why. And, supposing that the Deity
acts from the vague impulse of an undirected will, man must also
follow his own, or act according to rules, deduced from principles
which he disclaims as irreverent. Into this dilemma have both
enthusiasts and cooler thinkers fallen, when they laboured to
free men from the wholesome restraints which a just conception
of the character of God imposes.
It is not impious thus to scan the attributes of the Almighty:
in fact, who can avoid it that exercises his faculties? For to
love God as the fountain of wisdom, goodness, and power, appears
to be the only worship useful to a being who wishes to acquire
either virtue or knowledge. A blind unsettled affection may, like
human passions, occupy the mind and warm the heart, whilst, to
do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God, is forgotten.
I shall pursue this subject still further, when I consider religion
in a light opposite to that recommended by Dr. Gregory, who treats
it as a matter of sentiment or taste.
To return from this apparent digression. It were to be wished
that women would cherish an affection for their husbands, founded
on the same principle that devotion ought to rest upon. No other
firm base is there under heaven--for let them beware of the fallacious
light of sentiment; too often used as a softer phrase for sensuality.
It follows then, I think, that from their infancy women should
either be shut up like Eastern princes, or educated in such a
manner as to be able to think and act for themselves.
Why do men halt between two opinions, and expect impossibilities?
Why do they expect virtue from a slave, from a being whom the
constitution of civil society has rendered weak, if not vicious?
Still I know that it will require a considerable length of time
to eradicate the firmly rooted prejudices which sensualists have
planted; it will also require some time to convince women that
they act contrary to their real interest on an enlarged scale,
when they cherish or affect weakness under the name of delicacy,
and to convince the world that the poisoned source of female vices
and follies, if it be necessary, in compliance with custom, to
use synonymous terms in a lax sense, has been the sensual homage
paid to beauty:--to beauty of features; for it has been shrewdly
observed by a German writer, that a pretty woman, as an object
of desire, is generally allowed to be so by men of all descriptions;
whilst a fine woman, who inspires more sublime emotions by displaying
intellectual beauty, may be overlooked or observed with indifference,
by those men who find their happiness in their gratification of
their appetites. I foresee an obvious retort--whilst man remains
such an imperfect being as he appears hitherto to have been, he
will, more or less, be the slave of his appetites; and those women
obtaining most power who gratify a predominant one, the sex is
degraded by a physical, if not by a moral necessity.
This objection has, I grant, some force; but while such a sublime
precept exists, as, "Be pure as your heavenly Father is pure";
it would seem that the virtues of man are not limited by the Being
who alone could limit them; and that he may press forward without
considering whether he steps out of his sphere by indulging such
a noble ambition. To the wild billows it has been said, "Thus
far shalt thou go, and no farther; and here shall thy proud waves
be stayed." Vainly then do they beat and foam, restrained
by the power that confines the struggling planets in their orbits,
matter yields to the great governing Spirit. But an immortal soul,
not restrained by mechanical laws and struggling to free itself
from the shackles of matter, contributes to, instead of disturbing,
the order of creation, when, co-operating with the Father of spirits,
it tries to govern itself by the invariable rule that, in a degree,
before which our imagination faints, regulates the universe.
Besides, if women be educated for dependence, that is, to act
according to the will of another fallible being, and submit, right
or wrong, to power, where are we to stop? Are they to be considered
as vicegerents allowed to reign over a small domain, and answerable
for their conduct to a higher tribunal, liable to error? It will
not be difficult to prove that such delegates will act like men
subjected by fear, and make their children and servants endure
their tyrannical oppression. As they submit without reason, they
will, having no fixed rules to square their conduct by, be kind,
or cruel, just as the whim of the moment directs; and we ought
not to wonder if sometimes, galled by their heavy yoke, they take
a malignant pleasure in resting it on weaker shoulders.
But, supposing a woman, trained up to obedience, be married to
a sensible man, who directs her judgment without making her feel
the servility of her subjection, to act with as much propriety
by this reflected light as can be expected when reason is taken
at secondhand, yet she cannot ensure the life of her protector;
he may die and leave her with a large family.
A double duty devolves on her; to educate them in the character
of both father and mother; to form their principles and secure
their property. But, alas! she has never thought, much less acted
for herself. She has only learned to please [4] men, to depend
gracefully on them; yet, encumbered with children, how is she
to obtain another protector--a husband to supply the place of
reason? A rational man, for we are not treading on romantic ground,
though he may think her a pleasing docile creature, will not choose
to marry a family for love, when the world contains many more
pretty creatures. What is then to become of her? She either falls
an easy prey to some mean fortune-hunter, who defrauds her children
of their paternal inheritance, and renders her miserable; or becomes
the victim of discontent and blind indulgence. Unable to educate
her sons, or impress them with respect,--for it is not a play
on words to assert, that people are never respected, though filling
an important station, who are not respectable,--she pines under
the anguish of unavailing impotent regret. The serpent's tooth
enters into her very soul, and the vices of licentious youth bring
her with sorrow, if not with poverty also, to the grave.
This is not an overcharged picture; on the contrary, it is a very
possible case, and something similar must have fallen under every
attentive eye.
I have, however, taken it for granted, that she was well disposed,
though experience shows, that the blind may as easily be led into
a ditch as along the beaten road. But supposing, no very improbable
conjecture, that a being only taught to please must still find
her happiness in pleasing; what an example of folly, not to say
vice, will she be to her innocent daughters! The mother will be
lost in the coquette, and, instead of making friends of her daughters,
view them with eyes askance, for they are rivals--rivals more
cruel than any other, because they invite a comparison, and drive
her from the throne of beauty, who has never thought of a seat
on the bench of reason.
It does not require a lively pencil, or the discriminating outline
of a caricature, to sketch the domestic miseries and petty vices
which such a mistress of a family diffuses. Still she only acts
as a woman ought to act, brought up according to Rousseau's system.
She can never be reproached for being masculine, or turning out
of her sphere; nay, she may observe another of his grand rules,
and, cautiously preserving her reputation free from spot, be reckoned
a good kind of woman. Yet in what respect can she be termed good?
She abstains, it is true, without any great struggle, from committing
gross crimes; but how does she fulfil her duties? Duties! in truth
she has enough to think of to adorn her body and nurse a weak
constitution.
With respect to religion, she never presumed to judge for herself;
but conformed, as a dependent creature should, to the effects
of a good education ! These the virtues of man's helpmate ![5]
I must relieve myself by drawing a different picture.
Let fancy now present a woman with a tolerable understanding,
for I do not wish to leave the line of mediocrity, whose constitution,
strengthened by exercise, has allowed her body to acquire its
full vigour; her mind, at the same time, gradually expanding itself
to comprehend the moral duties of life, and in what human virtue
and dignity consist.
Formed thus by the discharge of the relative duties of her station,
she marries from affection, without losing sight of prudence,
and looking beyond matrimonial felicity, she secures her husband's
respect before it is necessary to exert mean arts to please him
and feed a dying flame, which nature doomed to expire when the
object became familiar, when friendship and forbearance take place
of a more ardent affection. This is the natural death of love,
and domestic peace is not destroyed by struggles to prevent its
extinction. I also suppose the husband to be virtuous; or she
is still more in want of independent principles.
Fate, however, breaks this tie. She is left a widow, perhaps without
a sufficient provision; but she is not desolate! The pang of nature
is felt; but after time has softened sorrow into melancholy resignation,
her heart turns to her children with redoubled fondness, and anxious
to provide for them, affection gives a sacred heroic cast to her
maternal duties. She thinks that not only the eye sees her virtuous
efforts from whom all her comfort now must flow, and whose approbation
is life; but her imagination, a little abstracted and exalted
by grief, dwells on the fond hope that the eyes which her trembling
hand closed, may still see how she subdues every wayward passion
to fulfil the double duty of being the father as well as the mother
of her children. Raised to heroism by misfortunes, she represses
the first faint dawning of a natural inclination, before it ripens
into love, and in the bloom of life forgets her sex--forgets the
pleasure of an awakening passion, which might again have been
inspired and returned. She no longer thinks of pleasing, and conscious
dignity prevents her from priding herself on account of the praise
which her conduct demands. Her children have her love, and her
brightest hopes are beyond the grave, where her imagination often
strays.
I think I see her surrounded by her children, reaping the reward
of her care. The intelligent eye meets hers, whilst health and
innocence smile on their chubby cheeks, and as they grow up the
cares of life are lessened by their grateful attention. She lives
to see the virtues which she endeavoured to plant on principles,
fixed into habits, to see her children attain a strength of character
sufficient to enable them to endure adversity without forgetting
their mother's example.
The task of life thus fulfilled, she calmly waits for the sleep
of death, and rising from the grave, may say--"Behold, Thou
gavest me a talent, and here are five talents."
I wish to sum up what I have said in a few words, for I here throw
down my gauntlet, and deny the existence of sexual virtues, not
excepting modesty. For man and woman, truth, if I understand the
meaning of the word, must be the same; yet the fanciful female
character, so prettily drawn by poets and novelists, demanding
the sacrifice of truth and sincerity, virtue becomes a relative
idea, having no other foundation than utility, and of that utility
men pretend arbitrarily to judge, shaping it to their own convenience.
Women, I allow, may have different duties to fulfil; but they
are human duties, and the principles that should regulate the
discharge of them, I sturdily maintain, must be the same.
To become respectable, the exercise of their of their understanding
is necessary, there is of character; I mean bow to the authority
slaves of opinion.
In the superior ranks of life how seldom do we meet with a man
of superior abilities, or even common acquirements? The reason
appears to me clear, the state they are born in was an unnatural
one. The human character has ever been formed by the employments
the individual, or class, pursues; and if the faculties are not
sharpened by necessity, they must remain obtuse. The argument
may fairly be extended to women; for, seldom occupied by serious
business, the pursuit of pleasure gives that insignificancy to
their character which renders the society of the great so insipid.
The same want of firmness, produced by a similar cause, forces
them both to fly from themselves to noisy pleasures, and artificial
passions, till vanity takes place of every social affection, and
the characteristics of humanity can scarcely be discerned. Such
are the blessings of civil governments, as they are at present
organised, that wealth and female softness equally tend to debase
mankind, and are produced by the same cause; but allowing women
to be rational creatures, they should be incited to acquire virtues
which they may call their own, for how can a rational being be
ennobled by anything that is not obtained by its own exertions?
NOTES
[1] "Researches into abstract and speculative truths the
principles and axioms of sciences,--in short, everything which
tends to generalise our ideas,--is not the proper province of
women, their studies should be relative to points of practice;
it belongs to them to apply those principles which men have discoveredand
it is their part to make observations which direct men to the
establishment of general principles. All the ideas of women, which
have not the immediate tendency to points of duty should be directed
to the study of men, and to the attainment of those agreeable
accomplishments which have taste for their objectfor as to works
of genius they are beyond their capacity neither have they sufficient
precision or power of attention to succeed in sciences which require
accuracyand as to physical knowledge, it belongs to those only
who are most active, most inquisitive, who comprehend the greatest
variety of objects; in short, it belongs to those who have the
strongest powers, and who exercise them most, to judge of the
relations between sensible beings and the laws of nature. A woman
who is naturally weak, and does not carry her ideas to any great
extent, knows how to judge and make a proper estimate of those
movements which she sets to work, in order to aid her weakness;
and these movements are the passions of men. The mechanism she
employs is much more powerful than ours, for all her levers move
the human heart. She must have the skill to incline us to do everything
which her sex will not enable her to do herself, and which is
necessary or agreeable to her; therefore she ought to study the
mind of man thoroughly, not the mind of man in general, abstractedly,
but the dispositions of those men to whom she is subject either
by the laws of her country or by the force of opinion. She should
learn to penetrate into their real sentiments from their conversation,
their actions, their looks and gestures. She should also have
the art, by her own conversation, actions, looks, and gestures,
to communicate those sentiments which are agreeable to them without
seeming to intend it. Men will argue more philosophically about
the human heartbut women will read the heart of men better than
they. It belongs to women--if I may be allowed the expression--to
form an experimental morality, and to reduce the study of man
to a system Women have most wit, men have most geniuswomen observe,
men reason. From the Concurrence of both we derive the clearest
light and the most perfect knowledge which the human mind is of
itself capable of attaining. In one word, from hence we acquire
the most intimate acquaintance, both with ourselves and others,
of which our nature is capable; and it is thus that art has a
constant tendency to perfect those endowments which nature has
bestowed. The world is the book of women." -ROUSSEAU'S Emilius.
I hope my readers still remember the comparison which I have brought
forward between women and officers.
[2] "A respectable old man gives the following sensible account
of the method he pursued when educating his daughter: 'I endeavoured
to give both to her mind and body a degree of vigour which is
seldom found in the female sex. As soon as she was sufficiently
advanced in strength to be capable of the lighter labours of husbandry
and gardening I employed her as my constant companion. Selene--for
that was her name--soon acquired a dexterity in ill these rustic
employments which I considered with equal pleasure and admiration.
If women are in general feeble both in body and mind it arises
less from nature than from education. We encourage a vicious indolence
and inactivity which we falsely call delicacy. Instead of hardening
their minds by the severer principles of reason and philosophy,
we breed them to useless art which terminate in vanity and sensuality.
In most of the countries which I had visited they are taught nothing
of an higher nature than a few modulations of the voice or useless
postures of the body; their time is consumed in sloth or trifles
and tribulations become the only pursuit capable of interesting
them. We seem to forget that it is upon the qualities of the female
sex that our own domestic comforts and the education of our children
must depend. And what are the comforts or the education which
a race of being corrupted from their infancy and unacquainted
with all the duties of life are fitted to bestow? To touch a musical
instrument with useless skill to exhibit their cultural or affected
graces to the eyes of indolent and debauched young men, to dissipate
their husband's patrimony in riotous and unnecessary expenses
these are the only arts cultivated by women in most of the polished
nations I had seen. And the consequences are uniformly such as
may be expected to proceed from such polluted sources -private
and public servitude.
"'But Selene's education was regulated by different views,
and conducted upon severer principles--if that can be called severity
which opens the mind to a sense of moral and religious duties,
and most effectually it arms it against the inevitable evils of
life.'" --Mr. Day's Sandford and Merton, vol. iii.
[3] "I once knew a young person who learned to write before
she learned to read, and began to write with her needle before
she could use a pen. At first, indeed she took it into her head
to make no letter than the O: this letter she was constantly making
of all sizes and always the wrong way. Unluckily one day as she
was intent on this employment, she happened to see herself in
the looking-glass; when, taking a dislike to the constrained attitude
in which she sat while writing she threw away her pen like another
Pallas and determined against making the O any more. Her brother
was also equally averse to writing; it was the confinement however
and not the constrained attitude that most disgusted him."
--Rousseau's Emililus.
[4] "In the union of the sexes, both pursue one common object,
but not in the same manner. From their diversity in this particular,
arises the first determinate difference between the moral relations
of each. The one should be active and strong the other passive
and weak; it is necessary the one should have both the power and
the will and that the other should make little resistance.
"This principle being established it follows that woman is
expressly formed to please the man: if the obligation be reciprocal
also and the man ought to please in his turn it is not so immediately
necessary his great merit is in his power and he pleases merely
because he is strong. This I must confess is not one of the refined
maxims of love; it is however one of the laws of nature prior
to love itself.
"If woman be formed to please and be subjected to man, it
is her place, doubtless, to render herself agreeable to him instead
of challenging his passion. The violence of his desires depends
on her charms is by means of these she should urge him to the
exertion of those powers which nature hath given him. The most
successful method of exciting them, is, to render such exertion
necessary by resistance; as in that case self-love is added to
desire and the one triumphs in the victory which the other is
obliged to acquire. Hence arise the various modes of attack and
defence between the sexes the boldness of one sex and the timidity
of the otherand in a word that bashfulness and modesty with which
nature hath armed the weak in order to subdue the strong."
--Rousseau's Emilius.
I shall make no other comment on this ingenious passage than just
to observe that it is the philosophy of lasciviousness.
[5] "O how lovely, exclaims Rousseau, speaking of Sophia,
is her ignorance! Happy is he who is destined to instruct her!
She will never pretend to be the tutor of her husband but will
be content to be his pupil. Far from attempting to subject him
to her taste she will accommodate her self to his. She will be
more estimable to him than if she was learned he will have a pleasure
in instructing her. --Rousseau's Emilius.
I shall content myself with simply asking how friendship can subsist
when love expires between the master and his pupil.
CHAPTER IV
OBSERVATIONS ON THE STATE OF DEGRADATION TO WHICH WOMAN IS
REDUCED BY VARIOUS CAUSES
That woman is naturally weak, or degraded by a concurrence of
circumstances, is, I think, clear. But this position I shall simply
contrast with a conclusion, which I have frequently heard fall
from sensible men in favour of an aristocracy: that the mass of
mankind cannot be anything, or the obsequious slaves, who patiently
allow themselves to be driven forward, would feel their own consequence,
and spurn their chains. Men, they further observe, submit everywhere
to oppression, when they have only to lift up their heads to throw
off the yoke; yet, instead of asserting their birthright, they
quietly lick the dust, and say, "Let us eat and drink, for
tomorrow we die." Women, I argue from analogy, are degraded
by the same propensity to enjoy the present moment, and at last
despise the freedom which they have not sufficient virtue to struggle
to attain. But I must be more explicit.
With respect to the culture of the heart, it is unanimously allowed
that sex is out of the question; but the line of subordination
in the mental powers is never to be passed over.[1] Only "absolute
in loveliness," the portion of rationality granted to woman
is, indeed, very scanty; for denying her genius and judgment,
it is scarcely possible to divine what remains to characterise
intellect.
The stamen of immortality, if I may be allowed the phrase is the
perfectibility of human reason; for, were man created perfect,
or did a flood of knowledge break in upon him, when he arrived
at maturity, that precluded error, I should doubt whether his
existence would be continued after the dissolution of the body.
But, in the present state of things, every difficulty in morals
that escapes from human discussion, and equally baffles the investigation
of profound thinking, and the lightning glance of genius, is an
argument on which I build my belief of the immortality of the
soul. Reason is, consequentially, the simple power of improvement;
or, more properly speaking, of discerning truth. Every individual
is in this respect a world in itself. More or less may be conspicuous
in one being than another; but the nature of reason must be the
same in all, if it be an emanation of divinity, the tie that connects
the creature with the Creator; for, can that soul be stamped with
the heavenly image, that is not perfected by the exercise of its
own reason?[2] Yet outwardly ornamented with elaborate care, and
so adorned to delight man, " that with honour he may love,"[3]
the soul of woman is not allowed to have this distinction, and
man, ever placed between her and reason, she is always represented
as only created to see through a gross medium, and to take things
on trust. But dismissing these fanciful theories, and considering
woman as a whole, let it be what it will, instead of a part of
man, the inquiry is whether she have reason or not. If she have,
which, for a moment, I will take for granted, she was not created
merely to be the solace of man, and the sexual should not destroy
the human character.
Into this error men have, probably, been led by viewing education
in a false light; not considering it as the first step to form
a being advancing gradually towards perfection;[4] but only as
a preparation for life. On this sensual error, for I must call
it so, has the false system of female manners been reared, which
robs the whole sex of its dignity, and classes the brown and fair
with the smiling flowers that only adorn the land. This has ever
been the language of men, and the fear of departing from a supposed
sexual character, has made even women of superior sense adopt
the same sentiments.[5] Thus understanding, strictly speaking,
has been denied to woman; and instinct, sublimated into wit and
cunning, for the purposes of life, has been substituted in its
stead.
The power of generalizing ideas, of drawing comprehensive conclusions
from individual observations, is the only acquirement, for an
immortal being, that really deserves the name of knowledge. Merely
to observe, without endeavouring to account for anything, may
(in a very incomplete manner) serve as the common sense of life;
but where is the store laid up that is to clothe the soul when
it leaves the body?
This power has not only been denied to women; but writers have
insisted that it is inconsistent, with a few exceptions, with
their sexual character. Let men prove this, and I shall grant
that woman only exists for man. I must, however, previously remark,
that the power of generalizing ideas, to any great extent, is
not very common amongst men or women. But this exercise is the
true cultivation of the understanding; and everything conspires
to render the cultivation of the understanding more difficult
in the female than the male world.
I am naturally led by this assertion to the main subject of the
present chapter, and shall now attempt to point out some of the
causes that degrade the sex, and prevent women from generalizing
their observations.
I shall not go back to the remote annals of antiquity to trace
the history of woman; it is sufficient to allow that she has always
been either a slave or a despot, and to remark that each of these
situations equally retards the progress of reason. The grand source
of female folly and vice has ever appeared to me to arise from
narrowness of mind; and the very constitution of civil governments
has put almost insuperable obstacles in the way to prevent the
cultivation of the female understanding; yet virtue can be built
on no other foundation. The same obstacles are thrown in the way
of the rich, and the same consequences ensue.
Necessity has been proverbially termed the mother of invention;
the aphorism may be extended to virtue. It is an acquirement,
and an acquirement to which pleasure must be sacrificed; and who
sacrifices pleasure when it is within the grasp, whose mind has
not been opened and strengthened by adversity, or the pursuit
of knowledge goaded on by necessity? Happy is it when people have
the cares of life to struggle with, for these struggles prevent
their becoming a prey to enervating vices, merely from idleness.
But if from their birth men and women be placed in a torrid zone,
with the meridian sun of pleasure darting directly upon them,
how can they sufficiently brace their minds to discharge the duties
of life; or even to relish the affections that carry them out
of themselves?
Pleasure is the business of woman's life, according to the present
modification of society; and while it continues to be so, little
can be expected from such weak beings. Inheriting in a lineal
descent from the first fair defect in nature--the sovereignty
of beauty--they have, to maintain their-power, resigned the natural
rights which the exercise of reason might have procured them,
and chosen rather to be short-lived queens than labour to obtain
the sober pleasures that arise from equality. Exalted by their
inferiority (this sounds like a contradiction), they constantly
demand homage as women, though experience should teach them that
the men who pride themselves upon paying this arbitrary insolent
respect to the sex, with the most scrupulous exactness) are most
inclined to tyrannise over, and despise the very weakness they
cherish. Often do they repeat Mr. Hume's sentiments, when, comparing
the French and Athenian character, he alludes to women,--"But
what is more singular in this whimsical nation, say I to the Athenians,
is,' that a frolic of yours during the saturnalia, when the slaves
are served by their masters,. is seriously continued by them through
the whole year, and through the whole course of their lives, accompanied,
too, with some circumstances, which still further augment the
absurdity and ridicule. Your sport only elevates for a few days
those whom fortune has thrown down, and whom she too, in sport,
may really elevate for ever above you. But this nation gravely
exalts those whom nature has subjected to them, and whose inferiority
and infirmities are absolutely incurable. The women, though without
virtue, are their masters and sovereigns."
Ah! why do women--I write with affectionate solicitude-condescend
to receive a degree of attention and respect from strangers different
from that reciprocation of civility which the dictates of humanity
and the politeness of civilisation authorise between man and man?
And why do they not discover, when "in the noon of beauty's
power," that they are treated like queens only to be deluded
by hollow respect, till they are led to resign, or not assume,
their natural prerogatives? Confined, then, in cages like the
feathered race, they have nothing to do but to plume themselves,
and stalk with mock majesty from perch to perch. It is true they
are provided with food and raiment, for which they neither toil
nor spin; but health, liberty, and virtue are given in exchange.
But where, amongst mankind, has been found sufficient strength
of mind to enable a being to resign these adventitious prerogatives--one
who, rising with the calm dignity of reason above opinion, dared
to be proud of the privileges inherent in man? And it is vain
to expect it whilst hereditary power chokes the affections, and
nips reason in the bud.
The passions of men have thus placed women on thrones, and till
mankind become more reasonable, it is to be feared that women
will avail themselves of the power which they P attain with the
least exertion, and which is the most indisputable. They will
smile--yes, they will smile, though told that:
In beauty's empire is no mean, And woman, either slave or queen,
Is quickly scorned when not adored
But the adoration comes first, and the scorn is not anticipated.
Louis XIV, in particular, spread factitious manners, and caught,
in a specious way, the whole nation in his toils; for, establishing
an artful chain of despotism, he made it the interest of the people
at large individually to respect his station, and support his
power. And women, whom he flattered by a puerile attention to
the whole sex, obtained in his reign that prince-like distinction
so fatal to reason and virtue.
A king is always a king, and a woman always a woman.[6] His authority
and her sex ever stand between them and rational converse. With
a lover, I grant. she should be so, and her sensibility will naturally
lead her to endeavour to excite emotion, not to gratify her vanity,
but her heart. This I do not allow to be coquetry; it is the artless
impulse of nature. I only exclaim against the sexual desire of
conquest when the heart is out of the question.
This desire is not confined to women. "I have endeavoured,"
says Lord Chesterfield, "to gain the hearts of twenty women,
whose persons I would not have given a fig for." The libertine
who, in a gust of passion, takes advantage of unsuspecting tenderness,
is a saint when compared with this cold-hearted rascal--for I
like to use significant words. Yet only taught to please, women
are always on the watch to please, and with true heroic ardour
endeavour to gain hearts merely to resign or spurn them when the
victory is decided and conspicuous.
I must descend to the minutiae of the subject.
I lament that women are systematically degraded by receiving the
trivial attentions which men think it manly to pay to the sex,
when in fact, they are insultingly supporting their own superiority.
It is not condescension to bow to an inferior. So ludicrous, in
fact, do these ceremonies appear to me that I scarcely am able
to govern my muscles when I see a man with eager and serious solicitude
to lift a handkerchief or shut a door, when the lady could have
done it herself, had she only moved a pace or two.
A wild wish has just flown from my heart to my head, I will not
stifle it, though it may excite a horse-laugh. I do earnestly
wish to see the distinction of sex confounded in society, unless
where love animates the behaviour. For this distinction is, I
am firmly persuaded, the foundation of the weakness of character
ascribed to woman; is the cause why the understanding is neglected,
whilst accomplishments are acquired with sedulous care; and the
same cause accounts for their preferring the graceful before the
heroic virtues.
Mankind, including every description, wish to be loved and respected
by something, and the common herd will always take the nearest
road to the completion of their wishes. The respect paid to wealth
and beauty is the most certain and unequivocal, and, of course,
will always attract the vulgar eye of common minds. Abilities
and virtues are absolutely necessary to raise men from the middle
rank of life into notice, and the natural consequence is notorious--the
middle rank contains most virtue and abilities. Men have thus,
in one station at least, an opportunity of exerting themselves
with dignity, and of rising by the exertions which really improve
a rational creature; but the whole female sex are, till their
character is formed, in the same condition as the rich, for they
are born-I now speak of a state of civilisation--with certain
sexual privileges; and whilst they are gratuitously granted them,
few will ever think of works of supererogation to obtain the esteem
of a small number of superior people.
When do we hear of women who, starting out of obscurity, boldly
claim respect on account of their great abilities or daring virtues?
Where are they to be found? "To be observed, to be attended
to, to be taken notice of with sympathy, complacency, and approbation,
are all the advantages which they seek." True! my male readers
will probably exclaim; but let them, before they draw any conclusion,
recollect that this was not written originally as descriptive
of women, but of the rich. In Dr. Smith's Theory of Moral Sentiments
I have found a general character of people of rank and fortune,
that, in my ; opinion, might with the greatest propriety be applied
to the female sex. I refer the sagacious reader to the whole comparison,
but must be allowed to quote a passage to enforce an argument
that I mean to insist on, as the one most conclusive against a
sexual character. For if, excepting warriors no great men of any
denomination have ever appeared amongst the nobility, may it not
be fairly inferred that their local situation swallowed up the
man, and produced a character similar to that of women, who are
localised--if I may be allowed the word--by the rank they are
placed in by courtesy? Women, commonly called ladies, are not
to be contradicted in company, are not allowed to exert any manual
strength; and from them the negative virtues only are expected,
when any virtues are expected--patience, docility, good humour,
and flexibility -virtues incompatible with any vigorous exertion
of intellect. Besides, by living more with each other, and being
seldom absolutely alone, they are more under the influence of
sentiments than passions. Solitude and reflection are necessary
to give to wishes the force of passions, and to enable the imagination
to enlarge the object, and make it the most desirable. The same
may be said of the rich; they do not sufficiently deal in general
ideas, collected by impassioned thinking or calm investigation,
to acquire that strength of character on which great resolves
are built. But hear what an acute observer says of the great.
"Do the great seem insensible of the easy price at which
they may acquire the public admiration; or do they seem to imagine
that to them, as to other men, it must be the purchase either
of sweat or of blood? By what important accomplishments is the
young nobleman instructed to support the dignity of his rank,
and to render himself worthy of that superiority over his fellow-citizens,
to which the virtue of his ancestors had raised them? Is it by
knowledge, by industry, by patience, by self-denial, or by virtue
of any kind. As all his words, as all his motions are attended
to, he learns an habitual regard to every circumstance of ordinary
behaviour, and studies to perform all those small duties with
the most exact propriety. As he is conscious how much he is observed,
and how much mankind are disposed to favour all his inclinations,
he acts, upon the most indifferent occasions, with that freedom
and elevation which the thought of this naturally inspires. His
air, his manner, his deportment, all mark that elegant and graceful
sense of his own superiority, which those who are born to inferior
station can hardly ever arrive at. These are the arts by which
he proposes to make mankind more easily submit to his authority,
and to govern their inclinations according to his own pleasure;
and in this he is seldom disappointed. These arts, supported by
rank and pre-eminence, are, upon ordinary occasions, sufficient
to govern the world. Louis XIV during the greater part of his
reign, was regarded, not only in France, but over all Europe,
as the most perfect model of a great prince. But what were the
talents and virtues by which he acquired this great reputation?
Was it by the scrupulous and inflexible justice of all his undertakings,
by the immense dangers and difficulties with which they were attended,
or by the unwearied and unrelenting application with which he
pursued them? Was it by his extensive knowledge, by his exquisite
judgment, or by his heroic valour? It was by none of these qualities.
But he was, first of all, the most powerful prince in Europe.
and consequently held the highest rank among kings; and then,
says his historian, 'he surpassed all his courtiers in the gracefulness
of his shape, and the majestic beauty of his features. The sound
of his voice, noble and affecting, gained those hearts which his
presence intimidated. He had a step and a deportment which could
suit only him and his rank, and which would have been ridiculous
in any other person. The embarrassment which he occasioned to
those who spoke to him, flattered that secret satisfaction with
which he felt his own superiority.' These frivolous accomplishments,
supported by his rank, and, no doubt too, by a degree of other
talents and virtues, which seems, however, not to have been much
above mediocrity, established this prince in the esteem of his
own age, and have drawn, even from posterity, a good deal of respect
for his memory. Compared with these, in his own times, and in
his own presence, no other virtue, it seems, appeared to have
any merit. Knowledge, industry, valour, and beneficence trembled,
were abashed, and lost all dignity before them."
Woman also thus "in herself complete," by possessing
all these frivolous accomplishments, so changes the nature of
things:
That what she wills to do or say' Seems wisest, virtuousest, discreetest,
best; All higher knowledge in her knowledge falls Degraded. Wisdom
in discourse with her Loses discountenanced, and, like folly shows;
Authority and reason on her wait.
And all this is built on her loveliness !
In the middle rank of life, to continue the comparison, men, in
their youth, are prepared for professions, and marriage is not
considered as the grand feature in their lives; whilst women,
on the contrary, have no other scheme to sharpen their faculties.
It is not business, extensive plans, or any of the excursive flights
of ambition, that engross their attention; no, their thoughts
are not employed in rearing such noble structures. To rise in
the world, and have the liberty of running from pleasure to pleasure,
they must marry advantageously, and to this object their time
is sacrificed, and their persons often legally prostituted. A
man when he enters any profession has his eye steadily fixed on
some future advantage (and the mind gains great strength by having
all its efforts directed to one point), and, full of his business,
pleasure is considered as mere relaxation; whilst women seek for
pleasure as the main purpose of existence. In fact, from the education,
which they receive from society, the love of pleasure may be said
to govern them all; but does this prove that there is a sex in
souls? It would be just as rational to declare that the courtiers
in France, when a destructive system of despotism had formed their
character, were not men, because liberty, virtue, and humanity,
were sacrificed to pleasure and vanity. Fatal passions, which
have ever domineered over the whole race !
The same love of pleasure, fostered by the whole tendency of their
education, gives a trifling turn to the conduct of women in most
circumstances; for instance, they are ever anxious about secondary
things; and on the watch for adventures instead of being occupied
by duties.
A man, when he undertakes a journey, has, in general, the end
in view; a woman thinks more of the incidental occurrences, the
strange things that may possibly occur on the road; the impression
that she may make on her fellow-travellers; and, above all, she
is anxiously intent on the care of the finery that she carries
with her, which is more than ever a part of herself, when going
to figure on a new scene; when, to use an apt French turn of expression,
she is going to produce a sensation. Can dignity of mind exist
with such trivial cares?
In short, women, in general, as well as the rich of both sexes,
have acquired all the follies and vices of civilisation, and missed
the useful fruit. It is not necessary for me always to premise,
that I speak of the condition of the whole sex, leaving exceptions
out of the question. Their senses are inflamed, and their understandings
neglected, consequently they become the prey of their senses,
delicately termed sensibility, and are blown about by every momentary
gust of feeling. Civilised women are, therefore, so weakened by
false refinement, that, respecting morals, their condition is
much below what it would be were they left in a state nearer to
nature. Ever restless and anxious, their over-exercised sensibility
not only renders them uncomfortable themselves, but troublesome,
to use a soft phrase, to others. All their thoughts turn on things
calculated to excite emotion and feeling, when they should reason,
their conduct is unstable, and their opinions are wavering--not
the wavering produced by deliberation or progressive views, but
by contradictory emotions. By fits and starts they are warm in
many pursuits; yet this warmth, never concentrated into perseverance,
soon exhausts itself; exhaled by its own heat, or meeting with
some other fleeting passion, to which reason has never given any
specific gravity, neutrality ensues. Miserable indeed, must be
that being whose cultivation of mind has only tended to inflame
its passions! A distinction should be made between inflaming and
strengthening them. The passions thus pampered, whilst the judgment
is left unformed, what can be expected to ensue ? Undoubtedly,
a mixture of madness and folly!
This observation should not be confined to the fair sex; however,
at present, I only mean to apply it to them.
Novels, music, poetry, and gallantry, all tend to make women the
creatures of sensation, and their character is thus formed in
the mould of folly during the time they are acquiring accomplishments,
the only improvement they are excited, by their station in society,
to acquire. This overstretched sensibility naturally relaxes the
other powers of the mind, and prevents intellect from attaining
that sovereignty which it ought to attain to render a rational
creature useful to others, and content with its own station; for
the exercise of the understanding, as life advances, is the only
method pointed out by nature to calm the passions.
Satiety has a very different effect, and I have often been forcibly
struck by an emphatical description of damnation; when the spirit
is represented as continually hovering with abortive eagerness
round the defiled body, unable to enjoy anything without the organs
of sense. Yet, to their senses, are women made slaves, because
it is by their sensibility that they obtain present power.
And will moralists pretend to assert that this is the condition
in which one-half of the human race should be encouraged to remain
with listless inactivity and stupid acquiescence? Kind instructors!
what were we created for? To remain, it may be said, innocent;
they mean in a state of childhood We might as well never have
been born, unless it were necessary that we should be created
to enable man to acquire the noble privilege of reason, the power
of discerning good from evil, whilst we lie down in the dust from
whence we were taken, never to rise again.
It would be an endless task to trace the variety of meannesses,
cares, and sorrows, into which women are plunged by the prevailing
opinion, that they were created rather to feel than reason, and
that all the power they obtain must be obtained by their charms
and weakness:
Fine by defect, and amiably weak!
And, made by this amiable weakness entirely dependent, excepting
what they gain by illicit sway, on man, not only for protection,
but advice, is it surprising that, neglecting the duties that
reason alone points out, and shrinking from trials calculated
to strengthen their minds, they only exert themselves to give
their defects a graceful covering, which may serve to heighten
their charms in the eye of the voluptuary, though it sink them
below the scale of moral excellence.
Fragile in every sense of the word, they are obliged to look up
to man for every comfort. In the most trifling danger they cling
to their support, with parasitical tenacity, piteously demanding
succour; and their natural protector extends his arm, or lifts
up his voice, to guard the lovely trembler--from what? Perhaps
the frown of an old cow, or the jump of a mouse; a rat would be
a serious danger. In the name of reason, and even common sense,
what can save such beings from contempt; even though they be soft
and fair.
These fears, when not affected, may produce some pretty attitudes;
but they show a degree of imbecility which degrades a rational
creature in a way women are not aware of--for love and esteem
are very distinct things.
I am fully persuaded that we should hear of none of these infantine
airs, if girls were allowed to take sufficient exercise, and not
confined in close rooms till their muscles are relaxed, and their
powers of digestion destroyed. To carry the remark still further,
if fear in girls, instead of being cherished, perhaps, created,
were treated in the same manner as cowardice in boys, we should
quickly see women with more dignified aspects. It is true, they
could not then with equal propriety be termed the sweet flowers
that smile in the walk of man; but they would be more respectable
members of society, and discharge the important duties of life
by the light of their own reason. " Educate women like men,"
says Rousseau, "and the more they resemble our sex the less
power will they have over us." This is the very point I aim
at. I do not wish them to have power over men; but over themselves.
In the same strain have I heard men argue against instructing
the poor; for many are the forms that aristocracy assumes. "
Teach them to read and write," say they, " and you take
them out of the station assigned them by nature." An eloquent
Frenchman has answered them, I will borrow his sentiments. "
But they know not, when they make man a brute, that they may expect
every instant to see him transformed into a ferocious beast. Without
knowledge there can be no morality."
Ignorance is a frail base for virtue ! Yet, that it is the condition
for which woman was organised, has been insisted upon by the writers
who have most vehemently argued in favour of the superiority of
man; a superiority not in degree, but offence; though, to soften
the argument, they have laboured to prove, with chivalrous generosity,
that the sexes ought not to be compared; man was made to reason,
woman to feel: and that together, flesh and spirit, they make
the most perfect whole, by blending happily reason and sensibility
into one character.
And what is sensibility? "Quickness of sensation, quickness
of perception, delicacy." Thus is it defined by Dr. Johnson.
and the definition gives me no other idea than of the most exquisitely
polished instinct. I discern not a trace of the image of God in
either sensation or matter. Refined seventy times seven they are
still material; intellect dwells not there; nor will fire ever
make lead gold !
I come round to my old argument: if woman be allowed to have an
immortal soul, she must have, as the employment of life, an understanding
to improve. And when, to render the present state more complete,
though everything proves it to be but a fraction of a mighty sum,
she is incited by present gratification to forget her grand destination,
nature is counteracted, or she was born only to procreate and
rot. Or, granting brutes of every description a soul, though not
a reasonable one the exercise of instinct and sensibility may
be the step which they are to take, in this life, towards the
attainment of reason in the next; so that through all eternity
they will lag behind man, who, why we cannot tell, had the power
given him of attaining reason in his first mode of existence.
When I treat of the peculiar duties of women, as I should treat
of the peculiar duties of a citizen or father, it will be found
that I do not mean to insinuate that they should be taken out
of their families, speaking of the majority. "He that hath
wife and children," says Lord Bacon, "hath given hostages
to fortune; for they are impediments to great enterprises, either
of virtue or mischief. Certainly the best works, and of greatest
merit for the public, have proceeded from the unmarried or childless
men." I say the same of women. But the welfare of society
is not built on extraordinary exertions; and were it more reasonably
organised, there would be still less need of great abilities,
or heroic virtues.
In the regulation of a family, in the education of children, understanding,
in an unsophisticated sense, is particularly required-strength
both of body and mind; yet the men who, by their writings, have
most earnestly laboured to domesticate women, have endeavoured,
by arguments dictated by a gross appetite, which satiety had rendered
fastidious, to weaken their bodies and cramp their minds. But,
if even by these sinister methods they really persuaded women,
by working on their feelings, to stay at home, and fulfil the
duties of a mother and mistress of a family, I should cautiously
oppose opinions that led women to right conduct, by prevailing
on them to make the discharge of such important duties the main
business of life, though reason were insulted. Yet, and I appeal
to experience, if by neglecting the understanding they be as much,
nay, more detached from these domestic employments, than they
could be by the most serious intellectual pursuit, though it may
be observed, that the mass of mankind will never vigorously pursue
an intellectual object,[7] I may be allowed to infer that reason
is absolutely necessary to enable a woman to perform any duty
properly, and I must again repeat, that sensibility is not reason.
The comparison with the rich still occurs to me; for, when men
neglect the duties of humanity, women will follow their example;
a common stream hurries them both along with thoughtless celerity.
Riches and honours prevent a man from enlarging his understanding.
and enervate all his powers by reversing the order of nature,
which has ever made true pleasure the reward of labour. Pleasure
enervating pleasure--is, likewise, within women's reach without
earning it. But, till hereditary possessions are spread abroad,
how can we expect men to be proud of virtue? And, till they are,
women will govern them by the most direct means, neglecting their
dull domestic duties to catch the pleasure that sits lightly on
the wing of time.
"The power of the woman," says some author, "is
her sensibility"; and men, not aware of the consequence,
do all they can to make this power swallow up every other. Those
who constantly employ their sensibility will have most; for example,
poets, painters, and composers.[8] Yet, when the sensibility is
thus increased at the expense of reason, and even the imagination,
why do philosophical men complain of their fickleness? The sexual
attention of man particularly acts on female sensibility, and
this sympathy has been exercised from their youth up. A husband
cannot long pay those attentions with the passion necessary to
excite lively emotions, and the heart, accustomed to lively emotions,
turns to a new lover, or pines in secret, the prey of virtue or
prudence. I mean when the heart has really been rendered susceptible,
and the taste formed; for I am apt to conclude, from what I have
seen in fashionable life, that vanity is oftener fostered than
sensibility by the mode of education, and the intercourse between
the sexes, which I have reprobated; and that coquetry more frequently
proceeds from vanity than from that inconstancy which overstrained
sensibility naturally produces.
Another argument that has had great weight with me must, I think,
have some force with every considerate benevolent heart. Girls
who have been thus weakly educated are often cruelly left by their
parents without any provision, and, of course, are dependent on
not only the reason, but the bounty of their brothers. These brothers
are, to view the fairest side of the question, good sort of men,
and give as a favour what children of the same parents had an
equal right to. In this equivocal humiliating situation a docile
female may remain some time with a tolerable degree of comfort.
But when the brother marries--a probable circumstance-from being
considered as the mistress of the family, she is viewed with averted
looks as an intruder, an unnecessary burden on the benevolence
of the master of the house and his new partner.
Who can recount the misery which many unfortunate beings, whose
minds and bodies are equally weak, suffer in such situations-unable
to work, and ashamed to beg? The wife, a cold-hearted, narrow-minded
woman--and this is not an unfair supposition, for the present
mode of education does not tend to enlarge the heart any more
than the understanding--is jealous of the little kindness which
her husband shows to his relations; and her sensibility not rising
to humanity, she is displeased at seeing the property of her children
lavished on an helpless sister.
These are matters of fact, which have come under my eye again
and again. The consequence is obvious; the wife has recourse to
cunning to undermine the habitual affection which she is afraid
openly to oppose; and neither tears nor caresses are spared till
the spy is worked out of her home, and thrown on the world, unprepared
for its difficulties; or sent, as a great effort of generosity,
or from some regard to propriety, with a small stipend, and an
uncultivated mind, into joyless solitude.
These two women may be much upon a par with respect to reason
and humanity, and, changing situations, might have acted just
the same selfish part; but had they been differently educated,
the case would also have been very different. The wife would not
have had that sensibility, of which self is the centre, and reason
might have taught her not to expect, and not even to be flattered
by, the affection of her husband, led him to violate prior duties.
She would wish not to him merely because he loved her, but on
account of his virtues; and the sister might have been able to
struggle for herself instead of eating the bitter bread of dependence.
I am, indeed, persuaded that the heart, as well as the understanding,
is opened by cultivation, and by-which may not appear so clear-strengthening
the organs. I am not now talking of momentary flashes of sensibility,
but of affections. And, perhaps, in the education of both sexes,
the most difficult task is so to adjust instruction as not to
narrow the understanding, whilst the heart is warmed by the generous
juices of spring, just raised by the electric fermentation of
the season; nor to dry up the feelings by employing the mind in
investigations remote from life.
With respect to women, when they receive a careful education,
they are either made fine ladies, brimful of sensibility, and
teeming with capricious fancies, or mere notable women. The latter
are often friendly, honest creatures, and have a shrewd kind of
good sense, joined with worldly prudence, that often render them
more useful members of society than the fine sentimental lady,
though they possess neither greatness of mind nor taste. The intellectual
world is shut against them. Take them out of their family or neighbourhood,
and they stand still; the mind finding no employment, for literature
affords a fund of amusement which they have never sought to relish,
but frequently to despise. The sentiments and taste of more cultivated
minds appear ridiculous, even in those whom chance and family
connections have led them to love; but in mere acquaintance they
think it all affectation.
A man of sense can only love such a woman on account of her sex,
and respect her because she is a trusty servant. He lets her,
to preserve his own peace, scold the servants, and go to church
in clothes made of the very best materials. A man of her own size
of understanding would probably not agree sa well with her, for
he might wish to encroach on her prerogative, and manage some
domestic concerns himself; yet women, whose minds are not enlarged
by cultivation, or the natural selfishness of sensibility by reflection,
are very unfit to manage a family, for, by an undue stretch of
power, they are always tyrannising to support a superiority that
only rests on the arbitrary distinction of fortune. The evil is
sometimes more serious, and domestics are deprived of innocent
indulgences, and made to work beyond their strength, in order
to enable the notable woman to keep a better table, and outshine
her neighbours in finery and parade. If she attend to her children,
it is in general to dress them in a costly manner; and whether
this attention arise from vanity or fondness, it is equally pernicious.
Besides, how many women of this description pass their days, or
at least their evenings, discontentedly. Their husbands acknowledge
that they are good managers and chaste wives, but leave home to
seek for more agreeable--may I be allowed to use a significant
French word--piquant society; and the patient drudge, who fulfils
her task like a blind horse in a mill, is defrauded of her just
reward, for the wages due to her are the caresses of her husband;
and women who have so few resources in themselves, do not very
patiently bear this privation of a natural right.
A fine lady, on the contrary, has been taught to look down with
contempt on the vulgar employments of life, though she has only
been incited to acquire accomplishments that rise a degree above
sense; for even corporeal accomplishments cannot be acquired with
any degree of precision unless the understanding has been strengthened
by exercise. Without a foundation of principles taste is superficial;
grace must arise from something deeper than imitation. The imagination,
however, is heated, and the feelings rendered fastidious, if not
sophisticated, or a counterpoise of judgment is not acquired when
the heart still remains artless, though it becomes too tender.
These women are often amiable, and their hearts are really more
sensible to general benevolence, more alive to the sentiments
that civilise life, than the square-elbowed family drudge; but,
wanting a due proportion of reflection and self-government, they
only inspire love, and are the mistresses of their husbands, whilst
they have any hold on their affections, and the Platonic friends
of his male acquaintance. These are the fair defects in Nature;
the women who appear to be created not to enjoy the fellowship
of man, but to save him from sinking into absolute brutality,
by rubbing off the rough angles of his character, and by playful
dalliance to give some dignity to the appetite that draws him
to them. Gracious Creator of the whole human race! hast Thou created
such a being as woman, who can trace Thy wisdom in Thy works,
and feel that Thou alone art by Thy nature exalted above her,
for no better purpose? Can she believe that she was only made
to submit to man, her equal--a being who, like her, was sent into
the world to acquire virtue? Can she consent to be occupied merely
to please him--merely to adorn the earth--when her soul is capable
of rising to Thee? And can she rest supinely dependent on man
for reason, when she ought to mount with him the arduous steeps
of knowledge?
Yet if love be the supreme good, let woman be only educated to
inspire it, and let every charm be polished to intoxicate the
senses; but if they be moral beings, let them have a chance to
become intelligent; and let love to man be only a part of that
glowing flame of universal love, which, after encircling humanity,
mounts in grateful incense to God.
To fulfil domestic duties much resolution is necessary, and a
serious kind of perseverance that requires a more firm support
than emotions, however lively and true to nature. To give an example
of order, the soul of virtue, some austerity of behaviour must
be adopted, scarcely to be expected from a being who, from its
infancy, has been made the weathercock of its own sensations.
Whoever rationally means to be useful must have a plan of conduct;
and in the discharge of the simplest duty, we are often obliged
to act contrary to the present impulse of tenderness or compassion.
Severity is frequently the most certain as well as the most sublime
proof of affection; and the want of this power over the feelings,
and of that lofty, dignified affection which makes a person prefer
the future good of the beloved object to a present gratification,
is the reason why so many fond mothers spoil their children, and-has
made it questionable whether negligence or indulgence be most
hurtful; but I am inclined to think that the latter has done most
harm.
Mankind seem to agree that children should be left under the management
of women during their childhood. Now, from all the observation
that I have been able to make, women of sensibility are the most
unfit for this task, because they will infallibly, carried away
by their feelings, spoil a child's temper. The management of the
temper, the first, and most important branch of education, requires
the sober steady eye of reason; a plan of conduct equally distant
from tyranny and indulgence: yet these are the extremes that people
of sensibility alternately fall into; always shooting beyond the
mark. I have followed this train of reasoning much further, till
I have concluded, that a person of genius is the most improper
person to be employed in education, public or private. Minds of
this rare species see things too much in masses, and seldom, if
ever, have a good temper. That habitual cheerfulness, termed good
humour, is perhaps, as seldom united with great mental powers,
as with strong feelings. And those people who follow, with interest
and admiration, the flights of genius; or, with cooler approbation
suck in the instruction which has been elaborately prepared for
them by the profound thinker, ought not to be disgusted, if they
find the former choleric, and the latter morose; because liveliness
of fancy, and a tenacious comprehension of mind, are scarcely
compatible with that pliant urbanity which leads a man, at least,
to bend to the opinions and prejudices of others, instead of roughly
confronting them.
But, treating of education or manners, minds of a superior class
are not to be considered, they may be left to chance; it is the
multitude, with moderate abilities, who call for instruction,
and catch the colour of the atmosphere they breathe. This respectable
concourse, I contend, men and women, should not have their sensations
heightened in the hot-bed of luxurious indolence, at the expense
of their understanding; for, unless there be a ballast of understanding,
they will never become either virtuous or free: an aristocracy,
founded on property or sterling talents, will ever sweep before
it the alternately timid and ferocious slaves of feeling.
Numberless are the arguments, to take another view of the subject,
brought forward with a show of reason, because supposed to be
deduced from nature, that men have used morally and physically,
to degrade the sex. I must notice a few.
The female understanding has often been spoken of with contempt,
as arriving sooner at maturity than the male. I shall not answer
this argument by alluding to the early proofs of reason, as well
as genius, in Cowley, Milton, and Pope,[9] but only appeal to
experience to decide whether young men, who are early introduced
into company (and examples now abound), do not acquire the same
precocity. So notorious is this fact, that the bare mentioning
of it must bring before people, who at all mix in the world, the
idea of a number of swaggering apes of men, whose understandings
are narrowed by being brought into the society of men when they
ought to have been spinning a top or twirling a hoop.
It has also been asserted, by some naturalists, that men do not
attain their full growth and strength till thirty; but that women
arrive at maturity by twenty. I apprehend that they reason on
false ground, led astray by the male prejudice, which deems beauty
the perfection of woman--mere beauty of features 'and complexion,
the vulgar acceptation of the word, whilst male beauty is allowed
to have some connection with the mind. Strength of body, and that
character of countenance which the French term a physionomic,
women do not acquire before thirty, any more than men. The little
artless tricks of children, it is true, are particularly pleasing
and attractive; yet, when the pretty freshness of youth is worn
off, these artless graces become studied airs, and disgust every
person of taste. In the countenance of girls we only look for
vivacity and bashful modesty; but, the spring tide of life over,
we look for soberer sense in the face, and for traces of passion,
instead of the dimples of animal spirits; expecting to see individuality
of character, the only fastener of the affections.[10] We then
wish to converse, not to fondle; to give scope to our imaginations
as well as to the sensations of our hearts.
At twenty the beauty of both sexes is equal; but the libertinism
of man leads him to make the distinction, and superannuated coquettes
are commonly of the same opinion; for when they can no longer
inspire love, they pay for the vigour and vivacity of youth. The
French, who admit more of mind into their notions of beauty, give
the preference to women of thirty. I mean to say that they allow
women to be in their most perfect state, when vivacity gives place
to reason, and to that majestic seriousness of character, which
marks maturity or the resting point. In youth, till twenty, the
body shoots out, till thirty, the solids are attaining a degree
of density; and the flexible muscles, growing daily more rigid,
give character to the countenance; that is, they trace the operations
of the mind with the iron pen of fate, and tell us not only what
powers are within, hut how they have been employed.
It is proper to observe, that animals who arrive slowly at maturity,
are the longest lived, and of the noblest species. Men cannot,
however, claim any natural superiority from the grandeur of longevity;
for in this respect nature has not distinguished the male.
Polygamy is another physical degradation; and a plausible argument
for a custom, that blasts every domestic virtue, is drawn from
the well-attested fact, that in the countries where it is established,
more females are born than males. This appears to be an indication
of nature, and to nature, apparently reasonable speculations must
yield. A further conclusion obviously presented itself; if polygamy
be necessary, woman must be inferior to man, and made for him.
With respect to the formation of the fetus in the womb, we are
very ignorant; but it appears to me probable, that an accidental
physical cause may account for this phenomenon, and prove it not
to be a law of nature. I have met with some pertinent observations
on the subject in Foster's Account of the Isles of the South Sea,
that will explain my meaning. After observing that of the two
sexes amongst animals, the most vigorous and hottest constitution
always prevails, and produces its kind; he adds,--"If this
be applied to the inhabitants of Africa, it is evident that the
men there, accustomed to polygamy, are enervated by the use of
so many women, and therefore less vigorous; the women, on the
contrary, are of a hotter constitution, not only on account of
their more irritable nerves, more sensible organisation, and more
lively fancy; but likewise because they are deprived in their
matrimony of that share of physical love which, in a monogamous
condition, would all be theirs; and thus, for the above reasons,
the generality of the children are born females.
"In the greater part of Europe it has been proved by the
most accurate lists of mortality, that the proportion of men to
women is nearly equal, or, if any difference takes place, the
males born are more numerous, in the proportion of 105 to 100."
The necessity of polygamy, therefore, does not appear; yet when
a man seduces a woman, it should, I think, be termed a left-handed
marriage, and the man should be legally obliged to maintain the
woman and her children, unless adultery, a natural divorcement,
abrogated the law. And this law should remain in force as long
as the weakness of women caused the word seduction to be used
as an excuse for their frailty and want of principle; nay, while
they depend on man for a subsistence, instead of earning it by
the exertion of their own hands or heads. But these women should
not, in the full meaning of the relationship, be termed wives,
or the very purpose of marriage would be subverted, and all those
endearing charities that flow from personal fidelity, and give
a sanctity to the tie, when neither love nor friendship unites
the hearts, would melt into selfishness. The woman who is faithful
to the father of her children demands respect, and should not
be treated like a prostitute; though I readily grant that if it
be necessary for a man and woman to live together in order to
bring up their offspring, nature never intended that a man should
have more than one wife.
Still, highly as I respect marriage, as the foundation of almost
every social virtue, I cannot avoid feeling the most lively compassion
for those unfortunate females who are broken off from society,
and by one error torn from all those affections and relationships
that improve the heart and mind. It does not frequently even deserve
the name of error; for many innocent girls become the dupes of
a sincere, affectionate heart, and still more are, as it may emphatically
be termed, ruined before they know the difference between virtue
and vice, and thus prepared by their education for infamy, they
become infamous. Asylums and Magdalens are not the proper remedies
for these abuses. It is justice, not charity, that is wanting
in the world!
A woman who has lost her honour imagines that she cannot fall
lower, and as for recovering her former station, it is impossible;
no exertion can wash this stain away. Losing, thus every spur,
and having no other means of support, prostitution becomes her
only refuge, and the character is quickly depraved by circumstances
over which the poor wretch has little power, unless she possesses
an uncommon portion of sense and loftiness of spirit. Necessity
never makes prostitution the business of men's lives; though numberless
are the women who are thus rendered systematically vicious. This,
however, arises in a great degree from the state of idleness in
which women are educated, who are always taught to look up to
man for a maintenance, and to consider their persons as the proper
return for his exertions to support them. Meretricious airs, and
the whole science of wantonness, have then a more powerful stimulus
than either appetite or vanity; and this remark gives force to
the prevailing opinion, that with chastity all is lost that is
respectable in woman. Her character depends on the observance
of one virtue, though the only passion fostered in her heart is
love. Nay, the honour of a woman is not made even to depend on
her will.
When Richardson [11] makes Clarissa tell Lovelace that he had
robbed her of her honour, he must have had strange notions of
honour and virtue. For, miserable beyond all names of misery is
the condition of a being, who could be degraded without its own
consent! This excess of strictness I have heard vindicated as
a salutary error. I shall answer in the words of have more Leibnitz--"
Errors are often useful; but it is commonly to remedy other errors."
Most of the evils of life arise from a desire of present enjoyment
that outruns itself. The obedience required of women in the marriage
state comes under this description; the mind, naturally weakened
by depending on authority, never exerts its own powers, and the
obedient wife is thus rendered a weak indolent mother. Or, supposing
that this is not always the consequence, a future state of existence
is scarcely taken into the reckoning when only negative virtues
are cultivated. For, in treating of morals, particularly when
women are alluded to, writers have too often considered virtue
in a very limited sense, and made the foundation of it solely
worldly utility; nay, a still more fragile base has been given
to this stupendous fabric, and the wayward fluctuating feelings
of men have been made the standard of virtue. Yes, virtue as well
as religion has been subjected to the decisions of taste.
It would almost provoke a smile of contempt, if the vain absurdities
of man did not strike us on all sides, to observe how eager men
are to degrade the sex from whom they pretend to receive the chief
pleasure of life; and I have frequently with full conviction retorted
Pope's sarcasm on them; or, to speak explicitly, it has appeared
to me applicable to the whole human race. A love of pleasure or
sway seems to divide mankind, and the husband who lords it in
his little harem thinks only of his pleasure or his convenience.
To such lengths, indeed, does an intemperate love of pleasure
carry some prudent men, or worn-out libertines, who marry to have
a safe bedfellow, that they seduce their own wives. Hymen banishes
modesty, and chaste love takes its flight.
Love, considered as an animal appetite, cannot long feed on itself
without expiring. And this extinction in its own flame may be
termed the violent death of love. But the wife, who has thus been
rendered licentious, will probably endeavour to fill the void
left by the loss of her husband's attentions; for she cannot contentedly
become merely an upper servant after having been treated like
a goddess. She is still handsome, and, instead of transferring
her fondness to her children, she only dreams of enjoying the
sunshine of life. Besides, there are many husbands so devoid of
sense and parental affection that, during the first effervescence
of voluptuous fondness, they refuse to let their wives suckle
their children. They are only to dress and live to please them,
and love, even innocent love, soon sinks into lasciviousness when
the exercise of a duty is sacrificed to its indulgence.
Personal attachment is a very happy foundation for friendship;
yet, when even two virtuous young people marry, it would perhaps
be happy if some circumstances checked their passion; if the recollection
of some prior attachment, or disappointed affection, made it on
one side, at least, rather a match founded on esteem. In that
case they would look beyond the present moment, and try to render
the whole of life respectable, by forming a plan to regulate a
friendship which only death ought to dissolve.
Friendship is a serious affection; the most sublime of all affections,
because it is founded on principle, and cemented by time. The
very reverse may be said of love. In a great degree, love and
friendship cannot subsist in the same bosom; even when inspired
by different objects they weaken or destroy each other, and for
the same object can only be felt in succession. The vain fears
and fond jealousies, the winds which fan the flame of love, when
judiciously or artfully tempered, are both incompatible with the
tender confidence and sincere respect of friendship.
Love, such as the glowing pen of genius has traced, exists not
on earth, or only resides in those exalted, fervid imaginations
that have sketched such dangerous pictures. Dangerous, because
they not only afford a plausible excuse to the voluptuary, who
disguises sheer sensuality under a sentimental veil; but as they
spread affectation, and take from the dignity of virtue. Virtue,
as the very word imports, should have an appearance of seriousness,
if not of austerity; and to endeavour to trick her out in the
garb of pleasure, because the epithet has been used as another
name for beauty, is to exalt her on a quicksand; a most insidious
attempt to hasten her fall by apparent respect. Virtue and pleasure
are not, in fact, so nearly allied in this life as some eloquent
writers have laboured to prove. Pleasure prepares the fading wreath,
and mixes the intoxicating cup; but the fruit which virtue gives
is the recompense of toil, and, gradually seen as it ripens, only
affords calm satisfaction; nay, appearing to be the result of
the natural tendency of things, it is scarcely observed. Bread,
the common food of life, seldom thought of as a blessing, supports
the constitution and preserves health; still feasts delight the
heart of man, though disease and even death lurk in the cup or
dainty that elevates the spirits or tickles the palate. The lively
heated imagination likewise, to apply the comparison, draws the
picture of love, as it draws every other picture, with those glowing
colours, which the daring hand will steal from the rainbow, that
is directed by a mind, condemned in a world like this, to prove
its noble origin by panting after unattainable perfection, ever
pursuing what it acknowledges to be a fleeting dream. An imagination
of this vigorous cast can give existence to insubstantial forms,
and stability to the shadowy reveries which the mind naturally
falls into when realities are found vapid. It can then depict
love with celestial charms, and dote on the grand ideal object--it
can imagine a degree of mutual affection that shall refine the
soul, and not expire when it has served as a "scale to heavenly";
and, like devotion, make it absorb every meaner affection and
desire. In each other's arms, as in a temple, with its summit
lost in the clouds, the world is to be shut out, and every thought
and wish that do not nurture pure affection and permanent virtue.
Permanent virtue! alas! Rousseau, respectable visionary! thy paradise
would soon be violated by the entrance of some unexpected guest.
Like Milton's it would only contain angels, or men sunk below
the dignity of rational creatures. Happiness is not material,
it cannot be seen or felt! Yet the eager pursuit of the good,
which everyone shapes to his own fancy, proclaims man the lord
of this lower world, and to be an intelligential creature, who
is not to receive but acquire happiness. They, therefore, who
complain of the delusions of passion, do not recollect that they
are exclaiming against a strong proof of the immortality of the
soul.
But leaving superior minds to correct themselves, and pay dearly
for their experience, it is necessary to observe, that it is not
against strong, persevering passions, but romantic wavering feelings,
that I wish to guard the female heart by exercising the understanding:
for these paradisiacal reveries are oftener the effect of idleness
than of a lively fancy.
Women have seldom sufficient serious employment to silence their
feelings; a round of little cares, or vain pursuits frittering
away all strength of mind and organs, they become naturally only
objects of sense. In short, the whole tenor of female education
(the education of society) tends to render the best disposed romantic
and inconstant; and the remainder vain and mean. In the present
state of society this evil can scarcely be remedied, I am afraid,
in the slightest degree; should a more laudable ambition ever
gain ground they may be brought nearer to nature and reason, and
become more virtuous and useful as they grow more respectable.
But, I will venture to assert that their reason will never acquire
sufficient strength to enable it to regulate their conduct, whilst
the making an appearance in the world is the first wish of the
majority of mankind. To this weak wish the natural affections,
and the most useful virtues are sacrificed. Girls marry merely
to better themselves, to borrow a significant vulgar phrase, and
have such perfect power over their hearts as not to permit themselves
to fall in love till a man with a superior fortune offers. on
this subject I mean to enlarge in a future chapter; it is only
necessary to drop a hint at present, because women are so often
degraded by suffering the selfish prudence of age to chill the
ardour of youth.
From the same source flows an opinion that young girls ought to
dedicate great part of their time to needlework; yet, this employment
contracts their faculties more than any other that could have
been chosen for them, by confining their thoughts to their persons.
Men order their clothes to be made, and have done with the subject;
women make their own clothes, necessary or ornamental, and are
continually talking about them; and their thoughts follow their
hands. It is not indeed the making of necessaries that weakens
the mind; but the frippery of dress. For, when a woman in the
lower rank of life makes her husband's and children's clothes,
she does her duty, this is her part of the family business; but
when women work only to dress better than they could otherwise
afford, it is worse than sheer loss of time. To render the poor
virtuous they must be employed, and women in the middle rank of
life, did they not ape the fashions of the nobility, without catching
their ease, might employ them, whilst they themselves managed
their families, instructed their children, and exercised their
own minds. Gardening, experimental philosophy, and literature,
would afford them subjects to think of and matter for conversation,
that in some degree would exercise their understandings. The conversation
of Frenchwomen, who are not so rigidly nailed to their chairs
to twist lappets, and knot ribands, is frequently superficial;
but, I contend, that it is not half so insipid as that of those
Englishwomen whose time is spent in making caps, bonnets, and
the whole mischief of trimmings, not to mention shopping, bargain-hunting,
etc., etc.; and it is the decent, prudent women, who are most
degraded by these practices; for their motive is simply vanity.
The wanton who exercises her taste to render her passion alluring,
has something more in view.
These observations all branch out of a general one, which I have
before made, and which cannot be too often insisted upon, for,
speaking of men, women, or professions, it will be found that
the employment of the thoughts shapes the character both generally
and individually. The thoughts of women ever hover round their
persons, and is it surprising that their persons are reckoned
most valuable? Yet some degree of liberty of mind is necessary
even to form the person; and this may be one reason why some gentle
wives have so few attractions beside that of sex. Add to this,
sedentary employments render the majority of women sickly--and
false notions of female excellence make them proud of this delicacy,
though it be another fetter, that by calling the attention continually
to the body, cramps the activity of the mind.
Women of quality seldom do any of the manual part of their dress,
consequently only their taste is exercised, and they acquire,
by thinking less of the finery, when the business of their toilet
is over, that ease, which seldom appears in the deportment of
women, who dress merely for the sake of dressing. In fact, the
observation with respect to the middle rank, the one in which
talents thrive best, extends not to women; for those of the superior
class, by catching, at least, a smattering of literature, and
conversing more with men, on general topics, acquire more knowledge
than the women who ape their fashions and faults without sharing
their advantages. With respect to virtue, to use the word in a
comprehensive sense, I have seen most in low life. Many poor women
maintain their children by the sweat of their brow, and keep together
families that the vices of the fathers would have scattered abroad;
but gentlewomen are too indolent to be actively virtuous, and
are softened rather than refined by civilisation. Indeed, the
good sense which I have met with, among the poor women who have
had few advantages of education, and yet have acted heroically,
strongly confirmed me in the opinion that trifling employments
have rendered woman a trifler. Man, taking her [12] body, the
mind is left to rust; so that while physical love enervates man,
as being his favourite recreation, he will endeavour to enslave
woman:--and, who can tell, how many generations may be necessary
to give vigour to the virtue and talents of the freed posterity
of abject slaves?[13]
In tracing the causes that, in my opinion, have degraded woman,
I have confined my observations to such as universally act upon
the morals and manners of the whole sex, and to me it appears
clear that they all spring from want of understanding. Whether
this arise from a physical or accidental weakness of faculties,
time alone can determine; for I shall not lay any great stress
on the example of a few women [14] who, from having received a
masculine education, have acquired courage and resolution; I only
contend that the men who have been placed in similar situations,
have acquired a similar character--I speak of bodies of men, and
that men of genius and talents have started out of a class, in
which women have never yet been placed.
NOTES
[1] Into what inconsistencies do men fall when thy argue without
the compass of principles. Women, weak women, are compared with
angels; yet, a superior order of beings should be supposed to
possess more intellect than man; or, in what does their superiority
consist? In the same strain, to drop the sneer, they are allowed
to possess more goodness of heart; piety, and benevolence. I doubt
the fact, though it be courteously brought forward, unless ignorance
be allowed to be the mother of devotion; for I am firmly persuaded
that, on an average, the proportion between virtue and knowledge,
is more upon a par than is commonly granted.
[2] "The brutes," says Lord Monboddo, "remain in
the states in which nature has placed them, except in so far as
their natural instinct is improved by the culture we bestow upon
them."
[3] Vide Milton.
[4] This word is not stricly just, but I cannot find a better.
[5] "Pleasure's the portion of th' inferior kind; But glory,
virtue, Heaven for man designed."
After writing these lines, how could Mrs. Barbauld write the following
ignoble comparison?
"To a Lady with Some Painted Flowers
"Flowers to the fair: to you these flowers I bring, And strive
to greet you with an earlier spring. Flowers, sweet, and gay,
and delicate like you; Emblems of innocence, and beauty too With
flowers the Graces bind their yellow hair And flowery wreaths
consenting lovers wear. Flowers, the sole luxury which Nature
knew, In Eden's pure and guiltless garden grew. To loftiers forms
are rougher tasks assign'd; The sheltering oak resists the stromy
wind, The tougher yew repels invading foes, And the tall pine
for future navies grows; But this soft family, to cares unknown,
Were born for pleasure and delights alone. Gay without toil, and
lovely without art, They spring to cheer the sense, and glad the
heart. Nor blush, my fair, to own you copy these; Your best, you
sweetest empire is -to please."
So the men tell us; but virtue, says reason, must be acquired
by rough toils, and useful struggles with worldly cares.
[6] And a wit always a wit, might be added, for the vain fooleries
of wits and beauties to obtain attention, and make conquests,
are much upon a par.
[7] The mass of mankind are rather the slaves of their appetites
than of their passions.
[8] Men of these descriptions pour sensibility into their compositions,
to amalgamate the gross materials; and moulding them with passion,
give to the inert body a soul; but in woman's imagination, love
alone concentrates these ethereal beams.
[9] Many other names might be added.
[10] The strength of an affection is, generally, in the same proportion
as the character of the species in the object beloved, lost in
that of the individual.
[11] Dr. Young supports the same opinion, in his plays, when he
talks of the misfortune that shunned the light of day.
[12] "I take her body," says Ranger.
[13] "Supposing that women are voluntary slaves -slavery
of any kind is unfavourable to human happiness and improvement."
--Knox's Essays.
[14] Sappho, Eloisa, Mrs. Macauly, the Empress of Russia, Madame
d'Eon, etc. These, and many more, may be reckoned exceptions;
and are not all heroes, as well as heroines, exceptions to general
rules? I wish to see women neither heroines nor brutes; but reasonable
creatures.
CHAPTER V
ANIMADVERSIONS ON SOME OF THE WRITERS WHO HAVE RENDERED WOMEN
OBJECTS OF PITY, BORDERING ON CONTEMPT
The opinions speciously supported in some modern publications
on the female character and education, which have given the tone
to most of the observations made, in a more cursory manner, on
the sex, remain now to be examined.
SECTION I
I shall begin with Rousseau, and give a sketch of his character
of woman in his own words, interspersing comments and reflections.
My comments, it is true, will all spring from a few simple principles,
and might have been deduced from what I have already said; but
the artificial structure has been raised with so much ingenuity
that it seems necessary to attack it in a more circumstantial
manner, and make the application myself.
Sophia, says Rousseau, should be as perfect a woman as Emilius
is a man, and to render her so it is necessary to examine the
character which nature has given to the sex.
He then proceeds to prove that woman ought to be weak and passive,
because she has less bodily strength than man; and hence infers
that she was formed to please and to be subject to him, and that
it is her duty to render herself agreeable to her master-this
being the grand end of her existence.[1] Still, however, to give
a little mock dignity to lust, he insists that man should not
exert his strength, but depend on the will of the woman, when
he seeks for pleasure with her.
"Hence we deduce a third consequence from the different constitutions
of the sexes, which is that the strongest should be master in
appearance, and be dependent, in fact, on the weakest, and that
not from any frivolous practice of gallantry or vanity of protectorship,
but from an invariable law of nature, which, furnishing woman
with a greater facility to excite desires than she has given man
to satisfy them, makes the latter dependent on the good pleasure
of the former, and compels him to endeavour to please in his turn,
in order to obtain her consent that he should be strongest.[2]
On these occasions the most delightful circumstance a man finds
in his victory is to doubt whether it was the woman's weakness
that yielded to his superior strength, or whether her inclinations
spoke in his favour; the females are also generally artful enough
to leave this matter in doubt. The understanding of women answers
in this respect perfectly to their constitution. So far from being
ashamed of their weakness, they glory in it; their tender muscles
make no resistance; they affect to be incapable of lifting the
smallest burdens, and would blush to be thought robust and strong.
To what purpose is all this? Not merely for the sake of appearing
delicate, but through an artful precaution. It is thus they provide
an excuse beforehand, and a right to be feeble when they think
it expedient."
I have quoted this passage lest my readers should suspect that
I warped the author's reasoning to support my own arguments. I
have already asserted that in educating women these fundamental
principles lead to a system of cunning and lasciviousness.
Supposing woman to have been formed only to please, and be subject
to man, the conclusion is just. She ought to sacrifice every other
consideration to render herself agreeable to him, and let this
brutal desire of self-preservation be the grand spring of all
her actions, when it is proved to be the iron bed of fate, to
fit which her character should be stretched or contracted, regardless
of all moral or physical distinctions. But if, as I think, may
be demonstrated, the purposes of even this life, viewing the whole,
be subverted by practical rules built upon this ignoble base,
I may be allowed to doubt whether woman were created for man;
and though the cry of irreligion, or even atheism, be raised against
me, I will simply declare that were an angel from Heaven to tell
me that Moses' beautiful poetical cosmogony, and the account of
the fall of man, were literally true, I could not believe what
my reason told me was derogatory to the character of the Supreme
Being; and, having no fear of the devil before mine eyes, I venture
to call this a suggestion of reason, instead of resting my weakness
on the broad shoulders of the first seducer of my frail sex.
"It being once demonstrated," continues Rousseau, "that
man and woman are not, nor ought to be, constituted alike in temperament
and character, it follows, of course, that they should not be
educated in the same manner. In pursuing the directions of nature,
they ought, indeed, to act in concert, but they should not be
engaged in the same employments; the end of their pursuits should
be the same, but the means they should take to accomplish them,
and, of consequence, their tastes and inclinations, should be
different
. . . . .
"Whether I consider the peculiar destination of the sex,
observe their inclinations, or remark their duties, all things
equally concur to point out the peculiar method of education best
adapted to them. Woman and man were made for each other, but their
mutual dependence is not the same. The men depend on the women
only on account of their desires; the women on the men both on
account of their desires and their necessities. We could subsist
better without them than they without us.
. . . . .
"For this reason the education of the women should be always
relative to the men. To please, to be useful to us, to make us
love and esteem them, to educate us when young, and take care
of us when grown up, to advise, to console us, to render our lives
easy and agreeable--these are the duties of women at all times,
and what they should be taught in their infancy. So long as we
fail to recur to this principle, we run wide of the mark, and
all the precepts which are given them contribute neither to their
happiness nor our own. . . . . .
"Girls are from their earliest infancy fond of dress. Not
content with being pretty, they are desirous of being thought
so. We see, by all their little airs, that this thought engages
their attention; and they are hardly capable of understanding
what is said to them, before they are to be governed by talking
to them of what people will think of their behaviour. The same
motive, however, indiscreetly made use of with boys, has not the
same effect. Provided they are let pursue their amusements at
pleasure, they care very little what people think of them. Time
and pains are necessary to subject boys to this motive.
"Whencesoever girls derive this first lesson, it is a very
good one. As the body is born, in a manner, before the soul, our
first concern should be to cultivate the former; this order is
common to both sexes, but the object of that cultivation is different.
In the one sex it is the development of corporeal powers; in the
other, that of personal charms. Not that either the quality of
strength or beauty ought to be confined exclusively to one sex,
but only that the order of the cultivation of both is in that
respect reversed. Women certainly require as much strength as
to enable them to move and act gracefully, and men as much address
as to qualify them to act with ease. . . . . .
"Children of both sexes have a great many amusements in common;
and so they ought; have they not also many such when they are
grown up? Each sex has also its peculiar taste to distinguish
in this particular. Boys love sports of noise and activity; to
beat the drum, to whip the top, and to drag about their little
carts: girls, on the other hand, are fonder of things of show
and ornament; such as mirrors, trinkets, and dolls: the doll is
the peculiar amusement of the females; from whence we see their
taste plainly adapted to their destination. The physical part
of the art of pleasing lies in dress; and this is all which children
are capacitated to cultivate of that art. . . . . .
"Here then we see a primary propensity firmly established,
which you need only to pursue and regulate. The little creature
will doubtless be very desirous to know how to dress up her doll,
to make its sleeve-knots, its flounces, its head-dress, etc.,
she is obliged to have so much recourse to the people about her,
for their assistance in these articles, that it would be much
more agreeable to her to owe them all to her own industry. Hence
we have a good reason for the first lessons that are usually taught
these young females: in which we do not appear to be setting them
a task, but obliging them, by instructing them in what is immediately
useful to themselves. And, in fact, almost all of them learn with
reluctance to read and write; but very readily apply themselves
to the use of their needles. They imagine themselves already grown
up, and think with pleasure that such qualifications will enable
them to decorate themselves." This is certainly only an education
of the body; but Rousseau is not the only man who has indirectly
said that merely the person of a young woman, without any mind,
unless animal spirits come under that description, is very pleasing.
To render it weak, and what some may call beautiful, the understanding
is neglected, and girls forced to sit still, play with dolls and
listen to foolish conversations;--the effect of habit is insisted
upon as an undoubted indication of nature. I know it was Rousseau's
opinion that the first years of youth should be employed to form
the body, though in educating Emilius he deviates from this plan;
yet, the difference between strengthening the body, on which strength
of mind in a great measure depends, and only giving it an easy
motion, is very wide.
Rousseau's observations, it is proper to remark, were made in
a country where the art of pleasing was refined only to extract
the grossness of vice. He did not go back to nature, or his ruling
appetite disturbed the operations of reason, else he would not
have drawn these crude inferences.
In France boys and girls, particularly the latter, are only educated
to please, to manage their persons, and regulate the exterior
behaviour; and their minds are corrupted, at a very early age,
by the worldly and pious cautions they receive to guard them against
immodesty. I speak of past times. The very confessions which mere
children were obliged to make, and the questions asked by the
holy men, I assert these facts on good authority, were sufficient
to impress a sexual character; and the education of society was
a school of coquetry and art. At the age of ten or eleven; nay,
often much sooner, girls began to coquet, and talked, unreproved,
of establishing themselves in the world by marriage.
In short, they were treated like women, almost from their very
birth, and compliments were listened to instead of instruction.
These weakening the mind, Nature was supposed to have acted like
a step-mother, when she formed this afterthought of creation.
Not allowing them understanding, however, it was but consistent
to subject them to authority independent of reason; and to prepare
them for this subjection, he gives the following advice:
"Girls ought to be active and diligent; nor is that all;
they should also be early subjected to restraint. This misfortune,
if it really be one, is inseparable from their sex; nor do they
ever throw it off but to suffer more cruel evils. They must be
subject, all their lives, to the most constant and severe restraint,
which is that of decorum: it is, therefore, necessary to accustom
them early to such confinement, that it may not afterwards cost
them too dear; and to the suppression of their caprices, that
they may the more readily submit to the will of others. If, indeed,
they be fond of being always at work, they should be sometimes
compelled to lay it aside. Dissipation, levity, and inconstancy,
are faults that readily spring up from their first propensities,
when corrupted or perverted by too much indulgence. To prevent
this abuse, we should teach them, above all things, to lay a due
restraint on themselves. The life of a modest woman is reduced,
by our absurd institutions, to a perpetual conflict with herself:
not but it is just that this sex should partake of the sufferings
which arise from those evils it hath caused us."
And why is the life of a modest woman a perpetual conflict? I
should answer, that this very system of education makes it so.
Modesty, temperance, and self-denial, are the sober offspring
of reason; but when sensibility is nurtured at the expense of
the understanding, such weak beings must be restrained by arbitrary
means, and be subjected to continual conflicts; but give their
activity of mind a wider range, and nobler passions and motives
will govern their appetites and sentiments.
"The common attachment and regard of a mother, nay, mere
habit, will make her beloved by her children, if she do nothing
to incur their hate. Even the constraint she lays them under,
if well directed, will increase their affection, instead of lessening
it; because a state of dependence being natural to the sex, they
perceive themselves formed for obedience."
This is begging the question; for servitude not only debases the
individual, but its effects seem to be transmitted to posterity.
Considering the length of time that women have been dependent,
is it surprising that some of them hunger in chains, and fawn
like the spaniel ? " These dogs," observes a naturalist,
" at first kept their ears erect; but custom has superseded
nature, and a token of fear is become a beauty."
"For the same reason," adds Rousseau, "women have,
or ought to have, but little liberty; they are apt to indulge
themselves excessively in what is allowed them. Addicted in everything
to extremes, they are even more transported at their diversions
than boys."
The answer to this is very simple. Slaves and mobs have always
indulged themselves in the same excesses, when once they broke
loose from authority. The bent bow recoils with violence, when
the hand is suddenly relaxed that forcibly held it; and sensibility,
the plaything of outward circumstances, must be subjected to authority,
or moderated by reason.
"There results," he continues, "from this habitual
restraint a tractableness which women have occasion for during
their whole lives, as they constantly remain either under subjection
to the men, or to the opinions of mankind; and are never permitted
to set themselves above those opinions. The first and most important
qualification in a woman is good nature or sweetness of temper:
formed to obey a being so imperfect as man, often full of vices,
and always full of faults, she ought to learn betimes even to
suffer injustice, and to bear the insults of a husband without
complaint; it is not for his sake, but her own, that she should
be of a mild disposition. The perverseness and ill-nature of the
women only serve to aggravate their own misfortunes, and the misconduct
of their husbands; they might plainly perceive that such are not
the arms by which they gain the superiority."
Formed to live with such an imperfect being as man they ought
to learn from the exercise of their faculties the necessity of
forbearance: but all the sacred rights of humanity are violated
by insisting on blind obedience; or, the most sacred rights belong
only to man.
The being who patiently endures injustice, and silently bears
insults, will soon become unjust, or unable to discern right from
wrong. Besides, I deny the fact, this is not the true way to form
or meliorate the temper; for, as a sex, men have better tempers
than women, because they are occupied by pursuits that interest
the head as well as the heart; and the steadiness of the head
gives a healthy temperature to the heart. People of sensibility
have seldom good tempers. The formation of the temper is the cool
work of reason, when, as life advances, she mixes with happy art,
jarring elements. I never knew a weak or ignorant person who had
a good temper, though that constitutional good humour, and that
docility, which fear stamps on the behaviour, often obtains the
name. I say behaviour, for genuine meekness never reached the
heart or mind, unless as the effect of reflection; and that simple
restraint produces a number of peccant humours in domestic life,
many sensible men will allow, who find some of these gentle irritable
creatures, very troublesome companions.
"Each sex," he further argues, "should preserve
its peculiar tone and manner; a meek husband may make a wife impertinent;
but mildness of disposition on the woman's side will always bring
a man back to reason, at least if he be not absolutely a brute,
and will sooner or later triumph over him."
Perhaps the mildness of reason might sometimes have this defect.
but abject fear always inspires contempt; and tears are only eloquent
when they flow down fair cheeks.
Of what materials can that heart be composed, which can mdt when
insulted, and instead of revolting at injustice, kiss the rod?
It is unfair to infer that her virtue is built on narrow views
and selfishness, who can caress a man, with true feminine softness,
the very moment when he treats her tyrannically. Nature never
dictated such insincerity; and, though prudence of this sort be
termed a virtue, morality becomes vague when any part is supposed
to rest on falsehood. These are mere expedients, and expedients
are only useful for the moment.
Let the husband beware of trusting too implicitly to this i servile
obedience; for if his wife can with winning sweetness, caress
him when angry, and when she ought to be angry, unless contempt
has stifled a natural effervescence, she may do the same after
parting with a lover. These are all preparations for adultery;
or, should the fear of the world, or of hell, restrain her desire
of pleasing other men, when she can no longer please her husband,
what substitute can be found by a being who was only formed, by
nature and art, to please man? what can make her amends for this
privation, or where is she to seek for a fresh employment? where
find sufficient strength of mind to determine to begin the search,
when her habits are fixed, and vanity has long ruled her chaotic
mind?
But this partial moralist recommends cunning systematically and
plausibly.
"Daughters should be always submissive; their mothers, however,
should not be inexorable. To make a young person tractable, she
ought not to be made unhappy; to make her modest she ought not
to be rendered stupid. on the contrary, I should not be displeased
at her being permitted to use some art, not to elude punishment
in case of disobedience, but to exempt herself from the necessity
of obeying. It is not necessary to make her dependence burdensome,
but only to let her feel it. Subtility is a talent natural to
the sex; and, as I am persuaded, all our natural inclinations
are right and good in themselves, I am of opinion this should
be cultivated as well as the others: it is requisite for us only
to prevent its abuse."
"Whatever is, is right," he then proceeds triumphantly
to infer. Granted; yet, perhaps, no aphorism ever contained a
more paradoxical assertion. It is a solemn truth with respect
to God. He, reverentially I speak, sees the whole at once, and
saw its just proportions in the womb of time; but man, who can
only inspect disjointed parts, finds many things wrong; and it
is a part of the system, and therefore, right, that he should
endeavour to alter what appears to him to be so, even while he
bows to the wisdom of his Creator, and respects the darkness he
labours to disperse.
The inference that follows is just, supposing the principle to
be sound. "The superiority of address, peculiar to the female
sex, is a very equitable indemnification for their inferiority
in point of strength: without this, woman would not be the companion
of marriage, but his slave; it is by her superior art and ingenuity
that she preserves her equality, and governs him while she affects
to obey. Woman has everything against her, as well our faults,
as her own timidity and weakness; she has nothing in her favour,
but her subtility and her beauty. Is it not very reasonable, therefore,
she should cultivate both?" Greatness of mind can never dwell
with cunning, or address; for I shall not boggle about words,
when their direct signification is insincerity and falsehood,
but content myself with observing, that if any class of mankind
be so created that it must necessarily be educated by rules not
strictly deducible from truth, virtue is an affair of convention.
How could Rousseau dare to assert, after giving this advice, that
in the grand end of existence the object of both sexes should
be the same, when he well knew that the mind, formed by its pursuits,
is expanded by great views swallowing up little ones, or that
it becomes itself little?
Men have superior strength of body; but were it not for mistaken
notions of beauty, women would acquire sufficient to enable them
to earn their own subsistence, the true definition of independence;
and to bear those bodily inconveniences and exertions that are
requisite to strengthen the mind. Let us then, by being allowed
to take the same exercise as boys, not only during infancy, but
youth, arrive at perfection of body, that we may know how far
the natural superiority of man extends. For what reason or virtue
can be expected from a creature when the seed-time of life is
neglected? None; did not the winds of heaven casually scatter
many useful seeds in fallow ground."
Beauty cannot be acquired by dress, and coquetry is an art not
so early and speedily attained. While girls are yet young, however,
they are in a capacity to study agreeable gesture, a pleasing
modulation of voice, an easy carriage and behaviour; as well as
to take the advantage of gracefully looks and attitudes to time,
place, and occasion. Their application, therefore, should not
be solely confined to the arts of industry and the needle, when
they come to display other talents, whose utility is already apparent.
"For my part, I would have a young Englishwoman cultivate
her agreeable talents, in order to please her future husband,
with as much care and assiduity as a young Circassian cultivates
hers, to fit her for the harem of an Eastern bashaw.
To render women completely insignificant, he adds: "The tongues
of women are very voluble; they speak earlier, more readily, and
more agreeably, than the men; they are accused also of speaking
much more: but so it ought to be, and I should be very ready to
convert this reproach into a compliment; their lips and eyes have
the same activity, and for the same reason. A man speaks of what
he knows, a woman of what pleases her; the one requires knowledge,
the other taste; the principal object of a man's discourse should
be what is useful, that of a woman's what is agreeable. There
ought to be nothing in common between their different conversation
but truth.
"We ought not, therefore, to restrain the prattle of girls,
in the same manner as we should that of boys, with that severe
question, To what purpose are you talking? but by another, which
is no less difficult to answer, How will your discourse be received?
In infancy, while they are as yet incapable to discern good from
evil, they ought to observe it, as a law never to say anything
disagreeable to those whom they are speaking to. What will render
the practice of this rule also the more difficult is, that it
must ever be subordinate to the former, of never speaking falsely
or telling an untruth." To govern the tongue in this manner
must require great address indeed, and it is too much practised
both by men and women. out of the abundance ;)f the heart how
few speak ! So few that I, who love simplicity, would gladly give
up politeness for a quarter of the virtue that has been sacrificed
to an equivocal quality which at best should only be the polish
of virtue.
But, to complete the sketch. "It is easy to be conceived,
that if male children be not in a capacity to form any true notions
of religion, those ideas must be greatly above the conception
of the females: it is for this very reason, I would begin to speak
to them the earlier on this subject; for if we were to wait till
they were in a capacity to discuss methodically such profound
questions, we should run a risk of never speaking to them on this
subject as long as they lived. Reason in women is a practical
reason, capacitating them artfully to discover the means of attaining
a known end, but which would never enable them to discover that
end itself. The social relations of the sexes are indeed truly
admirable: from their union there results a moral person, of which
woman may be termed the eyes, and man the hand, with this dependence
on each other, that it is from the man that the woman is to learn
what she is to see, and it is of the woman that man is to learn
what he ought to do. If woman could recur to the first principles
of things as well as man, and man was capacitated to enter into
their minutiae as well as woman, always independent of each other,
they would live in perpetual discord, and their union could not
subsist. But in the present harmony which naturally subsists between
them, their different faculties tend to one common end: it is
difficult to say which of them conduces the most to it: each follows
the impulse of the other; each is obedient, and both are masters.
"As the conduct of a woman is subservient to the public opinion,
her faith in matters of religion should, for that very reason,
be subject to authority. Every daughter ought to be of the same
religion as her mother, and every wife to be of the same religion
as her husband: for, though such religion should be false, that
docility which induces the mother and daughter to submit to the
order of nature, takes away, in the sight of God, the criminality
of their error.[3] As they are not in a capacity to judge for
themselves, they ought to abide by the decision of their fathers
and husbands as confidently as by that of the Church.
"As authority ought to regulate the religion of the women,
it is not so needful to explain to them the reasons for their
belief, as to lay down precisely the tenets they are to believe:
for the creed, which presents only obscure ideas to the mind,
is the source of fanaticism; and that which presents absurdities,
leads to infidelity."
Absolute, uncontroverted authority, it seems, must subsist somewhere:
but is not this a direct and exclusive appropriation of reason?
The rights of humanity have been thus confined to the male line
from Adam downwards.
Rousseau would carry his male aristocracy still further, he insinuates,
that he should not blame those, who contend _ leaving woman in
a state of the most profound ignorance, if it were not necessary
in order to preserve her chastity and justify the man's choice,
in the eyes of the world, to give her a little knowledge of men,
and the customs produced by human passions; else she might propagate
at home without being rendered less voluptuous and innocent by
the exercise of her understanding: excepting, indeed, during the
first year of marriage, when she might employ it to dress like
Sophia. "Her dress is extremely modest in appearance, and
yet very coquettish in fact: she does not make a display of her
charms, she conceals them; but in concealing them, she knows how
to affect your imagination. Everyone who sees her will say, There
is a modest and discreet girl; but while you are near her, your
eyes and affections wander all over her person, so that you cannot
withdraw them; and you would conclude, that every part of her
dress, simple as it seems, was only put in its proper order to
be taken to pieces by the imagination." Is this modesty?
Is this a preparation for immortality? Again, What opinion are
we to form of a system of education, when the author says of his
heroine, "that with her, doing things well, is but a secondary
concern; her principal concern is to do them neatly."
Secondary, in fact, are all her respecting religion, he makes
her accustomed to submission--"Your husband will instruct
you in good time."
After thus cramping a woman's mind, if, in order to keep it fair,
he have not made it quite reflect, that a reflecting man may when
he is tired of caressing her. What has she to reflect about who
must obey? and would it not be a refinement on cruelty only to
open her mind to make the darkness and misery of her fate visible?
Yet these are his sensible remarks; how consistent with what I
have already been obliged to quote, to give a fair view of the
subject, the reader may determine.
"They who pass their whole lives in working for their daily
bread, have no ideas beyond their business or their interest,
and all their understanding seems to lie in their fingers' ends.
This ignorance is neither prejudicial to their integrity nor their
morals; it is often of service to them. Sometimes, by means of
reflection, we are led to compound with our duty, and we conclude
by substituting a jargon of words in the room of things. our own
conscience is the most enlightened philosopher. There is no need
to be acquainted with Tully's offices, to make a man of probity;
and perhaps the most virtuous woman in the world is the least
acquainted with the definition of virtue. But it is no less true,
that an improved understanding only can render society agreeable;
and it is a melancholy thing for a father of a family, who is
fond of home, to be obliged to be always wrapped up in himself,
and to have nobody about him to whom he can impart his sentiments.
"Besides, how should a woman void of reflection be capable
of educating her children? How should she discern what is proper
for them? How should she incline them to those virtues she is
unacquainted with, or to that merit of which she has no idea?
She can only soothe or chide them; render them insolent or timid;
she will make them formal coxcombs, or ignorant blockheads, but
will never make these sensible or amiable." How indeed should
she, when her husband is not always at hand to lend her his reason?--when
they both together make but one moral being. A blind will, "
eyes without hands," would go a very little way; and perchance
his abstract reason, that should concentrate the scattered beams
of her practical reason, may be employed in judging of the flavour
of wine, descanting on the sauces most proper for turtle; or,
more profoundly intent at a card-table, he may be generalising
his ideas as he bets away his fortune, leaving all the minutiae
of education to his helpmate, or to chance.
But, granting that woman ought to be beautiful, innocent, and
silly, to render her a more alluring and indulgent companion;
--what is her understanding sacrificed for? And why is all this
preparation necessary only, according to Rousseau's own account,
to make her the mistress of her husband, a very short time? For
no man ever insisted more on the transient nature of love. Thus
speaks the philosopher, "Sensual pleasures are transient.
The habitual state of the affections always loses by their gratification.
The imagination, which decks the object of our desires, is lost
in fruition. Excepting the Supreme Being, who is self-existent,
there is nothing beautiful but what is ideal."
But he returns to his unintelligible paradoxes again, when he
thus addresses Sophia--"Emilius, in becoming your husband,
is become your master, and claims your obedience. Such is the
order of nature. When a man is married, however, to such a wife
as Sophia, it is proper he should be directed by her. This is
also agreeable to the order of nature. It is, therefore, to give
you as much authority over his heart as his sex gives him over
your person that I have made you the arbiter of his pleasures.
It may cost you, perhaps, some disagreeable self-denial; but you
will be certain of maintaining your empire over him, if you can
preserve it over shows me that this difficult attempt does not
surpass your courage.
"Would you have your husband constantly at your feet, keep
him at some distance from your person. You will long maintain
the authority in love, if you know but how to render your favours
rare and valuable. It is thus you may employ even the arts of
coquetry in the service of virtue, and those of love in that of
reason." I shall close my extracts with a just description
of a comfortable couple: " And yet you must not imagine that
even such management will always suffice. Whatever precaution
be taken, enjoyment will by degrees take off the edge of passion.
But when love hath lasted as long as possible, a pleasing habitude
supplies its place, and the attachment of a mutual confidence
succeeds to the transports of passion. Children often form a more
agreeable and permanent connection between married people then
even love itself. When you cease to be the mistress of Emilius,
you will continue to be his wife and friend--you will be the mother
of his children."[4]
Children, he truly observes, form a much more permanent connection
between married people than love. Beauty, he declares, will not
be valued, or even seen, after a couple have lived six months
together; artificial graces and coquetry will likewise pall on
the senses. Why, then, does he say that a girl should be educated
for her husband with the same care as for an Eastern harem?
I now appeal from the reveries of fancy and refined licentiousness
to the good sense of mankind, whether, if the object of education
be to prepare women to become chaste wives and sensible mothers,
the method so plausibly recommended in the foregoing sketch be
the one best calculated to produce those ends? Will it be allowed
that the surest way to make a wife chaste is to teach her to practise
the wanton arts of a mistress, termed virtuous coquetry, by the
sensualist who can no longer relish the artless charms of sincerity,
or taste the pleasure arising from a tender intimacy, when confidence
is unchecked by suspicion, and rendered interesting by sense?
The man who can be contented to live with a pretty, useful companion,
without a mind, has lost in voluptuous gratifications a taste
for more refined enjoyments; he has never felt the calm satisfaction
that refreshes the parched heart like the silent dew of heaven--of
being beloved by one who could understand him. In the society
of his wife he is still alone, unless when the man is sunk in
the brute. "The charm of life," says a grave philosophical
reasoner, is "sympathy; nothing pleases us more than to observe
in other men a fellow-feeling with all the emotions of our own
breast"
But according to the tenor of reasoning by which women are kept
from the tree of knowledge, the important years of youth, the
usefulness of age, and the rational hopes of futurity, are all
to be sacrificed to render women an object of desire for a short
time. Besides, how could Rousseau expect them to be virtuous and
constant when reason is neither allowed to be the foundation of
their virtue, nor truth the object of their inquiries?
But all Rousseau's errors in reasoning arose from sensibility,
and sensibility to their charms women are very ready to forgive.
When he should have reasoned he became impassioned, and reflection
inflamed his imagination instead of enlightening his understanding.
Even his virtues also led him farther astray; for, born with a
warm constitution and lively fancy, nature carried him toward
the other sex with such eager fondness that he soon became lascivious.
Had he given way to these desires, the fire would have extinguished
itself in a natural manner, but virtue, and a romantic kind of
delicacy, made him practise self-denial; yet when fear, delicacy,
or virtue restrained him, he debauched his imagination, and reflecting
on the sensations to which fancy gave force, he traced them in
the most glowing colours, and sunk them deep into his soul.
He then sought for solitude, not to sleep with the man of nature,
or calmly investigate the causes of things under the shade where
Sir Isaac Newton indulged contemplation, but merely to indulge
his feelings. And so warmly has he painted what he forcibly felt,
that interesting the heart and inflaming the imagination of his
readers, in proportion to the strength of their fancy, they imagine
that their understanding is convinced when they only sympathise
with a poetic writer, who skilfully exhibits the objects of sense
most voluptuously shadowed or gracefully veiled; and thus making
us feel whilst dreaming that we reason, erroneous conclusions
are left in the mind.
Why was Rousseau's life divided between ecstasy and misery? Can
ny other answer be given than this, that the effervescence of
his imagination produced both; but had his fancy been allowed
to cool, it is possible that he might have acquired more strength
of mind. Still, if the purpose of life be to educate the intellectual
part of man, all-with respect to him was right; yet had not death
led to a nobler scene of action, it is probable that he would
have enjoyed more equal happiness on earth, and have felt the
calm sensations of the man of nature, instead of being prepared
for another stage of existence by nourishing the passions which
agitate the civilised man.
But peace to his manes! I war not with his ashes, but his opinions.
I war only with the sensibility that led him to degrade woman
by making her the slave of love.
"--Cursed vassalage, First idolised till love's hot fire
be o'er, Then slaves to those who courted us before."--DRYDEN.
The pernicious tendency of those books, in which the writers insidiously
degrade the sex whilst they are prostrate before their personal
charms, cannot be too often or too severely exposed.
Let us, my dear contemporaries, arise above such narrow pr judices.
If wisdom be desirable on its own account, if virtue, to deserve
the name, must be founded on knowledge, let us endeavour to strengthen
our minds by reflection till our heads become a balance for our
hearts; let us not confine all our thoughts to the petty occurrences
of the day, or our knowledge to an acquaintance with our lovers'
or husbands' hearts, but let the practice of every duty be subordinate
to the grand one of improving our minds, and preparing our affections
for a more exalted state.
Beware, then, my friends, of suffering the heart to be moved by
every trivial incident; the reed is shaken by a breeze, and annually
dies, but the oak stands firm, and for ages braves the storm.
Were we, indeed, only created to flutter our hour out and die--why
let us then indulge sensibility, and laugh at the severity of
reason. Yet, alas ! even then we should want strength of body
and mind, and life would be lost in feverish pleasures or wearisome
languor.
But the system of Education, which I earnestly wish to see exploded,
seems to presuppose what ought never to be taken for granted,
that virtue shields us from the casualties of life; and that Fortune,
slipping off her bandage, will smile on a well-educated female,
and bring in her hand an Emilius or a Telemachus. Whilst, on the
contrary, the reward which Virtue promises to her votaries is
confined, it seems clear, to their own bosoms; and often must
they contend with the most vexatious worldly cares, and bear with
the vices and humours of relations for whom they can never feel
a friendship.
There have been many women in the world who, instead of being
supported by the reason and virtue of their fathers and brothers,
have strengthened their own minds by struggling with their vices
and follies; yet have never met with a hero, in the shape of a
husband; who, paying the debt that mankind owed them, might chance
to bring back their reason to its natural dependent state, and
restore the usurped prerogative, of rising above opinion, to man.
SECTION II
Dr. Fordyce's sermons have long made a part of a young woman's
library; nay, girls at school are allowed to read them but I should
instantly dismiss them from my pupil's if I wished to strengthen
her understanding, by leading her to form sound principles on
a broad basis; or, were I only anxious to cultivate her taste,
though they must be allowed to contain many sensible observations.
Dr. Fordyce may have had a very laudable end in view; but these
discourses are written in such an affected style, that were it
only on that account, and had I nothing to object against his
mellifluous precepts, I should not allow girls to peruse them,
unless I designed to hunt every spark of nature out of their composition,
melting every human quality into female meekness and artificial
grace. I say artificial, for true grace arises from some kind
of independence of mind.
Children, careless of pleasing, and only anxious to amuse themselves,
are often very graceful; and the nobility who have mostly lived
with inferiors, and always had the command of money, acquire a
graceful ease of deportment, which should rather be termed habitual
grace of body, than that superior gracefulness which is truly
the expression of the mind. This mental grace, not noticed by
vulgar eyes, often flashes across a rough countenance, and irradiating
every feature, shows simplicity and independence of mind. It is
then we read characters of immortality in the eye, and see the
soul in every gesture, though when at rest, neither the face nor
limbs may have much beauty to recommend them; or the behaviour,
anything peculiar to attract universal attention. The mass of
mankind, however, look for more tangible beauty; yet simplicity
is, in general, admired, when people do not consider what they
admire ? and can there be simplicity without sincerity? But, to
have done with remarks that are in some measure desultory, though
naturally excited by the subject.
In declamatory periods Dr. Fordyce spins out Rousseau's eloquence;
and in most sentimental rant, details his opinions respecting
the female character, and the behaviour which woman ought to assume
to render her lovely.
He shall speak for himself, for thus he makes Nature address man.
"Behold these smiling innocents, whom I have graced with
my fairest gifts, and committed to your protection; behold them
with love and respect; treat them with tenderness and honour.
They are timid and want to be defended. They are frail; oh do
not take advantage of their weakness! Let their fears and blushes
endear them. Let their confidence in you never be abused. But
is it possible, that any of you can be such barbarians, so supremely
wicked, as to abuse it? Can you find in your hearts[5] to despoil
the gentle, trusting creatures of their treasure, or do anything
to strip them of their native robe of virtue? Curst be the impious
hand that would dare to violate the unblemished form of chastity!
Thou wretch! thou ruffian ! forbear; nor venture to provoke Heaven's
fiercest vengeance." I know not any comment that can be made
seriously on this curious passage, and I could produce many similar
ones; and some, so very sentimental, that I have heard rational
men use the word indecent, when they mentioned them with disgust.
Throughout there is a display of cold artificial feelings, and
that parade of sensibility which boys and girls should be taught
to despise as the sure mark of a little vain mind. Florid appeals
are made to Heaven, and to the beauteous innocents, the fairest
images of Heaven here below, whilst sober sense is left far behind.
This is not the language of the heart, nor will it ever reach
it, though the ear may be tickled.
I shall be told, perhaps, that the public have been pleased with
these volumes. True--and Hervey's Meditations are :_ read, though
he equally sinned against sense and taste.
I particularly object to the love-like phrases of pumped up passion,
which are everywhere interspersed. If women be ever allowed to
walk without leading-strings, why must they be cajoled into virtue
by artful flattery and sexual compliments? Speak to them the language
of truth and soberness, and away with the lullaby strains of condescending
endearment ! Let them be taught to respect themselves as rational
creatures, and not led to have a passion for their own insipid
persons. It moves my gall to hear a preacher descanting on dress
and needlework; and still more, to hear him address the British
fair, the fairest of the fair, as if they had only feelings.
Even recommending piety he uses the following argument. "Never,
perhaps, does a fine woman strike more deeply, than when, composed
into pious recollection, and possessed with the noblest considerations,
she assumes, without knowing it, superior dignity and new graces;
so that the beauties of holiness seem to radiate about her, and
the bystanders are almost reduced to fancy her already worshipping
amongst her kindred angels!" Why are women to be thus bred
up with a desire\of conquest? the very word, used in this sense,
gives me a sickly qualm! Do religion and virtue offer no stronger
motives, no brighter reward ? Must they always be debased by being
made to consider the sex of their companions? Must they be taught
always to be pleasing ? And when levelling their small artillery
at the heart of man, is it necessary to tell them that a little
sense is sufficient to render their attention incredibly soothing?
"As a small degree of knowledge entertains in a woman, so
from a woman, though for a different reason, a small expression
of kindness delights, particularly if she have beauty!" I
should have supposed for the same reason.
Why are girls to be told that they resemble angels; but to sink
them below women? Or, that a gentle innocent female is an object
that comes nearer to the idea which we have formed of angels than
any other. Yet they are told, at the same time, that they are
only like angels when they are young and beautiful; consequently,
it is their persons, not their virtues, that procure them this
homage.
Idle empty words ! What can such delusive flattery lead to, but
vanity and folly? The lover, it is true, has a poetical licence
to exalt his mistress; his reason is the bubble of his passion,
and he does not utter a falsehood when he borrows the language
of adoration. His imagination may raise the idol of his heart,
unblamed, above humanity; and happy would it be for women, if
they were only flattered by the men who loved them; I mean, who
love the individual, not the sex; but should a grave preacher
interlard his discourses with such fooleries?
In sermons or novels, however, voluptuousness is always true to
its text. Men are allowed by moralists to cultivate, as Nature
directs, different qualities, and assume the different characters,
that the same passions, modified almost to infinity, give to each
individual. A virtuous man may have a choleric or a sanguine constitution,
be gay or grave, unreproved; be firm till he is almost overbearing,
or, weakly submissive, have no will or opinion of his own; but
all women are to be levelled, by meekness and docility, into one
character of yielding softness and gentle compliance.
I will use the preacher's own words. "Let it be observed,
that in your sex manly exercises are never graceful; that in them
a tone and figure, as well as an air and deportment, of the masculine
kind, are always forbidding; and that men of sensibility desire
in every woman soft features, and a flowing voice, a form, not
robust, and demeanour delicate and gentle."
Is not the following portrait--the portrait of a house slave?
"I am astonished at the folly of many women, who are still
reproaching their husbands for leaving them alone, for preferring
this or that company to theirs, for treating them with this and
the other mark of disregard or indifference; when, to speak the
truth, they have themselves in a great measure to blame. Not that
I would justify the men in anything wrong on their part. But had
you behaved to them with more respectful observance, and a more
equal tenderness; studying their humours, overlooking their mistakes,
submitting to their opinions in matters indifferent, passing by
little instances of unevenness, caprice, or passion, giving soft
answers to hasty words, complaining as seldom as possible, and
making it your daily care to relieve their anxieties and prevent
their wishes, to enliven the hour of dullness, and call up the
ideas of felicity: had you pursued this conduct, I doubt not but
you would have maintained and even increased their esteem, so
far as to have secured every degree of influence that could conduce
to their virtue, or your mutual satisfaction; and your house might
at this day have been the abode of domestic bliss " Such
a woman ought to be an angel--or she is an ass-for I discern not
a trace of the human character, neither reason nor passion in
this domestic drudge, whose being is absorbed in that of a tyrant's.
Still Dr. Fordyce must have very little acquaintance with the
human heart, if he really supposed that such conduct would bring
back wandering love, instead of exciting contempt. No, beauty,
gentleness, etc., etc., may gain a heart; but esteem, the only
lasting affection, can alone be obtained by virtue supported by
reason. It is respect for the understanding that keeps alive tenderness
for the person.
As these volumes are so frequently put into the hands of young
people, I have taken more notice of them than, strictly speaking,
they deserve; but as they have contributed to vitiate the taste,
and enervate the understanding of many of my fellow-creatures,
I could not pass them silently over.
SECTION III
Such paternal solicitude pervades Dr. Gregory's Legacy to his
Daughters, that I enter on the task of criticism with affectionate
respect; but as this little volume has many attractions to recommend
it to the notice of the most respectable part of my sex, I cannot
silently pass over arguments that so speciously support opinions
which, I think, have had the most baneful effect on the morals
and manners of the female world.
His easy familiar style is particularly suited to the tenor of
his advice, and the melancholy tenderness which his respect for
the memory of a beloved wife, diffuses through the whole work,
renders it very interesting; yet there is a degree of concise
elegance conspicuous in many passages that disturbs this sympathy;
and we pop on the author, when we only expected to meet the--father.
Besides, having two objects in view, he seldom adhered steadily
to either; for wishing to make his daughters amiable, and fearing
lest unhappiness should only be the consequence, of instilling
sentiments that might draw them out of the track of common life
without enabling them to act with consonant independence and dignity,
he checks the natural flow of his thoughts, and neither advises
one thing nor the other.
In the preface he tells them a mournful truth, "that they
will hear, at least once in their lives, the genuine sentiments
of a man who has no interest in deceiving them."
Hapless woman! what can be expected from thee when the beings
on whom thou art said naturally to depend for reason and support,
have all an interest in deceiving thee! This is the root of the
evil that has shed a corroding mildew on all thy virtues; and
blighting in the bud thy opening faculties, has rendered thee
the weak thing thou art! It is this separate interest--this insidious
state of warfare, that undermines morality, and divides mankind!
If love have made some women wretched, how many more has the cold
unmeaning intercourse of gallantry rendered vain and useless !
yet this heartless attention to the sex is reckoned so manly,
so polite that, till society is very differently organised, I
fear, this vestige of gothic manners will not be done away by
a more reasonable and affectionate mode of conduct. Besides, to
strip it of its imaginary dignity, I must observe, that in the
most uncivilised European states this lip-service prevails in
a very great degree, accompanied with extreme dissoluteness of
morals. In Portugal, the country that I particularly allude to,
it takes place of the most serious moral obligations! for a man
is seldom assassinated when in the company of a woman. The savage
hand of rapine is unnerved by this chivalrous spirit; and, if
the stroke of vengeance cannot be stayed, the lady is entreated
to pardon the rudeness and depart in peace, though sprinkled,
perhaps, with her husband's or brother's blood.
I shall pass over his strictures on religion, because I mean to
discuss that subject in a separate chapter.
The remarks relative to behaviour, though many of them very sensible,
I entirely disapprove of, because it appears to me to be beginning,
as it were, at the wrong end. A cultivated understanding, and
an affectionate heart, will never want starched rules of decorum-something
more substantial than seemliness will be the result; and, without
understanding the behaviour here recommended, would be rank affectation.
Decorum, indeed, is the one thing needful !--decorum is to supplant
nature, and banish all simplicity and variety of character out
of the female world. Yet what good end can all this superficial
counsel produce ? It is, however, much easier to point out this
or that mode of behaviour, than to set the reason to work; but,
when the mind has been stored with useful knowledge, and strengthened
by being employed, the regulation of the behaviour may safely
be left to its guidance.
Why, for instance, should the following caution be given when
art of every kind must contaminate the mind; and why entangle
the grand motives of action, which reason and religion equally
combine to enforce, with pitiful worldly shifts and sleight-of-hand
tricks to gain the applause of gaping tasteless fools? "Be
even cautious in displaying your good sense.[6] It will be thought
you assume a superiority over the rest of the company. But if
you happen to have any learning, keep it a profound secret, especially
from the men, who generally look with a jealous and malignant
eye on a woman of great parts, and a cultivated understanding."
If men of real merit, as he afterwards observes, be superior to
this meanness, where is the necessity that the behaviour of the
whole sex should be modulated to please fools, or men, who having
little claim to respect as individuals, choose to keep close in
their phalanx. Men, indeed, who insist on their common superiority,
having only this sexual superiority, are certainly very excusable.
There would be no end to rules for behaviour, if it be proper
always to adopt the tone of the company; for thus, for ever varying
the key, a flat would often pass for a natural note.
Surely it would have been wiser to have advised women to improve
themselves till they rose above the fumes of vanity; and then
to let the public opinion come round--for where are rules of accommodation
to stop? The narrow path of truth and virtue inclines neither
to the right nor left--it is a straightforward business, and they
who are earnestly pursuing their road, may bound over many decorous
prejudices, without leaving modesty behind. Make the heart clean,
and give the head employment, and I will venture to predict that
there will be nothing offensive in the behaviour.
The air of fashion, which many young people are so eager to attain,
always strikes me like the studied attitudes of some modern pictures,
copied with tasteless servility after the antiques; the soul is
left out, and none of the parts are tied together by what may
properly be termed character. This varnish of fashion, which seldom
sticks very close to sense, may dazzle the weak; but leave nature
to itself, and it will seldom disgust the wise. Besides, when
a woman has sufficient sense not to pretend to anything which
she does not understand in some degree, there is no need of determining
to hide her talents under a bushel. Let things take their natural
course, and all will be well.
It is this system of dissimulation, throughout the volume, that
I despise. Women are always to seem to be this and that--yet virtue
might apostrophise them, in the words of Hamlet--Seems! I know
not seems! Have that within passeth show!
Still the same tone occurs; for in another place, after recommending,
without sufficiently discriminating delicacy, he adds,-"The
men will complain of your reserve. They will assure you that a
franker behaviour would make you more amiable. But, trust me,
they are not sincere when they tell you so. I acknowledge that
on some occasions it might render you more agreeable as companions,
but it would make you less amiable as women: an important distinction,
which many of your sex are not aware of."
This desire of being always women, is the very consciousness that
degrades the sex. Excepting with a lover, I must repeat with emphasis,
a former observation,--it would be well if they were only agreeable
or rational companions. But in this respect his advice is even
inconsistent with a passage which I mean to quote with the most
marked approbation.
"The sentiment, that a woman may allow all innocent freedoms,
provided her virtue is secure, is both grossly indelicate and
dangerous, and has proved fatal to many of your sex." With
this opinion I perfectly coincide. A man, or a woman, of any feeling,
must always wish to convince a beloved object that it is the caresses
of the individual, not the sex, that are received and returned
with pleasure; and, that the heart, rather than the senses, is
moved. Without this natural delicacy, love becomes a selfish personal
gratification that soon degrades the character.
I carry this sentiment still further. Affection, when love is
out of the question, authorises many personal endearments, that
naturally flowing from an innocent heart, give life to the behaviour;
but the personal intercourse of appetite, gallantry, or vanity,
is despicable. When a man squeezes the hand of a pretty woman,
handing her to a carriage, whom he has never seen before, she
will consider such an impertinent freedom in the light of an insult,
if she have any true delicacy, instead of being flattered by this
unmeaning homage to beauty. These are the privileges of friendship,
or the momentary homage which the heart pays to virtue, when it
flashes suddenly on the notice--mere animal spirits have no claim
to the kindnesses of affection.
Wishing to feed the affections with what is now the food of vanity,
I would fain persuade my sex to act from simpler principles. Let
them merit love, and they will obtain it, though they may never
be told that--"The power of a fine woman over the hearts
of men, of men of the finest parts, is even beyond what she conceives."
I have already noticed the narrow cautions with respect to duplicity,
female softness, delicacy of constitution; for these are the changes
which he rings round without ceasing--in a more decorous manner,
it is true, than Rousseau; but it all comes home to the same point,
and whoever is at the trouble to analyse these sentiments, will
find the first principles not quite so delicate as the superstructure.
The subject of amusements is treated in too cursory a manner;
but with the same spirit.
When I treat of friendship, love, and marriage, it will be found
that we materially differ in opinion; I shall not then forestall
what I have to observe on these important subjects; but confine
my remarks to the general tenor of them, to that cautious family
prudence, to those confined views of partial unenlightened affection,
which exclude pleasure and improvement, by vainly wishing to ward
off sorrow and error, and by thus guarding the heart and mind,
destroy also all their energy. It is far better to be often deceived
than never to trust; to be disappointed in love than never to
love; to lose a husband's fondness than forfeit his esteem.
Happy would it be for the world, and for individuals, of course,
if all this unavailing solicitude to attain worldly happiness,
on a confined plan, were turned into an anxious desire to improve
the understanding. "Wisdom is the principal thing: Therefore
get wisdom; and with all thy gettings get understanding."
"How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity, and hate
knowledge?" saith Wisdom to the daughters of men.
SECTION IV
I do not mean to allude to all the writers who have written on
the subject of female manners--it would, in fact, be only beating
over the old ground, for they have, in general, written in the
same strain; but attacking the boasted prerogative of man--the
prerogative that may emphatically be called the iron sceptre of
tyranny, the original sin of tyrants, I declare against all power
built on prejudices, however hoary.
If the submission demanded be founded on justice--there is no
appealing to a higher power--for God is justice itself. Let us
then, as children of the same parent, if not bastardised by being
the younger born, reason together, and learn to submit to the
authority of Reason--when her voice is distinctly heard. But,
if it proved, that this throne of prerogative only rests on a
chaotic mass of prejudices, that have no inherent principle of
order to keep them together, or on an elephant, tortoise, or even
the mighty shoulders of a son of the earth, they may escape, who
dare to brave the consequence, without any breach of duty, without
sinning against the order of things.
Whilst reason raises man above the brutal herd, and death is big
with promises, they alone are subject to blind authority who have
no reliance on their own strength. They are free --who will be
free! --[7]
The being who can govern itself has nothing to fear in life; but
if anything be dearer than its own respect, the price must be
paid to the last farthing. Virtue, like everything valuable, must
be loved for herself alone; or she will not take up her abode
with us. She will not impart that peace, " which passeth
understanding," when she is merely made the stilts of reputation;
and respected, with pharisaical exactness, because "honesty
is the best policy."
That the plan of life which enables us to carry some knowledge
and virtue into another world, is the one best calculated to ensure
content in this, cannot be denied; yet few people act according
to this principle, though it be universally allowed that it admits
not of dispute. Present pleasure, or present power, carry before
it these sober convictions; and it is for the day, not for life,
that man bargains with happiness. How few!--how very few! have
sufficient foresight, or resolution, to endure a small evil at
the moment, to avoid a greater hereafter.
Woman in particular, whose virtue[8] is built on mutable prejudices,
seldom attains to this greatness of mind; so that, becoming the
slave of her own feelings, she is easily subjugated by those of
others. Thus degraded, her reason, her misty reason ! is employed
rather to burnish than to snap her chains.
Indignantly have I heard women argue in the same track as men,
and adopt the sentiments that brutalise them, with all the pertinacity
of ignorance.
I must illustrate my assertion by a few examples. Mrs. Piozzi,
who often repeated by rote, what she did not understand, comes
forward with Johnsonian periods.
"Seek not for happiness in singularity; and dread a refinement
of wisdom as-a deviation into folly." Thus she dogmatically
addresses a new married man; and to elucidate this pompous exordium,
she adds, " I said that the person of your lady would not
grow more pleasing to you, but pray let her never suspect that
it grows less so: that a woman will pardon an affront to her understanding
much sooner than one to her person, is well known; nor will any
of us contradict the assertion. All our attainments, all our arts,
are employed to gain and keep the heart of man; and what mortification
can exceed the disappointment, if the end be not obtained ? There
is no reproof however pointed, no punishment however severe, that
a woman of spirit will not prefer to neglect; and if she can endure
it without complaint, it only proves that she means to make herself
amends by the attention of others for the slights of her husband
!"
These are truly masculine sentiments. "All our arts are employed
to gain and keep the heart of man:"--and what is the inference?--if
her person, and was there ever a person, though formed with Medicean
symmetry, that was not slighted ? be neglected, she will make
herself amends by endeavouring to please other men. Noble morality!
But thus is the understanding of the whole sex affronted, and
their virtue deprived of the common basis of virtue. A woman must
know, that her person cannot be as pleasing to her husband as
it was to her lover, and if she be offended with him for being
a human creature, she may as well whine about the loss of his
heart as about any other foolish thing. And this very want of
discernment or unreasonable anger, proves that he could not change
his fondness for her person into affection for her virtues or
respect for her understanding.
Whilst women avow, and act up to such opinions, their understandings,
at least, deserve the contempt and obloquy that men, who never
insult their persons, have pointedly levelled at the female mind.
And it is the sentiments of these polite men, who do not wish
to be encumbered with mind, that vain women thoughtlessly adopt.
Yet they should know, that insulted reason alone can spread that
sacred reserve about the person, which renders human affections,
for human affections have always some base alloy, as permanent
as is consistent with the grand end of existence--the attainment
of virtue.
The Baroness de Stael speaks the same language as the lady just
cited, with more enthusiasm. Her eulogium on Rousseau was accidentally
put into my hands and her sentiments, the sentiments of too many
of my sex, may serve as the text for a few comments. "Though
Rousseau," she observes, "has endeavoured to prevent
women from interfering in public affairs, and acting a brilliant
part in the theatre of politics; yet in speaking of them, how
much has he done it to their satisfaction ! If he wished to deprive
them of some rights foreign to their sex, how has he for ever
restored to them all those to which it has a claim! And in attempting
to diminish their influence over the deliberations of men, how
sacredly has he established the empire they have over their happiness!
In aiding them to descend from an usurped throne, he has firmly
seated them upon that to which they were destined by nature; and
though he be full of indignation against them when they endeavour
to resemble men, yet when they come before him with all the charms,
weaknesses, virtues, and errors of their sex, his respect for
their persons amounts almost to adoration." True! For never
was there a sensualist who paid more fervent adoration at the
shrine of beauty. So devout, indeed, was his respect for the person,
that excepting the virtue of chastity, for obvious reasons, he
only wished to see it embellished by charms, weaknesses, and errors.
He was afraid lest the austerity of reason should disturb the
soft playfulness of love. The master wished to have a meretricious
slave to fondle, entirely dependent on his reason and bounty;
he did not want a companion, whom he should be compelled to esteem,
or a friend to whom he could confine the care of his children's
education, should death deprive them of their father, before he
had fulfilled the sacred task. He denies woman reason, shuts her
out from knowledge, and turns her aside from truth; yet his pardon
is granted, because " he admits the passion of love."
It would require some ingenuity to show why women were to be under
such an obligation to him for thus admitting love; when it is
clear that he admits it only for the relaxation of men, and to
perpetuate the species; but he talked with passion, and that powerful
spell worked on the sensibility of a young encomiast. " What
signifies it," pursues this rhapsodist, " to women,
that his reason disputes with them the empire, when his heart
is devotedly theirs," It is not empire,--but equality, that
they should contend for. Yet, if they only wished to lengthen
out their sway, they should not entirely trust to their persons,
for though beauty may gain a heart, it cannot keep it, even while
the beauty is in full bloom, unless the mind lend, at least, some
graces.
When women are once sufficiently enlightened to discover their
real interest, on a grand scale, they will, I am persuaded, be
very ready to resign all the prerogatives of love, that are not
mutual, speaking of them as lasting prerogatives, for the calm
satisfaction of friendship, and the tender confidence of habitual
esteem. Before marriage they will not assume any insolent airs,
or afterwards abjectly submit; but endeavouring to act like reasonable
creatures, in both situations, they will not be tumbled from a
throne to a stool.
Madame Genlis has written several entertaining books for children;
and her Letters on Education afford many useful hints, that sensible
parents will certainly avail themselves of; but her views are
narrow, and her prejudices as unreasonable as strong.
I shall pass over her vehement argument in favour of the eternity
of future punishments, because I blush to think that a human being
should ever argue vehemently in such a cause, and only make a
few remarks on her absurd manner of making the parental authority
supplant reason. For everywhere does she inculcate not only blind
submission to parents, but to the opinion of the world.[9]
She tells a story of a young man engaged by his father's express
desire to a girl of fortune. Before the marriage could take place
she is deprived of her fortune, and thrown friendless on the world.
The father practises the most infamous arts to separate his son
from her, and when the son detects his villainy, and, following
the dictates of honour, marries the girl, nothing but misery ensues,
because, forsooth! he married without his father's consent. On
what ground can religion or morality rest when justice is thus
set at defiance? With the same view she represents an accomplished
young woman, as ready to marry anybody that her mamma pleased
to recommend; and, as actually marrying the young man of her own
choice, without feeling any emotions of passion, because that
a well-educated girl had not time to be in love. Is it possible
to have much respect for a system of education that thus insults
reason and nature?
Many similar opinions occur in her writings, mixed with sentiments
that do honour to her head and heart. Yet so much superstition
is mixed with her religion, and so much worldly wisdom with her
morality, that I should not let a young person read her works,
unless I could afterwards converse on the subjects, and point
out the contradictions.
Mrs. Chapone's letters are written with such good sense and unaffected
humility, and contain so many useful observations, that I only
mention them to pay the worthy writer this tribute of respect.
I cannot, it is true, always coincide in opinion with her, but
I always respect her.
The very word respect brings Mrs. Macaulay to my remembrance.
The woman of the greatest abilities, undoubtedly, that this country
has ever produced; and yet this woman has been suffered to die
without sufficient respect being paid to her memory.
Posterity, however, will be more just, and remember that Catherine
Macaulay was an example of intellectual acquirements supposed
to be incompatible with the weakness of her sex. In her style
of writing, indeed, no sex appears, for it is like the sense it
conveys, strong and clear.
I will not call hers a masculine understanding, because I admit
not of such an arrogant assumption of reason; but I contend that
it was a sound one, and that her judgment, the matured fruit of
profound thinking, was a proof that a woman can acquire judgment
in the full extent of the word. Possessing more penetration than
sagacity, more understanding than fancy, she writes with sober
energy and argumentative closeness; yet sympathy and benevolence
give an interest to her sentiments, and that vital heat to arguments,
which forces the reader to weigh them.[10]
When I first thought of writing these strictures I anticipated
Mrs. Macaulay's approbation, with a little of that sanguine ardour
which it has been the business of my life to depress, but soon
heard with the sickly qualm-of disappointed hope, and the still
seriousness of regret--that she was no more!
SECTION V
Taking a view of the different works which have been written on
education, Lord Chesterfield's Letters must not be silently passed
over. Not that I mean to analyse his unmanly, immoral system,
or even to cull any of the useful, shrewd remarks which occur
in his epistles. No, I only mean to make a few reflections on
the avowed tendency of them, the art of acquiring an early knowledge
of the world--an art, I will venture to assert, that preys secretly,
like the worm in the bud, on the expanding powers, and turns to
poison the generous juices which should mount with vigour in the
youthful frame, inspiring warm affections and great resolves.[11]
For everything, saith the wise man, there is a season; and who
would look for the fruits of autumn during the genial months of
spring? But this is mere declamation, and I mean to reason with
those worldly-wise instructors, who, instead of cultivating the
judgment, instil prejudices, and render hard the heart that gradual
experience would only have cooled. An early acquaintance with
human infirmities; or, what is termed knowledge of the world,
is the surest way, in my opinion, to contract the heart and damp
the natural youthful ardour which produces not only great talents,
but great virtues. For the vain attempt to bring forth the fruit
of experience, before the sapling has out thrown its leaves, only
exhausts its strength, and prevents its assuming a natural form;
just as the form and strength of subsiding metals are injured
when the attraction of cohesion is disturbed.
Tell me, ye who have studied the human mind, is it not a strange
way to fix principles by showing young people that they are seldom
stable? And how can they be fortified by habits when they are
proved to be fallacious by example? Why is the ardour of youth
thus to be damped, and the luxuriancy of fancy cut to the quick?
This dry caution may, it is true, guard a character from worldly
mischances, but will infallibly preclude excellence in either
virtue or knowledge.[12] The stumbling-block thrown across every
path by suspicion will prevent any vigorous exertions of genius
or benevolence, and life will be stripped of its most alluring
charm long before its calm evening, when man would retire to contemplation
for comfort and support.
A young man who has been bred up with domestic friends, and led
to store his mind with as much speculative knowledge as can be
acquired by reading and the natural reflections which youthful
ebullitions of animal spirits and instinctive feelings inspire,
will enter the world with warm and erroneous expectations. But
this appears to be the course of Nature. and in morals, as well
as in works of taste, we should be observant of her sacred indications,
and not presume to lead when we ought obsequiously to follow.
In the world few act from principle; present feelings and early
habits are the grand springs; but how would the former be deadened,
and the latter rendered iron-corroding fetters, if the world were
shown to young people just as it is, when no knowledge of mankind
or their own hearts, slowly obtained by experience, rendered them
forbearing? Their fellow-creatures would not then be viewed as
frail beings like themselves, condemned to struggle with human
infirmities, and sometimes displaying the light, and sometimes
the dark, side of their character; extorting alternate feelings
of love and disgust, but guarded against as beasts of prey, till
every enlarged social feeling--in a word, humanity--was eradicated.
In life, on the contrary, as we gradually discover the imperfections
of our nature, we discover virtues, and various circumstances
attach us to our fellow-creatures, when we mix with them and view
the same objects, that are never thought of in acquiring a hasty
unnatural knowledge of the world. We see a folly swell into a
vice, by almost imperceptible degrees, and pity while we blame;
but if the hideous monster burst suddenly on our sight, fear and
disgust, rendering us more severe than man ought to be, might
lead us with blind zeal to usurp the character of omnipotence,
and denounce damnation on our fellow-mortals, forgetting that
we cannot read the heart, and that we have seeds of the same vices
lurking in our own.
I have already remarked that we expect more from instruction than
mere instruction can produce; for instead of preparing young people
to encounter the evils of life with dignity, and to acquire wisdom
and virtue by the exercise of their own [13] faculties, precepts
are heaped upon precepts, and blind obedience required when conviction
should be brought home to reason.
Suppose, for instance, that a young person, in the first ardour
of friendship, deifies the beloved object, what harm can arise
from this mistaken enthusiastic attachment? Perhaps it is necessary
for virtue first to appear in a human form to impress youthful
hearts; the ideal model, which a more matured and exalted mind
looks up to, and shapes for itself, would elude their sight. "He
who loves not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God?"
asked the wisest of men.
It is natural for youth to adorn the first object of its affection
with every good quality, and the emulation produced by ignorance,
or, to speak with more propriety, by inexperience, brings forward
the mind capable of forming such an affection, and when, in the
lapse of time, perfection is found not to be within the reach
of mortals, virtue, abstractedly, is thought beautiful, and wisdom
sublime. Admiration then gives place to friendship, properly so
called, because it is cemented by esteem; and the being walks
alone only dependent on Heaven for that emulous panting after
perfection which ever glows in a noble mind. But this knowledge
a man must gain by the exertion of his own faculties; and this
is surely the blessed fruit of disappointed hope! for He who delighteth
to diffuse happiness and show mercy to the weak creatures, who
are learning to know Him, never implanted a good propensity to
be a tormenting ignis fatuus.
Our trees are now allowed to spread with wild luxuriance, nor
do we expect by force to combine the majestic marks of time with
youthful graces; but wait patiently till they have struck deep
their root, and braved many a storm. Is the mind then, which,
in proportion to its dignity, advances more slowly towards perfection,
to be treated with less respect? To argue from analogy, everything
around us is in a progressive state; and when an unwelcome knowledge
of life produces almost a satiety of life, and we discover by
the natural course of things that all that is done under the sun
is vanity, we are drawing near the awful close of the drama. The
days of activity
and hope are over, and the opportunities which the first stage
of existence has afforded of advancing in the scale of intelligence,
must soon be summed up. A knowledge at this period of the futility
of life, or earlier, if obtained by experience, is very useful,
because it is natural; but when a frail being is shown the follies
and vices of man, that he may be taught prudently to guard against
the common casualties of life by sacrificing his heart--surely
it is not speaking harshly to call it the wisdom of this world,
contrasted with the nobler fruit of piety and experience.
I will venture a paradox, and deliver my opinion without reserve;
if men were only born to form a circle of life and death, it would
be wise to take every step that foresight could suggest to render
life happy. Moderation in every pursuit would then be supreme
wisdom; and the prudent voluptuary might enjoy a degree of content,
though he neither cultivated his understanding nor kept his heart
pure. Prudence, supposing we were mortal, would be true wisdom,
or, to be more explicit, would procure the greatest portion of
happiness, considering the whole of life, but knowledge beyond
the conveniences of life would be a curse.
Why should we injure our health by close study? The exalted pleasure
which intellectual pursuits afford would scarcely be equivalent
to the hours of languor that follow; especially, if it be necessary
to take into the reckoning the doubts and disappointments that
cloud our researches. Vanity and vexation close every inquiry:
for the cause which we particularly wished to discover flies like
the horizon before us as we advance. The ignorant, on the contrary,
resemble children, and suppose, that if they could walk straight
forward they should at last arrive where the earth and clouds
meet. Yet, disappointed as we are in our researches, the mind
gains strength by the exercise, sufficient, perhaps, to comprehend
the answers which, in another step of existence, it may receive
to the anxious questions it asked, when the understanding with
feeble wing was fluttering round the visible effects to dive into
the hidden cause.
The passions also, the winds of life, would be useless, if not
injurious, did the substance which composes our thinking being,
after we have thought in vain, only become the support of vegetable
life, and invigorate a cabbage, or blush in a rose. The appetites
would answer every earthly purpose, and produce more moderate
and permanent happiness. But the powers of the soul that are of
little use here, and, probably, disturb our animal enjoyments,
even while conscious dignity makes us glory in possessing them,
prove that life is merely an education, a state of infancy, to
which the only hopes worth cherishing should not be sacrificed.
I mean, therefore, to infer, that we ought to have a precise idea
of what we wish to attain by education, for the immortality of
the soul is contradicted by the actions of many people who firmly
profess the belief.
If you mean to secure ease and prosperity on earth as the first
consideration, and leave futurity to provide for itself; you act
prudently in giving your child an early insight into the weaknesses
of his nature. You may not, it is true, make an Inkle of him;
but do not imagine that he will stick to more than the letter
of the law, who has very early imbibed a mean opinion of human
nature; nor will he think it necessary to rise much above the
common standard. He may avoid gross vices, because honesty is
the best policy; but he will never aim at attaining great virtues.
The example of writers and artists will illustrate this remark.
I must therefore venture to doubt whether what has been thought
an axiom in morals may not have been a dogmatical assertion made
by men who have coolly seen mankind through the medium of books,
and say, in direct contradiction to them, that the regulation
of the passions is not, always, wisdom. on the contrary, it should
seem, that one reason why men have superior judgment, and more
fortitude than women, is undoubtedly this, that they give a freer
scope to the grand passions, and by more frequently going astray
enlarge their minds. If then by the exercise of their own reason
they fix on some stable principle, they have probably to thank
the force of their passions, nourished by false views of life,
and permitted to overleap the boundary that secures content. But
if, in the dawn of life, we could soberly survey the scenes before
as in perspective, and see everything in its true colours, how
could the passions gain sufficient strength to unfold the faculties?
Let me now as from an eminence survey the world stripped of all
its false delusive charms. The clear atmosphere enables me to
see each object in its true point of view, while my heart is still.
I am calm as the prospect in a morning when the mists, slowly
dispersing, silently unveil the beauties of nature, refreshed
by rest.
In what light will the world now appear? I rub my eyes, and think,
perchance, that I am just awaking from a lively dream.
I see the sons and daughters of men pursuing shadows, and anxiously
wasting their powers to feed passions which have no adequate object.
If the very excess of these blind impulses, pampered by that lying,
yet constantly trusted guide, the imagination, did not, by preparing
them for some other state, render short-sighted mortals wiser
without their own concurrence, or, what comes to the same thing,
when pursuing some imaginary present good.
After viewing objects in this light, it would not be fanciful
to imagine that this world was a stage on which a pantomime is
daily performed for the amusement of superior beings. How would
they be diverted to see the ambitious man consuming himself by
running after a phantom, and "pursuing the bubble fame in
the cannon's mouth" that was to blow him to nothing; for
when consciousness is lost, it matters not whether we mount in
a whirlwind, or descend in rain. And should they compassionately
invigorate his sight, and show him the thorny path which led to
eminence, that, like a quicksand, sinks as he ascends, disappointing
his hopes when almost within his grasp, would he not leave to
others the honour of amusing them, and labour to secure the present
moment, though, from the constitution of his nature, he would
not find it very easy to catch the flying stream? Such slaves
are we to hope and fear!
But vain as the ambitious man's pursuits would be, he is often
striving for something more substantial than fame. That, indeed,
would be the veriest meteor, the wildest fire that could lure
a man to ruin. What! renounce the most trifling gratification
to be applauded when he should be no more! Wherefore this struggle,
whether man be mortal or immortal, if that noble passion did not
really raise the being above his fellows?
And love! What diverting scenes would it produce; pantaloon's
tricks must yield to more egregious folly. To see a mortal adorn
an object with imaginary charms, and then fall down and worship
the idol which he had himself set up--how ridiculous But what
serious consequences ensue to rob man of that portion of happiness
which the Deity by calling him into existence has (or on what
can His attributes rest?) indubitably promised. Would not all
the purposes of life have been much better fulfilled if he had
only felt what has been termed physical love? And would not the
sight of the object, not seen through the medium of the imagination,
soon reduce the passion to an appetite if reflection, the noble
distinction of man, did not give it force, and make it an instrument
to raise him above this earthly dross, by teaching him to love
the centre of all perfection, whose wisdom appears clearer and
clearer in the works of nature in proportion as reason is illuminated
and exalted by contemplation, and by acquiring that love of order
which the struggles of passion produce?
The habit of reflection, and the knowledge attained by fostering
any passion, might be shown to be equally useful, though the object
be proved equally fallacious; for they would all appear in the
same light if they were not magnified by the governing passion
implanted in us by the Author of all good to call forth and strengthen
the faculties of each individual, and enable it to attain all
the experience that an infant can obtain who does certain things,
it cannot tell why.
I descend from my height, and mixing with my fellow-creatures
feel myself hurried along the common stream. Ambition, love, hope,
and fear, exert their wonted power, though we be convinced by
reason that their present and most attractive promises are only
lying dreams; but had the cold hand of circumspection damped each
generous feeling before it had left any permanent character, or
fixed some habit, what could be expected but selfish prudence
and reason just rising above instinct? Who that has read Dean
Swift's disgusting description of the Yahoos, and insipid one
of Houyhnhnm with a philosophical eye, can avoid seeing the futility
of degrading the passions, or making man rest in contentment?
The youth should act, for had he the experience of a grey head
he would be fitter for death than life, though his virtues, rather
residing in his head than his heart, could produce nothing great,
and his understanding, prepared for this world, would not, by
its noble flights, prove that it had a title to a better.
Besides, it is not possible to give a young person a just view
of life; he must have struggled with his own passions before he
can estimate the force of the temptation which betrayed his brother
into vice. Those who are entering life, and those who are departing,
see the world from such very different points of view that they
can seldom think alike, unless the unfledged reason of the former
never attempted a solitary flight.
When we hear of some daring crime, it comes full on us in the
deepest shade of turpitude, and raises indignation; but the eye
that gradually saw the darkness thicken must observe it with more
compassionate forbearance. The world cannot be seen by an unmoved
spectator; we must mix in the throng, and feel as men feel, before
we can judge of their feelings. If we mean, in short, to live
in the world, to grow wiser and better, and not merely to enjoy
the good things of life, we must attain a knowledge of others
at the same time that we become acquainted with ourselves. Knowledge
acquired any other way only hardens the heart, and perplexes the
understanding.
I may be told that the knowledge thus acquired is sometimes purchased
at too dear a rate. I can only answer that I very much doubt whether
any knowledge can be attained without labour and sorrow; and those
who wish to spare their children both should not complain if they
are neither wise nor virtuous. They only aimed at making them
prudent, and prudence early in life is but the cautious craft
of ignorant self-love.
I have observed that young people, to whose education particular
attention has been paid, have in general been very superficial
and conceited, and far from pleasing in any respect, because they
had neither the unsuspecting warmth of youth, nor the cool depth
of age. I cannot help imputing this unnatural appearance principally
to that hasty premature instruction which leads them presumptuously
to repeat all the crude notions they have taken upon trust, so
that the careful education which they received, makes them all
their lives the slaves of prejudices.
Mental as well as bodily exertion is at first irksome; so much
so, that the many would fain let others both work and think for
them. An observation which I have often made will illustrate my
meaning. When in a circle of strangers or acquaintances a person
of moderate abilities asserts an opinion with heat, I will venture
to affirm-for I have traced this fact home' --very often that
it is a prejudice. These echoes have a high respect for the understanding
of some relation or friend, and without fully comprehending the
opinions which they are so eager to retail, they maintain them
with a degree of obstinacy that would surprise even the person
who concocted them.
I know that a kind of fashion now prevails of respecting prejudices;
and when anyone dares to face them, though actuated by humanity
and armed by reason, he is superciliously asked whether his ancestors
were fools. No, I should reply. opinions at first of every description
were all probably considered, and therefore were founded on some
reason; yet not unfrequently, of course, it was rather a local
expedient than a fundamental principle that would be reasonable
at all times. But moss-covered opinions assume the disproportioned
form of prejudices when they are indolently adopted only because
age has given them a venerable aspect, though the reason on which
they were built ceases to be a reason, or cannot be traced. Why
are we to love prejudices merely because they are prejudices?[14]
A prejudice is a fond obstinate persuasion for which we can give
no reason; for the moment a reason can be given for an opinion,
it ceases to be a prejudice, though it may be an error in judgment;
and are we then advised to cherish opinions only to set reason
at defiance? This mode of arguing, if arguing it may be called,
reminds me of what is vulgarly termed a woman's reason; for women
sometimes declare that they love, or believe certain things, because
they love or believe them.
It is impossible to converse with people to any purpose who only
use affirmatives and negatives. Before you can bring them to a
point to start fairly from, you must go back to the simple principles
that were antecedent to the prejudices broached by power; and
it is ten to one but you are stopped by the philosophical assertion
that certain principles are as practically false as they are abstractly
true.[15] Nay, it may be inferred that reason has whispered some
doubts, for it generally happens that people assert their opinions
with the greatest heat when they begin to waver; striving to drive
out their own doubts by convincing their opponent, they grow angry
when those gnawing doubts are thrown back to prey on themselves.
The fact is, that men expect from education, what education cannot
give. A sagacious parent or tutor may strengthen the body and
sharpen the instruments by which the child is to gather knowledge;
but the honey must be the reward of the individual's own industry.
It is almost as absurd to attempt to make a youth wise by the
experience of another, as to expect the body to grow strong by
the exercise which is only talked of, or seen.[16] Many of those
children whose conduct has been most narrowly watched, become
the weakest men, because their instructors only instil certain
notions into their minds, that have no other foundation than their
authority; and if they be loved or respected, the mind is cramped
in its exertions and wavering in its advances. The business of
education in this case, is only to conduct the shooting tendrils
to a proper pole; yet after laying precept upon precept, without
allowing a child to acquire judgment itself, parents expect them
to act in the same manner by this borrowed fallacious light, as
if they had illuminated it themselves; and be, when they enter
life, what their parents are at the close. They do not consider
that the tree, and even the human body, does not strengthen its
fibres till it has reached its full growth.
There appears to be something analogous in the mind. The senses
and the imagination give a form to the character, during childhood
and youth; and the understanding, as life advances, gives firmness
to the first fair purposes of sensibility, till virtue, arising
rather from the clear conviction of reason than the impulse of
the heart, morality is made to rest on a rock against which the
storms of passion vainly beat.
I hope I shall not be misunderstood when I say, that religion
will not have this condensing energy, unless it be founded on
reason. If it be merely the refuge of weakness or wild fanaticism,
and not a governing principle of conduct, drawn from self-knowledge,
and a rational opinion respecting the attributes of God, what
can it be expected to produce? The religion which consists in
warming the affections, and exalting the imagination, is only
the poetical part, and may afford the individual pleasure without
rendering it a more moral being. It may be a substitute for worldly
pursuits; yet narrow, instead of enlarging the heart: but virtue
must be loved as in itself sublime and excellent, and not for
the advantages it procures or the evils. it averts, if any great
degree of excellence be expected. Men will not become moral when
they only build airy castles in a future world to compensate for
the disappointments which they meet with in this; if they turn
their thoughts from relative duties to religious reveries.
Most prospects in life are marred by the shuffling worldly wisdom
of men, who, forgetting that they cannot serve God and mammon,
endeavour to blend contradictory things. If you wish to make your
son rich, pursue one course if you are only anxious to make him
virtuous, you must not imagine that you can bound from one road
to the other without losing your way.[17]
NOTES
[1] I have already inserted the passage, p.44.
[2] What nonsense!
[3] What is to the consequence, if the mother's and husband's
opinion should chance not to agree? An ignorant person cannot
be reasoned out of an error -and when persuaded to give up one
prejudice for another the mind is unsettled. Indeed, the husband
may not have any religion to teach her, though in such a situation
she will be in great want of a support to her virtue, independent
of worldly considerations.
[4] Rousseau's Emilius.
[5] Can you? -Can you? would be the most emphatical comment, were
it drawled out in a whining voice.
[6] Let women once acquire good sense -and if it deserve the name,
it will teach them; or, of what use will it be? how to employ
it.
[7] "He is the free man, whom the truth makes free!"
-Cowper.
[8] I mean to use a word that comprehends more than chastity,
the sexual virtue.
[9] A person is not to act in this or that way, though convinced
they are right in so doing, because some equivocal circumstances
may lead the world to suspect that they acted from different motives.
This is sacrificing the substance for a shadow. Let people by
watch their own hearts, and act rightly, as far as they can judge,
and they may patiently wait till the opinion of the world comes
round. It is best to be directed by a simple motive, for justice
has too often been sacrificed to propriety -another word for convenience.
[10] Coinciding in opinion with Mrs. Macauly relative to many
branches of education, I refer to her valuable work, instead of
quoting her sentiments to support my own.
[11] That children ought to be constantly guarded against the
vices and follies of the world appears to me a very mistaken opinion;
for in the course of my experience, and my eyes have looked abroad,
I newer knew a youth educated in this manner, who had earlt imbibed
these chilling suspicions, and repeated by rote the hesitating
if of age, that did not prove a selfish character.
[12] I have already observed that an early knowledge of the world,
obtained in a natural way, by mixing in the world, has the same
effect, instancing officers and women.
[13] "I find that all is but lip-wisdom which want experience,"
says Sidney.
[14] Vide Mr. Burke.
[15] "Convince a man against his will, He's of the same opinion
still."
[16] 'One sees nothing when one is content to contemplate only:
it is necessary to act oneself to be able to see how others act."
-Rousseau.
[17] see an excellent essay on this subject by Mrs. Barbauld,
in Miscellaneous Pieces in Prose.
CHAPTER VI
THE EFFECT WHICH AN EARLY ASSOCIATION OF IDEAS HAS UPON THE
CHARACTER
Educated in the enervating style recommended by the writers on
whom I have been animadverting; and not having a chance, from
their subordinate state in society, to recover their lost ground,
is it surprising that women everywhere appear a defect in nature?
Is it surprising, when we consider what a determinate effect an
early association of ideas has on the character, that they neglect
their understandings, and turn all their attention to their persons?
The great advantages which naturally result from storing the mind
with knowledge, are obvious from the following considerations.
The association of our ideas is either habitual or instantaneous;
and the latter mode seems rather to depend on the original temperature
of the mind than on the will. When the ideas, and matters of fact,
are once taken in, they lie by for use, till some fortuitous circumstance
makes the information dart into the mind with illustrative force,
that has been received at very different periods of our lives.
Like the lightning's flash are many recollections; one idea assimilating
and explaining another, with astonishing rapidity. I do not now
allude to that quick perception of truth, which is so intuitive
that it baffles research, and makes us at a loss to determine
whether it is reminiscence or ratiocination, lost sight of in
its celerity, that opens the dark cloud. Over those instantaneous
associations we have little power; for when the mind is once enlarged
by excursive flights, or profound reflection, the raw materials
will, in some degree, arrange themselves. The understanding, it
is true, may keep us from going out of drawing when we group our
thoughts, or transcribe from the imagination the warm sketches
of fancy; but the animal spirits, the individual character, give
the colouring. Over this subtile electric fluid,[1] how little
power do we possess, and over it how little power can reason obtain.
These fine intractable spirits appear to be the essence of genius,
and beaming in its eagle eye, produce in the most eminent degree
the happy energy of associating thoughts that surprise, delight,
and instruct These are the glowing minds that concentrate pictures
for their fellow-creatures; forcing them to view with interest
the objects reflected from the impassioned imagination, which
they passed over in nature.
I must be allowed to explain myself. The generality of people
cannot see or feel poetically, they want fancy, and therefore
fly from solitude in search of sensible objects; but when an author
lends them his eyes they can see as he saw, and be amused by images
they could not select, though lying before them.
Education thus only supplies the man of genius with knowledge
to give variety and contrast to his associations; but there is
an habitual association of ideas, that grows "with our growth,"
which has a great effect on the moral character of mankind, and
by which a turn is given to the mind that commonly remains throughout
life. So ductile is the understanding, and yet so stubborn, that
the associations which depend on adventitious circumstances, during
the period that the body takes to arrive at maturity, can seldom
be disentangled by reason. one idea calls up another, its old
associate, and memory, faithful to the first impressions, particularly
when the intellectual powers are not employed to cool our sensations,
retraces them with mechanical exactness.
This habitual slavery, to first impressions, has a more baneful
effect on the female than the male character, because business
and other dry employments of the understanding, tend to deaden
the feelings and break associations that do violence to reason.
But females, who are made women of when they are mere children,
and brought back to childhood when they ought to leave the go-cart
for ever, have not sufficient strength of mind to efface the superinductions
of art that have smothered nature.
Everything that they see or hear serves to fix impressions, call
forth emotions, and associate ideas, that give a sexual character
to the mind. False notions of beauty and delicacy stop the growth
of their limbs and produce a sickly soreness, rather than delicacy
of organs; and thus weakened by being employed in unfolding instead
of examining the first associations, forced on them by every surrounding
object, how can they attain the vigour necessary to enable them
to throw off their factitious character?--where find strength
to recur to reason and rise superior to a system of oppression,
that blasts the fair promises of spring? This cruel association
of ideas, which everything conspires to twist into all their habits
of thinking, or, to speak with more precision, of feeling, receives
new force when they begin to act a little for themselves; for
they then perceive that it is only through their address to excite
emotions in men, that pleasure and power are to be obtained. Besides,
the books professedly written for their instruction, which make
the first impression on their minds, all inculcate the same opinions.
Educated then in worse than Egyptian bondage, it is unreasonable,
as well as cruel, to upbraid them with faults that can scarcely
be avoided, unless a degree of native vigour be supposed, that
falls to the lot of very few amongst mankind.
For instance, the severest sarcasms have been levelled against
the sex, and they have been ridiculed for repeating "a set
of phrases learnt by rote," when nothing could be more natural,
considering the education they receive, and that their "highest
praise is to obey, unargued"--the will of man. If they be
not allowed to have reason sufficient to govern their own conduct
--why, all they learn must be learned by rote! And when all their
ingenuity is called forth to adjust their dress, "a passion
for a scarlet coat," is so natural, that it never surprised
me; and, allowing Pope's summary of their character to be just,
"that every woman is at heart a rake," why should they
be bitterly censured for seeking a congenial mind, and preferring
a rake to a man of sense?
Rakes know how to work on their sensibility, whilst the modest
merit of reasonable men has, of course, less effect on their feelings,
and they cannot reach the heart by the way of the understanding,
because they have few sentiments in common.
It seems a little absurd to expect women to be more reasonable
than men in their likings, and still to deny them the uncontrolled
use of reason. When do men fall in love with sense? When do they,
with their superior powers and advantages, turn from the person
to the mind? And how can they then expect women, who are only
taught to observe behaviour, and acquire manners rather than morals,
to despise what they have been all their lives labouring to attain?
Where are they suddenly to find judgment enough to weigh patiently
the sense of an awkward virtuous man, when his manners, of which
they are made critical judges, are rebuffing, and his conversation
cold and dull, because it does not consist of pretty repartees,
or well-turned compliments? In order to admire or esteem anything
for a continuance, we must, at least, have our curiosity excited
by knowing, in some degree, what we admire; for we are unable
to estimate the value of qualities and virtues above our comprehension.
Such a respect, when it is felt, may be very sublime; and the
confused consciousness of humility may render the dependent creature
an interesting object, in some points of view; but human love
must have grosser ingredients; and the person very naturally will
come in for its share--and, an ample share it mostly has!
Love is, in a great degree, an arbitrary passion, and will reign,
like some other stalking mischiefs, by its own authority, without
deigning to reason; and it may also be easily distinguished from
esteem, the foundation of friendship, because it is o.'ten excited
by evanescent beauties and graces, though, to give an energy to
the sentiment, son deepen their impression and set the make the
most fair--the first good.
Common passions are excited by look for beauty and the simper
of women are captivated by easy manners; a gentleman-like man
seldom fails to please them, and their thirsty ears eagerly drink
the insinuating nothings of politeness, whilst they turn from
the unintelligible sounds of the charmer--reason, charm he never
so wisely. With respect to superficial accomplishments, the rake
certainly has the advantage; and of these females can form an
opinion, for it is their own ground. Rendered gay and giddy by
the whole tenor of their lives, the very aspect of wisdom, or
the severe graces of virtue, must have a lugubrious appearance
to them; and produce a kind of restraint from which they and love,
sportive child, naturally revolt. Without taste, excepting of
the lighter kind, for taste is the offspring of judgment, how
can they discover that true beauty and grace must arise from the
play of the mind? and how can they be expected to relish in a
lover what they do not, or very imperfectly, possess themselves?
The sympathy that unites hearts, and invites to confidence, in
them is so very faint, that it cannot take fire, and thus mount
to passion. No, I repeat it, the love cherished by such minds,
must have grosser fuel!
The inference is obvious; till women are led to exercise their
understandings, they should not be satirised for their attachment
to rakes; or even for being rakes at heart, when it appears to
be the inevitable consequence of their education. They who live
to please--must find their enjoyments, their happiness, in pleasure!
It is a trite, yet true remark, that we never do anything well,
unless we love it for its own sake.
Supposing, however, for a moment, that women were, in some future
revolution of time, to become, what I sincerely wish them to be,
even love would acquire more serious dignity, and be purified
in its own fires; and virtue giving true delicacy to their affections,
they would turn with disgust from a rake. Reasoning then, as well
as feeling, the only province of woman, at present, they might
easily guard against exterior graces, and quickly learn to despise
the sensibility that had been excited and hackneyed in the ways
of women, whose trade was vice; and allurements, wanton airs.
They would recollect that the flame, one must use appropriated
expressions, which they wished to light up, had been exhausted
by lust, and that the sated appetite, losing all relish for pure
and simple pleasures, could only be roused by licentious arts
or variety. What satisfaction could a woman of delicacy promise
herself in a union with such a man, when the very artlessness
of her affection might appear insipid? Thus does Dryden describe
the situation,
Where love is duty, on the female side, On theirs mere sensual
gust, and sought with surly pride.
But one grand truth women have yet to learn, though much it imports
them to act accordingly. In the choice of a husband, they should
not be led astray by the qualities of a lover--for a lover the
husband, even supposing him to be wise and virtuous, cannot long
remain.
Were women more rationally educated, could they take a more comprehensive
view of things, they would be contented to love but once in their
lives; and after marriage calmly let passion subside into friendship--into
that tender intimacy, which is the best refuge from care; yet
is built on such pure, still affections, that idle jealousies
would not be allowed to disturb the discharge of the sober duties
of life, or to engross the thoughts that ought to be otherwise
employed. This is a state in which many men live; but few, very
few, women. And the difference may easily be accounted for, without
recurring to a sexual character. Men, for whom we are told women
were made, have too much occupied the thoughts of women; and this
association has so entangled love with all their motives of action;
and, to harp a little on an old string, having been solely employed
either to prepare themselves to excite love, or actually putting
their lessons in practice, they cannot live without love. But,
when a sense of duty, or fear of shame, obliges them to restrain
this pampered desire of pleasing beyond certain lengths, too far
for delicacy, it is true, though far from criminality, they obstinately
determine to love, I speak of the passion, their husbands to the
end of the chapter--and then acting the part which they foolishly
exacted from their lovers, they become abject wooers and fond
slaves.
Men of wit and fancy are often rakes; and fancy is the food of
love. Such men will inspire passion. Half the sex, in its present
infantine state, would pine for a Lovelace; a man so witty, so
graceful, and so valiant: and can they deserve blame for acting
according to principles so constantly inculcated? They want a
lover, and protector; and behold him kneeling before them--bravery
prostrate to beauty! The virtues of a husband are thus thrown
by love into the background, and gay hopes, or lively emotions,
banish reflection till the day of reckoning come; and come it
surely will, to turn the sprightly lover into a surly suspicious
tyrant, who contemptuously insults the very weakness he fostered.
or, supposing the rake reformed, he cannot quickly get rid of
old habits. When a man of abilities is first carried away by his
passions, it is necessary that sentiment and taste varnish the
enormities of vice, and give a zest to brutal indulgences; but
when the gloss of novelty is worn off, and pleasure palls upon
the sense, lasciviousness becomes barefaced, and enjoyment only
the desperate effort of weakness flying from reflection as from
a legion of devils. Oh! virtue, thou art not an empty name! All
that life can give--thou givest!
If much comfort cannot be expected from the friendship of a reformed
rake of superior abilities, what is the consequence when he lacketh
sense, as well as principles? Verily misery, in its most hideous
shape. When the habits of weak people are consolidated by time,
a reformation is barely possible; and actually makes the beings
miserable who have not sufficient mind to be amused by innocent
pleasure; like the tradesman who retires from the hurry of business,
Nature presents to them only a universal blank; and the restless
thoughts prey on the damped spirits.[2] The reformation, as well
as his retirement, actually makes them wretched, because it deprives
them of all employment, by quenching the hopes and fears that
set in motion their sluggish minds.
If such be the force of habit; if such be the bondage of folly,
how carefully ought we to guard the mind from storing up vicious
associations; and equally careful should we be to cultivate the
understanding, to save the poor wight from the weak dependent
state of even harmless ignorance. For it is the right use of reason
alone which make us independent of everything--excepting the unclouded
reason--"Whose service is perfect freedom."
NOTES
[1] I have sometimes, when inclined to laugh at materialists,
asked whether, as the most powerful effects in nature are apparently
produced by fluids, the magnetic, etc., the passions might not
be fine volatile fluids that embraced humanity, keeping the more
refractory elementary parts together -or whether they were simply
a liquid fire that pervaded the more sluggish materials, giving
them life and heat?
[2] I have frequently seen this exemplified in women whose beauty
could no longer be repaired. They have retired from the noisy
scenes of dissipation; but unless they became Methodists, the
solitude of the select society of their family connections or
acquaintance, has presented only a fearful void; consequently,
nervous complaints, and all the vapourish train of idleness, rendered
them quite as useless, and far more unhappy than when they joined
the giddy throng.
CHAPTER VII
MODESTY--COMPREHENSIVELY CONSIDERED, AND NOT AS A SEXUAL VIRTUE
Modesty! sacred offspring of sensibility and reason!--true delicacy
of mind!--may I unblamed presume to investigate thy nature, and
trace to its covert the mild charm, that mellowing each harsh
feature of a character, renders what would otherwise only inspire
cold admiration--lovely! Thou that smoothest the wrinkles of wisdom,
and softenest the tone of the sublimest virtues till they all
melt into humanity; thou that spreadest the ethereal cloud that,
surrounding love, heightens every beauty, it half shades, breathing
those coy sweets that steal into the heart, and charm the senses-modulate
for me the language of persuasive reason, till I rouse my sex
from the flowery bed, on which they supinely sleep life away!
In speaking of the association of our ideas, I have noticed two
distinct modes; and in defining modesty, it appears to me equally
proper to discriminate that purity of mind, which is the effect
of chastity, from a simplicity of character that leads us to form
a just opinion of ourselves, equally distant from vanity or presumption,
though by no means incompatible with a lofty consciousness of
our own dignity. Modesty, in the latter signification of the term,
is that soberness of mind which teaches a man not to think more
highly of himself than he ought to think, and should be distinguished
from humility, because humility is a kind of self-abasement.
A modest man often conceives a great plan, and tenaciously adheres
to it, conscious of his own strength, till success gives it a
sanction that determines its character. Milton was not arrogant
when he suffered a suggestion of judgment to escape him that proved
a prophecy; nor was General Washington when he accepted of the
command of the American forces. The latter has always been characterised
as a modest man; but had he been merely humble, he would probably
have shrunk back irresolute, afraid of trusting to himself the
direction of an enterprise, on which so much depended.
A modest man is steady, an humble man timid, and a vain one presumptuous:
this is the judgment, which the observation of many characters,
has led me to form. Jesus Christ was modest, Moses was humble,
and Peter vain.
Thus, discriminating modesty from humility in one case, I do not
mean to confound it with bashfulness in the other. Bashfulness,
in fact, is so distinct from modesty, that the most bashful lass
or raw country lout, often become the most impudent; for their
bashfulness being merely the instinctive timidity of ignorance,
custom soon changes it into assurance.[1]
The shameless behaviour of the prostitutes, who infest the streets
of this metropolis, raising alternate emotions of pity and disgust,
may serve to illustrate this remark. They trample on virgin bashfulness
with a sort of bravado, and glorifying in their shame, become
more audaciously lewd than men, however depraved, to whom this
sexual quality has not been gratuitously granted, ever appear
to be. But these poor ignorant wretches never had any modesty
to lose, when they consigned themselves to infamy; for modesty
is a virtue, not a quality. No, they were only bashful, shamefaced
innocents; and losing their innocence, their shamefacedness was
rudely brushed off: a virtue would have left some vestiges in
the mind, had it been sacrificed to passion, to make us respect
the grand ruin.
Purity of mind, or that genuine delicacy, which is the only virtuous
support of chastity, is near akin to that refinement of humanity,
which never resides in any but cultivated minds. It is something
nobler than innocence, it is the delicacy of reflection, and not
the coyness of ignorance. The reserve of reason, which, like habitual
cleanliness, is seldom seen in any great degree, unless the soul
is active, may easily be distinguished from rustic shyness or
wanton skittishness; and, so far from being incompatible with
knowledge, it is its fairest fruit. What a gross idea of modesty
had the writer of the following remark!--"The lady who asked
the question whether women may be instructed in the modern system
of botany consistently with female delicacy? was accused of ridiculous
prudery; nevertheless, if she had proposed the question to me,
I should certainly have answered--they cannot." Thus is the
fair book of knowledge to be shut with an everlasting seal! on
reading similar passages I have reverentially lifted up my eyes
and heart to Him who liveth for ever and ever, and said, "O,
my Father, hast Thou, by the very constitution of her nature forbid
Thy child to seek Thee in the fair forms of truth? And can her
soul be sullied by the knowledge that awfully calls her to Thee?"
I have then philosophically pursued these reflections till I inferred
that those women who have most improved their reason must have
the most modesty, though a dignified sedateness of deportment
may have succeeded the playful, bewitching bashfulness of youth.[2]
And thus have I argued. To render chastity the virtue from which
unsophisticated modesty will naturally flow, the attention should
be called away from employments which only exercise the sensibility,
and the heart made to beat time to humanity rather than to throb
with love. The woman who has dedicated a considerable portion
of her time to pursuits purely intellectual, and whose affections
have been exercised by humane plans of usefulness, must have more
purity of mind, as a natural consequence, than the ignorant beings
whose time and thoughts have been occupied by gay pleasures, or
schemes to conquer hearts.[3] The regulation of the behaviour
is not modesty, though those who study rules of decorum are in
general termed modest women. Make the heart clean; let it expand
and feel for all that is human, instead of being narrowed by selfish
passions; and let the mind frequently contemplate subjects that
exercise the understanding, without heating the imagination, and
artless modesty will give the finishing touches to the picture.
She who can discern the dawn of immortality in the streaks that
shoot athwart the misty night of ignorance, promising a clearer
day, will respect, as a sacred temple, the body that enshrines
such an improvable soul. True love likewise spreads this kind
of mysterious sanctity round the beloved object, making the lover
most modest when in her presence.[4] So reserved is affection
that, receiving or returning personal endearments, it wishes not
only to shun the human eye, as a kind of profanation, but to diffuse
an encircling cloudy obscurity to shut out even the saucy sparkling
sunbeams. Yet that affection does not deserve the epithet of chaste
which docs not receive a sublime gloom of tender melancholy, that
allows the mind for a moment to stand still and enjoy the present
satisfaction, when a consciousness of the Divine presence is felt--for
this must ever be the food of joy.
As I have always been fond of tracing to its source in nature
any prevailing custom, I have frequently thought that it was a
sentiment of affection for whatever had touched the person of
an absent or lost friend, which gave birth to that respect for
relics, so much abused by selfish priests. Devotion or love may
be allowed to hallow the garments as well as the person, for the
lover must want fancy who has not a sort of sacred respect for
the glove or slipper of his mistress. He could not confound them
with vulgar things of the same kind. This fine sentiment perhaps
would not bear to be analysed by the experimental philosopher.
But of such stuff is human rapture made up. A shadowy phantom
glides before us, obscuring every other object; yet when the soft
cloud is grasped, the form melts into common air, leaving a solitary
void, or sweet perfume, stolen from the violet, that memory long
holds dear. But I have tripped unawares on fairy ground, feeling
the balmy gale of spring stealing on me, though November frowns.
As a sex, women are more chaste than men; and as modesty is the
effect of chastity, they may deserve to have this virtue ascribed
to them in rather an appropriated sense. Yet I must be allowed
to add an hesitating if, for I doubt whether chastity will produce
modesty, though it may propriety of conduct, when it is merely
a respect for the opinion of the world,[5] and when coquetry and
the lovelorn tales of novelists employ the thoughts. Nay, from
experience and reason, I should be led to expect to meet with
more modesty amongst men than women, simply because men exercise
their understandings more than women.
But with respect to propriety of behaviour, excepting one class
of females, women have evidently the advantage. What can be more
disgusting than that impudent dross of gallantry thought so manly,
which makes many men stare insultingly at every female they meet?
Can it be termed respect for the sex? No, this loose behaviour
shows such habitual depravity, such weakness of mind, that it
is vain to expect much public or private virtue till both men
and women grow more modest--till men, curbing a sensual fondness
for the sex, or an affectation of manly assurance--more properly
speaking, impudence--treat each other with respect, unless appetite
or passion give the tone, peculiar to it, to their behaviour.
I mean every personal respect--the modest respect of humanity
and fellow-feeling--not the libidinous mockery of gallantry, nor
the insolent condescension of protectorship.
To carry the observation still further, modesty must heartily
disclaim, and refuse to dwell with that debauchery of mind, which
leads a man coolly to bring forward, without a blush, indecent
allusions, or obscene witticisms, in the presence of a fellow-creature;
women are now out of the question, for then it is brutality. Respect
for man, as man, is the foundation of every noble sentiment. How
much more modest is the libertine who obeys the call of appetite
or fancy than the lewd joker who sets the table in a roar!
This is one of the many instances in which the sexual distinction
respecting modesty has proved fatal to virtue and happiness It
is, however, carried still further, and woman--weak woman--made
by her education the slave of sensibility, is required, on the
most trying occasions, to resist that sensibility. "Can anything,"
says Knox, "be more absurd than keeping women in a state
of ignorance, and yet so vehemently to insist on their resisting
temptation?" Thus when virtue or honour make it proper to
check a passion, the burden is thrown on the weaker shoulders,
contrary to reason and true modesty, which at least should render
the self-denial mutual, to say nothing of the generosity of bravery,
supposed to be a manly virtue.
In the same strain runs Rousseau's and Dr. Gregory's advice respecting
modesty, strangely miscalled! for they both desire a wife to leave
it in doubt whether sensibility or weakness led her to her husband's
arms. The woman is immodest who can let the shadow of such a doubt
remain in her husband's mind a moment.
But, to state the subject in a different light, the want of modesty,
which I principally deplore as subversive of morality, arises
from the state of warfare so strenuously supported by voluptuous
men as the very essence of modesty, though, in fact, its bane,
because it is a refinement on lust that men fall into who have
not sufficient virtue to relish the innocent pleasures of love.
A man of delicacy carries his notions of modesty still further,
for neither weakness nor sensibility will gratify him--he looks
for affection.
Again. Men boast of their triumphs over women. What do they boast
of? Truly the creature of sensibility was surprised by her sensibility
into folly--into vice;[6] and the dreadful reckoning falls heavily
on her own weak head, when reason wakes. For where art thou to
find comfort, forlorn and disconsolate one? He who ought to have
directed thy reason, and supported thy weakness, has betrayed
thee. In a dream of passion thou consented to wander through flowery
lawns, and heedlessly stepping over the precipice to which they
guide, instead of guarding, lured thee; thou startest from thy
dream only to face a sneering, frowning world, and to find thyself
alone in a waste, for he that triumphed in thy weakness is now
pursuing new conquests. But for thee there is no redemption on
this side the grave! And what resource hast thou in an enervated
mind to raise a sinking heart?
But if the sexes be really to live in a state of warfare, if Nature
have pointed it out, let them act nobly, or let pride whisper
to them that the victory is mean when they merely vanquish sensibility.
The real conquest is that over affection not taken by surprise,
when, like Heloisa, a woman gives up all the world deliberately
for love. I do not now consider the wisdom or virtue of such a
sacrifice, I only contend that it was a sacrifice to affection,
and not merely to sensibility, though she had her share. And I
must be allowed to call her a modest woman, before I dismiss this
part of the subject, by saying, that till men are more chaste,
women will be immodest. Where, indeed, could modest women find
husbands from whom they would not continually turn with disgust?
Modesty must be equally cultivated by both sexes, or it will ever
remain a sickly hot-house plant, whilst the affectation of it,
the fig leaf borrowed by wantonness, may give a zest to voluptuous
enjoyments.
Men will probably still insist that woman ought to have more modesty
than man; but it is not dispassionate reasoners who will most
earnestly oppose my opinion. No, they are the men of fancy, the
favourites of the sex, who outwardly respect and inwardly despise
the weak creatures whom they thus sport with. They cannot submit
to resign the highest sensual gratification, nor even to relish
the epicurism of virtue--self-denial.
To take another view of the subject, confining my remarks to women.
The ridiculous falsities[7] which are told to children, from mistaken
notions of modesty, tend very early to inflame their imaginations
and set their little minds to work, respecting subjects which
Nature never intended they should think of till the body arrived
at some degree of maturity; then the passions naturally begin
to take the place of the senses, as instruments to unfold the
understanding, and form the moral character.
In nurseries and boarding-schools, I fear, girls are first spoiled,
particularly in the latter. A number of girls sleep in the same
room, and wash together. And though I should be sorry to contaminate
an innocent creature's mind by instilling false delicacy, or those
indecent prudish notions which early cautions respecting the other
sex naturally engender, I should be very anxious to prevent their
acquiring nasty or immodest habits; and as many girls have learned
very nasty tricks from ignorant servants, the mixing them thus
indiscriminately together, is very improper.
To say the truth, women are in general too familiar with each
other, which leads to that gross degree of familiarity that so
frequently renders the marriage state unhappy. Why in the name
of decency are sisters, female intimates, or ladies and their
waiting-women, to be so grossly familiar as to forget the respect
which one human creature owes to another? That squeamish delicacy
which shrinks from the most disgusting offices when affection
[8] or humanity lead us to watch at a sick pillow is despicable.
But why women in health should be more familiar with each other
than men are, when they boast of their superior delicacy, is a
solecism in manners which I could never solve.
In order to preserve health and beauty, I should earnestly recommend
frequent ablutions, to dignify my advice that it may not offend
the fastidious ear; and by example, girls ought to be taught to
wash and dress alone, without any distinction of rank; and if
custom should make them require some little assistance, let them
not require it till that part of the business is over which ought
never to be done before a fellow-creature, because it is an insult
to the majesty of human nature. Not on the score of modesty, but
decency; for the care which some modest women take, making at
the same time a display of that care not to let their legs be
seen, is as childish as immodest.[9]
I could proceed still further, till I animadverted on still more
nasty customs, which men never fall into. Secrets are told where
silence ought to reign; and that regard to cleanliness, which
some religious sects have perhaps carried too far especially the
Essenes, amongst the Jews, by making that an insult to God which
is only an insult to humanity, is violated in a beastly manner.
How can delicate women obtrude notice that part of the animal
economy, which is so very disgusting? And is it not very rational
to conclude, that women who have not been taught to respect the
human nature of their own sex in these particulars, will not long
respect the mere difference of sex in their husbands? After their
maidenish bashfulness is once lost, I, in fact, have generally
observed that women fall into old habits, and treat their husbands
as they did their sisters or female acquaintance.
Besides, women from necessity, because their minds are not cultivated,
have recourse very often to what I familiarly term bodily wit,
and their intimacies are of the same kind. In with respect to
both mind and body, they are too intimate. That decent personal
reserve, which is the foundation of dignity of character, must
be kept up between woman, or their minds will never gain strength
or modesty.
On this account also, I object to many females being shut up together
in nurseries, schools, or convents. I cannot recollect, without
indignation, the jokes and hoyden tricks which knots of young
women indulged themselves in, when in my youth accident threw
me, an awkward rustic, in their way. They were almost on a par
with the double meanings which shake the convivial table when
the glass has circulated freely. But it is vain to attempt to
keep the heart pure unless the head is furnished with ideas, and
set to work to compare them, in order to acquire judgment, by
generalising simple ones; and modesty, by making the understanding
damp the sensibility.
It may be thought that I lay too great a stress on personal reserve,
but it is ever the handmaid of modesty; so that were I to name
the graces that ought to adorn beauty, I should instantly exclaim,
cleanliness, neatness, and personal reserve. It is obvious, I
suppose, that the reserve I mean has nothing sexual in it, and
that I think it equally necessary in both sexes. So necessary,
indeed, is that reserve and cleanliness which indolent women too
often neglect, that I will venture to affirm that, when two or
three women live in the same house, the one will be most respected
by the male part of the family who reside with them, leaving love
entirely out of the question, who pays this kind of habitual respect
to her person.
When domestic friends meet in a morning, there will naturally
prevail an affectionate seriousness, especially if each look forward
to the discharge of daily duties; and it may be reckoned fanciful,
but this sentiment has frequently risen spontaneously in my mind,
I have been pleased, after breathing the sweet bracing morning
air, to see the same kind of freshness in the countenances I particularly
loved; I was glad to see them braced, as it were, for the day,
and ready to run their course with the sun. The greetings of affection
in the morning are by these means more respectful than the familiar
tenderness which frequently prolongs the evening talk. Nay, I
have often felt hurt, not to say disgusted, when a friend has
appeared, whom I parted with full dressed the evening before,
with her clothes huddled on, because she chose to indulge herself
in bed till the last moment.
Domestic affection can only be kept alive by these neglected attentions;
yet if men and women took half as much pains to dress habitually
neat, as they do to ornament, or rather to disfigure, their persons,
much would be done towards the attainment of purity of mind. But
women only dress to gratify men of gallantry; for the lover is
always best pleased with the simple garb that fits close to the
shape. There is an impertinence in ornaments that rebuffs affection,
because love always clings round the idea of home.
As a sex, women are habitually indolent; and everything tends
to make them so. I do not forget the spurts of activity which
sensibility produces; but as these flights of feelings only increase
the evil, they are not to be confounded with the slow, orderly
walk of reason. So great in reality is their mental and bodily
indolence, that till their body be strengthened and their understanding
enlarged by active exertions, there is little reason to expect
that modesty will take place of bashfulness. They may find it
prudent to assume its semblance; but the fair veil will only be
worn on gala days.
Perhaps, there is not a virtue that mixes so kindly with every
other as modesty. It is the pale moonbeam that renders more interesting
every virtue it softens, giving mild grandeur to the contracted
horizon. Nothing can be more beautiful than the poetical fiction,
which makes Diana with her silver crescent, the goddess of chastity.
I have sometimes thought, that wandering with sedate step in some
lonely recess, a modest dame of antiquity must have felt a glow
of conscious dignity when, after contemplating the soft shadowy
landscaper she has invited with placid fervour the mild reflection
of her sister's beams to turn to her chaste bosom.
A Christian has still nobler motives to incite her to preserve
her chastity and acquire modesty, for her body has been called
the temple of the living God; of that God who requires more than
modesty of mien. His eye searcheth the heart; and let her remember,
that if she hope to find favour in the sight of purity itself,
her chastity must be founded on modesty, and not on worldly prudence;
or verily a good reputation will be her only reward; for that
awful intercourse, that sacred communication, which virtue establishes
between man and his Maker, must give rise to the wish of being
pure as He is pure!
After the foregoing remarks, it is almost superfluous to add,
that I consider all those feminine airs of maturity, which succeed
bashfulness, to which truth is sacrificed, to secure the heart
of a husband, or rather to force him to be still a lover when
Nature would, had she not been interrupted in her operations,
have made love give place to friendship, as immodest. The tenderness
which a man will feel for the mother of his children is an excellent
substitute for the ardour of unsatisfied passion; but to prolong
that ardour it is indelicate, not to say immodest, for women to
feign an unnatural coldness of constitution. Women as well as
men ought to have the common appetites and passions of their nature,
they are only brutal when unchecked by reason: but the obligation
to check them is the duty of mankind, not a sexual duty. Nature,
in these respects, may safely be left to herself; let women only
acquire knowledge and humanity, and love will teach them modesty.[10]
There is no need of falsehoods, disgusting as futile, for studied
rules of behaviour only impose on shallow observers; a man of
sense soon sees through, and despises the affectation.
The behaviour of young people, to each other, as men and women,
is the last thing that should be thought of in education. In fact,
behaviour in most circumstances is now so much thought of, that
simplicity of character is rarely to be seen: yet, if men were
only anxious to cultivate each virtue and let it take root firmly
in the mind, the grace resulting from it, its natural exterior
mark, would soon strip affectation of its flaunting plumes; because,
fallacious as unstable, is the conduct that is not founded upon
truth!
Would ye, o my sisters, really possess modesty, ye must remember
that the possession of virtue, of any denomination, is incompatible
with ignorance and vanity! ye must acquire that soberness of mind,
which the exercise of duties, and the pursuit of knowledge, alone
inspire, or ye will still remain in a doubtful dependent situation,
and only be loved whilst ye are fair! The downcast eye, the rosy
blush, the retiring grace, are all proper in their season; but
modesty being the child of reason, cannot long exist with the
sensibility that is not tempered by reflection. Besides, when
love, even innocent love, is the whole employ of your lives, your
hearts will be too soft to afford modesty that tranquil retreat,
where she delights to dwell, in close union with humanity.
NOTES
[1] "Such is the country maiden's fright, When first a redcoat
is in sight, Behind the door she hides her face; Next time at
distance eyes the lace; She now can all his terrors stand, Nor
from his squeeze withdraws her hand, She plays familiar in his
arms, And every soldier hath his charms; From tent to tent she
spreads her flame; For custom conquers fear and shame." -GAY
[2] Modesty is the graceful calm virtue of maturity; bashfulness
the charm of vivacious youth.
[3] I have conversed, as man with man, with medical men on anatomical
subjects, and compared the proportions of the human body with
artists, yet such modesty did I meet with, that I was never reminded
by word or look of my sex, of the absurd rules which make modesty
a Pharisaical cloak of weakness. And I am persuaded that in the
pursuit of knowledge women would never be insulted by sensible
me, and rarely by men of any description, if they did not by mock
modesty remind them that they were women -actuated by the same
spirit as the Portuguese ladies, who would think their charms
insulted if, when left alone with a man, he did not at least attempt
to be grossly familiar with their persons. Men are not always
men in the company of women, nor would women always remember that
they are women, if they were allowed to acquire more understanding.
[4] Male or female, for the world contains many modest men.
[5] The immodest behaviour of many married women, who are nevertheless
faithful to their husbands' beds, will illustrate this remark.
[6] The poor moth fluttering round a candle, burns its wings.
[7] Children very early see cats with their kittens, birds with
their young ones, etc. Why then are they not to be told that their
mothers carry and nourish them in the same way? As there would
then be no appearance of mystery, they would never think of the
subject more. Truth may always be told to children, if it be told
gravely; but it is the modesty of affected modesty that does all
the mischief; and this smoke heats the imagination by vainly endeavouring
to obscure certain objects. If, indeed, children could be kept
entirely from improper company, we should never allude to any
such subjects; but as this is impossible, it is best to tell them
the truth, especially as such information, not interesting them,
will make no impression on their imagination.
[8] Affection would rather make one choose to perform these offices,
to spare the delicacy of a friend, by still keeping a veil over
them, for the personal helplessness, produced by sickness, is
of an humbling nature.
[9] I remember to have met with a sentence, in a book of education,
that made me smile: "It would be needless to caution you
against putting your hand by chance under you neck-handkerchief,
for a modest woman never did so!"
[10] The behaviour of many newly married women has often disgusted
me. They seem anxious never to let their husbands forget the privilege
of marriage; and to find no pleasure in his society unless he
is acting the lover. Short, indeed, must be the reign of love,
when the flame is thus constantly blown up, without its receiving
any solid fuel!
CHAPTER VIII
MORALITY UNDERMINED BY SEXUAL NOTIONS OF THE IMPORTANCE OF
A GOOD REPUTATION
It has long since occurred to me that advice respecting behaviour,
and all the various modes of preserving a good reputation, which
have been so strenuously inculcated on the female world, were
specious poisons, that encrusting morality eat away the substance.
And, that this measuring of shadows produced a false calculation,
because their length depends so much on the height of the sun,
and other adventitious circumstances.
Whence arises the easy fallacious behaviour of a courtier? From
his situation, undoubtedly: for standing in need of dependents,
he is obliged to learn the art of denying without giving offence,
and, of evasively feeding hope with the chameleon's food: thus
does politeness sport with truth, and eating away the sincerity
and humanity native to man, produce the fine gentleman.
Women likewise acquire, from a supposed necessity, an equally
artificial mode of behaviour. Yet truth is not with impunity to
be sported with, for the practised dissembler, at last become
the dupe of his own arts, loses that sagacity, which has been
justly termed common sense; namely a quick perception of common
truths: which are constantly.received as such by the unsophisticated
mind, though it might not have had sufficient energy to discover
themselves, when obscured by local prejudices. The greater number
of people take their opinions on trust to avoid the trouble of
exercising their own minds, and these indolent beings naturally
adhere to the letter, rather than the spirit of a law, divine
or human. "Women," says some author, I cannot recollect
who, " mind not what only Heaven sees." Why, indeed,
should they? it is the eye of man that they have been taught to
dread--and if they can lull their Argus to sleep, they seldom
think of Heaven or themselves, because their reputation is safe;
and it is reputation, not chastity and all its fair train, that
they are employed to keep free from spot, not as a virtue, but
to preserve their station in the world.
To prove the truth of this remark, I need not advert to the intrigues
of married women, particularly in high life, and in countries
where women are suitably married, according to their respective
ranks, by their parents. If an innocent girl become a prey to
love, she is degraded for ever, though her mind was not polluted
by the arts which married women, under the convenient cloak of
marriage, practise; nor has she violated any duty--but the duty
of respecting herself. The married woman, on the contrary, breaks
a most sacred engagement, and becomes a cruel mother when she
is a false and faithless wife. If her husband have still an affection
for her, the arts which she must practise to deceive him, will
render her the most contemptible of human beings; and, at any
rate, the contrivances necessary to preserve appearances, will
keep her mind in that childish, or vicious, tumult, which destroys
all its energy. Besides, in time, like those people who habitually
take cordials to raise their spirits, she will want an intrigue
to give life to her thoughts, having lost all relish for pleasures
that are not highly seasoned by hope or fear.
Sometimes married women act still more audaciously. I will mention
an instance.
A woman of quality, notorious for her gallantries, though as she
still lived with her husband, nobody chose to place her in the
class where she ought to have been placed, made a point of treating
with the most insulting contempt a poor timid creature, abashed
by a sense of her former weakness, whom a neighbouring gentleman
had seduced and afterwards married. The woman had actually confounded
virtue with reputation; and, I do believe, valued herself on the
propriety of her behaviour before marriage, though when once settled
to the satisfaction of her family, she and her lord were equally
faithless, so that the half-alive heir to an immense estate came
from Heaven knows where!
To view this subject in another light.
I have known a number of women who, if they did not love their
husbands, loved nobody else, give themselves entirely up to vanity
and dissipation, neglecting every domestic duty; nay even squandering
away all the money which should have been saved for their helpless
younger children, yet have plumed themselves on their unsullied
reputation, as if the whole compass of their duty as wives and
mothers was only to preserve it. Whilst other indolent women,
neglecting every personal duty have thought that they deserved
their husbands' affection, because, forsooth, they acted in this
respect with propriety.
Weak minds are always fond of resting in the ceremonials of duty,
but morality offers much simpler motives; and it were to be wished
that superficial moralists had said less respecting behaviour,
and outward observances, for unless virtue, of any kind, be built
on knowledge, it will only produce a kind of insipid decency.
Respect for the opinion of the world, has, however, been termed
the principal duty of woman in the most express words, for Rousseau
declares, "that reputation is no less indispensable than
chastity." "A man," adds he, "secure in his
own good conduct, depends only on himself, and may brave the public
opinion; but a woman, in behaving well, performs but half her
duty; as what is thought of her, is as important to her as what
she really is. It follows hence, that the system of a woman's
education should in this respect, be directly contrary to that
of ours. opinion is the grave of virtue among the men; but its
throne among women." It is strictly logical to infer that
the virtue that rests on opinion is merely worldly, and that it
is the virtue of a being to whom reason has been denied. But,
even with respect to the opinion of the world, I am convinced
that this class of reasoners are mistaken.
This regard for reputation, independent of its being one of the
natural rewards of virtue, however, took its rise from a cause
that I have already deplored as the grand source of female depravity,
the impossibility of regaining respectability by a return to virtue,
though men preserve theirs during the indulgence of vice. It was
natural for women then to endeavour to preserve what once lost--was
lost for ever, till this care swallowing up every other care,
reputation for chastity, became the one thing needful to the sex.
But vain is the scrupulosity of ignorance, for neither religion
nor virtue, when they reside in the heart, require such a puerile
attention to mere ceremonies, because the behaviour must, upon
the whole, be proper, when the motive is pure.
To support my opinion I can produce very respectable authority;
and the authority of a cool reasoner ought to have weight to enforce
consideration, though not to establish a sentiment. Speaking of
the general laws of morality, Dr. Smith observes,--"That
by some very extraordinary and unlucky circumstance, a good man
may come to be suspected of a crime of which he was altogether
incapable, and upon that account be most unjustly exposed for
the remaining part of his life to the horror and aversion of mankind.
By an accident of this kind he may be said to lose his all, notwithstanding
his integrity and justice, in the same manner as a cautious man,
notwithstanding his utmost circumspection, may be ruined by an
earthquake or an inundation. Accidents of the first kind, however,
are perhaps still more rare, and still more contrary to the common
course of things than those of the second; and it still remains
true, that the practice of truth, justice, and humanity, is a
certain and almost infallible method of acquiring what those virtues
chiefly aim at, the confidence and love of those we live with.
A person may be easily misrepresented with regard to a particular
action; but it is scarce possible that he should be so with regard
to the general tenor of his conduct. An innocent man may be believed
to have done wrong: this, however, will rarely happen. On the
contrary, the established opinion of the innocence of his manners
will often lead us to absolve him where he has really been in
the fault, notwithstanding very strong presumptions."
I perfectly coincide in opinion with this writer, for I verily
believe that few of either sex were ever despised for certain
vices without deserving to be despised. I speak not of the calumny
of the moment, which hovers over a character, like one of the
dense morning fogs of November, over this metropolis, till it
gradually subsides before the common light of day, I only contend
that the daily conduct of the majority prevails to stamp their
character with the impression of truth. Quietly does the clear
light, shining day after day, refute the ignorant surmise, or
malicious tale, which has thrown dirt on a pure character. A false
light distorted, for a short time, its shadow--reputation; but
it seldom fails to become just when the cloud is dispersed that
produced the mistake in vision.
Many people, undoubtedly, in several respects obtain a better
reputation than, strictly speaking, they deserve; for unremitting
industry will mostly reach its goal in all races. They who only
strive for this paltry prize, like the Pharisees, who prayed at
the corners of streets, to be seen of men, verily obtain the reward
they seek; for the heart of man cannot be read by man! Still the
fair fame that is naturally reflected by good actions, when the
man is only employed to direct his steps aright, regardless of
the lookers-on, is, in general, not only more true, but more sure.
There are, it is true, trials when the good man must appeal to
God from the injustice of man; and amidst the whining candour
or hissings of envy, erect a pavilion in his own mind to retire
to till the rumour be overpast; nay, the darts of undeserved censure
may pierce an innocent tender bosom through with many sorrows;
but these are all exceptions to general rules. And it is according
to common laws that human behaviour ought to be regulated. The
eccentric orbit of the comet-never influences astronomical calculations
respecting the invariable order established in the motion of the
principal bodies of the solar system.
I will then venture to affirm, that after a man is arrived at
maturity, the general outline of his character in the world is
just, allowing for the before-mentioned exceptions to the rule.
I do not say that a prudent, worldly-wise man, with only negative
virtues and qualities, may not sometimes obtain a smoother reputation
than a wiser or a better man. So far from it, that I am apt to
conclude from experience, that where the virtue of two people
is nearly equal, the most negative character will be liked best
by the world at large, whilst the other may have more friends
in private life. But the hills and dales, clouds and sunshine,
conspicuous in the virtues of great men, set off each other; and
though they afford envious weakness a fairer mark to shoot at,
the real character will still work its way to light, though bespattered
by weak affection, or ingenious malice.[1]
With respect to that anxiety to preserve a reputation hardly earned,
which leads sagacious people to analyse it, I shall not make the
obvious comment; but I am afraid that morality is very insidiously
undermined, in the female world, by the attention being turned
to the show instead of the substance. A simple thing is thus made
strangely complicated; nay, sometimes virtue and its shadow are
set at variance. We should never, perhaps, have heard of Lucretia,
had she died to preserve her chastity instead of her reputation.
If we really deserve our own good opinion we shall commonly be
respected in the world; but if we pant after higher improvement
and higher attainments, it is not sufficient to view ourselves
as we suppose that we are viewed by others, though this has been
ingeniously argued, as the foundation of our moral sentiments.[2]
Because each bystander may have his own prejudices, beside the
prejudices of his age or country. We should rather endeavour to
view ourselves as we suppose that Being views us who seeth each
thought ripen into action, and whose judgment never swerves from
the eternal rule of right. Righteous are all His judgments--just
as merciful!
The humble mind that seeketh to find favour in His sight, and
calmly examines its conduct when only His presence is felt, will
seldom form a very erroneous opinion of its own virtues. During
the still hour of self-collection the angry brow of offended justice
will be fearfully deprecated, or the tie which draws man to the
Deity will be recognised in the pure sentiment of reverential
adoration, that swells the heart without exciting any tumultuous
emotions. In these solemn moments man discovers the germ of those
vices, which, like the Java tree, shed a pestiferous vapour around--death
is in the shade! and he perceives them without abhorrence, because
he feels himself drawn by some cord of love to all his fellow-creatures,
for whose follies he is anxious to find every extenuation in their
nature--in himself. If I, he may thus argue, who exercise my own
mind, and have been refined by tribulation, find the serpent's
egg in some fold of my heart, and crush it with difficulty, shall
I not pity those who have stamped with less vigour, or who have
heedlessly nurtured the insidious reptile till it poisoned the
vital stream it sucked? Can I, conscious of my secret sins, throw
off my fellow-creatures, and calmly see them drop into the chasm
of perdition, that yawns to receive them. No, no! The agonised
heart will cry with suffocating impatience--I, too, am a man!
and have vices, hid perhaps, from human eye, that bend me to the
dust before God, and loudly tell me, when all is mute, that we
are formed of the same earth, and breathe the same element. Humanity
thus rises naturally out of humility and twists the cords of love
that in various convolutions entangle the heart.
This sympathy extends still further, till a man well pleased observes
force in arguments that do not carry conviction to his own bosom,
and he gladly places in the fairest light, to himself, the shows
of reason that have led others astray, rejoiced to find some reason
in all the errors of man, though before convinced that He who
rules the day, makes His sun to shine on all. Yet, shaking hands
thus as it were with corruption, one foot on earth, the other
with bold stride mounts to Heaven and claims kindred with superior
natures. Virtues, unobserved by man, drop their balmy fragrance
at this cool hour, and the thirsty land, refreshed by the pure
streams of comfort that suddenly rush out, is crowned with smiling
verdure; this is the living green on which that eye may look with
complacency that is too pure to behold iniquity!
But my spirits flag; and I must silently indulge the reverie these
reflections lead to, unable to describe the sentiments, that have
calmed my soul, when watching the rising sun, a soft shower drizzling
through the leaves of neighbouring trees, seemed to fall on my
languid, yet tranquil spirits, to cool the heart that had been
heated by the passions which reason laboured to tame.
The leading principles which run through all my disquisitions,
would render it unnecessary to enlarge on this subject, if a constant
attention to keep the varnish of the character fresh, and in good
condition, were not often inculcated as the sum total of female
duty; if rules to regulate the behaviour, and to preserve the
reputation, did not too frequently supersede moral obligations.
But, with respect to reputation, the attention is confined to
a single virtue of chastity. If the honour of a woman, as it is
absurdly called, be safe, she may neglect every social duty; nay,
ruin her family by gaming and extravagance; yet still present
a shameless front--for truly she is an honourable woman!
Mrs. Macaulay has justly observed, that "there is but one
fault which a woman of honour may not commit with impunity."
She then justly and humanely adds--"This has given rise to
the trite and foolish observation, that the first fault against
chastity in woman has a radical power to deprave the character.
But no such frail beings come out of the hands of Nature. The
human mind is built of nobler materials than to he easily corrupted;
and with all their disadvantages of situation and education, women
seldom become entirely abandoned till they are thrown into a state
of desperation, by the venomous rancour of their own sex."
But, in proportion as this regard for the reputation of chastity
is prized by women, it is despised by men: and the two extremes
are equally destructive to morality.
Men are certainly more under the influence of their appetites
than women; and their appetites are more depraved by unbridled
indulgence and the fastidious contrivances of satiety. Luxury
has introduced a refinement in eating, that destroys the constitution;
and, a degree of gluttony which is so beastly, that a perception
of seemliness of behaviour must be worn out before one being could
eat immoderately in the presence of another, and afterwards complain
of the oppression that his intemperance naturally produced. Some
women, particularly French women, have also lost a sense of decency
in this respect; for they will talk very calmly of an indigestion.
It were to be wished that idleness was not allowed to generate,
on the rank soil of wealth, those swarms of summer insects that
feed on putrefaction, we should not then be disgusted by the sight
of such brutal excesses.
There is one rule relative to behaviour that, I think, ought to
regulate every other; and it is simply to cherish such an habitual
respect for mankind as may prevent us from disgusting a fellow-creature
for the sake of a present indulgence. The shameful indolence of
many married women and others a little advanced in life, frequently
leads them to sin against delicacy. For, though convinced that
the person is the band of union between the sexes, yet, how often
do they from sheer indolence, or, to enjoy some trifling indulgence,
disgust?
The depravity of the appetite which brings the sexes together,
has had a still more fatal effect. Nature must ever be the standard
of taste, the gauge of appetite--yet how grossly is nature insulted
by the voluptuary. Leaving the refinements of love out of the
question; nature, by making the gratification of an appetite,
in this respect, as well as every other, a natural and imperious
law to preserve the species, exalts the appetite, and mixes a
little mind and affection with a sensual gust. The feelings of
a parent mingling with an instinct merely animal, give it dignity;
and the man and woman often meeting on account of the child, a
mutual interest and affection is excited by the exercise of a
common sympathy. Women then having some necessary duty to fulfil,
more noble than to adorn their persons, would not contentedly
be the slaves of casual lust; which is now the situation of a
very considerable number who are, literally speaking, standing
dishes to which every glutton may have access.
I may be told that great as this enormity is it only affects a
devoted part of the sex--devoted for the salvation of the rest.
But, false as every assertion might easily be proved, that recommends
the sanctioning a small evil to produce a greater good; the mischief
does not stop here, for the moral character, and peace of mind,
of the chaster part of the sex, is undermined by the conduct of
the very women to whom they allow no refuge from guilt: whom they
inexorably consign to the arts that lure their husbands from them,
debauch and force them, let not modest women start, to no refuge
exercise of their sons, assume, in some degree, the same character
themselves. For I will venture to assert, that all the causes
of female weakness, as well as depravity, which I have already
enlarged on, branch out of one grand cause--want of chastity in
men.
This intemperance, so prevalent, depraves the appetite to such
a degree, that a wanton stimulus is necessary to rouse it; but
the parental design of Nature is forgotten, and the mere person,
and that for a moment, alone engrosses the thoughts. So voluptuous,
indeed, often grows the lustful prowler, that he refines on female
softness. Something more soft than women is then sought for; till,
in Italy and Portugal, men attend the levees of equivocal beings,
to sigh for more than female languor.
To satisfy this genus of men, women are made systematically voluptuous,
and though they may not all carry their libertinism to the same
height, yet this heartless intercourse with the sex, which they
allow themselves, depraves both sexes, because the taste of men
is vitiated; and women, of all classes, naturally square their
behaviour to gratify the taste by which they obtain pleasure and
power. Women becoming, consequently, weaker, in mind and body,
than they ought to be, were one of the grand ends of their being
taken into the account, that of bearing and nursing children,
have not sufficient strength to discharge the first duty of a
mother; and sacrificing to lasciviousness the parental affection,
that ennobles instinct, either destroy the embryo in the womb,
or cast it off when born. Nature in everything demands respect,
and those who violate her laws seldom violate them with impunity.
The weak enervated women who particularly catch the attention
of libertines, are unfit to be mothers, though they may conceive;
so that the rich sensualist, who has rioted among women, spreading
depravity and misery, when he wishes to perpetuate his name, receives
from his wife only an half-formed being that inherits both its
father's and mother's weakness.
Contrasting the humanity of the present age with the barbarism
of antiquity, great stress has been laid on the savage custom
of exposing the children whom their parents could not maintain;
whilst the man of sensibility, who thus, perhaps, complains, by
his promiscuous amours produces a most destructive barrenness
and contagious flagitiousness of manners. Surely nature never
intended that women, by satisfying an appetite, should frustrate
the very purpose for which it was implanted?
I have before observed, that men ought to maintain the women whom
they have seduced; this would be one means of reforming female
manners, and stopping an abuse that has an equally fatal effect
on population and morals. Another, no less obvious, would be to
turn the attention of woman to the real virtue of chastity; for
to little respect has that woman a claim, on the score of modesty,
though her reputation may be white as the driven snow, who smiles
on the libertine whilst she spurns the victims of his lawless
appetites and their own folly.
Besides, she has a taint of the same folly, pure as she esteems
herself, when she studiously adorns her person only to be seen
by men, to excite respectful sighs, and all the idle homage of
what is called innocent gallantry. Did women really respect virtue
for its own sake, they would not seek for a compensation in vanity,
for the self-denial which they are obliged to practise to preserve
their reputation, nor would they associate with men who set reputation
at defiance.
The two sexes mutually corrupt and improve each other. This I
believe to be an indisputable truth, extending it to every virtue.
Chastity, modesty, public spirit, and all the noble train of virtues,
on which social virtue and happiness are built, should be understood
and cultivated by all mankind, or they will be cultivated to little
effect. And, instead of furnishing the vicious or idle with a
pretext for violating some sacred duty, by terming it a sexual
one, it would be wiser to show that Nature has not made any difference,
for that the unchaste man doubly defeats the purpose of Nature,
by rendering women barren, and destroying his own constitution,
though he avoids the shame that pursues the crime in the other
sex. These are the physical consequences, the moral are still
more alarming; for virtue is only a nominal distinction when the
duties of citizens, husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and directors
of families, become merely the selfish ties of convenience.
Why then do philosophers look for public spirit? Public spirit
must be nurtured by private virtue, or it will resemble the factitious
sentiment which makes women careful to preserve their reputation,
and men their honour. A sentiment that often exists unsupported
by virtue, unsupported by that sublime morality which makes the
habitual breach of one duty a breach of the whole moral law.
NOTES
[1] I allude to various biographical writings, but particularly
to Boswell's Life of Johnson.
[2] Smith.
CHAPTER IX
OF THE PERNICIOUS EFFECTS WHICH ARISE FROM THE UNNATURAL DISTINCTIONS
ESTABLISHED IN SOCIETY
From the respect paid to property flow, as from a poisoned fountain,
most of the evils and vices which render this world such a dreary
scene to the contemplative mind. For it is in the most polished
society that noisome reptiles and venomous serpents lurk under
the rank herbage; and there is voluptuousness pampered by the
still sultry air, which relaxes every good disposition before
it ripens into virtue.
One class presses on another, for all are aiming to procure respect
on account of their property; and property once gained will procure
the respect due only to talents and virtue. Men neglect the duties
incumbent on man, yet are treated like demigods. Religion is also
separated from morality by a ceremonial veil, yet men wonder that
the world is almost, literally speaking, a den of sharpers or
oppressors.
There is a homely proverb, which speaks a shrewd truth, that whoever
the devil finds idle he will employ. And what but habitual idleness
can hereditary wealth and titles produce? For man is so constituted
that he can only attain a proper use of his faculties by exercising
them, and will not exercise them unless necessity of some kind
first set the wheels in motion. Virtue likewise can only be acquired
by the discharge of relative duties; but the importance of these
sacred duties will scarcely be felt by the being who is cajoled
out of his humanity by the flattery of sycophants. There must
be more equality established in society, or morality will never
gain ground, and this virtuous equality will not rest firmly even
when founded on a rock, if one-half of mankind be chained to its
bottom by fate, for they will be continually undermining it through
ignorance or pride.
It is vain to expect virtue from women till they are in some degree
independent of men; nay, it is vain to expect that strength of
natural affection which would make them good wives and mothers.
Whilst they are absolutely dependent on their husbands they will
be cunning, mean, and selfish; and the men who can be gratified
by the fawning fondness of spaniel-like affection have not much
delicacy, for love is not to be bought; in any sense of the words,
its silken wings are instantly shrivelled up when anything beside
a return in kind is sought. Yet whilst wealth enervates men, and
women live, as it were, by their personal charms, how can we expect
them to discharge those ennobling duties which equally require
exertion and self-denial? Hereditary property sophisticates the
mind, and the unfortunate victims to it--if I may so express myself--swathed
from their birth, seldom exert the locomotive faculty of body
or mind, and thus viewing everything through one medium, and that
a false one, they are unable to discern in what true merit and
happiness consist. False, indeed, must be the light when the drapery
of situation hides the man, and makes him stalk in masquerade,
dragging from one scene of dissipation to another the nerveless
limbs that hang with stupid listlessness, and rolling round the
vacant eye, which plainly tells us that there is no mind at home.
I mean therefore to infer that the society is not properly organised
which does not compel men and women to discharge their respective
duties by making it the only way to acquire that countenance from
their fellow-creatures, which every human being wishes some way
to attain. The respect consequently which is paid to wealth and
mere personal charms is a true north-east blast that blights the
tender blossoms of affection and virtue. Nature has wisely attached
affections to duties to sweeten toil, and to give that vigour
to the exertions of reason which only the heart can give. But
the affections which is put on merely because it is the appropriated
insignia of a certain character, when its duties are not fulfilled,
is one of the empty compliments which vice and folly are obliged
to pay to virtue and the real nature of things.
To illustrate my opinion, I need only observe that when a woman
is admired for her beauty, and suffers herself to be so far intoxicated
by the admiration she receives as to neglect to discharge the
indispensable duty of a mother, she sins against herself by neglecting
to cultivate an affection that would equally tend to make her
useful and happy. True happiness--I mean all the contentment and
virtuous satisfaction that can be snatched in this imperfect state--must
arise from well-regulated affections, and an affection includes
a duty. Men are not aware of the misery they cause, and the vicious
weakness they cherish, by only inciting women to render themselves
pleasing; they do not consider that they thus make natural and
artificial duties clash by sacrificing the comfort and respectability
of a woman's life to voluptuous notions of beauty, when in nature
they all harmonise.
Cold would be the heart of a husband, were he not rendered unnatural
by early debauchery, who did not feel more delight at seeing his
child suckled by its mother than the most artful wanton tricks
could ever raise, yet this natural way of cementing the matrimonial
tie, and twisting esteem with fonder recollections, wealth leads
women to spurn. To preserve their beauty, and wear the flowery
crown of the day, which gives them a kind of right to reign for
a short time over the sex, they neglect to stamp impressions on
their husbands' hearts that would be remembered with more tenderness
when the snow on the head began to chill the bosom than even their
virgin charms. The maternal solicitude of a reasonable affectionate
woman is very interesting, and the chastened dignity with which
a mother returns the caresses that she and her child receive from
a father who has been fulfilling the serious duties of his station
is not only a respectable, but a beautiful sight. So singular,
indeed, are my feelings--and I have endeavoured not to catch factitious
ones--that after having been fatigued with the sight of insipid
grandeur and the slavish ceremonies that with cumbrous pomp supplied
the place of domestic affections, I have turned to some other
scene to relieve my eye by resting it on the refreshing green
everywhere scattered by Nature. I have then viewed with pleasure
a woman nursing her children, and discharging the duties of her
station with perhaps merely a servant-maid to take off her hands
the servile part of the household business. I have seen her prepare
herself and children, with only the luxury of cleanliness, to
receive her husband, who, returning weary home in the evening,
found smiling babes and a clean hearth. My heart has loitered
in the midst of the group, and has even throbbed with sympathetic
emotion when the scraping of the well-known foot has raised a
pleasing tumult.
Whilst my benevolence has been gratified by contemplating this
artless picture, I have thought that a couple of this description,
equally necessary and independent of each other, because each
fulfilled the respective duties of their station, possessed all
that life could give. Raised sufficiently above abject poverty
not to be obliged to weigh the consequence of every farthing they
spend, and having sufficient to prevent their attending to a frigid
system of economy which narrows both mind, I declare, so vulgar
are my conceptions, that I know not what is wanted to render this
the happiest as well as the most respectable situation in the
world, but a taste for literature, to throw a little variety and
interest into social converse, and some superfluous money to give
to the needy and to buy books. For it is not pleasant when the
heart is opened by compassion, and the head active in arranging
plans of usefulness, to have a prim urchin continually twitching
back the elbow to prevent the hand from drawing out an almost
empty purse, whispering at the same time some prudential maxim
about the priority of justice.
Destructive, however, as riches and inherited honours are to the
human character, women are more debased and cramped, if possible,
by them than men, because men may still in some degree unfold
their faculties by becoming soldiers and statesmen. As soldiers,
I grant they can now only gather for the most part vain-glorious
laurels, whilst they adjust to a hair the European balance, taking
especial care that no bleak northern nook or sound incline the
beam. But the days of true heroism are over, when a citizen fought
for his country like a Fabricius or a Washington, and then returned
to his farm to let his virtuous fervour run in a more placid,
but not a less salutary, stream. No, our British heroes are oftener
sent from the gaming-table than from the plough; and their passions
have been rather inflamed by hanging with dumb suspense on the
turn of a die, than sublimated by panting after the adventurous
march of virtue in the historic page.
The statesman, it is true, might with more propriety quit the
faro bank, or card-table, to guide the helm, for he has still
but to shuffle and trick--the whole system of British politics,
if system it may courteously be called, consisting in multiplying
dependents and contriving taxes which grind the poor to pamper
the rich. Thus a war, or any wild-goose chase, is, as the vulgar
use the phrase, a lucky turn-up of patronage for the minister.
whose chief merit is the art of keeping himself in place. It is
not necessary then that he should have bowels for the poor, so
he can secure for his family the odd trick. or should some show
of respect, for what is termed with ignorant ostentation an Englishman's
birthright, be expedient to bubble the gruff mastiff that he has
to lead by the nose, he can make an empty show, very safely, by
giving his single voice, and suffering his light squadron to file
off to the other side. And when a question of humanity is agitated,
he may dip a sop in the milk of human kindness to silence Cerberus,
and talk of the interest which his heart takes in an attempt to
make the earth no longer cry for vengeance as it sucks in its
children's blood, though his cold hand may at the very moment
rivet their chains, by sanctioning the abominable traffic. A minister
is no longer a minister, than while he can carry a point, which
he is determined to carry. Yet it is not necessary that a minister
should feel like a man, when a bold push might shake his seat.
But, to have done with these episodical observations, let me return
to the more specious slavery which chains the very soul of woman,
keeping her for ever under the bondage of ignorance.
The preposterous distinctions of rank, which render civilisation
a curse, by dividing the world between voluptuous tyrants and
cunning envious dependents, corrupt, almost equally, every class
of people, because respectability is not attached to the discharge
of the relative duties of life, but to the station, and when the
duties are not fulfilled the affections cannot gain sufficient
strength to fortify the virtue of which they are the natural reward.
Still there are some loop-holes out of which a man may creep,
and dare to think and act for himself; but for a woman it is an
herculean task, because she has difficulties peculiar to her sex
to overcome, which require almost superhuman powers.
A truly benevolent legislator always endeavours to make it the
interest of each individual to be virtuous; and thus private virtue
becoming the cement of public happiness, an orderly whole is consolidated
by the tendency of all the parts towards a common centre. But
the private or public virtue of woman is very problematical, for
Rousseau, and a numerous list of male writers, insist that she
should all her life be subjected to a severe restraint, that of
propriety. Why subject her to propriety--blind propriety--if she
be capable of acting from a nobler spring, if she be an heir of
immortality? Is sugar always to be produced by vital blood? Is
one half of the human species, like the poor African slaves, to
be subject to prejudices that brutalise them, when principles
would be a surer guard, only to sweeten the cup of man? Is not
this indirectly to deny woman reason? for a gift is a mockery,
if it be unfit for use.
Women are, in common with men, rendered weak and luxurious by
the relaxing pleasures which wealth procures; g but added to this
they are made slaves to their persons, and must render them alluring
that man may lend them his reason to guide their tottering steps
aright. or should they be ambitious, they must govern their tyrants
by sinister tricks, for without rights there cannot be any incumbent
duties. The laws respecting woman, which I mean to discuss in
a future part, make an absurd unit of a man and his wife; and
then by the easy transition of only considering him as responsible,
she is reduced to a mere cipher.
The being who discharges the duties of its station is independent;
and, speaking of women at large, their first duty is to themselves
as rational creatures, and the next, in point of importance, as
citizens, is that, which includes so many, of a mother. The rank
in life which dispenses with their fulfilling this duty, necessarily
degrades them by making them mere dolls. or should they turn to
something more important than merely fitting drapery upon a smooth
block, their minds are only occupied by some soft platonic attachment;
or the actual management of an intrigue may keep their thoughts
in motion; for when they neglect domestic duties, they have it
not in their power to take the field and march and counter-march
like soldiers, or wrangle in the senate to keep their faculties
from rusting.
I know that, as a proof of the inferiority of the sex, Rousseau
has exultingly exclaimed, How can they leave the nursery for the
camp! And the camp has by some moralists been proved the school
of the most heroic virtues; though I think it would puzzle a keen
casuist to prove the reasonableness of the greater number of wars
that have dubbed heroes. I do not mean to consider this question
critically; because, having frequently viewed these freaks of
ambition as the first natural mode of civilisation, when the ground
must be torn up, and the woods cleared by fire and sword, I do
not choose to call them pests; but surely the present system of
war has little connection with virtue of any denomination, being
rather the school of finesse and effeminacy than of fortitude.
Yet, if defensive war, the only justifiable war, in the present
advanced state of society, where virtue can show its face and
ripen amidst the rigours which purify the air on the mountain's
top, were alone to be adopted as just and glorious, the true heroism
of antiquity might again animate female bosoms. But fair and softly,
gentle reader, male or female, do not alarm thyself, for though
I have compared the character of a modern soldier with that of
a civilised woman, I am not going to advise them to turn their
distaff into a musket, though I sincerely wish to see the bayonet
concerted into a pruning-hook. I only re-created an imagination,
fatigued by contemplating the vices and follies which all proceed
from a feculent stream of wealth that has muddied the pure rills
of natural affection, by supposing that society will some time
or other be so constituted, that man must necessarily fulfil the
duties of a citizen, or be despised, and that while he was employed
in any of the departments of civil life, his wife, also an active
citizen, should be equally intent to manage her family, educate
her children, and assist her neighbours.
But to render her really virtuous and useful, she must not, if
she discharge her civil duties, want individually the protection
of civil laws; she must not be dependent on her husband's bounty
for her subsistence during his life, or support after his death;
for how can a being be generous who has nothing of its own? or
virtuous who is not free? The wife, in the present state of things,
who is faithful to her husband, and neither suckles nor educates
her children, scarcely deserves the name of a wife, and has no
right to that of a citizen. But take away natural rights, and
duties become null.
Women then must be considered as only the wanton solace of men,
when they become so weak in mind and body that they cannot exert
themselves unless to pursue some frothy pleasure, or to invent
some frivolous fashion. What can be a more melancholy sight to
a thinking mind, than to look into the numerous carriages that
drive helter-skelter about this metropolis in a morning full of
pale-faced creatures who are flying from themselves! I have often
wished, with Dr. Johnson, to place some of them in a little shop
with half a dozen children looking up to their languid countenances
for support. I am much mistaken, if some latent vigour would not
soon give health and spirit to their eyes, and some lines drawn
by the exercise of reason on the blank cheeks, which before were
only undulated by dimples, might restore lost dignity to the character,
or rather enable it to attain the true dignity of its nature.
Virtue is not to be acquired even by speculation, much less by
the negative supineness that wealth naturally generates.
Besides, when poverty is more disgraceful than even vice, is not
morality cut to the quick? Still to avoid misconstruction, though
I consider that women in the common walks of life are called to
fulfil the duties of wives and mothers, by religion and reason,
I cannot help lamenting that women of a superior cast have not
a road open by which they can pursue more extensive plans of usefulness
and independence. I may excite laughter, by dropping an hint,
which I mean to pursue, some future time, for I really think that
women ought to have representatives, instead of being arbitrarily
governed without having any direct share allowed them in the deliberations
of government.
But, as the whole system of representation is now, in this country,
only a convenient handle for despotism, they need not complain,
for they are as well represented as a numerous class of hard-working
mechanics, who pay for the support of royalty when they can scarcely
stop their children's mouths with bread. How are they represented
whose very sweat supports the splendid stud of an heir-apparent,
or varnishes the chariot of some female favourite who looks down
on shame? Taxes on the very necessaries of life, enable an endless
tribe of idle princes and princesses to pass with stupid pomp
before a gaping crowd, who almost worship the very parade which
costs them so dear. This is mere gothic grandeur, something like
the barbarous useless parade of having sentinels on horseback
at Whitehall, which I could never view without a mixture of contempt
and indignation.
How strangely must the mind be sophisticated when this sort of
state impresses it! But, till these monuments of folly are levelled
by virtue, similar follies will leaven the whole mass. For the
same character, in some degree, will prevail in the aggregate
of society; and the refinements of luxury, or the vicious repinings
of envious poverty, will equally banish virtue from society, considered
as the characteristic of that society, or only allow it to appear
as one of the stripes of the harlequin coat, worn by the civilised
man.
In the superior ranks of life, every duty is done by deputies,
as if duties could ever be waived, and the vain pleasures which
consequent idleness forces the rich to pursue, appear so enticing
to the next rank, that the numerous scramblers for wealth sacrifice
everything to tread on their heels. The most sacred trusts are
then considered as sinecures, because they were procured by interest,
and only sought to enable a man to keep good company. Women, in
particular, all want to be ladies. Which is simply to have nothing
to do, but listlessly to go they scarcely care where, for they
cannot tell what.
But what have women to do in society? I may be asked, but to loiter
with easy grace; surely you would not condemn them all to suckle
fools and chronicle small beer! No. Women might certainly study
the art of healing, and be physicians as well as nurses. And midwifery,
decency seems to allot to them, though I am afraid, the word midwife,
in our dictionaries, will soon give p]ace to accoucheur, and one
proof of the former delicacy of the sex be effaced from the language.
They might also study politics, and settle their benevolence on
the broadest basis; for the reading of history will scarcely be
more useful than the perusal of romances, if read as mere biography;
if the character of the times, the political improvements, arts,
etc., be not observed. In short, if it be not considered as the
history of man; and not of particular men, who filled a niche
in the temple of fame, and dropped into the black rolling stream
of time, that silently sweeps all before it into the shapeless
void called--eternity.--For shape, can it be called, "that
shape hath none"?
Business of various kinds, they might likewise pursue, if they
were educated in a more orderly manner, which might save many
from common and legal prostitution. Women would not then marry
for a support, as men accept of places under Government, and neglect
the implied duties; nor would an attempt to earn their own subsistence,
a most laudable one! sink them almost to the level of those poor
abandoned creatures who live by prostitution. For are not milliners
and mantua-makers reckoned the next class? The few employments
open to women, so far. from being liberal, are menial; and when
a superior education enables them to take charge of the education
of children as governesses, they are not treated like the tutors
of sons, though even clerical tutors are not always treated in
a manner calculated to render them respectable in the eyes of
their pupils, to say nothing of the private comfort of the individual.
But as women educated like gentlewomen, are never designed for
the humiliating situation which necessity sometimes forces them
to fill; these situations are considered in the light of a degradation;
and they know little of the human heart, who need to be told,
that nothing so painfully sharpens sensibility as such a fall
in life.
Some of these women might be restrained from marrying by a proper
spirit of delicacy, and others may not have had it in their power
to escape in this pitiful way from servitude; is not that Government
then very defective, and very unmindful of the happiness of one-half
of is members, that does not provide for honest, independent women,
by encouraging them to fill respectable stations? But in order
to render their private virtue a public benefit, they must have
a civil existence in the State, married or single; else we shall
continually see some worthy woman, whose sensibility has been
rendered painfully acute by undeserved contempt, droop like "the
lily broken down by a plowshare."
It is a melancholy truth; yet such is the blessed effect of civilisation!
the most respectable women are the most oppressed; and, unless
they have understandings far superior to the common run of understandings,
taking in both sexes, they must, from being treated like contemptible
beings, become contemptible. How many women thus waste life away
the prey of discontent, who might have practised as physicians,
regulated a farm, managed a shop, and stood erect, supported by
their own industry, instead of hanging their heads surcharged
with the dew of sensibility, that consumes the beauty to which
it at first gave lustre; nay, I doubt whether pity and love are
so near akin as poets feign, for I have seldom seen much compassion
excited by the helplessness of females, unless they were fair;
then, perhaps, pity was the soft handmaid of love, or the harbinger
of lust.
How much more respectable is the woman who earns her own bread
by fulfilling any duty, than the most accomplished beauty!--beauty
did I say!--so sensible am I of the beauty of moral-loveliness,
or the harmonious propriety that attunes the passions of a well-regulated
mind, that I blush at making the comparison; yet I sigh to think
how few women aim at attaining this respectability by withdrawing
from the giddy whirl of pleasure, or the indolent calm that stupefies
the good sort of women it sucks in.
Proud of their weakness, however, they must always be protected,
guarded from care, and all the rough toils that dignify the mind.
If this be the fiat of fate, if they will make themselves insignificant
and contemptible, sweetly to waste "life away," let
them not expect to be valued when their beauty fades, for it is
the fate of the fairest flowers to be admired and pulled to pieces
by the careless hand that plucked them. In how many ways do I
wish, from the purest benevolence, to impress this truth on my
sex; yet I fear that they will not listen to a truth that dear
bought experience has brought home to many an agitated bosom,
nor willingly resign the privileges of rank and sex for the privileges
of humanity, to which those have no claim who do not discharge
its duties.
Those writers are particularly useful, in my opinion, who make
man feel for man, independent of the station he fills, or the
drapery of factitious sentiments. I then would fain convince reasonable
men of the importance of some of my remarks; and prevail on them
to weigh dispassionately the whole tenor of my observations. I
appeal to their understandings; and, as a fellow-creature, claim,
in the name of my sex, some interest in their hearts. I entreat
them to assist to emancipate their companion, to make her a helpmeet
for them.
Would men but generously snap our chains, and be content with
rational fellowship instead of slavish obedience, they would find
us more observant daughters, more affectionate sisters, more faithful
wives, more reasonable mothers--in a word, better citizens. We
should then love them with true affection, because we should learn
to respect ourselves; and the peace of mind of a worthy man would
not be interrupted by the idle vanity of his wife, nor the babes
sent to nestle in a strange bosom, having never found a home in
their mother's.
CHAPTER X
PARENTAL AFFECTION
Parental affection is, perhaps, the blindest modification of perverse
self-love; for we have not, like the French,[1] two terms to distinguish
the pursuit of a natural and reasonable desire, from the ignorant
calculations of weakness. Parents often love their children in
the most brutal manner, and sacrifice every relative duty to promote
their advancement in the world. To promote, such is the perversity
of unprincipled prejudices, the future welfare of the very beings
whose present existence they embitter by the most despotic stretch
of power. Power, in fact, is ever true to its vital principle,
for in every shape it should reign without control or inquiry.
Its throne is built across a dark abyss, which no eye must dare
to explore, lest the baseless fabric should totter under investigation.
obedience, unconditional obedience, is the catchword of tyrants
of every description, and to render "assurance doubly sure,"
one kind of despotism supports another. Tyrants would have cause
to tremble if reason were to become the rule of duty in any of
the relations of life, for the light might spread till perfect
day appeared. And when it did appear, how would men smile at the
sight of the bugbears at which they started during the night of
ignorance, or the twilight of timid inquiry.
Parental affection, indeed, in many minds, is but a pretext to
tyrannise where it can be done with impunity, for only good and
wise men are content with the respect that will bear discussion.
Convinced that they have a right to what they insist on, they
do not fear reason, or dread the sifting of subjects that recur
to natural justice: because they firmly believe that the more
enlightened the human mind becomes the deeper root will just and
simple principles take. They do not rest in expedients, or grant
that what is metaphysically true can be practically false; but
disdaining the shifts of the moment they calmly wait till time,
sanctioning innovation, silences the hiss of selfishness or envy.
If the power of reflecting on the past, and darting the keen shall
more eye of contemplation into futurity, be the grand privilege
of man, it must be granted that some people enjoy this prerogative
in a very limited degree. Everything new appears to them wrong;
and not able to distinguish the possible from the monstrous, they
fear where no fear should find a place, running from the light
of reason, as if it were a firebrand; yet the limits of the possible
have never been defined to stop the sturdy innovator's hand.
Woman, however, a slave in every situation to prejudice, seldom
exerts enlightened maternal affection; for she either neglects
her children, or spoils them by improper indulgence. The affection
of some women for their children is, as I have before termed it,
frequently very brutish: for it eradicates every spark of humanity.
Justice, truth, everything is sacrificed by these Rebekahs, and
for the sake of their own children they violate the most sacred
duties, forgetting the common relationship that binds the whole
family on earth together. Yet, reason seems to say, that they
who suffer one duty, or affection, to swallow up the rest, have
not sufficient heart or mind to fulfil that one conscientiously.
It then loses the venerable aspect of a duty, and assumes the
fantastic form of a whim.
As the care of children in their infancy is one of the grand duties
annexed to the female character by nature, this duty would afford
many forcible arguments for strengthening the female understanding,
if it were properly considered.
The formation of the mind must be begun very early, and the temper,
in particular, requires the most judicious attention--an attention
which woman cannot pay who only love their children because they
are their children, and seek no further for the foundation of
their duty, than in the feelings of the moment. It is this want
of reason in their affections which makes women so often run into
extremes, and either be the most fond or most careless and unnatural
mothers.
To be a good mother, a woman must have sense, and that independence
of mind which few women possess who are taught to depend entirely
on their husbands. Meek wives are, in general, foolish mothers;
wanting their children to love them best, and take their part,
in secret, against the father, who is held up as a scarecrow.
When chastisement is necessary, though they have offended the
mother, the father must inflict the punishment; he must be the
judge in all disputes; but fully discuss this subject when I treat
of private education. I now only mean to insist, that unless the
understanding of woman be enlarged, and her character rendered
more firm, by being allowed to govern her own conduct, she will
never have sufficient sense or command of temper to manage her
children properly. Her parental affection, indeed, scarcely deserves
the name, when it does not lead her to suckle her children, because
the discharge of this duty is equally calculated to inspire maternal
and filial affection: and it is the indispensable duty of men
and women to fulfil the duties which give birth to affections
that are the surest preservatives against vice. Natural affection,
as it is termed, I believe to be a very faint tie, affections
must grow out of the habitual exercise of a mutual sympathy; and
what sympathy does a mother exercise who sends her babe to a nurse,
and only takes it from a nurse to send it to a school?
In the exercise of their maternal feelings Providence has furnished
women with a natural substitute for love, when the lover becomes
only a friend, and mutual confidence takes place of overstrained
admiration--a child then gently twists the relaxing cord, and
a mutual care produces a new mutual sympathy. But a child, though
a pledge of affection, will not if both father and mother be content
to transfer to hirelings; for they who do their duty by proxy
murmur if they miss the reward of duty--parental affection produces
filial duty.
NOTES
[1] L'amour propre. L'amour de soi meme.
CHAPTER XI
DUTY TO PARENTS
There seems to be an indolent propensity in man to make prescription
always take place of reason, and to place every duty on an arbitrary
foundation. The rights of kings are deduced in a direct line from
the King of kings, and that of parents from our first parent.
Why do we thus go back for principles that should always rest
on the same base, and have the same weight to-day that they had
a thousand years ago--and not a jot more ? If parents discharge
their duty they have a strong hold and sacred claim on the gratitude
of their children, but few parents are willing to receive the
respectful affection of their offspring on such terms. They demand
blind obedience, because they do not merit a reasonable service:
and to render these demands of weakness and ignorance more binding,
a mysterious sanctity is spread round the most arbitrary principle;
for what other name can be given to the blind duty of obeying
vicious or weak beings merely because they obeyed a powerful instinct?
The simple definition of the reciprocal duty which naturally subsists
between parent and child may be given in a few words. The parent
who pays proper attention to helpless infancy has a right to require
the same attention when the feebleness of age comes upon him.
But to subjugate a rational being to the mere will of another,
after he is of age to answer to society for his own conduct, is
a most cruel and undue stretch ofpower, and perhaps as injurious
to morality as those religious systems which do not allow right
and wrong to have any existence, but in the Divine will.
I never knew a parent who had paid more than common attention
to his children disregarded.[1] on the contrary, the early habit
of relying almost implicitly on the opinion of a respected parent
is not easily shook, even when matured reason convinces the child
that his father is not the wisest man in the world. This weakness--for
a weakness it is, though the epithet amiable may be tacked to
it--a reasonable man must steel himself against; for the absurd
duty, too often inculcated, of obeying a parent only on account
of his being a parent, shackles the mind, and prepares it for
a slavish submission to any power but reason.
I distinguish between the natural and accidental duty due to parents.
The parent who sedulously endeavours to form the heart, and enlarge
the understanding of his child, has given that dignity to the
discharge of a duty, common to the whole animal world, that only
reason can give. This is the parental affection of humanity, and
leaves instinctive natural affection far behind. Such a parent
acquires all the rights of the most sacred friendship, and his
advice, even when his child is advanced in life, demands serious
consideration.
With respect to marriage, though after one-and-twenty a parent
seems to have no right to withhold his consent on any account,
yet twenty years of solicitude call for a return, and the son
ought at least to promise not to marry for two or three years,
should the object of his choice not entirely meet with the approbation
of his first friend.
But respect for parents is, generally speaking, a much more debasing
principle; it is only a selfish respect for property. The father
who is blindly obeyed is obeyed from sheer weakness, or from motives
that degrade the human character.
A great proportion of the misery that wanders in hideous forms
around the world is allowed to rise from the negligence of parents;
and still these are the people who are most tenacious of what
they term a natural right, though it be subversive of the birthright
of man, the right of acting according to the direction of his
own reason.
I have already very frequently had occasion to observe that vicious
or indolent people are always eager to profit by enforcing arbitrary
privileges, and generally in the same proportion as they neglect
the discharge of the duties which alone render the privileges
reasonable. This is at the bottom a dictate of common sense, or
the instinct of self-defence, peculiar to ignorant weakness, resembling
that instinct which makes a fish muddy the water it swims in to
elude its enemy, instead of boldly facing it in the clear stream.
From the clear stream of argument indeed the supporters of prescription
of every denomination fly; and taking refuge in the darkness,
which, in the language of sublime poetry, has been supposed to
surround the throne of omnipotence, they dare to demand that implicit
respect which is only due to His unsearchable ways. But let me
not be thought presumptuous; the darkness which hides our God
from us only respects speculative truths. It never obscures moral
ones; they shine clearly, for God is light, and never, by the
constitution of our nature, requires the discharge of a duty,
the reasonableness of which does not beam on us when we open our
eyes.
The indolent parent of high rank may, it is true, extort a show
of respect from his child, and females on the Continent are particularly
subject to the views of their families, who never think of consulting
their inclination, or providing for the comfort of the poor victims
of their pride. The consequence is notorious: these dutiful daughters
become adulteresses, and neglect the education of their children,
from whom they, in their turn, exact the same kind of obedience.
Females, it is true, in all countries are too much under the dominion
of their parents; and few parents think of addressing their children
in the following manner, though it is in this reasonable way that
Heaven seems to command the whole human race:--It is your interest
to obey me till you can judge for yourself; and the Almighty Father
of all has implanted an affection in me to serve as a guard to
you whilst your reason is unfolding; but when your mind arrives
at maturity, you must only obey me, or rather respect my opinions,
so far as they coincide with the light that is breaking in on
your own mind.
A slavish bondage to parents cramps every faculty of the mind;
and Mr. Locke very judiciously observes, that "if the mind
be curbed and humbled too much in children; if their spirits be
abased and broken much by too strict an hand over them, they lose
all their vigour and industry." This strict hand may in some
degree account for the weakness of women; for girls, from various
causes, are more kept down by their parents, in every sense of
the word, than boys. The duty expected from them is, like all
the duties arbitrarily imposed on women, more from a sense of
propriety, more out of respect for decorum, than reason; and thus
taught slavishly to submit to their parents, they are prepared
for the slavery of marriage. I may be told that a number of women
are not slaves in the marriage state. True, but they then become
tyrants; for it is not rational freedom, but a lawless kind of
power, resembling the authority exercised by the favourites of
absolute monarchs, which they obtain by debasing means. I do not
likewise dream of insinuating that either boys or girls are always
slaves. I only insist that when they are obliged to submit to
authority blindly their faculties are weakened, and their tempers
rendered imperious or abject. I also lament that parents, indolently
availing themselves of a supposed privilege, damp the first faint
glimmering of reason, rendering at the same time the duty, which
they are so anxious to enforce, an empty name; because they will
not let it rest on the only basis on which a duty can rest securely;
for unless it be founded on knowledge, it cannot gain sufficient
strength to resist the squalls of passion, or the silent sapping
of self-love. But it is not the parents who have given the surest
proof of their affection for their children, or, to speak more
properly. who, by fulfilling their duty, have allowed a natural
parental affection to take root in their hearts, the child of
exercised sympathy and reason, and not the overweening offspring
of selfish pride, who most vehemently insist on their children
submitting to their will merely because it is their will. On the
contrary, the parent who sets a good example, patiently lets that
example work, and it seldom fails to produce its natural effect--filial
reverence.
Children cannot be taught too early to submit to reason-the true
definition of that necessity which Rousseau insisted on, without
defining it; for to submit to reason is to submit to the nature
of things, and to that God who formed them so, to promote our
real interest.
Why should the minds of children be warped as they just begin
to expand, only to favour the indolence of parents who insist
on a privilege without being willing to pay the price fixed by
Nature? I have before had occasion to observe that a right always
includes a duty, and I think it may likewise fairly be inferred
that they forfeit the right who do not fulfil the duty.
It is easier, I grant, to command than reason; but it does not
follow from hence that children cannot comprehend the reason why
they are made to do certain things habitually: for from a steady
adherence to a few simple principles of conduct flows that salutary
power which a judicious parent gradually gains over a child's
mind. And this power becomes strong indeed, if tempered by an
even display of affection brought home to the child's heart. For,
I believe, as a general rule, It must be allowed that the affection
which we inspire always resembles that we cultivate; so that natural
affections, which have been supposed almost distinct from reason,
may be found more nearly connected with judgment than is commonly
allowed. Nay, as another proof of the necessity of cultivating
the female understanding, it is but just to observe, that the
affections seem to have a kind of animal capriciousness when they
merely reside in the heart.
It is the irregular exercise of parental authority that first
injures the mind, and to these irregularities girls are more subject
than boys. The will of those who never allow their will to be
disputed, unless they happen to be in a good humour, when they
relax proportionally, is almost always unreasonable. To elude
this arbitrary authority girls very early learn the lessons which
they afterwards practise on their husbands; for I have frequently
seen a little sharp-faced miss rule a whole family, excepting
that now and then mamma's anger will burst out of some accidental
cloud;--either her hair was ill-dressed,[2] or she had lost more
money at cards, the night before, than she was willing to own
to her husband; or some such moral cause of anger.
After observing sallies of this kind, I have been led into a melancholy
train of reflection respecting females, concluding that when their
first affection must lead them astray, or make their duties clash
till they rest on mere whims and customs, little can be expected
from them as they advance in life. How, indeed, can an instructor
remedy this evil? for to teach them virtue on any solid principle
is to teach them to despise their parents. Children cannot, ought
not, to be taught to make allowance for the faults of their parents,
because every such allowance weakens the force of reason in their
minds, and makes them still more indulgent to their own. It is
one of the most sublime virtues of maturity that leads us to be
severe with respect to ourselves, and forbearing to others; but
children should only be taught the simple virtues, for if they
begin too early to make allowance for human passions and manners,
they wear off the fine edge of the criterion by which they should
regulate their own, and become unjust in the same proportion as
they grow indulgent.
The affections of children, and weak people, are always selfish;
they love their relatives, because they are beloved by them, not
on account of their virtues. Yet, till esteem and love are blended
together in the first affection, and reason made the foundation
of the first duty, morality will stumble at the threshold. But,
till society is very differently constituted, parents, I fear,
will still insist on being obeyed, because they will be obeyed,
and constantly endeavour to settle that power on a Divine right
which will not bear the investigation of reason.
NOTES
[1] Dr. Johnson makes the same observation.
[2] I myself heard a little girl once say to a servant, "My
mamma has been scolding me finely this morning, because her hair
was not dressed to please her." Though this remark was pert,
it was just. And what respect could a girl acquire for such a
parent without doing violence to reason?
CHAPTER XII
ON NATIONAL EDUCATION
The good effects resulting from attention to private education
will ever be very confined, and the parent who really puts his
own hand to the plough, will always, in some degree, be disappointed,
till education becomes a grand national concern. A man cannot
retire into a desert with his child, and if he did he could not
bring himself back to childhood, and become the proper friend
and playfellow of an infant or youth. And when children are confined
to the society of men and women, they very soon acquire that kind
of premature manhood which stops the growth of every vigorous
power of mind or body. In order to open their faculties they should
be excited to think for themselves; and this can only be done
by mixing a number of children together, and making them jointly
pursue the same objects.
A child very soon contracts a benumbing indolence of mind, which
he has seldom sufficient vigour afterwards to shake off, when
he only asks a question instead of seeking for information, and
then relies implicitly on the answer he receives. With his equals
in age this could never be the case, and the subjects of inquiry,
though they might be influenced, would not be entirely under the
direction of men, who frequently damp, if not destroy, abilities,
by bringing them forward too hastily: and too hastily they will
infallibly be brought forward, if the child be confined to the
society of a man, however sagacious that man may be.
Besides, in you the seeds of every affection should be sown, and
the respectful regard, which is felt for a parent, is very different
from the social affections that arc to constitute the happiness
of life as it advances. Of these equality is the basis, and an
intercourse of sentiments unclogged by that observant seriousness
which prevents disputation, though it may not enforce submission.
Let a child have ever such an affection for his parent, he will
always languish to play and prattle with children; and the very
respect he feels, for filial esteem always has a dash of fear
mixed with it, will, if it do not teach him cunning, at least
prevent him from pouring out the little secrets which first open
the heart to friendship and confidence, gradually leading to more
expansive benevolence. Added to this, he will never acquire that
frank ingenuousness of behaviour, which young people can only
attain by being frequently in society where they dare to speak
what they think; neither afraid of being reproved for their presumption,
nor laughed at for their folly.
Forcibly impressed by the reflections which the sight of schools,
as they are at present conducted, naturally suggested, I have
formerly delivered my opinion rather warmly in favour of a private
education; but further experience has led me to view the subject
in a different light. I still, however, think schools, as they
are now regulated, the hot-beds of vice and folly, and the knowledge
of human nature, supposed to be attained there, merely cunning
selfishness.
At school boys become gluttons and slovens, and, instead of cultivating
domestic affections, very early rush into the libertinism which
destroys the constitution before it is formed; hardening the heart
as it weakens the understanding.
I should, in fact, be averse to boarding-schools, if it were for
no other reason than the unsettled state of mind which the expectation
of the vacations produces. on these the children's thoughts are
fixed with eager anticipating hopes, for, at least, to speak with
moderation, half of the time, and when they arrive they are spent
in total dissipation and beastly indulgence.
But, on the contrary, when they are brought up at home, though
they may pursue a plan of study in a more orderly manner than
can be adopted when near a fourth part of the year is actually
spent in idleness, and as much more in regret and anticipation;
yet they there acquire too high an opinion of their own importance,
from birth, allowed to tyrannise over servants, and from the anxiety
expressed by most mothers, on the score of manners, who, eager
to teach the accomplishments of a gentleman, stifle, in their
birth, the virtues of a man. Thus brought into company when they
ought to be seriously employed, and treated like men when they
are still boys, they become vain and effeminate.
The only way to avoid two extremes equally injurious to morality
would be to contrive some way of combining a public and private
education. Thus to make men citizens two natural steps might be
taken, which seem directly to lead to the desired point; for the
domestic affections, that first open the heart to the various
modifications of humanity, would be cultivated, whilst the children
were nevertheless allowed to spend great part of their time, on
terms of equality, with other children.
I still recollect, with pleasure, the country day-school; where
a boy trudged in the morning, wet or dry, carrying his books,
and his dinner, if it were at a considerable distance; a servant
did not then lead master by the hand, for, when he had once put
on coat and breeches, he was allowed to shift for himself, and
return alone in the evening to recount the feats of the day close
at the parental knee. His father's house was his home, and was
ever after fondly remembered; nay, I appeal to many superior men,
who were educated in this manner, whether the recollection of
some shady lane where they conned their lesson; or, of some stile,
where they sat making a kite, or mending a bat, has not endeared
their country to them?
But, what boy ever recollected with pleasure the years he spent
in close confinement, at an academy near London? unless, indeed,
he should, by chance, remember the poor scarecrow of an usher,
whom he tormented; or, the tartman, from whom he caught a cake,
to devour it with a cattish appetite of selfishness At boarding-schools
of every description, the relaxation of the junior boys is mischief;
and of the senior, vice. Besides, in great schools, what can be
more prejudicial to the moral character than the system of tyranny
and abject slavery which is established amongst the boys, to say
nothing of the slavery to forms, which makes religion worse than
a farce? For what good can be expected from the youth who receives
the sacrament of the Lord's Supper, to avoid forfeiting half a
guinea, which he probably afterwards spends in some sensual manner?
Half the employment of the youths is to elude the necessity of
attending public worship; and well they may, for such a constant
repetition of the same thing must be a very irksome restraint
on their natural vivacity. As these ceremonies have the most fatal
effect on their morals, and as a ritual performed by the lips,
when the heart and mind are far away, is not now stored up by
our Church as a bank to draw on for the fees of the poor souls
in purgatory, why should they not be abolished?
But the fear of innovation, in this country, extends to everything.
This is only a covert fear, the apprehensive timidity of indolent
slugs, who guard, by sliming it over, the snug place, which they
consider in the light of an hereditary estate; and eat, drink,
and enjoy themselves, instead of fulfilling the duties, excepting
a few empty forms, for which it was endowed. These are the people
who most strenuously insist on the will of the founder being observed,
crying out against all reformation, as ;f it were a violation
of justice. I am now alluding particularly to the relics of Popery
retained in our colleges, when the Protestant members seem to
be such sticklers for the Established Church; but their zeal never
makes them lose sight of the spoil of ignorance, which rapacious
priests of superstitious memory have scraped together. No, wise
in their generation, they venerate the prescriptive right of possession,
as a stronghold, and still let the sluggish bell tinkle to prayers,
as during the days when the elevation of the host was supposed
to atone for the sins of the people, lest one reformation should
lead to another, and the spirit kill the letter. These Romish
customs have the most baneful effect on the morals of our clergy;
for the idle vermin who two or three times a day perform in the
most slovenly manner a service which they think useless, but call
their duty, soon lose a sense of duty. At college, forced to attend
or evade public worship, they acquire an habitual contempt for
the very service, the performance of which is to enable them to
live in idleness. It is mumbled over as an affair of business,
as a stupid boy repeats his talk, and frequently the college cant
escapes from the preacher the moment after he has left the pulpit,
and even whilst he is eating the dinner which he earned in such
a dishonest manner.
Nothing, indeed, can be more irreverent than the cathedral service
as it is now performed in this country, neither does it contain
a set of weaker men than those who are the slaves of this childish
routine. A disgusting skeleton of the former state is still exhibited;
but all the solemnity that interested the imagination, if it did
not purify the heart, is stripped off. The performance of high
mass on the Continent must impress every mind, where a spark of
fancy glows, with that awful melancholy, that sublime tenderness,
so near akin to devotion. I do not say that these devotional feelings
are of more use, in a moral sense, than any other emotion of taste;
but I contend that the theatrical pomp which gratifies our senses,
is to be preferred to the cold parade that insults the understanding
without reaching the heart.
Amongst remarks on national education, such observations cannot
be misplaced, especially as the supporters of these establishments,
degenerated into puerilities, affect to be the champions of religion.
Religion, pure source of comfort in this vale of tears! how has
thy clear stream been muddied by the dabblers, who have presumptuously
endeavoured to confine in one narrow channel, the living waters
that ever flow towards God--the sublime ocean of existence! What
would life be without that peace which the love of God, when built
on humanity, alone can impart? Every earthly affection turns back,
at intervals, to prey upon the heart that feeds it; and the purest
effusions of benevolence, often rudely damped by man, must mount
as a free-will offering to Him who gave them birth, whose bright
image they faintly reflect.
In public schools, however, religion, confounded with irksome
ceremonies and unreasonable restraints, assumes the most ungracious
aspect: not the sober austere one that commands respect whilst
it inspires fear; but a ludicrous cast, that serves to point a
pun. For, in fact, most of the good stories and smart things will
enliven the spirits that have been concentrated at whist, are
manufactured out of the incidents to which the very men labour
to give a droll turn who countenance the abuse to live on the
spoil.
There is not, perhaps, in the kingdom, a more dogmatical, or luxurious
set of men, than the pedantic tyrants who reside in colleges and
preside at public schools. The vacations are equally injurious
to the morals of the masters and pupils, and the intercourse,
which the former keep up with the nobility, introduces the same
vanity and extravagance into their families, which banish domestic
duties and comforts from the lordly mansion, whose state is awkwardly
aped. The boys, who live at a great expense with the masters and
assistants, are never domesticated, though placed there for that
purpose; for, after a silent dinner, they swallow a hasty glass
of wine, and retire to plan some mischievous trick, or to ridicule
the person or manners of the very people they have just been cringing
to, and. whom they ought to consider as the representatives of
their parents.
Can it then be a matter of surprise that boys become selfish and
vicious who are thus shut out from social converse? or that a
mitre often graces the brow of one of these diligent pastors?
The desire of living in the same style, as the rank just above
them, infects each individual and every class of people, and meanness
is the concomitant of this ignoble ambition; but those professions
are most debasing whose ladder is patronage; yet, out of one of
these professions the tutors of youth are, in general, chosen.
But, can they be expected to inspire independent sentiments, whose
conduct must be regulated by the cautious prudence that is ever
on the watch for preferment?
So far, however, from thinking of the morals of boys, I have heard
several masters of schools argue, that they only undertook to
teach Latin and Greek; and that they had fulfilled their duty,
by sending some good scholars to college.
A few good scholars, I grant, may have been formed by emulation
and discipline; but, to bring forward these clever boys, the health
and morals of a number have been sacrificed. The sons of our gentry
and wealthy commoners are mostly educated at these seminaries,
and will anyone pretend to assert that the majority, making every
allowance, come under the description of tolerable scholars?
It is not for the benefit of society that a few brilliant men
should be brought forward at the expense of the multitude. It
is true, that great men seem to start up, as great revolutions
occur, at proper intervals, to restore order, and to blow aside
the clouds that thicken over the face of truth; but let more reason
and virtue prevail in society, and these strong winds would not
be necessary. Public education, of every denomination, should
be directed to form citizens; but if you wish to make good citizens,
you must first exercise the affections of a son and a brother.
This is the only way to expand the heart; for public affections,
as well as public virtues, must ever grow out of the private character,
or they are merely meteors that shoot athwart a dark sky, and
disappear as they are gazed at and admired.
Few, I believe, have had much affection for mankind, who did not
first love their parents, their brothers, sisters, and even the
domestic brutes, whom they first played with. The exercise of
youthful sympathies forms the moral temperature; and it is the
recollection of these first affections and pursuits that gives
life to those that are afterwards more under the direction of
reason. In youth, the fondest friendships are formed, the genial
juices mounting at the same time, kindly mix; or, rather the heart,
tempered for the reception of friendship, is accustomed to seek
for pleasure in something more noble than the churlish ratification
of appetite.
In order then to inspire a love of home and domestic pleasures,
children ought to be educated at home for riotous holidays only
make them fond of home for their own sakes. Yet, the vacations,
which do not foster domestic affections, continually disturb the
course of study, and render any plan of improvement abortive which
includes temperance; still, were they abolished, children would
be entirely separated from their parents, and I question whether
they would become better citizens by sacrificing the preparatory
affections, by destroying the force of relationships that render
the marriage state as necessary as respectable. But, if a private
education produce self-importance, or insulate a man in his family,
the evil is only shifted, not remedied.
This train of reasoning brings me back to a subject, on which
mean to dwell, the necessity of establishing proper day-schools.
But, these should be national establishments, for whilst schoolmasters
are dependent on the caprice of parents, little exertion can be
expected from them, more than is necessary to please ignorant
people. Indeed, the necessity of a master's giving the parents
some sample of the boy's abilities, which during the vacation
is shown to every visitor,[1] is productive of more mischief than
would at first be supposed. For it is seldom done entirely, to
speak with moderation, by the child itself; thus the master countenances
falsehood, or winds the poor machine up to some extraordinary
exertion, that injures the wheels, and stops the progress of gradual
improvement. The memory is loaded with unintelligible words, to
make a show of, without the understanding's acquiring any distinct
ideas: but only that education deserves emphatically to be termed
cultivation of mind, which teaches young people how to begin to
think. The imagination should not be allowed to debauch the understanding
before it gained strength, or vanity will become the forerunner
of vice: for every way of exhibiting the acquirements of a child
is injurious to its moral character.
How much time is lost in teaching them to recite what they do
not understand? whilst, seated on benches, all in their best array,
the mammas listen with astonishment to the parrot like prattle,
uttered in solemn cadences, with all the pomp of ignorance and
folly. Such exhibitions only serve to strike the spreading fibres
of vanity through the whole mind; for they neither teach children
to speak fluently, nor behave gracefully. So far from it, that
these frivolous pursuits might comprehensively be termed the study
of affectation; for we now rarely see a simple, bashful boy, though
few people of taste were ever disgusted by that awkward sheepishness
so natural to the age which schools and an early introduction
into society, have changed into impudence and apish grimace.
Yet, how can these things be remedied whilst schoolmaster depend
entirely on parents for a subsistence; and, when so many rival
schools hang out their lures, to catch the attention of vain fathers
and mothers, whose parental affection only leads them to wish
that their children should outshine those of their neighbours?
Without great good luck, a sensible, conscientious man, would
starve before he could raise a school, if he disdained to bubble
weak parents by practising the secret tricks of the craft.
In the best regulated schools, however, where swarms are not crammed
together, many bad habits must be acquired; but, at common schools,
the body, heart, and understanding, are equally stunted, for parents
are often only in quest of the cheapest school, and the master
could not live, if he did not take a much greater number than
he could manage himself; nor will the scanty pittance, allowed
for each child, permit him to hire ushers sufficient to assist
in the discharge of the mechanical part of the business. Besides,
whatever appearance the house and garden may make, the children
do not enjoy the comfort of either, for they are continually reminded
by irksome restrictions that they are not at home, and the state-rooms,
garden, etc., must be kept in order for the recreation of the
parents; who, of a Sunday, visit the school, and are impressed
by the very parade that renders the situation of their children
uncomfortable.
With what disgust have I heard sensible women, for girls are more
restrained and cowed than boys, speak of the wearisome confinement,
which they endured at school. Not allowed, perhaps, to step out
of one broad walk in a superb garden, and obliged to pace with
steady deportment stupidly backwards and forwards, holding up
their heads and turning out their toes, with shoulders braced
back, instead of bounding, as nature directs to complete her own
design, in the various attitudes so conducive to health.[2] The
pure animal spirits, which make both mind and body shoot out,
and unfold the tender blossoms of hope, are turned sour, and vented
in vain wishes or pert repinings, that contract the faculties
and spoil the temper; else they mount to the brain, and sharpening
the understanding before it gains proportionable strength, produce
that pitiful cunning which disgracefully characterises the female
mind-and I fear will ever characterise it whilst women remain
the slaves of power!
The little respect paid to chastity in the male world is, I am
persuaded, the grand source of many of the physical and moral
evils that torment mankind, as well as of the vices and follies
that degrade and destroy women; yet, at school, boys infallibly
lose that decent bashfulness, which might have ripened into modesty,
at home.
And what nasty indecent tricks do they not also learn from each
other, when a number of them pig together in the same bedchamber,
not to speak of the vices, which render the body weak, whilst
they effectually prevent the acquisition of any delicacy of mind.
The little attention paid to the cultivation of modesty, amongst
men, produces great depravity in all the relationships of society;
for, not only love--love that ought to purify the heart, and first
call forth all the youthful powers, to prepare the man to discharge
the benevolent duties of life, is sacrificed to premature lust;
but, all the social affections are deadened by the selfish gratifications,
which very early pollute the mind, and dry up the generous juices
of the heart. In what an unnatural manner is innocence often violated;
and what serious consequences ensue to render private vices a
public pest. Besides, an habit of personal order, which has more
effect on the moral character, than is, in general, supposed,
can only be acquired at home, where that respectable reserve is
kept up which checks the familiarity that, sinking into beastliness,
undermines the affection it insults.
I have already animadverted on the bad habits which females acquire
when they are shut up together; and, I think, that the observation
may fairly be extended to the other sex, till the natural inference
is drawn which I have had in view throughout--that to improve
both sexes they ought, not only in private families, but in public
schools, to be educated together. If marriage be the cement of
society, mankind should all be educated after the same model,
or the intercourse of the sexes will never deserve the name of
fellowship, nor will women ever fulfil the peculiar duties of
their sex, till they become enlightened citizens, till they become
free by being enabled to earn their own subsistence, independent
of men; in the same manner, I mean, to prevent misconstruction,
as one man is independent of another. Nay, marriage will never
be held sacred till women, by being brought up with men, are prepared
to be their companions rather than their mistresses; for the mean
doublings of cunning will ever render them contemptible, whilst
oppression renders them timid. So convinced am I of this truth,
that I will venture to predict that virtue will never prevail
in society till the virtues of both sexes are founded on reason;
and, till the affections common to both are allowed to gain their
due strength by the discharge of mutual duties.
Were boys and girls permitted to pursue the same studies together,
those graceful decencies might early be inculcated which produce
modesty without those sexual distinctions that taint the mind.
Lessons of politeness, and that formulary of decorum, which treads
on the heels of falsehood, would be rendered useless by habitual
propriety of behaviour. Not indeed put on for visitors, like the
courtly robe of politeness, but the sober effect of cleanliness
of mind. Would not this simple elegance of sincerity be a chaste
homage paid to domestic affections, far surpassing the meretricious
compliments that shine with false lustre in the heartless intercourse
of fashionable life? But till more understanding preponderates
in society, there will ever be a want of heart and taste, and
the harlot's rouge will supply the place of that celestial suffusion
which only virtuous affections can give to the face. Gallantry,
and what is called love, may subsist without simplicity of character
but the main pillars of friendship are respect and confidence--esteem
is never founded on it cannot tell what!
A taste for the fine arts requires great cultivation, but not
more than a taste for the virtuous affections, and both suppose
that enlargement of mind which opens so many sources of mental
pleasure. Why do people hurry to noisy scenes and crowded circles?
I should answer, because they want activity of mind, because they
have not cherished the virtues of the heart. They only therefore
see and feel in the gross, and continually pine after variety,
finding everything that is simple insipid.
This argument may be carried further than philosophers are rare
of, for if nature destined woman, in particular, for the discharge
of domestic duties, she made her susceptible of the attached affections
in a great degree. Now women are notoriously fond of pleasure,
and naturally must be so according to my definition, because they
cannot enter into the minutia of domestic taste, lacking judgment,
the foundation of all taste; for the understanding, in spite of
sensual cavillers, reserves to itself the privilege of conveying
pure joy to the heart.
With what a languid yawn have I seen an admirable poem thrown
down that a man of true taste returns to again and again with
rapture; and whilst melody has almost suspended respiration, a
lady has asked me where I bought my gown. I have seen also an
eye glanced coldly over a most exquisite picture rest, sparkling
with pleasure, on a caricature rudely sketched; and whilst some
terrific feature in nature has spread a sublime stillness through
my soul, I have been desired to observe the pretty tricks of a
lap-dog that my perverse fate forced me to travel with. Is it
surprising that such a tasteless being should rather caress this
dog than her children? Or that she should prefer the rant of flattery
to the simple accents of sincerity?
To illustrate this remark I must be allowed to observe that men
of the first genius and most cultivated minds have appeared to
have the highest relish for the simple beauties of nature; and
they must have forcibly felt, what they have so well described,
the charm which natural affections and unsophisticated feelings
spread round the human character. It is this power of looking
into the heart, and responsively vibrating with each emotion,
that enables the poet to personify each passion, and the painter
to sketch with a pencil of fire.
True taste is ever the work of the understanding employed in observing
natural effects; and till women have more understanding, it is
vain to expect them to possess domestic taste. Their lively senses
will ever be at work to harden their hearts, and the emotions
struck out of them will continue to be vivid and transitory, unless
a proper education store their mind with knowledge.
It is the want of domestic taste, and not the acquirement of knowledge,
that takes women out of their families, and tears the smiling
babe from the breast that ought to afford it nourishment. Women
have been allowed to remain in ignorance and slavish dependence
many, very many, years, and still we hear of nothing but their
fondness of pleasure and sway, their preference of rakes and soldiers,
their childish attachment to toys, and the vanity that makes them
value accomplishments more than virtues.
History brings forward a fearful catalogue of the crimes which
their cunning has produced, when the weak slaves nave had sufficient
address to overreach their masters. In France, and in how many
other countries, have men been the luxurious despots, and women
the crafty ministers? Does this prove that ignorance and dependence
domesticate them? Is not their folly the byword of the libertines,
who relax in their society? and do not men of sense continually
lament that an immoderate fondness for dress and dissipation carries
the mother of a family for ever from home? Their hearts have not
been debauched by knowledge, or their minds led away by scientific
pursuits, yet they do not fulfil the peculiar duties which, as
women, they are called upon by Nature to fulfil. On the contrary,
the state of warfare which subsists between the sexes makes them
employ those wiles that often frustrate the more open designs
of force.
When therefore I call women slaves, I mean in a political and
civil sense; for indirectly they obtain too much power, and are
debased by their exertions to obtain illicit sway.
Let an enlightened nation [3] then try what effect reason would
have to bring them back to nature, and their duty; and allowing
them to share the advantages of education and government with
man, see whether they will become better, as they grow wiser and
become free. They cannot be injured by the experiment, for it
is not in the power of man to render them more insignificant than
they are at present.
To render this practicable, day-schools for particular ares should
be established by Government, in which boys and girls might be
educated together. The school for the younger children, from five
to nine years of age, ought to be absolutely free and open to
all classes.[4] A sufficient number of masters should also be
chosen by a select committee in each parish, to whom any complaint
of negligence, etc., might be made, if signed by six of the children's
parents.
Ushers would then be unnecessary; for I believe experience will
ever prove that this kind of subordinate authority is particularly
injurious to the morals of youth. What, indeed, can tend to deprave
the character more than outward submission and inward contempt?
Yet how can boys be expected to treat an usher with respect, when
the master seems to consider him in the light of a servant, and
almost to countenance the ridicule which becomes the chief amusement
of the boys during the play hours?
But nothing of this kind could occur in an elementary day school,
where boys and girls, the rich and poor, should meet together.
And to prevent any of the distinctions of vanity, they should
be dressed alike, and all obliged to submit to the same discipline,
or leave the school. The schoolroom ought to be surrounded by
a large piece of ground, in which the children might be usefully
exercised, for at this age they should not be confined to any
sedentary employment for more than an hour at a time. But these
relaxations might all be rendered a part of elementary education,
for many things improve and amuse the senses, when introduced
as a kind of show, to the principles of which, dryly laid down,
children would turn a deaf ear. For instance, botany, mechanics,
and astronomy; reading, writing, arithmetic, natural history,
and some simple experiments in natural philosophy, might fill
up the day; but these pursuits should never encroach on gymnastic
plays in the open air. The elements of religion, history, the
history of man, and politics, might also be taught by conversations
in the Socratic form.
After the age of nine, girls and boys, intended for domestic employments,
or mechanical trades, ought to be removed to other schools, and
receive instruction in some measure appropriated to the destination
of each individual, the two sexes being still together in the
morning; but in the afternoon the girls should attend a school,
where plain work, mantua-making, millinery, etc., would be their
employment.
The young people of superior abilities, or fortune, might now
be taught, in another school, the dead and living languages, the
elements of science, and continue the study of history and politics,
on a more extensive scale, which would not exclude polite literature.
Girls and boys still together? I hear some readers ask. Yes. And
I should not fear any other consequence than that some early attachment
might take place; which, whilst it had the best effect on the
moral character of the young people, might not perfectly agree
with the views of the parents, for it will be a long time, I fear,
before the world will be so far enlightened that parents, only
anxious to render their children virtuous, shall allow them to
choose companions for life themselves.
Besides, this would be a sure way to promote early marriages,
from early marriages the most salutary physical and moral effects
naturally flow. What a different character does a married citizen
assume from the selfish coxcomb, who lives but for himself, and
who is often afraid to marry lest he should not be able to live
in a certain style. Great emergencies excepted, which would rarely
occur in a society of which equality was the basis, a man can
only be prepared to discharge the duties of public life, by the
habitual practice of those inferior ones which form the man.
In this plan of education the constitution of boys would not be
ruined by the early debaucheries, which now make men so selfish,
or girls rendered weak and vain, by indolence, and frivolous pursuits.
But, I presuppose, that such a degree of equality should be established
between the sexes as would shut out gallantry and coquetry, yet
allow friendship and love to temper the heart for the discharge
of higher duties.
These would be schools of morality--and the happiness of man,
allowed to flow from the pure springs of duty and affection, what
advances might not the human mind make? Society can only be happy
and free in proportion as it is virtuous; but the present distinctions,
established in society, corrode all private, and blast all public
virtue.
I have already inveighed against the custom of confining girls
to their needle, and shutting them out from all political and
civil employments; for by thus narrowing their minds they are
rendered unfit to fulfil the peculiar duties which Nature has
assigned them.
Only employed about the little incidents of the day, they necessarily
grow up cunning. My very soul has often sickened at observing
the sly tricks practised by women to gain some foolish thing on
which their silly hearts were set. Not allowed to dispose of money,
or call anything their own, they learn to turn the market penny;
or, should a husband offend, by staying from home, or give rise
to some emotions of jealousy--a new gown, or any pretty bauble,
smooths Juno's angry brow.
But these littlenesses would not degrade their character, if women
were led to respect themselves, if political and moral subjects
were opened to them; and, I will venture to affirm, that this
is the only way to make them properly attentive to their domestic
duties. An active mind embraces the whole circle of its duties,
and finds time enough for all. It is not, I assert, a bold attempt
to emulate masculine virtues; it is not the enchantment of literary
pursuits, or the steady investigation of scientific subjects,
that leads women astray from duty. No, it is indolence and vanity--the
love of pleasure and the love of sway, that will reign paramount
in an empty mind. I say empty emphatically, because the education
which women now receive scarcely deserves the name. For the little
knowledge that they are led to acquire, during the important years
of youth, is merely relative to accomplishments; and accomplishments
without a bottom, for unless the understanding be cultivated,
superficial and monotonous is every grace. Like the charms of
a made-up face, they only strike the senses in a crowd; but at
home, wanting mind, they want variety. The consequence is obvious;
in gay scenes of dissipation we meet the artificial mind and face,
for those who fly from solitude dread, next to solitude, the domestic
circle; not having it in their power to amuse or interest, they
feel their own insignificance, or find nothing to amuse or interest
themselves.
Besides, what can be more indelicate than a girl's coming out
in the fashionable world? Which, in other words, is to bring to
market a marriageable miss, whose person is taken from one public
place to another, richly caparisoned. Yet, mixing in the giddy
circle under restraint, these butterflies long to flutter at large,
for the first affection of their souls is their own persons, to
which their attention has been called with the most sedulous care
whilst they were preparing for the period that decides their fate
for life. Instead of pursuing this idle routine, fighting for
tasteless show, and heartless state, with what dignity would the
youths of both sexes form attachments in the schools that I have
cursorily pointed out; in which, as life advanced, dancing, music,
and drawing) might be admitted as relaxations, for at these schools
young people of fortune ought to remain, more or less, till they
were of age. Those who were designed for particular professions
might attend, three or four mornings in the week, the schools
appropriated for their immediate instruction.
I only drop these observations at present, as hints; rather, indeed,
as an outline of the plan I mean, than a digested one; but I must
add, that I highly approve of one regulation mentioned in the
pamphlet [5] already alluded to, that of making the children and
youths independent of the masters respecting punishments. They
should be tried by their peers, which would be an admirable method
of fixing sound principles of justice in the mind, and might have
the happiest effect on the temper, which is very early soured
or irritated by tyranny, till it becomes peevishly cunning, or
ferociously overbearing.
My imagination darts forward with benevolent fervour to greet
these amiable and respectable groups, in spite of the sneering
of cold hearts, who are at liberty to utter, with frigid self-importance,
the damning epithet--romantic; the force of which I shall endeavour
to blunt by repeating the words of an eloquent moralist: "I
know not whether the allusions of a truly humane heart, whose
zeal renders everything easy, be not preferable to that rough
and repulsing reason, which always finds an indifference for the
public good, the first obstacle to whatever would promote it."
I know that libertines will also exclaim, that woman would be
unsexed by acquiring strength of body and mind, and that beauty,
soft bewitching beauty! would no longer adorn the daughters of
men. I am of a very different opinion, for I think that, on the
contrary, we should then see dignified beauty and true grace;
to produce which, many powerful physical and moral causes would
concur. Not relaxed beauty, it is true, or the graces of helplessness;
but such as appears to make us respect the human body as a majestic
pile fit to receive a noble inhabitant, in the relics of antiquity.
I do not forget the popular opinion that the Grecian statues were
not modelled after nature. I mean, not according to the proportion
of a particular man; but that beautiful limbs and features were
selected from various bodies to form an harmonious whole. This
might, in some degree, be true. The fine ideal picture of an exalted
imagination might be superior to the materials which the statuary
found in nature, and thus it might with propriety be termed rather
the model of mankind than of a man. It was not, however, the mechanical
selection of limbs and features; but the ebullition of an heated
fancy that burst forth, and the fine senses and enlarged understanding
the artist selected the solid matter, which he drew into this
glowing focus.
I observed that it was not mechanical because a whole was produced--a
model of that grand simplicity, of those concurring energies,
which arrest our attention and command our reverence. For only
insipid lifeless beauty is produced by a servile copy of even
beautiful nature. Yet, independent of these observations, I believe
that the human form must have been far more beautiful than it
is at present, because extreme indolence, barbarous ligatures,
and many causes, which forcibly act on it, in our luxurious state
of society, did not retard its expansion, or render it deformed.
Exercise and cleanliness appear to be not only the surest means
of preserving health, but of promoting beauty, the physical causes
only considered; yet this is not sufficient, moral ones must concur,
or beauty will be merely of that rustic kind which blooms on the
innocent, whole some countenances of some country people, whose
minds have not been exercised. To render the person perfect, physical
and moral beauty ought to be attained at the same time; each lending
and receiving force by the combination. Judgment must reside on
the brow, affection and fancy beam in the eye, and humanity curve
the cheek, or vain is the sparkling of the finest eye or the elegantly
turned finish of the fairest features; whilst in every motion
that displays the active limbs and well-knit joints, grace and
modesty should appear. But this fair assemblage is not to be brought
together by chance; it is the reward of exertions calculated to
support each other; for judgment can only be acquired by reflection,
affection by the discharge of duties, and humanity by the exercise
of compassion to every living creature.
Humanity to animals should be particularly inculcated as a part
of national education, for it is not at present one of our national
virtues. Tenderness for their humble dumb domestics, amongst the
lower class, is oftener to be found in a savage than a civilised
state. For civilisation prevents that intercourse which creates
affection in the rude hut, or mud hovel, and leads uncultivated
minds who are only depraved by the refinements which prevail in
the society, where they are trodden under foot by the rich, to
domineer over them to revenge the insults that they are obliged
to bear from their superiors.
This habitual cruelty is first caught at school, where it is one
of the rare sports of the boys to torment the miserable brutes
that fall in their way. The transition, as they grow up, from
barbarity to brutes to domestic tyranny over wives, children,
and servants, is very easy. Justice, or even benevolence, will
not be a powerful spring of action unless it extend to the whole
creation; nay, I believe that it may be delivered as an axiom,
that those who can see pain, unmoved, will soon learn to inflict
it.
The vulgar are swayed by present feelings, and the habits which
they have accidentally acquired; but on partial feelings much
dependence cannot be placed, though they be just; for, when they
are not invigorated by reflection, custom weakens them, till they
are scarcely perceptible. The sympathies of our nature are strengthened
by pondering cogitations, and deadened by thoughtless use. Macbeth's
heart smote him more for one murder, the first, than for a hundred
subsequent ones, which were necessary to back it.
But, when I used the epithet vulgar, I did not mean to confine
my remark to the poor, for partial humanity, founded on present
sensations, or whim, is quite as conspicuous, if not more so,
amongst the rich.
The lady who sheds tears for the bird starved in a snare, and
execrates the devils in the shape of men, who goad to madness
the poor ox, or whip the patient ass, tottering under a burden
above its strength, will nevertheless keep her coachman and horses
whole hours waiting for her, when the sharp frost bites, or the
rain beats against the well-closed windows which do not admit
a breath of air to tell her how roughly the wind blows without.
And she who takes her dogs to bed, and nurses them with a parade
of sensibility, when sick. will suffer her babes to grow up crooked
in a nursery. This illustration of my argument is drawn from a
matter of fact. The woman whom I allude to was handsome, reckoned
very handsome, by those who do not miss the mind when the face
is plump and fair; but her understanding had not been led from
female duties by literature, nor her innocence debauched by knowledge.
No, she was quite feminine, according to the masculine acceptation
of the word; and, so far from loving these spoiled brutes that
filled the place which her children ought to have occupied, she
only lisped out a pretty mixture of French and English nonsense,
to please the men who flocked round her. The wife, mother, and
human creature, were all swallowed up by the factitious character
which an improper education and the selfish vanity of beauty had
produced.
I do not like to make a distinction without a difference, and
I own that I have been as much disgusted by the fine lady who
took her lap-dog to her bosom instead of her child; as by the
ferocity of a man, who, beating his horse, declared, that he knew
as well when he did wrong, as a Christian.
This brood of folly shows how mistaken they are who, if they allow
women to leave their harems, do not cultivate their understandings,
in order to plant virtues in their hearts. For had they sense,
they might acquire that domestic taste which would lead them to
love with reasonable subordination their whole family, from their
husband to the house dog; nor would they ever insult humanity
in the person of the most menial servant by paying more attention
to the comfort of a brute, than to that of a fellow-creature.
My observations on national education are obviously hints; but
I principally wish to enforce the necessity of educating the sexes
together to perfect both, and of making children sleep at home
that they may learn to love home; yet to make private support,
instead of smothering, public affections, they should be sent
to school to mix with a number of equals, for only by the jostlings
of equality can we form a just opinion of ourselves.
To render mankind more virtuous, and happier of course, both sexes
must act from the same principle; but how can that be expected
when only one is allowed to see the reasonableness of it? To render
also the social compact truly equitable, and in order to spread
those enlightening principles, which alone can ameliorate the
fate of man, women must be allowed to found their virtue on knowledge,
which is scarcely possible unless they be educated by the same
pursuits as men. For they are now made so inferior by ignorance
and low desires, as not to deserve to be ranked with them; or,
by the serpentine wrigglings of cunning, they mount the tree of
knowledge, and only acquire sufficient to lead men astray.
It is plain from the history of all nations, that women cannot
be confined to merely domestic pursuits, for they will not fulfil
family duties, unless their minds take a wider range, and whilst
they are kept in ignorance they become in the same proportion
the slaves of pleasure as they are the slaves of man. Nor can
they be shut out of great enterprises, though the narrowness of
their minds often make them mar, what they are unable to comprehend.
The libertinism, and even the virtues of superior men, will always
give women, of some description, great power over them; and these
weak women, under the influence of childish passions and selfish
vanity, will throw a false light over the objects which the very
men view with their eyes, who ought to enlighten their judgment.
Men of fancy, and those sanguine characters who mostly hold the
helm of human affairs, in general, relax in the society of women;
and surely I need not cite to the most superficial reader of history
the numerous examples of vice and oppression which the private
intrigues of female favourites have produced; not to dwell on
the mischief that naturally arises from the blundering interposition
of well-meaning folly.
For in the transactions of business it is much better to have
to deal with a knave than a fool, because a knave adheres to some
plan; and any plan of reason may be seen through much sooner than
a sudden flight of folly. The power which vile and foolish women
have had over wise men, who possessed sensibility, is notorious;
I shall only mention one instance.
Whoever drew a more exalted female character than Rousseau? though
in the lump he constantly endeavoured to degrade the sex. And
why was he thus anxious? Truly to justify to himself the affection
which weakness and virtue had made him cherish for that fool Theresa.
He could not raise her to the common level of her sex; and therefore
he laboured to bring woman down to hers. He found her a convenient
humble companion, and pride made him determine to find some superior
virtues in the being whom he chose to live with; but did not her
conduct during his life, and after his death, clearly show how
grossly he was mistaken who called her a celestial innocent? Nay,
in the bitterness of his heart, he himself laments that when his
bodily infirmities made him no longer treat her like a woman,
she ceased to have an affection for him. And it was very natural
that she should, for having so few sentiments in common, when
the sexual tie was broken, what was to hold her? To hold her affection
whose sensibility was confined to one sex, nay, to one man, it
requires sense to turn sensibility into the broad channel of humanity.
Many women have not mind enough to have an affection for a woman,
or a friendship for a man. But the sexual weakness that makes
woman depend on a man for a subsistence, produces a kind of cattish
affection, which leads a wife to purr about her husband as she
would about any man who fed and caressed her.
Men are, however, often gratified by this kind of fondness, which
is confined in a beastly manner to themselves; but should they
ever become more virtuous, they will wish to converse at their
fireside with a friend after they cease to play with a mistress.
Besides, understanding is necessary to give variety and interest
to sensual enjoyments, for low indeed in the intellectual scale
is the mind that can continue to love when neither virtue nor
sense give a human appearance to an animal appetite. will always
preponderate; and if women be not, in general, brought more on
a level with men, some superior like the Greek courtesans, will
assemble the men of abilities around them, and draw from their
families many citizens, who would have stayed at home had their
wives had more sense, or the graces which result from the exercise
of the understanding and fancy, the legitimate parents of taste.
A woman of talents, if she be not absolutely ugly, will always
obtain great power--raised by the weakness of her sex; and in
proportion as men acquire virtue and delicacy, by the exertion
of reason, they will look for both in women, but they can only
acquire them in the same way that men do.
In France or Italy, have the women confined themselves to domestic
life? Though they have not hitherto had a political existence,
yet have they not illicitly had great sway, corrupting themselves
and the men with whose passions they played? In short, in whatever
light I view the subject, reason and experience convince me that
the only method of leading women to fulfil their peculiar duties
is to free them from all restraint by allowing them to participate
the inherent rights of mankind.
Make them free, and they will quickly become wise and virtuous,
as men become more so, for the improvement must be mutual, or
the injustice which one-half of the human race are obliged to
submit to retorting on their oppressors, the virtue of man will
be worm-eaten by the insect whom he keeps under his feet.
Let men take their choice. Man and woman were made for each other,
though not to become one being; and if they will not improve women,
they will deprave them.
I speak of the improvement and emancipation of the whole sex,
for I know that the behaviour of a few women, who, by accident,
or following a strong bent of nature, have acquired a portion
of knowledge superior to that of the rest of their sex, has often
been overbearing; but there have been instances of women who,
attaining knowledge, have not discarded modesty, nor have they
always pedantically appeared to despise the ignorance which they
laboured to disperse in their own minds. The exclamations then
which any advice respecting female learning commonly produces,
especially from pretty women, often arise from envy. When they
chance to see that even the lustre of their eyes, and the flippant
sportiveness of refined coquetry, will not always secure them
attention during a whole evening, should a woman of a more cultivated
understanding endeavour to give a rational turn to the conversation,
the common source of consolation is that such women seldom get
husbands. What arts have I not seen silly women use to interrupt
by flirtation--a very significant word to describe such a manoeuvre--a
rational conversation, which made the forget that they were pretty
women.
But, allowing what is very natural to man, that the possession
of rare abilities is really calculated to excite over-weening
pride, disgusting in both men and women, in what a state of inferiority
must the female faculties have rusted when such a small portion
of knowledge as those women attained, who have sneeringly been
termed learned women, could be singular?-sufficiently so to puff
up the possessor, and excite envy in her contemporaries, and some
of the other sex. Nay, has not a little rationality exposed many
women to the severest censure? I advert to well-known facts, for
I have frequently heard women ridiculed, and every little weakness
exposed, only because they adopted the advice of some medical
men, and deviated from the beaten track in their mode of treating
their infants. I have actually heard this barbarous aversion to
innovation carried still further, and a sensible woman stigmatised
as an unnatural mother, who has thus been wisely solicitous to
preserve the health of her children, when in the midst of her
care she has lost one by some of the casualties of infancy, which
no prudence can ward off. Her acquaintance have observed that
this was the consequence of new-fangled notions--the new-fangled
notions of ease and cleanliness. And those who pretending to experience,
though they have long adhered to prejudices that have, according
to the opinion of the most sagacious physicians, thinned the human
race, almost rejoiced at the disaster that gave a kind of sanction
to prescription.
Indeed, if it were only on this account, the national education
of women is of the utmost consequence, for what a number of human
sacrifices are made to that Moloch prejudice! And in how many
ways are children destroyed by the lasciviousness of man? The
want of natural affection in many women, who are drawn from their
duty by the admiration of men, and the ignorance of others, render
the infancy of man a much more perilous state than that of brutes;
yet men are unwilling to place women in situations proper to enable
them to acquire sufficient understanding to know how even to nurse
their babes.
So forcibly does this truth strike me that I would rest the whole
tendency of my reasoning upon it, for whatever tends to incapacitate
the maternal character, takes woman out of her sphere.
But it is vain to expect the present race of weak mothers either
to take that reasonable care of a child's body, which is necessary
to lay the foundation of a good constitution, supposing that it
do not suffer for the sins of its fathers; or to manage its temper
so judiciously that the child will not have, as it grows up, to
throw off all that its mother, its first instructor directly or
indirectly taught; and unless the mind have uncommon vigour, womanish
follies will stick to the character throughout life. The weakness
of the mother will be visited on the children. And whilst women
are educated to rely on their husbands for judgment, this must
ever be the consequence, for there is no improving an understanding
by halves, nor can any being act wisely from imitation, because
in every circumstance of life there is a kind of individuality,
which requires an exertion of judgment to modify general rules.
The being who can think justly in one track will soon extend its
intellectual empire; and she who has sufficient judgment to manage
her children will not submit, right or wrong, to her husband,
or patiently to the social laws which make a nonentity of a wife.
In public schools women, to guard against the errors of ignorance,
should be taught the elements of anatomy an medicine, not only
to enable them to take proper care of their own health, but to
make them rational nurses of their infants, parents, and husbands;
for the bills of mortality are swelled by the blunders of self-willed
old women, who give nostrums of their own without knowing anything
of the human frame. It is likewise proper, only in a domestic
view, to make women acquainted with the anatomy of the mind, by
allowing the sexes to associate together in every pursuit, and
by leading them to observe the progress of the human understanding
in the improvement of the sciences and arts--never forgetting
the science of morality, or the study of the political history
of mankind.
A man has been termed a microcosm, and every family might also
be called a state. States, it is true, have mostly been governed
by arts that disgrace the character of man, and the want of a
just constitution and equal laws have so perplexed the notions
of the worldly wise, that they more than question the reasonableness
of contending for the rights of humanity. Thus morality, polluted
in the national reservoir, sends off streams of vice to corrupt
the constituent parts of the body politic; but should more noble,
or rather more just, principles regulate the laws, which ought
to be the government of society, and not those who execute them,
duty might become the rule of private conduct.
Besides, by the exercise of their bodies and minds women would
acquire that mental activity so necessary in the maternal character,
united with the fortitude that distinguishes steadiness of conduct
from the obstinate perverseness of weakness. For it is dangerous
to advise the indolent to be steady, because they instantly become
rigorous, and to save themselves trouble, punish with severity
faults that the patient fortitude of reason might have prevented.
But fortitude presupposes strength of mind, and is strength of
mind to be acquired by indolent acquiescence? by asking advice
instead of exerting the judgment? by obeying through fear, instead
of practising the forbearance which we all stand in need of ourselves?
The conclusion which I wish to draw is obvious. Make women rational
creatures and free citizens, and they will quickly become good
wives and mothers--that is, if men do not neglect the duties of
husbands and fathers.
Discussing the advantages which a public and private education
combined, as I have sketched, might rationally be expected to
produce, I have dwelt most on such as are particularly relative
to the female world, because I think the female world pressed;
yet the gangrene, which the vices engendered by oppression have
produced, is not confined to the morbid part, but pervades society
at large; so that when I wish to see my sex become more like moral
agents, my heart bounds with the anticipation of the general diffusion
of that sublime contentment which only morality can diffuse.
NOTES
[1] I now particularly allude to the numerous academies in and
about London, and to the behaviour of the trading part of this
city.
[2] I remember a circumstance that once came under my own observation,
and raised my indignation. I went to visit a little boy at a school
where young children were prepared for a large one. The master
took me into the schoolroom, etc., but whilst I walked down a
broad gravel walk, I could not help observing that the grass grew
very luxuriantly on each sie of me. I immediately asked the child
some questions, and found that the poor boys were not allowed
to stir off the walk, and that the master sometimes permitted
sheep to be turned in to crop the untrodden grass. The tyrant
of this domain used to sit by a window that overlooked the prison
yard, and one nook turning from it, where the unfortunate babes
could sport freely, he enclosed, and planted it with potatoes.
The wife likewise was equally anxious to keep the children in
order, lest they should dirty or tear their clothes.
[3] France.
[4] Treating this part of the subject, I have borrowedsome hints
from a very sensible pamphlet, written by the late Bishop of Autun,
on "Public Education."
[5] The Bishop of Autun's.
CHAPTER XIII
SOME INSTANCES OF THE FOLLY WHICH THE IGNORANCE OF WOMEN GENERATES;
WITH CONCLUDING REFLECTIONS ON THE MORAL IMPROVEMENT THAT A REVOLUTION
IN FEMALE MANNERS MIGHT NATURALLY BE EXPECTED TO PRODUCE
There are many follies in some degree peculiar to women--sins
against reason of commission as well as of omission--but all flowing
from ignorance or prejudice. I shall only point out such as appear
to be particularly injurious to their moral character. And in
animadverting on them, I wish especially to prove that the weakness
of mind and body, which men have endeavoured, impelled by various
motives, to perpetuate, prevents their discharging the peculiar
duty of their sex; for when weakness of body will not permit them
to suckle their children, and weakness of mind makes them spoil
their tempers, is woman in a natural state?
Section I
One glaring instance of the weakness which proceeds from ignorance
first claims attention, and calls for severe reproof. In this
metropolis a number of lurking leeches infamously gain a subsistence
by practising on the credulity of women, pretending to cast nativities,
to use the technical phrase; and many females who, proud of their
rank and fortune, look down on the vulgar with sovereign contempt,
show by this credulity that the distinction is arbitrary, and
that they have not sufficiently cultivated their minds to rise
above vulgar prejudices. Women, because they have not been led
to consider the knowledge of their duty as the one thing necessary
to know, or to live in the present moment by the discharge of
it, are very anxious to peep into futurity to learn what they
have to expect to render life interesting, and to break the vacuum
of ignorance.
I must be allowed to expostulate seriously with the ladies who
follow these idle inventions; for ladies, mistresses of families,
are not ashamed to drive in their own carriages to door of the
cunning man.[1] And if any of them should use this work, I entreat
them to answer to their own hearts the following questions, not
forgetting that they are in presence of God:
Do you believe that there is but one God, and that He is powerful,
wise, and good?
Do you believe that all things were created by Him, and that all
beings are dependent on Him?
Do you rely on His wisdom, so conspicuous in His works, and your
own frame, and are you convinced that He has ordered things which
do not come under the cognisance of your senses, in the same perfect
harmony, to fulfil His designs?
Do you acknowledge that the power of looking into futurity, I
seeing things that are not, as if they were, is an attribute of
the Creator? And should He, by an impression on the minds His
creatures, think fit to impart to them some event hid the shades
of time yet unborn, to whom would the secret revealed by immediate
inspiration? The opinion of ages will answer this question--to
reverend old men, to people distinguished for eminent piety.
The oracles of old were thus delivered to the service of the God
who was supposed to inspire them. The glare of worldly pomp which
surrounded these impostors, the respect paid to them by artful
politicians, who knew how to avail themselves of this useful engine
to bend the necks of the strong under the dominion of the cunning,
spread a sacred mysterious veil of sanctity over their lies and
abominations. Impressed by such solemn devotional parade, a Greek
or Roman lady might be excused, if she inquired of the oracle,
when she was anxious to pry into futurity, or inquire about some
dubious event, and her inquiries, however contrary to reason,
could not be reckoned impious. But can the professors of Christianity
ward off that imputation? Can a Christian suppose that the favourites
of the Most High, the highly favoured, would be obliged to lurk
in disguise, and practise the most dishonest tricks to cheat silly
women out of the money, which the poor cry for in vain?
Say not that such questions are an insult to common sense, it
is your own conduct, O ye foolish women! which throws an odium
on your sex. And these reflections should make you shudder at
your thoughtlessness and irrational devotion. For I do not suppose
that all of you laid aside your religion, such as it is, when
you entered those mysterious dwellings. Yet, as I have throughout
supposed myself talking to ignorant women--for ignorant ye are
in the most emphatical sense of the word--it would be absurd to
reason with you on the egregious folly of desiring to know what
the Supreme Wisdom has concealed.
Probably you would not understand me were I to attempt to show
you that it would be absolutely inconsistent with the grand purpose
of life, that of rendering human creatures wise and virtuous;
and that, were it sanctioned by God, it would disturb the order
established in creation; and if it be not sanctioned by God, do
you expect to hear truth? Can events be foretold, events which
have not yet assumed a body to become subject to mortal inspection,
can they be foreseen by a vicious worldling, who pampers his appetites
by preying on the foolish ones?
Perhaps, however, you devoutly believe in the devil, and imagine,
to shift the question, that he may assist his votaries; but, if
really respecting the power of such a being, an enemy to goodness
and to God, can you go to church after having been under such
an obligation to him?
From these delusions to those still more fashionable deceptions,
practised by the whole tribe of magnetisers, the transition is
very natural. With respect to them, it is equally proper to ask
women a few questions.
Do you know anything of the construction of the human frame? if
not, it is proper that you should be told what every child ought
to know, that when its admirable economy has been disturbed by
intemperance or indolence, I speak not of violent disorders, but
of chronical diseases, it must be brought into a healthy state
again, by slow degrees, and if the functions of life have not
been materially injured, regimen, another word for temperance,
air, exercise, and a few medicines, prescribed by persons who
have studied the human body, are the only human means, yet discovered,
of recovering that inestimable blessing health, that will bear
investigation.
Do you then believe that these magnetisers, who, by hocus pocus
tricks, pretend to work a miracle, are delegated by God, or assisted
by the solver of all these kind of difficulties--the devil?
Do they, when they put to flight, as it is said, disorders that
have baffled the powers of medicine, work in conformity to the
light of reason? or, do they effect these wonderful cures by supernatural
aid?
By a communication, an adept may answer, with the world of spirits.
A noble privilege, it must be allowed. Some of the ancients mention
familiar demons, who guarded them from danger by kindly intimating,
we cannot guess in what manner, when any danger was nigh; or,
pointed out what they ought to undertake. Yet the men who laid
claim to this privilege, out of the order of nature, insisted
that it was the reward, or consequence, of superior temperance
and piety. But the present workers of wonders are not raised above
their fellows by superior temperance or sanctity. They do not
cure for the love of God, but money. These are the priests of
quackery, though it is true they have not the convenient expedient
of selling masses for souls in purgatory, or churches where they
can display crutches, and models of limbs made sound by a touch
or a word.
I am not conversant with the technical terms, or initiated into
the arcana, therefore I may speak improperly; but it is clear
that men who will not conform to the law of reason, and earn a
subsistence in an honest way, by degrees, are very fortunate in
becoming acquainted with such obliging spirits. We cannot, indeed,
give them credit for either great sagacity or goodness, else they
would have chosen more noble instruments, when they wished to
show themselves the benevolent friends of man.
It is, however, little short of blasphemy to pretend to such powers!
From the whole tenor of the dispensations of Providence, it appears
evident to sober reason, that certain vices produce certain effects;
and can anyone so grossly insult the wisdom of God, as to suppose
that a miracle will be allowed to disturb His general laws, to
restore to health the intemperate and vicious, merely to enable
them to pursue the same course with impunity? Be whole, and sin
no more, said Jesus. And, are greater miracles to be performed
by those who do not follow His footsteps, who healed the body
to reach the mind?
The mentioning of the name of Christ, after such vile impostors,
may displease some of my readers--I respect their warmth; but
let them not forget that the followers of these delusions bear
His name, and profess to be the disciples of Him, who said, by
their works we should know who were the children of God or the
servants of sin. I allow that it is easier to touch the body of
a saint, or to be magnetised, than to restrain our appetites or
govern our passions; but health of body or mind can only be recovered
by these means, or we make the Supreme Judge partial and revengeful.
Is He a man that He should change, or punish out of resentment?
He--the common father, wounds but to heal, say reason, and our
irregularities producing certain consequences, we are forcibly
shown the nature of vice: that thus learning to know good from
evil, by experience, we may hate one and love the other, in proportion
to the wisdom which we attain. The poison contains the antidote;
and we either reform our evil habits and cease to sin against
our own bodies, to use the forcible language of Scripture, or
a premature death, the punishment of sin, snaps the thread of
life.
Here an awful stop is put to our inquiries. But, why should I
conceal my sentiments? Considering the attributes of God, I believe
that whatever punishment may follow, will tend, like the anguish
of disease, to show the malignity of vice, for the purpose of
reformation. Positive punishment appears so contrary to the nature
of God, discoverable in all His works, and in our own reason,
that I could sooner believe that the Deity paid no attention to
the conduct of men, than that He punished without the benevolent
design of reforming.
To suppose only that an all-wise and powerful Being, as good as
He is great, should create a being foreseeing, that after fifty
or sixty years of feverish existence, it would be plunged into
never-ending woe--is blasphemy. On what will the worm feed that
is never to die? on folly, on ignorance, say ye--I should blush
indignantly at drawing the natural conclusion could I insert it,
and wish to withdraw myself from the wing of my God! On such a
supposition, I speak with reverence, He would be a consuming fire.
We should wish, though vainly, to fly from His presence when fear
absorbed love, and darkness involved all His counsels!
I know that many devout people boast of submitting to the will
of God blindly, as to an arbitrary sceptre or rod, on the same
principle as the Indians worship the devil. In other words, like
people in the common concerns of life, they homage to power, and
cringe under the foot that can crush them. Rational religion,
on the contrary, is a submission to the will of a being so perfectly
wise, that all he wills must be directed by the proper motive--must
be reasonable.
And, if thus we respect God, can we give credit to mysterious
insinuations, which insult His laws? can we believe, though it
should stare us in the face, that He would work a miracle to authorise
confusion by sanctioning an error? Yet we must either allow these
impious conclusions, or treat with contempt every promise to restore
health to a diseased body by supernatural means, or to foretell
the incidents that can only be foreseen by God.
SECTION II
Another instance of that feminine weakness of character, often
produced by a confined education, is a romantic twist of the mind,
which has been very properly termed sentimental. Women subjected
by ignorance to their sensations, and only taught to look for
happiness in love, refine on sensual feelings and adopt metaphysical
notions respecting that passion, which lead them shamefully to
neglect the duties of life, and frequently in the midst of these
sublime refinements they plump into actual vice.
These are the women who are amused by the reveries of the stupid
novelists, who, knowing little of human nature, work up stale
tales, and describe meretricious scenes, all retailed in a sentimental
jargon, which equally tend to corrupt the taste, and draw the
heart aside from its daily duties. I do not mention the understanding,
because never having been exercised, its slumbering energies rest
inactive, like the lurking particles of fire which are supposed
universally to pervade matter.
Females, in fact, denied all political privileges, and not allowed,
as married women, excepting in criminal cases, a civil existence,
have their attention naturally drawn from the interest of the
whole community to that of the minute parts, though the private
duty of any member of society must be very imperfectly performed
when not connected with the general good. The mighty business
of female life is to please, and restrained from entering into
more important concerns by political and civil oppression, sentiments
become events, and reflection deepens what it should, and would
have effaced, if the understanding had been allowed to take a
wider range.
But, confined to trifling employments, they naturally imbibe opinions
which the only kind of reading calculated to interest an innocent
frivolous mind inspires. Unable to grasp anything great, is it
surprising that they find the reading of history a very dry task,
and disquisitions addressed to the understanding intolerably tedious,
and almost unintelligible? Thus are they necessarily dependent
on the novelist for amusement. Yet, when I exclaim against novels,
I mean when contrasted with those works which exercise the understanding
and regulate the imagination. For any kind of reading I think
better than leaving a blank still a blank, because the mind must
receive a degree of enlargement and obtain a little strength by
a slight exertion of its thinking powers; besides, even the productions
that are only addressed to the imagination, raise the reader a
little above the gross gratification of appetites, to which the
mind has not given a shade of delicacy.
This observation is the result of experience; for I have known
several notable women, and one in particular, who was a very good
woman--as good as such a narrow mind would allow her to be, who
took care that her daughters (three in number) should never see
a novel. As she was a woman of fortune and fashion, they had various
masters to attend them, and a sort of menial governess to watch
their footsteps. From their masters they learned how tables, chairs,
etc., were called in French and Italian; but as the few books
thrown in their way were far above their capacities, or devotional,
they neither acquired ideas nor sentiments, and passed their time,
when not compelled to repeat words, in dressing, quarrelling with
each other, or conversing with their maids by stealth, till they
were brought into company as marriageable.
Their mother, a widow, was busy in the meantime in keeping up
her connections, as she termed a numerous acquaintance, lest her
girls should want a proper introduction into the great world.
And these young ladies, with minds vulgar in every sense of the
word, and spoiled tempers, entered life puffed up with notions
of their own consequence, and looking down with contempt on those
who could not vie with them in dress and parade.
With respect to love, Nature, or their Nurses, had taken care
to teach them the physical meaning of the word; and, as they had
few topics of conversation, and fewer refinements of sentiment,
they expressed their gross wishes not in very delicate phrases,
when they spoke freely, talking of matrimony.
Could these girls have been injured by the perusal of novels?
I almost forgot a shade in the character of one of them; she affected
a simplicity bordering on folly, and with a simper would utter
the most immodest remarks and questions, the full meaning of which
she had learned whilst secluded from the world, and to speak in
her mother's presence, who governed with a hand; they were all
educated, as she prided herself, in a most exemplary manner, and
read their chapters before breakfast, never touching a silly novel.
This only one instance; but I recollect many other women not led
by degrees to proper studies, and not permitted to choose for
themselves, have indeed been overgrown children; or have obtained,
by mixing in the world, a little of what is termed common sense;
that is, a distinct manner of seeing common occurrences, as they
stand detached; but what deserves name of intellect, the power
of gaining, general or abstract, or even intermediate ones, was
out of the question. Their minds were quiescent, and when they
were not roused by sensible objects and employments of that kind,
they were spirited, would cry, or go to sleep.
When, therefore, I advise my sex not to read such flimsy works,
it is to induce them to read something superior; for I coincide
in opinion with a sagacious man, who, having a daughter and niece
under his care, pursued a very different with each.
The niece, who had considerable abilities, had, before she left
to his guardianship, been indulged in desultory reading. Her he
endeavoured to lead, and did lead to history and moral essays;
but his daughter, whom a fond weak mother had indulged, and who
consequently was averse to everything like fornication, he allowed
to read novels; and used to justify his conduct by saying, that
if she ever attained a relish for reading them, he should have
some foundation to work upon; and that erroneous opinions were
better than none at all.
In fact, the female mind has been so totally neglected, that knowledge
was only to be acquired from this muddy source, till from reading
novels some women of superior talents learned to despise them.
The best method, I believe, that can be adopted to correct a fondness
for novels is to ridicule them: not indiscriminately, for then
it would have little effect; but, if a judicious person, with
some turn for humour, would read several to a young girl and point
out both by tones, and apt comparisons with pathetic incidents
and heroic characters in history, how foolishly and ridiculously
they caricatured human nature, just opinions might substituted
instead of romantic sentiments.
In one respect, however, the majority of both sexes resemble,
and equally show a want of taste and modesty. Ignorant women,
forced to be chaste to preserve their reputation, allow their
imagination to revel in the unnatural and meretricious scenes
sketched by the novel writers of the day, slighting as insipid
the sober dignity, and matron graces of history,[2] whilst men
carry the same vitiated taste into life, and fly for amusement
to the wanton, from the unsophisticated charms of virtue, and
the grave respectability of sense.
Besides, the reading of novels makes women, and particularly ladies
of fashion, very fond of using strong expressions and superlatives
in conversation; and, though the dissipated artificial life which
they lead prevents their cherishing any strong legitimate passion,
the language of passion in affected tones slips for ever from
their glib tongues, and every trifle produces those phosphoric
bursts which only mimic in the dark the flame of passion.
SECTION III
Ignorance and the mistaken cunning that nature sharpens in weak
heads as a principle of self-preservation, render women very fond
of dress, and produce all the vanity which such a fondness may
naturally be expected to generate, to the exclusion of emulation
and magnanimity.
I agree with Rousseau that the physical part of the art of pleasing
consists in ornaments, and for that very reason I should guard
girls against the contagious fondness for dress so common to weak
women, that they may not rest in the physical part. Yet, weak
are the women who imagine that they can long please without the
aid of the mind, or, in other words, without the moral art of
pleasing. But the moral art, if it be not a profanation to use
the word art, when alluding to the grace which is an effect of
virtue, and not the motive of action, is never to be found with
ignorance; the sportiveness of innocence, so pleasing to refined
libertines of both sexes, is widely different in its essence from
this superior gracefulness.
A strong inclination for external ornaments ever appears in barbarous
states, only the men not the women adorn themselves; for where
women are allowed to be so far on a level with men, society has
advanced, at least, one step in civilisation.
The attention to dress, therefore, which has been thought a sexual
propensity, I think natural to mankind. But I ought to express
myself with more precision. When the mind is not sufficiently
opened to take pleasure in reflection, the body will be adorned
with sedulous care; and ambition will appear in tattooing or painting
it.
So far is this first inclination carried, that even the hellish
yoke of slavery cannot stifle the savage desire of admiration
which the black heroes inherit from both their parents, for all
the hardly earned savings of a slave are commonly expended in
a little tawdry finery. And I have seldom known a good male or
female servant that was not particularly fond of dress. Their
clothes were their riches; and, I argue from analogy, that the
fondness for dress, so extravagant in females, arises from the
same cause--want of cultivation of mind. When men meet they converse
about business, politics, or literature; but, says Swift, "how
naturally do women apply their hands to each other's lappets and
ruffles." And very natural is it--for they have not any business
to interest them, have not a taste for literature, and they find
politics dry, because they have not acquired a love for mankind
by turning their thoughts to the grand pursuits that exalt the
human race, and promote general happiness.
Besides, various are the paths to power and fame which by accident
or choice men pursue, and though they jostle against each other,
for men of the same profession are seldom friends, yet there is
a much greater number of their fellow-creatures with whom they
never clash. But women are very differently situated with respect
to each other--for they are all rivals.
Before marriage it is their business to please men; and after,
with a few exceptions, they follow the same scene with all the
persevering pertinacity of instinct. Even virtuous women never
forget their sex in company, for they are for ever trying to make
themselves agreeable. A female beauty, and a male wit, appear
to be equally anxious to draw the attention of the company to
themselves; and the animosity of contemporary wits is proverbial.
Is it then surprising, that when the sole ambition of woman centres
in beauty, and interest gives vanity additional force perpetual
rivalships should ensue? They are all running the same race, and
would rise above the virtue of mortals, if they did not view each
other with a suspicious and even envious eye.
An immoderate fondness for dress, for pleasure, and for sway,
are the passions of savages; the passions that occupy those uncivilised
beings who have not yet extended the dominion of the mind, or
even learned to think with the energy necessary to concatenate
that abstract train of thought which produces principles. And
that women from their education and the present state of civilised
life, are in the same condition, cannot, I think be controverted.
To laugh at them then, or satirise the follies of a being who
is never to be allowed to act freely from the light of her own
reason, is as absurd as cruel; for, that they who are taught blindly
to obey authority, will endeavour cunningly to elude it, is most
natural and certain.
Yet let it be proved that they ought to obey man implicitly, and
I shall immediately agree that it is woman's duty to cultivate
a fondness for dress, in order to please, and a propensity to
cunning for her own preservation.
The virtues, however, which are supported by ignorance must ever
be wavering--the house built on sand could not endure a storm.
It is almost unnecessary to draw the inference. If women are to
be made virtuous by authority, which is a contradiction in terms,
let them be immured in seraglios and watched with a jealous eye.
Fear not that the iron will enter into their souls--for the souls
that can bear such treatment are made of yielding materials, just
animated enough to give life to the body.
Matter too soft a lasting mark to bear And best distinguished
by black, brown, or fair.
The most cruel wounds will of course soon heal, and they may still
people the world, and dress to please man--all the purpose! which
certain celebrated writers have allowed that they were created
to fulfil.
SECTION IV
Women are supposed to possess more sensibility, and even humanity,
than men, and their strong attachments and instantaneous emotions
of compassion are given as proofs; but the clinging affection
of ignorance has seldom anything noble in it, and may mostly be
resolved into selfishness, as well as the affection of children
and brutes. I have known many weak women whose sensibility was
entirely engrossed by their husbands; and as for their humanity,
it was very faint indeed, or rather it was only a transient emotion
of compassion. Humanity does not consist "in a squeamish
ear," says an eminent orator belongs to the mind as well
as the nerves."
But this kind of exclusive affection, though it degrades the individual,
should not be brought forward as a proof of the inferiority of
the sex, because it is the natural consequence of confined views;
for even women of superior sense, having their attention turned
to little employments, and private plans, rarely rise to heroism,
unless when spurred on by love! and love, as an heroic passion,
like genius, appears but once in an age. therefore agree with
the moralist who asserts, "that women have seldom so much
generosity as men"; and that their narrow affections, to
which justice and humanity are often sacrificed, render the sex
apparently inferior, especially, as they are commonly inspired
by men; but I contend that the heart would expand as the understanding
gained strength, if women re not depressed from their cradles.
I know that a little sensibility, and great weakness, will produce
a strong sexual attachment, and that reason must cement friendship;
consequently, I allow that more friendship is to be found in the
male than the female world, and that men have a higher sense of
justice. The exclusive affections women seem indeed to resemble
Cato's most unjust love for his country. He wished to crush Carthage,
not to save Rome, but to promote its vain-glory; and, in general,
it is to similar principles that humanity is sacrificed, for genuine
duties support each other.
Besides, how can women be just or generous, when they are slaves
of injustice?
SECTION V
As the rearing of children, that is, the laying a foundation of
sound health both of body and mind in the rising generation, has
justly been insisted on as the peculiar destination of woman ignorance
that incapacitates them must be contrary to the order of things.
And I contend that their minds can take in much more, and ought
to do so, or they will never become sensible mothers. Many men
attend to the breeding of horses overlook the management of the
stable, who would, strange want of sense and feeling! think themselves
degraded by paying attention to the nursery; yet, how many children
are absolutely murdered by the ignorance of women! But when they
escape, and are destroyed neither by unnatural negligence nor
blind fondness, how few are managed properly with respect to the
infant mind! So that to break the spirit, allowed to become vicious
at home, a child is sent to school; and the methods taken there,
which must be taken to keep a number of children in order, scatter
the seeds of almost every vice in the soil thus forcibly torn
up.
I have sometimes compared the struggles of these poor children,
who ought never to have felt restraint, nor would, had they been
always held in with an even hand, to the despairing plunges of
a spirited filly, which I have seen breaking on a strand: its
feet sinking deeper and deeper in the sand every time it endeavoured
to throw its rider, till at last it sullenly submitted.
I have always found horses, animals I am attached to, very tractable
when treated with humanity and steadiness, so that I doubt whether
the violent methods taken to break them, do not essentially injure
them; I am, however, certain that a child should never be thus
forcibly tamed after it had injudiciously been allowed to run
wild: for every violation of justice and reason, in the treatment
of children, weakens their reason. And, so early do they catch
a character, that the base of the moral character, experience
leads me to infer, is fixed before their seventh year, the period
during which women are allowed the sole management of children.
Afterwards it too often happens that half the business of education
is to correct, and very imperfectly is it done, if done hastily,
the faults, which they would never have acquired if their mothers
had had more understanding.
One striking instance of the folly of women must not be omitted.
The manner in which they treat servants in the presence of children,
permitting them to suppose that they ought to wait on them, and
bear their humours. A child should always be made to receive assistance
from a man or woman as a favour; and, as the first lesson of independence,
they should practically be taught, by the example of their mother,
not to require that personal attendance, which it is an insult
to humanity to require, when in health; and instead of being led
to assume airs of consequence, a sense of their own weakness should
first make them feel the natural equality of man. Yet, how frequently
have I indignantly heard servants imperiously called to put children
to bed, and sent away again and again, because master or miss
hung about mamma, to stay a little longer. Thus made slavishly
to attend the little idol, all those most disgusting humours were
exhibited which characterise a spoiled child.
In short, speaking of the majority of mothers, they leave their
children entirely to the care of servants; or, because they are
their children, treat them as if they were little demi-gods though
I have always observed, that the women who thus idolise their
children, seldom show common humanity to servants, or feel the
least tenderness for any children but their own.
It is, however, these exclusive affections, and an individual
manner of seeing things, produced by ignorance, which keep women
for ever at a stand, with respect to improvement, and make many
of them dedicate their lives to their children only to weaken
their bodies and spoil their tempers, frustrating also any plan
of education that a more rational father may adopt. for unless
a mother concur, the father who restrains will ever be considered
as a tyrant.
But, fulfilling the duties of a mother, a woman with a sound constitution,
may still keep her person scrupulously neat, and assist to maintain
her family, if necessary, or by reading and conversation with
both sexes, indiscriminately, improve her mind. For Nature has
so wisely ordered things, that did women suckle their children,
they would preserve their own health and there would be such an
interval between the birth of each child, that we should seldom
see a houseful of babes. And did they pursue a plan of conduct,
and not waste their time in following the fashionable vagaries
of dress, the management of their household and children need
not shut them out from literature, or prevent their attaching
themselves to a science with that steady eye which strengthens
the mind, or practising one of the fine arts that cultivate the
taste.
But, visiting to display finery, card-playing, and balls, not
to mention the idle bustle of morning trifling, draw women from
their duty to render them insignificant, to render them pleasing,
according to the present acceptation of the word, to every man
but their husband. For a round of pleasures in which the affections
are not exercised, cannot be said to improve the understanding,
though it be erroneously called seeing the world. yet the heart
is rendered cold and averse to duty, by such a senseless intercourse,
which becomes necessary from habit even when it has ceased to
amuse.
But, we shall not see women affectionate till more equality be
established in society, till ranks are confounded and women freed,
neither shall we see that dignified domestic happiness, the simple
grandeur of which cannot be relished by ignorant or vitiated minds;
nor will the important task of education ever be properly begun
till the person of a woman is no longer preferred to her mind.
For it would be as wise to expect corn from tares, or figs from
thistles, as that a foolish ignorant woman should be a good mother.
SECTION VI
It is not necessary to inform the sagacious reader, now I enter
on my concluding reflections, that the discussion of this subject
merely consists in opening a few simple principles, and clearing
away the rubbish which obscured them. But, as all readers are
not sagacious, I must be allowed to add some explanatory remarks
to bring the subject home to reason--to that sluggish reason,
which supinely takes opinions on trust, and obstinately supports
them to spare itself the labour of thinking.
Moralists have unanimously agreed, that unless virtue be nursed
by liberty, it will never attain due strength--and what they say
of man I extend to mankind, insisting that in all cases morals
must be fixed on immutable principles; and, that the being cannot
be termed rational or virtuous, who obeys any authority, but that
of reason.
To render women truly useful members of society, I argue that
they should be led, by having their understandings cultivated
on a large scale, to acquire a rational affection for their country,
founded on knowledge, because it is obvious that we are little
interested about what we do not understand. And to render this
general knowledge of due importance, I have endeavoured to show
that private duties are never properly fulfilled unless the understanding
enlarges the heart; and that public virtue is only an aggregate
of private. But, the distinctions established in society undermine
both, by beating out the solid gold of virtue, till it becomes
only the tinsel-covering of vice; for whilst wealth renders a
man more respectable than virtue, wealth will be sought before
virtue; and, whilst women's persons are caressed, when a childish
simper shows an absence of mind--the mind will lie fallow. Yet,
true voluptuousness must proceed from the mind--for what can equal
the sensations produced by mutual affection, supported by mutual
respect? What are the cold, or feverish caresses of appetite,
but sin embracing death, compared with the modest overflowings
of a pure heart and exalted imagination? Yes, let me tell the
libertine of fancy when he despises understanding in woman-that
the mind, which he disregards, gives life to the enthusiastic
affection from which rapture, short-lived as it is, alone can
flow! And, that, without virtue, a sexual attachment must expire
like a tallow candle in the socket, creating intolerable disgust.
To prove this, I need only observe, that men who have wasted great
part of their lives with women, and with whom they have sought
for pleasure with eager thirst, entertain the meanest opinion
of the sex. Virtue, true refiner of joy!--if foolish men were
to fright thee from earth, in order to give loose to all their
appetites without a check--some sensual wight of taste would scale
the heavens to invite thee back, to give a zest to pleasure!
That women at present are by ignorance rendered vicious, is, I
think, not to be disputed; and, that salutary effects tending
to improve mankind might be expected from a REVOLUTION in female
manners, appears, at least, with a face of probability, to rise
out of the observation. For as marriage has been termed the parent
of those endearing charities which draw man from the brutal herd,
the corrupting intercourse that wealth, idleness, and folly, produce
between the sexes, is more universally injurious to morality than
all the other vices of mankind collectively considered. To adulterous
lust the most sacred duties are sacrificed, because before marriage,
men, by a promiscuous intimacy with women, learned to consider
love as a selfish gratification--learned to separate it not only
from esteem, but from the affection merely built on habit which
mixes a little humanity with it. Justice and friendship are also
set at defiance, and that purity of taste is vitiated which would
naturally lead a man to relish an artless display of affection
rather than affected airs. But that noble simplicity of affection,
which dares to appear unadorned, has few attractions for the libertine,
though it be the charm, which by cementing the matrimonial tie,
secures to the pledges of a warmer passion the necessary parental
attention; for children will never be properly educated till friendship
subsists between parents. Virtue flies from a house divided against
itself--and a whole legion of devils take up their residence there.
The affection of husbands and wives cannot be pure when they have
so few sentiments in common, and when so little confidence is
established at home, as must be the case when their pursuits are
so different. That intimacy from which tenderness should flow,
will not, cannot subsist between the vicious.
Contending, therefore, that the sexual distinction which men have
so warmly insisted upon, is arbitrary, I have dwelt on an observation,
that several sensible men, with whom I have conversed on the subject,
allowed to be well founded; and it is simply this, that the little
chastity to be found amongst men, and consequent disregard of
modesty, tend to degrade both sexes; and further, that the modesty
of women, characterised as such, will often be only the artful
veil of wantonness instead of being the natural reflection of
purity, till modesty be universally respected.
From the tyranny of man, I firmly believe, the greater number
of female follies proceed; and the cunning, which I allow makes
at present a part of their character, I likewise have repeatedly
endeavoured to prove, is produced by oppression.
Were not dissenters, for instance, a class of people, with strict
truth, characterised as cunning? And may I not lay some stress
on this fact to prove, that when any power but reason curbs the
free spirit of man, dissimulation is practised, and the various
shifts of art are naturally called forth? Great attention to decorum,
which was carried to a degree of scrupulosity, and all that puerile
bustle about trifles and consequential solemnity, which Butler's
caricature of a dissenter brings before the imagination, shaped
their persons as well as their minds in the mould of prim littleness.
I speak collectively, for I know how many ornaments in human nature
have been enrolled amongst sectaries; yet, I assert, that the
same narrow prejudice for their sect, which women have for their
families, prevailed in the dissenting part of the community, however
worthy in other respects; and also that the same timid prudence,
or headstrong efforts, often disgraced the exertions of both.
oppression thus formed many of the features of their character
perfectly to coincidence with that of the oppressed half of mankind;
for is it not notorious that dissenters were, like women, fond
of deliberating together, and asking advice of each other, till
by a complication of little contrivances, some little end was
brought about? A similar attention to preserve their reputation
was conspicuous in the dissenting and female world, and was produced
by a similar cause.
Asserting the rights which women in common with men ought to contend
for, I have not attempted to extenuate their faults; but to prove
them to be the natural consequence of their education and station
in society. If so, it is reasonable to suppose that they will
change their character, and correct their vices and follies, when
they are allowed to be free in a physical, moral, and civil sense.[3]
Let woman share the rights, and she will emulate the virtues of
man; for she must grow more perfect when emancipated, or justify
the authority that chains such a weak being to her duty. If the
latter, it will be expedient to open a fresh trade with Russia
for whips: a present which a father should always make to his
son-in-law on his wedding day, that a husband may keep his whole
family in order by the same means; and without any violation of
justice reign, wielding this sceptre, sole master of his house,
because he is the only thing in it who has reason:--the divine,
indefeasible earthly sovereignty breathed into man by the Master
of the universe. Allowing this position, women have not any inherent
rights to claim; and, by the same rule, their duties vanish, for
rights and duties are inseparable.
Be just then, O ye men of understanding: and mark not more severely
what women do amiss than the vicious tricks of the horse or the
ass for whom ye provide provender--and allow her the privileges
of ignorance, to whom ye deny the rights of reason, or ye will
be worse than Egyptian task-masters expecting virtue where Nature
has not given understanding.
NOTES
[1] I once lived in the neighbourhood of one of these men, a handsome
man, and saw with surprise and indignation women, whose appearance
and attendance bespoke that rank in which females are supposed
to receive a superior education, flock to his door.
[2] I am not now alluding to that superiority of mind which leads
to the creation of ideal beauty, when life, surveyed with a penetrating
eye, appears a tragi-comedy, in which little can be seen to satisfy
the heart without the help of fancy.
[3] I had further enlarged on the advantages which might reasonably
be expected to result from an improvement in female manners, towards
the general reformation of society; but it appeared to me that
such reflections would more properly close the last volume.
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